Topic: A Nigerian Father Rejects Son's Gambling Win (Read 1351 times)

Maybe the child is too honest or can't lie when dealing with his father. But it was true that the kid could give him some of the money slowly and say that this was the result of his work in some places. Maybe with that, his father would believe him and be able to accept the money.

We cannot say it was a mistake to be honest with their parents because maybe his father's teachings, who always emphasized the meaning of honesty, were more valuable than anything so that the child was honest with his father. But no matter how we lie, especially if we lie to our parents, they will find out and they will probably be even sadder if they find out we have lied to them. And there may be more serious consequences from the lies we have committed.

Even though their child can win a large amount gambling, it doesn't mean that their father agrees with this and is happy that their child won. There are some parent who think about where their child will get the money from, whether from hard work or maybe they get money from robbing, so as a parent they definitely don't want their child to get money. from bad result, and it is the same as getting money from gambling. Many people think that gambling is considered bad by society, so the father's refusal may be because he thinks that gambling is bad, so he doesn't want to receive money from his son's gambling winnings.
Indeed, this rarely happens, but in my neighborhood, which is predominantly Muslim and there are also those who strongly oppose gambling, if someone violates it, they will most likely be ostracized, so perhaps what happened to the man was his father actually not want his son to gamble and this rejection at least made their child aware that the proceeds from gambling are dirty money.

From the original post, it looks like this news happens in a place where gambling is not illegal so the son didn't commit any criminal offense. Maybe the father perceives gambling as an immoral behavior based on cultural or religious beliefs. Gambling in some cultural settings is unacceptable and the father wants to adhere to these rules regardless of the constitutional provisions.

The father should have been the one to guide the boy in how to invest the win since it is suspected that the boy is still dependent. Sending the boy out of the house will open more avenues for the teenager to associate with misguided friends who will assist him in lavishing the money. The boy should be forgiven and encouraged not to gamble again but the big win should not be allowed to be wasted.

I can relate to this because I have a very religious family that strongly forbid world things such as gambling. I don’t understand too the logic of the son here on why he needs to tell the father where the money came from while he can just give him a portion of money slowly so that he will not be suspicious on the money he is holding.

It’s dumb to become honest on things that was supposed a blessings while religion is the only thing denying it. I think my father will do the same to me if he knew that I’m gambling online. Sometimes secret saves relationships like this example.

You might be right, although none of us witnessed what really happened or what the boy truly did for his father to reject his win totally. However, religion might be the major thing why the father of the gambler rejected the money, but on the other hand, recently, my instincts tell me that maybe before the boy won the money that his father had rejected, he might have been doing some bad chronic things that his father didn't like, maybe stealing some money from his father to gamble, or he has been an addicted gambler.

You know some parents, if they are correcting someone on something that's not good and still the person or the child. If in his/her own way, if, in the end, it turns out how good for the person, the parent will not partake because, for a time, they didn't welcome it, and if they did all of a sudden, it means that the parents are in full support for the child to continue. So what I am trying to say is that, if the father collects the money, it means that he is supporting the child to gamble just because he has won. Also, some parents don't depend on money alone, they still stand on their truth (right) and, for those sets of parents, money can't buy their minds.

I think the father didn't like the idea of money coming into his life through his son's gambling, especially if he holds strong religious and Islamic beliefs. Easy money obtained through luck might be something he wishes to avoid in his household. Additionally it could be a wise decision to prevent any potential addiction issues from developing in his son's future as he becomes into gambling.

Personally, I have friends who are gamblers and have been losing alot, they are slowly falling into the trap of addiction, despite my efforts to advise them to reduce their gambling activities. Unfortunately, they don't seem to heed my advice. :/ but I'll keep trying with them to get off it.

What we consider good is not necessarily good according to other people and what other people think is good may not necessarily be good according to us too.

We need to know that there are those who think gambling is good and there are also those who think gambling is bad. And there are also those who think that gambling is haram and there are also those who think that gambling is halal.
And perhaps the reason behind the person not wanting to accept the money earned from gambling is because they think that gambling is a bad thing and an act that is haram according to religious law. And I really respect the decision he made, because his fortitude and faith were not shaken just by the amount of money his son gave him, even though he was experiencing financial difficulties. I really respect him, compared to people who keep shouting that gambling is bad and gambling is haram, but when given some money from gambling they immediately fall silent and take the money. LAUGH OUT LOUD...!

Looks like the father knows the consequences of his son's action and he just wants to guide him no matter what the scenario is, we don't appreciate this kind of love from our parents until they are no longer here with us and by that time we realize that no one has ever been truthful to us except them. He should always listen to his father and learn to be contented in his life since they all have the means to survive. If he accepted it, I'm sure it won't be the last time the son does it and until the whole family is addicted to it.

Their lies could be about religion or relationship to his belief. When I was a little boy, my parents wouldn't allow me to gamble and cut me off whenever they knew it from a friend of mine and told stories that me and my friends got into a little gamble. The amounts back then were just a few cents to a couple of bucks since that was already a lot of money during my childhood. But whenever I told them that I'd won, they were happy for me and I think that's not about the money that I have shown them but it's about how satisfying it is to see their son have won. It's about the feeling of winning. I'm 50/50 on this father's reaction but he shouldn't neglect his son's feelings when he has won that money. There could really be values in it that his father stands up to his pit and will never recognize that. But he should given that as an exception and just tell to never do it again and he'll never be happy whether the kid brings more money and win from gambling.

