Topic: Do you care about what people say about you gambling? - page 36. (Read 4700 times)

Obviously, I gamble for my self and what people think or say is upto to them. They are adult and I'm one as well and the government recognized it if you want to participate in it. I don't see why I will even be asking the question in the first place not to talk more of been an adult.

Everyone has way of describing gambling, they see as social and fun but even with this, we have more of them that has old and ancient view on gambling. There are places in my country that don't even value you as a responsible person if you gamble, they see you as someone that might not even make it on life, don't dare say you gamble if you are seeking for their daughter hand in marriage because they will never allowed that happened, that's why some of them don't ever tell people they gamble in the first place.

If you want to gamble and it makes you happy, do it and stop listening to what you hear on your back.

Gambling is a choice and does not define who you are. People like the person who peeps into your account will always have some negative impression about you.
Back to your question, I never care about what say about my gambling and I never gamble to the level that the same people who have negative feelings about my gambling will later have a say about it due to addiction.
I never check my casino account publicly and if I will do it. I first check the people around me if they are the type that will be understanding and if they are I wait for the right moment.

Back gone at those days where people gamble and think of what people will say about you or noticed whenever you go gamble, people can talks about you when you do not gamble responsibly or you turning it to a mockery where people will see you and point hand at you saying such person is useless.

Anyone is permitted to gamble and that you shouldn't mind what someone else will say about you that is why it's always advisable to hidden with your phone not exposing it to where crowd it letting people look inside your phone to see what were doing.

Do not entirely rely on people or even trying to please them because those people you are looking into won't come and give you money, so if gambling gives you money then doing and make your money the goal should be you don't gambling excessively or even forget your purpose by turning into addiction. When someone turns into addiction it becomes a problems for you and your entire househood.

Totally ignore them! I dont really care on what they say, i dont really care on what they do.Its my money that i've been using and they dont have the rights on what i should gonna do. Gambling is something that my leisure time spending on which it is really that my money that have been spent not theirs. There are really just those people who do really love on trying out to get involved with someones business.
I dont care if they do see me as a bad person, as long im not really that asking on some money for me to play. There are really just those people who are really that too mindful about on what
others would be saying into them. Well, each person is different though because there are ones who are really that being too serious on what they do hear around.

For me, as long you arent affecting someone or step into someone on the time that you do play then it wont really be such an issue.
It is really just that a matter of choice and decision towards it.

Assuming I'm a gambler, If there should be any questionings and cautionings, it should be backed with extra funds to be able to wager on the said principle - if not, then it's invalid.... It's even more stupid to be telling anyone how to spend their money - so personally, I don't think anyone's opinion should matter to you as a gambler.
NOTE: This doesn't affirm the fact that I support gambling.

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At the same time, there could be restrictions - it depends on your marital status at the time... Why? The closest people to be affected by your uncontrollable urge would be your family ( wife and children)

Sandra 🧑‍🦰

Nope, but the older you get the less you start to care what others think about you and as long as you're not harming anyone else in the process, that is perfectly fine. There are plenty of people out there who like to gamble as a form of entertainment and keep fully in control at all times, spending money that they worked hard to earn. That seems like a perfectly healthy outlet, just like with anything in life that is done with moderation. I choose not to share the little amounts of gambling I do with others, because I would actually prefer not to encourage anyone else into this activity who might have less understanding of how the math is most often set against them and don't want anyone attempting to copy me without fully understanding that.

What people would say or already said, doesn't count anymore in my life. Because in gambling I already thought about it before venturing into it, hence the validation of people wasn't necessary when I started participating in games, gave it a try, with nobody being there to advise me. So, if a person who is close to me begins to talk about the gambling habit, it's mainly their response or opinion and doesn't have enough weight to affect my feelings. People will talk, regardless. It's only important if we know or are not sure of why we gamble. But while in our right decisions, no need to bother, provided we gamble responsibly. It's also an opportunity to discuss further about gambling to the person. Then hear from him what he thinks of those that gamble. Not just giving a slight response back to him. It could make the person continue having his perspectives on gamblers being irresponsible.

Engaging him can change his thoughts, and he wouldn't say such things to some other gambler he's met. The only disadvantage of engaging such people is, that they could go ahead becoming gamblers, and a person like that wouldn't hesitate to blame the person who he may have thought talked him into gambling. However, no error in trying to change the way people see gamblers. The society has been viewing gamblers as time wasters and it only gets worse each day. Some people no longer mind their business, like the case of Op, I don't think the guy had any relevant reason for talking to Op in that manner. Not that he had a follow-up discussion for Op, which shows that the person doesn't have a concrete reason why he thinks gamblers are not doing themselves a favor for staking money on games. All they could think of was their previous beliefs of how people talked about gambling in most gatherings, without giving their reasons for unveiling some ill thoughts about gamblers.

When I was trying to appear perfect before people have passed; such quest denied me my peace and limited my adventure. Maybe I was still young and naive that was why I was trying to please everyone. Now I know better and I have also grown to be independent and entire responsible for what I do and my decisions. So, I do not care about what anyone say because I'm not breaking the law.

