In my personal experience, I had just one return while selling bitcoin related items. I did not fight it and the item was returned in good shape.
re selling on btctalk-you are right, it is mostly useless for newer items, but OK for old or cheap stuff.
I sold a miner 1 time on ebay. Will never try it again. The buyer actually returned a different miner that had obviously been burned to hell. It was completely destroyed and wasn't even the same board revision #. I provided evidence to paypal showing the miner worked beforehand, showed evidence the miner that was returned was not the same miner that was sent, and tried to fight it. They sided with the buyer (they always do) and I was out a miner and the $. The kicker is that ebay/paypal even still took fees from me for ripping me off. I can honestly say that I believe ebay is the absolute worst possible way to sell a miner and if it wasn't for how awful paypal is, I and many others probably wouldn't have even discovered Bitcoin in the first place. If you haven't been stung by a scammer yet on ebay, you will.
i just sold some gear on ebay.. had a promo for $5 max final value fees and 30% off final value fees (whichever they decide to let me use)
buyer is located in another country but having me ship to an in country address (which is what shows on the paypal purchase details) and paypal shows that i am seller protected after they reviewed the payment. buyer mentioned he does this to circumvent customs fees by having his friend ship the units to him (probably listing them as very little value on the customs docs)
I made sure to add signature confirmation and took pics of the units as i was packaging them up
crossing my fingers it goes well, the buyer literally bought up the majority of what i had listed FS for a big chunk of $ which was kind of odd but we'll see