Maybe that's one way his father can do to prevent his son from becoming a bad individual and society's negative perception of his son's gambling activities. My assumption is that the child's family lives in an area that is not friendly to gambling, his father's rejection of the money his son won was to prevent his son from becoming a bad individual who could do negative things when he needed money to gamble. People's perceptions about gambling vary greatly, not all parents accept money from gambling and not everyone rejects it.

Religion is also what I think the reason why his father cannot accept the money won from gambling. He believes that everything in gambling is bad and has no room for goodness, that’s why even if the money is a huge amount, still his father chose to stand firm on his decision about gambling. So we cannot criticize why his father acted like that. We all have different beliefs and perspectives in life, and that one you think is right might be totally wrong for others.

You can't always be right, what is called right to you is totally wrong for some people, in this case I believe religion is playing a bigger part, this father must be strongly against gambling and a good parent derives to know where their children is getting their money, especially if the child is still underage or not very old enough, also we are limited on information here and I hate pretending as if I know what's really wrong, since it doesn't happen in my front I believe I am lacking on good information.

Maybe this father knew his son behaviour before he start gambling? The truth is always bitter, if your child's way is not very good for you there will always be some doubts on his every accomplishment, it's dangerous to side with your child when you are not sure of how they are making their money, it can be possible that this son isn't even making that money from gambling.

I must say this, religious people are most times blessed with bad children, spoilt brats comes from pastors home I know many in real life that turn into criminals and are into other illegal things, I am not here to judge anyone but I believe they might be more to this story than we know, if the father is here, many people will take their words and blind judgment back.

Everyone has their own believe so probably the father was not supporting the boys gambling habit. But even at that he has to let the boy be because the boy didn't steal the money but he got it through gambling which is legal. Though the father might think that it is illegal but I didn't see any bad thing there. But the son can use that money to start up his life at somewhere else and settle down.

And I just pray that he should not use the money to revisit the gambling halls and finish it with bets or use to carry girls to lavish the money. These are some the common character of some boys in the gambling section. Whenever they win big amount, they would like to carry different types of girl to lavish the money.

Maybe his father just wanted to protect his son, who had been gambling, and said he did not want to receive money from gambling. And I think the father will surely forgive his son for gambling and allow his son to return home but with certain conditions, and perhaps, the father wants his son to leave his money elsewhere so that the family won't use it. Indeed, the amount of money is very large and more than enough to improve his family's life. So it is normal for a father not to allow gambling money to enter his house and be used to buy food and other needs. But maybe in other countries, it will make family members happy because they now have a lot of money to change their lives. This difference occurs in many countries regarding gambling, so we have to understand.

How would you look at this decision if the guy who won this amount has a gambling addiction? What if he was already in rehab at one of the clinics that help get rid of his gambling addiction? What if he swore to his father not to gamble anymore?

As I said before, we don't know the background of this family, so it's not really right to judge who is right and who is wrong.

In many countries around the world particularly in Muslim majority nations, gambling is generally not practiced by religious people. In fact, in some countries it is even prohibited. The belief is that the easy money obtained through gambling is transient and can lead to various challenges or negative consequences. This is what I have heard thus far.

It's a really difficult question because what is considered normal varies greatly and there may be a minority or even a big number of people who view it as a sin. Imo it's not bad unless it becomes an addiction and puts you in a financially difficult situation. However, if you can maintain control over it, are aware of your actions, and it doesn't negatively affect your family, yourself, or anyone else in your life then it should be fine.

I am somewhat neutral in this situation and I don't believe the father is wrong for standing by his beliefs, especially since it's his house. He may not want to introduce the potential negative impact of 'easy money' from gambling into their lives which could be influenced by religious considerations.

In my country, there is a saying that translates to 'Gambling money does not bear fruit,' implying that money earned through gambling is unlikely to bring any positive outcomes. Considering the father and son's situation, if the father continues to insist on not accepting the money, one possible solution would be to donate it to the poor and needy imho.

I guess that the boy's father is a committed religious man that stick to the tradition of his faith. The father must have taken gamble to be evil and against his faith,this is the only reason why he will act this way to his son. We all have our different views on what gambling is but I don't think that this is enough to send your child out of the house because we are all sinners and we need to understand that everyone has his own weaknesses in serving God. The boy father acted as if he is the holiest man on earth.

This is just stupid.

The father not appreciating what his son get and choose to reject it, a good parent need to appreciate with anything if his son give to him. The father can receive first and then remind his son for not gambling anymore, so the son will not feel bad and will change his view about gambling.

Although gambling is actually good if you know the reason you want to gamble.

People need to be practical. I understand that as per the father gambling may be a sin and it may go against his religion. But this act has been committed already. So what is the solution now? If I was in his place, I would ask the son to repent and use around 50% of the earnings for charity. And the remaining 50% will be used for his son's higher education or for setting up a business. If he rejects the prize, who gets benefitted? Only the casino owner gets the benefit and he will use that money to open more and more casinos across Nigeria.

Maybe using the money for business would be better for the son and not gambling anymore so it wouldn't disappoint his father. Besides that, the child can try to make money from the business so that his father can slowly understand and accept it. But it all depends on the father, whether he will understand and accept it or still will not receive money from the results of the child's business. Maybe the only way for the child is to give all the winning money to charity so they can use the money to help other people's lives.