Some people really care what people think of them because they don't want to be deserted and have no friends when they get old or when they live in a community, that has many good people but it will all depends on which country you are living in because the customs will always be at your side if you follow it unless it is an obvious customs that are against the laws. Suppose you cannot let go of your bad habit whatever it is. In that case, it's better for you not to show it to the people and not be proud of it because when one day you want to change your lifestyle, you can always join their companies and not be left alone and no one wants to have you because you were once a gambler.
That's just how it is, some people grew up to needing the approval and attention of other people and so they end up with having this kind of problem, not being able to let go of attachments and people that are bad for their being is byproduct of how they grew up and what environment they were raised in. But the good news is that it's something that you can easily learn how to not basically give a fuck to what others have to say to what you're doing. Show who you are, don't be too bad about yourself just because you've got a bad habit, just learn not to give a fuck. 
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I shouldn't and I can't say the same for others, because the situations in countries are always different, I shouldn't care because no one cares for me than my parent, why should anything that people say affect me? But the problem is that some people are so ready to spoil your name by spreading something that's not even real.
Even if a responsible gambler visit local casino in my country, people won't care, you are simply are useless person, assuming you plan to get married, you will be shocked that someone will tell your in law that you are a gambler, and believe it that some people take this so serious, they won't let you marry their child because you are a gambler.
They have no idea that someone can be a gambler and also do a lot of great things in this life, but I don't blame them, too many gamblers ends up living up to the rumors from people, they ended up wasting their time with gambling with nothing to show for it.
So even if you are responsible, people will still say a lot of things about you if you are caught in a casino, I believe it's lack of knowledge but only very few numbers of people can control themselves when gambling, this is why most gamblers ended with nothing.
Even if a responsible gambler visit local casino in my country, people won't care, you are simply are useless person, assuming you plan to get married, you will be shocked that someone will tell your in law that you are a gambler, and believe it that some people take this so serious, they won't let you marry their child because you are a gambler.
They have no idea that someone can be a gambler and also do a lot of great things in this life, but I don't blame them, too many gamblers ends up living up to the rumors from people, they ended up wasting their time with gambling with nothing to show for it.
So even if you are responsible, people will still say a lot of things about you if you are caught in a casino, I believe it's lack of knowledge but only very few numbers of people can control themselves when gambling, this is why most gamblers ended with nothing.
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I am also a mobile user and I participate in gambling through mobile. No one in my neighborhood including my neighborhood knows about my gambling. But I participate in gambling very secretly and very carefully. I never predict any match for gambling in front of people. Because people should not accuse me in any way that I participate in gambling, especially since I am a humble and decent boy of the area, if anyone finds out about my gambling, people will think badly of me and people will not like my leadership. That's why I always save myself and participate in gambling.
This means that you really keep your secret when playing gambling so that no one knows, but you must really be able to control yourself because by gambling alone without anyone knowing, you have the potential to lose self-control, which can cause you problems. But it's best if we don't have to say anything about the gambling we often play because people's responses will be different and we don't want anyone to say bad things about us. After all, we don't need to listen to what they say about us because we are only responsible for ourselves. But we also have to be prepared if one day someone sees us gambling accidentally and they might spread the gossip to the public. And if it's like that, we don't need to respond to what they say. 
Some people really care what people think of them because they don't want to be deserted and have no friends when they get old or when they live in a community, that has many good people but it will all depends on which country you are living in because the customs will always be at your side if you follow it unless it is an obvious customs that are against the laws. Suppose you cannot let go of your bad habit whatever it is. In that case, it's better for you not to show it to the people and not be proud of it because when one day you want to change your lifestyle, you can always join their companies and not be left alone and no one wants to have you because you were once a gambler.
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I've learned this late in life that bothering about what people think of you or what you do is just a pain in the ass and an absolute waste of time. That is, unless, you were specifically aiming for their recognition/acceptance or something in the first place. Which, btw, should not be a regular thing to expect from anyone on the street, unless you're a politician in which case you do indeed need literally everyone on the street's recognition. Now in cases where you do need their recognition or something similar, then that's when you start thinking about how to explain, how to reach a consensus, or just a middleground for the both of you. There's usually one in most cases, especially if you're both important to each other. In OPs case I reckon it's just blind knowledge of gamblers (which is what media portrays it to be, so I can't exactly deny that it's true, but not the entirety) but I reckon a simple explanation and a simple look at OP himself can explain how it's a big generalization.