Gambling is legal in my country with gambling shops almost in every street. No one is condemned for playing gamble so there is really no problem with gambling from end. In addition, it is pretty easy to be a gambler and not known by anyone since online casinos has taken over the gambling business.

Why would someone look into your phone do you give such person permission to do that or to start cautioning you about gambling or if he finds any bad habits around people he knows that are into gambling does not mean that you will also end up the same like them?

No! Because everyone has a personal responsibility to carry and if you decide to be gambling without depending on someone for help doesn't mean you should start caring about what people would say about you with your gambling habits. Maybe if the person in question is your relatives that has Job for you then you may decides to hide it or possibly just forget about it for the main time and focused on other areas of life.

Unfortunately gambling if not stopped at a point where you see that your life is getting out of hands can become a pretty dangerous sport with really high risk involved for our own life.If we don't stop at that point there is only one way which is down south and very difficult to recover so that is why that person told you that some people have become useless,meaning their life is not the same anymore.

Personally I never open things regarding gambling when people are around,even Flashscore to see the results of the games I open it only when I am alone or at some place I know I won't be bothered by these type of persons who keep invade other people privacy.

As long as its my money and I still have self-control, then I guess they have no right to interfere with my activities and I don’t listen to any comments about my gambling activities especially if its not helping me and all they want is just to give a none sense comments. If you’re having fun with it then there’s no need to listen to them, just stay focus and be more responsible, people will always have to say regardless of what you are doing and that is a human nature.

It's just that his personal experience with gambling was very negative, even if solely in an indirect way, as he doesn't look to have been a gambler himself, but saw people he knew becoming problem gamblers. For that reason I think it's normal he acted the way he did towards you.

Then you have two alternatives: to tell him to mind his own business and stop intruding himself in other people's affairs, or to patiently explain him not every gamblers are likely to turn into useless individuals due to their hobby. Rather, only a minority develop addictive behavior, otherwise we would have a pandemic of addiction cases spread in the world turning everyone into useless human beings to work, study and interact among themselves, because most people have had contact with gambling at least once in their lives.

I guess your decision on how to respond will always depend on your currently mood on the moment you are approached by these fellows. You were really polite this time. On the state things are reaching with people getting more and more nosy, I think I wouldn't have the same patience you had. Might it mean I care too much about what people say about my gambling habits?

I don't care what these people say. They don't add anything to my budget nor they add anything to my gambling expenses. They can paint a bad image of me but I won't really say anything since I'm funding everything with my own pocket. Besides, they won't really hurt my reputation since my finances are always in check, and I know that I am not a troubled gambler. I know when to quit and I know when to stop. They can judge, but they can't really alter the truth.

If you are the bread winner of the family, why are you afraid to tell your wife that you are gambling? But if you think that it keeping your relationship good by not telling her, then do not tell her. It is not about the amount of money that you spend on gambling that people will know that the amount is small, it is until they also know what you are earning in ratio to what you are spending on gambling. If you earn like $1000 monthly and spending just $20 on gambling, that is still good.

If it makes you have fun or that you just want to attend your business, what others say won't really matter to me tbh. For sure I'll just ignore them, they don't know in the first place how did I get here and how's my gambling journey along the way. If you spend time with these kind of people, it's just a wasted time I guess.

That's the spirit and that is actually true. There's no reason for them to bother you on your gambling activities.
It is your money and it is your prerogative to gamble. They should worry if you are spending their money but if not, mind their own business.
And if you are in a land-based casino, you are there to enjoy and have fun. So for me, it is okay if they see you inside, so long you are not dancing naked on top of the table and drunk you have no idea what's going on with reality.

You are correct I will say is my bad and I never knew his eyes were so smart and shape to peep through my phone otherwise it's very hard for me to reveal my phone to people around me to know i am into gambling.
However, I have learnt my lesson I won't even try it outside without me being inside or in a private and quiet place where I think I can comfortably access my device without anyone having to look inside my phone to come judge me again because of my gambling nature and besides I don't gambling regularly is just when I am pleased or touch to gamble before I could possibly place bet otherwise I don't constantly do that.

As an adult you take decisions yourself because you think it is good for you, i believe that before any sane adult gambles, they must have followed the ethics of gambling responsibly, so if you have done all that, you should not have any problems or worry about what someone says. People who gamble irresponsibly and use money meant for important things to gamble, need to take the advise of people telling them to stop, but anyways, it is still their choice if they want to take anybody's advise or not.

My wife doesn't know about my hobby.
Sometimes I like to play poker, and even the thought of this activity gives me anti-stress and pleasant anticipation. But I’m very afraid to tell my wife about this, and I only have the poker app on my phone, and it’s password-protected from her. I am sure that I will not be understood. I work 24/7 and I need to relax, but how can I explain this to my wife or her relatives? They will say that I'm losing the family budget, but I don't spend more than $20 per session, and for me that's not that much money. But I am very relaxed.

I think someday I will confess to my beloved that I am passionate about gambling, but it’s unlikely in the near future.

Honestly I don't care what other people say because they don't give me money when I lose and they don't make me win either. However, because in my country gambling is considered a negative activity (even though there are lots of gamblers in my country) I always gamble in a private place, because it makes me comfortable and not disturbed by anyone. I never open my gambling account in a public place