Topic: Do your parents know about your gambling habit ? - page 12. (Read 1193 times)

When I used to gamble during my younger days, I kept it as a secret since my parents would hate me for it.

As a child, my father brought us to different cockfight stadiums where he used to bet frequently. Though he always told us to avoid and not copy his actions, you cannot help but to be curious on the things that he did before. When I reached the age of majority in our country, I tried online gambling involving in-game skins from games and I was able to at least convert my $5 to around $60 at that time.

Unfortunately, I learned the lesson the hard way and I got humbled. Quickly, all of my earnings went from $60 to $30 and eventually I hit rock-bottom. From there, I vowed to myself to never gamble and not to expose my kids into any kind of gambling activity.

I don't think my parents know I gamble. Maybe if they found out I was gambling, they would just advise me not to gamble too deeply, and if possible, it might be better to stop gambling. Well, that's the reaction of most parents when they see their children who still live with their gambling. But for his children who do not live with their parents, the parents will advise them not to gamble because it can risk causing many problems. Parents may only be able to advise their children and cannot force them, especially if their children are adults and do not live with them. But they really hope that their children will stop gambling.

I've never heard my parents speak good of gambling. Hence, I can't inform them about my gambling activities. They'll not be glad about it, as they're not with other close relative whom we know are gamblers. When they go broke, it's common here to blame on gambling. I'll not get a chance of explaining why I gamble. Since they're not used to gambling, how then will there be able to accept what I say regarding the importance of gambling responsibility. They, parents, may have eaten the profits coming from gambling without knowing. So, to keep the ball running with no suspense. It's better not to inform anybody. I see it as a private life. Unless it's getting out of my hand, maybe becoming indebted via gambling. Then I'll safely inform my parents, to know their contributions in terms of gambling. And a new changed behavior. As they'll always be there on crucial situations in my life. Traditionally, a child should run to his parents when things are getting bad in their lives. Hence, if my gambling behavior is safe, and no one is getting hurt. I don't see any reason to tell my parents. As telling them can hurt, without my consent. Despite not living close to them, I keep in touch. And nothing as such has not be revealed to my parents. They don't ask too. Because they're not seeing those symptoms they see in other gamblers in me. Hence, they'll be no reason for them to fidget.

Gambling is something people can be really judgemental about and that could cause some kind of stigmatization,.so people tend to keep their gambling habit a secret so as to maintain a healthy status they keep their gambling habit away from their family, friends and others who don't share the same view with them as it regards gambling.

Definitely most parents wouldn't be aware their children are gamblers as they wouldn't mention it to them for reasons of privacy, they only make it know to their fellow gamblers and those who they know wouldn't be judgmental if they happen to know about their gambling habit, I also don't see it necessary for their parents to know as that piece of information may do more harm than good, they could only accept gifts from the proceeds of the gambling but their knowledge of it wouldn't be really necessary.

I have committed myself to talk about my casual hobby with them when I believe it is the right time to do so, for now they are not aware of it.
I believe it is important for one's family (not only parents) to know whether we partake in activies which could become an addiction, like smoking, drinking or if we start to take a very controled medicine for the sake of our health.

Whether one decides to tell one's parents about it, it is a personal choice. However, I would encourage anyone who is still dependent of their family to openly disclose those kind of expenses, so the family economy can be tracked easier and trust among family members can continue to be strong as long as possible

Yes, they know that I gamble sometimes, including about my losses. Actually, for me it was a good thing to share with them my gambling habits, because when I lost and had to stop gambling, it helped me to stop having impulsive gambling thoughts by telling them I was feeling like that. Always I felt tempted to gamble, I told them I was going to do this and then they talked to me until I cooled down and gave up the idea. They worked as a support group for me on the hardest times right after my loss, so it's definitely worthful to share your habits with close people. They can be decisive during your breaking points in favour or your mental and financial integrity.

I still live with my Mom and have no plans to move out for no good reason since all's well in here. She probably doesn't know. She might have some idea since I've left my PC open with gambling stuff on the screen quite often, but she's never really confronted me about it. I plan to tell her if she asks, but if she doesn't, I'm completely fine with the status quo right now. I can say I'm pretty responsible in the house, I pay the bills, and do some chores every now and then (especially during the weekends when I don't have work), so I don't think she'd judge me that badly.

If whoever the question projects to is up to the specified gambling age, then Thier parents are likely not to have any control over 'em, based on Thier decisions... I know for sure that some decisions are illicit and could be invariably countered by any sane parent, no matter how grown their child could be.
Alot would wanna hide those traces... How does it feel when your oldboy realises how insensible and irresponsible you are? Cus that's definitely how they'll both see it... They're not gonna bully you or deny you a treat since you ain't a kid no more, buh whatever misfortune you'll face in life - be it from other sources would definitely be tagged - gambling!!

Sandra 🧑‍🦰

I am staying alone and I hardly see my parent, because we are not staying in the same state. There is no way that they will know that I gamble and there is also no way that they will see me gambling.