That kind of person will inevitably exist. If people are aware that you gamble, they will think negatively about you because it is quite harmful. Nowadays, it has been ingrained in people's minds that gambling will only lead to financial waste and that you can lose your family's support. They won't be able to think well of you, though, if you can feed your family properly and take care of yourself at the same time. If they can see that you are a decent person and that you know yourself to be a responsible gambler, then it won't be too much of a problem with other people's comments. However, it's really uncommon to come across a responsible gambler because occasionally they prefer to play secretly or privately. It is common knowledge in the community that gamblers who just spend excessively and lose their money eventually cause hardship for their families. This is the reason why the majority will harm the reputation of other gamblers who are involved. One thing, he has no respect at all, cause why does he peek at other people's business, that's privacy.
This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling,
You could start looking at what people say about you when you are not profiting in gambling but if you are, the people who would see you will want to join your groof to see if you can predict to them the right game to bet on. You know success has many followers but failure is scorned at. So those gamblers who are always losing their game are those that will be worried about what people are saying and not the people who are winning bets that they stake.
Why think about what people say about us, is it somehow capable of influencing our well-being, or any other aspects of our lives?
There are things that will never change, people will always talk about other people, but they forget about it as soon as they stop talking about it. People have a lot of daily worries and generally people worry more about what other people think about them. And if you are worried about what people will say about you gambling, then try not to let those who don’t need to know about it find out.
There are things that will never change, people will always talk about other people, but they forget about it as soon as they stop talking about it. People have a lot of daily worries and generally people worry more about what other people think about them. And if you are worried about what people will say about you gambling, then try not to let those who don’t need to know about it find out.
This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?
Let's discuss amicably
I am also a mobile user and I participate in gambling through mobile. No one in my neighborhood including my neighborhood knows about my gambling. But I participate in gambling very secretly and very carefully. I never predict any match for gambling in front of people. Because people should not accuse me in any way that I participate in gambling, especially since I am a humble and decent boy of the area, if anyone finds out about my gambling, people will think badly of me and people will not like my leadership. That's why I always save myself and participate in gambling. Let's discuss amicably
This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?
Let's discuss amicably
People have bad impressions about gambling, you cannot control that there is no need to argue that you are gambling for fun, because it's unlikely that they are going to believe what you're going to say to them, if people do not personally know you, his opinion about how you gamble should not matter to you.
Whether you're gambling to make money or fun, people have no business interfering with your affair, as long as you are spending your own money and you do not bother anyone or the community, you don't owe anyone any explanation.
I am not willing to do anything depending on others. Some people may give good advice but I will never find those people in any of my needs. So since they can't help me except for advice, I can't deviate from any of my goals by their words. No one knows better than me how much control I have in gambling. I don't agree to listen if someone sees my mobile or comes to advise me about gambling. I don't like other people's advice on my personal matters. Not all cases will be the same. I have the ability to understand good and evil. If someone tries to influence me with different motives, I will not accept it.
If you know it to yourself that you are a disciplined and responsible gambler, then there's no point in doubting yourself. As long as you are doing your duties as spouse, a parent to your children, and a good child of your parents, then all they are spitting should not matter. If you are providing your family a shelter, food, support and care that they need, you are doing a good job and should be entitled to your little luxuries in life. It's not as if you did something wrong when you gamble. If you want it to be your form of relaxation or outlet of stress, then so be it. Just remember to not compromise what matters the most and those should be your priority.
If ever someone would come at you with prejudice such as being an irresponsible gambler, just try to let them be aware or educate them about it. Because we can't really blame people who have negative thinking about it due to its reputation to the masses even way back then.
If ever someone would come at you with prejudice such as being an irresponsible gambler, just try to let them be aware or educate them about it. Because we can't really blame people who have negative thinking about it due to its reputation to the masses even way back then.
I know prejudice from things that people don't understand about it, the outside crowd likes to judge rather than put themselves in someone's position to feel. I have another example through OP's story, if you walk on the street and someone gives you money and you don't accept it, that money still doesn't belong to you, so understand that many outside prejudices if If you don't accept it, it won't affect you at all. I don't care too much about the things I do that others judge, because I know my actions don't harm anyone and they don't violate ethics in my opinion, so I don't need to worry about paying attention to thinking from the outside.
Actually, I don't really care what other people think about my gambling, because it is their right to think whatever they want about a gambler. But because in my country gambling is prohibited and playing in public is not recommended, I try my best not to open my account in public to avoid getting into trouble. Moreover, playing privately is much better, because I can play more freely and don't have to worry about other people seeing my account.
So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?
So it's quite natural for them to comment with opinions that are less palatable if you gamble excessively, but the point is as you also said if we gamble reasonably or correctly then there is no harm and don't worry too much because after all gambling is a choice.
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Are you affected ? because if not then you don't have to post this here right?on the other hand I care for no one when I gamble(but of course this is only for
sometime because I don't really gamble lol)
its your money right? its your time right? its your life right? then why do need to care for them?
