I didn't have any other crashes yesterday after adding pause to my batch...
Now, however, I have changed the x amount to 1500 on both miners as they are (or will be) pushing around 2.5 TB a piece...
So far so good... I am pretty sure that was the issue, but I still can't be 100%
I am now also moving the rest of my plotting onto a VM as to not interfere with anything on my important server.
Thank you everyone for your assistance!
at 1350m for me on 2.1TB plot looking stable for me now. running for over half a day now which is a whole lot better than yesterday. so it does appear to be more ram required with larger plot sizes.