If it happens that we are staying close, it will also be impossible because I am an adult and I will behave like one, by not revealing everything I do to them. As long as I don't allow my gambling activities to affect my way of living, I don't think that there is any cause for alarm.

Yep, after getting married I have my own small family and it means I have to have my own house. My small house is very far from my parents' house, we no longer live close to each other. Of course, my parents will not know any of my activities, habits or hobbies. They never know my gambling activities. I also never tell him about it, it is because I think it is a secret activity. I only share my story about gambling activities with my wife, I think others don't need to know. So, I don't know how my parents reaction if they know it, I've no plan to tell them. 

I live in a society where gambling is legal but seen by many as immoral behaviour. Due to religious and societal beliefs, many people keep their gambling activities very secret. I never gambled when I was dependent on my parent because they would be mad at me. But I started gambling when I began to earn from my work. I still hide my gambling from my mother but it is just because of cultural beliefs.

If she knew that I gamble, she would just speak to me persuading me to stop because she assumes that gamblers are money waster. But she knows that I have maximised my income and my family are not suffering from my gambling. So I don't think she would have any problem with that but she will just be surprised that her son is a gambler.    

Even though I am old enough and able to take full responsibility for everything I do, to prevent things that I don't want from happening, I always tell my parents about everything I do, but when it comes to gambling, I only talk about this. to a father, because he is the one who understands this best. And when I told him about the gambling activities that I did, he didn't show an expression of panic or anger because maybe he also thought that a man could never get away from gambling and my father just advised me to be careful when gambling because it involves money and "The risks are very high," he understood very well because perhaps he had also been at the same point.

As for talking about this to a mother, I don't think I'm brave enough to do that...hihihi

i haven't lived with my parents for a long time so i don't need to worry about them finding out that I often gamble, my parents once told me, whatever i do outside the house, i have to do it with full responsibility and readiness, after all my parents still have an old-fashioned mindset, i don't want to burden them with strange thoughts, they still think that gambling players are the trash of society ^{(they are quite religious people in their old age and are very against their children gambling)}

they know that I gamble and they weren't surprised when they found out, I mean I learned a lot of gambling games because of them and our relatives. what they don't know how is much or how often I gamble, I mean there is really no reason for me to tell them how much and how often I gamble. anyway, while they weren't surprised when they found out that I gamble, they had something to say to me, what they said was, that I should always remember my priorities.

I don't think even if my parents knew about my gambling habits, they would bother.
One has to get to a certain age to understand that parents actually want you to live your life based on the principle and morals they have inculcated in you at a very early age.

Where it becomes a problem and they start blowing their fuses about ones gambling habit should probably be when one lives with their parents or in close proximity. Else, if one lives alone, is married or have a good job even if it is a well paying hustle to support the gambling habit and makes parents happy by sending them some funds for upkeep along with occasionally check-up, why would they care or bother?

Its not important whether they know or not, what's important is if ones immediate family or responsibility is suffering because of such a habit.

People always tend to keep gambling a secret because they feel of people should know about their is an impression that people will feel towards them. Even if parents are aware about their adult children gambling lifestyle, they may not be too worried because they are old enough to afford money for gambling and are in the age of making choice on the kind of life they need for themselves. Some people who know their parents to be strict will prefer to let their gambling life to be secret to avoid much  talks from their parents.

Finance is the most important thing in the family and once you attend your financial freedom you become free to do whatever suit and make you happy and without your parent interference, so most of the time, our parent may be too old to even understand what gambling is all about, lime me I have an aged mother who doesn't know anything about gambling and would only be interested in things I choose to talk to her about.
My spouse on the other hand is very okay with my gambling activities, since i can balance between my gambling life and family perfectly.

in my culture (here in Italy) it is pretty normal to gamble during the Christmas period in family, with all a series of card games. It's also pretty fun and all people are involved (younger older etc etc...)

Obviously we gamble ridiculous amounts (the classic pennies) on these occasions....
They have always known that I like gambling.
Meanwhile I remember that they never said anything about this fact... because there has never been a culture (I'm talking about many years ago) in which there was a risk of developing a gambling addiction, it was not considered a risk.
now there is an almost sensational abundance of offers in this sector... every day there are dozens of games to bet on, it is clear that the gambling sector is completely transformed

You called them grown; means they are adults. Parents may not react so much to gambling as they would have if you were still underage and depending on them financially. I have seen many parents not react so much but just give advice to their kids who are grown when they discover them to have some habits because they realize that they are adults. Some parents will even consider their grown kids having gambling as a habit than some other habits.

My parents don't live with me, I live separately but I was not addicted to gambling when I lived with them. But after two years of marriage I included myself a little in gambling but my father didn't know it. But if my parents had known, they would not have allowed me to join gambling because they value religion and religion. Gambling is considered a sinful act according to my religion but if my parents had known about this, they would have never allowed me to join such a dirty profession. But even though my parents did not know that I was involved in gambling, my wife knew about it. He sometimes quarrels with me about joining this dirty profession. The matter is bad but I have never indulged myself in gambling so much that I can stop myself from gambling completely at any time.