Why won't I be affected when someone do classify you as someone not responsible and from then do you know if that same person would disseminate the information about your gambling habits so quickly?
Yeah, this could be common in the western country or in the first world country but not in our third world countries because whatever information they gives out about you sure affects you within your locality or to the general public, so to whatever thing man is doing we have to be very mindful. Even though I am not solely depending on him or him helping me we should mind how we leak information concerning our lives. Yes it's my money, my time / life and to whatever we may have it but that doesn't mean we shouldn't care about our wellbeing.
My parents religion will surely Hates me if they find out I am in gambling because this is truly prohibited from them , but that is what I only care because I don't wanna disappoint my parents.
other than that? nope I am not caring because what I do believe is that as long as I am not making any bad to others and I am spending my own money
there is no way that i have to explain myself from them.
other than that? nope I am not caring because what I do believe is that as long as I am not making any bad to others and I am spending my own money
there is no way that i have to explain myself from them.
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Okay, today I was actually out for a little business and it happens that I almost spent all my time wasted without me even having a smooth deal, but along the line I have few games that I have placed a bet and was wanting to view my games from my phone since gambling is now mobile, what I meant by mobile is that you can access your account at any place provided that you have an internet connectivity you will login to monitor your matches.
So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?
On a lighter note, I just smile and asked him if there is anything wrong while gambling or while monitoring my games and he said nothing but just that few people he knew that are gambling almost turned useless.
This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?
Let's discuss amicably
Are you affected ? because if not then you don't have to post this here right?Okay, today I was actually out for a little business and it happens that I almost spent all my time wasted without me even having a smooth deal, but along the line I have few games that I have placed a bet and was wanting to view my games from my phone since gambling is now mobile, what I meant by mobile is that you can access your account at any place provided that you have an internet connectivity you will login to monitor your matches.
So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?
On a lighter note, I just smile and asked him if there is anything wrong while gambling or while monitoring my games and he said nothing but just that few people he knew that are gambling almost turned useless.
This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?
Let's discuss amicably
on the other hand I care for no one when I gamble(but of course this is only for
sometime because I don't really gamble lol)
its your money right? its your time right? its your life right? then why do need to care for them?
Well, I am neither one thing nor the other. I don't go around touting that I gamble, nor do I care if anyone notices it. In general it is better that your gambling is a private activity that you keep relatively secret unless you are a professional gambler who makes a living from it, which is not usually the case on the forum. But if someone finds out, who cares? I gamble responsibly and anyone who doesn't like it can go fuck themselves.
This is a must thing to do because someone might feel negative about us when we talk about our gambling activities to them. They will hardly noticed it if we try to keep it a secret as much as possible, especially if you only playing online. We can only care if our kids see it because they can copy it but if it's about other adult people, I think we shouldn't need to.For a pro gambler, they don't need to do it but they need more exposure as much possible, so that they can get noticed by the brands or companies. This is where they get discovered and get a sponsorship to make a living. Besides pro gamblers are great players, so they can rarely get a hate from the people around them.
Well, just them. With my family and relatives, I don't talk about it unless one of my uncles or cousins starts the discussion then I might also talk about it with them. 
But that never happened yet. My friends though, it's easy to see when they are gambling. One of my friends could not even let go of his smartphone and I asked what he was doing and he shared it without even thinking twice. Others were into poker so it's easy to be in sync with them when talking about gambling.
The neighbors are a different story because I know a lot of ladies especially the old ones like to gossip so I don't share about gambling with any of them. Even if they ask, I will still not tell, I don't like people talking about me although I don't really care what they say.
But, it's always better to just keep it safe because who knows if my kids will sniff that gossip and I will look bad to them. Keep it a secret as much as possible because we are not the only ones who may get affected by those kinds of things but our kids too will start hating us.
Well, I am neither one thing nor the other. I don't go around touting that I gamble, nor do I care if anyone notices it. In general it is better that your gambling is a private activity that you keep relatively secret unless you are a professional gambler who makes a living from it, which is not usually the case on the forum. But if someone finds out, who cares? I gamble responsibly and anyone who doesn't like it can go fuck themselves.
This is a must thing to do because someone might feel negative about us when we talk about our gambling activities to them. They will hardly noticed it if we try to keep it a secret as much as possible, especially if you only playing online. We can only care if our kids see it because they can copy it but if it's about other adult people, I think we shouldn't need to.For a pro gambler, they don't need to do it but they need more exposure as much possible, so that they can get noticed by the brands or companies. This is where they get discovered and get a sponsorship to make a living. Besides pro gamblers are great players, so they can rarely get a hate from the people around them.
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