Topic: Does having children have an influence on gambling habits? - page 6. (Read 1964 times)

So, therefore, someone must have a sense of responsibility, especially for couples who already have children. That's why, I often say that responsibility is important for someone to have, especially for someone who is the backbone of a family. This is no exception when we are involved in a hobby, whatever the hobby is, including hobbies that involve betting. The importance of controlling hobbies and responsibility for family needs to be balanced, but the main priority is responsibility for children and wife for me personally. For me, that's important, because as a human being I actually need entertainment, relaxation, or whatever for mental and physical health. yeah, at least so that everything is balanced between basic needs and personal needs, that's why it's very important to have responsibility and self-control.

Well because what we are discussing in this thread is a hobby that involves gambling, so we are talking from the perspective of gambling as well as responsibility and self-control. Not a few, many stories end with unpleasant stories in a family that is destroyed because the family's financial mainstay is involved in a gambling addiction. this thread is great, yeah great for learners for us in the community. Personally, that doesn't mean I've never experienced problems with gambling and my family. but the thing that I prioritize most is family, financial and basic needs must come first. At the same time, I also need entertainment so I don't get stressed. We can apply it to any hobby, yes for our own mental health and those who choose to gamble are no exception. the most important point is, for me, to have limits to what we can afford. So that everything runs in balance, broad understanding, knowledge, understanding and responsibility are needed.  which in the end, we will have good self-control. but if it is not trained, this discipline will not be realized. although in practice, it's not as easy as I said. but everything I say is based on personal experience.

I don't seem to understand what you guys are saying, children are blessings and nothing will change that. It is we who should plan our lives and not blame it on innocent children. As couples, they should know the number of children they want to born and that must be measurable to many factors which include their financial capability. If you know you can bear only one or two and give them the best support in all ramifications, why not stick to it? But having the financial capacity of 2 and bearing 5 children means you are wicked. So it is all about us and the right plan we have in every situation.

As for gambling, I do not see this as a must, you should quit it if it is causing you to lose money while your family suffer. That is what I see in your post which is not supposed to be so, it is never a must, so we should take it as such. And if you are such that is kin to gambling, if you are gambling and may not be able to do without it (though it is wrong and you should seek help), perhaps, you gamble with $500 a month, why not force it down to $50? By that, you would have saved a whopping $450 for the month even as you did not deprive yourself of what you like doing. Above all, gambling is not a do-or-die thing, your family must come first if you are responsible and I believe that quitting gambling entirely for the sake of your family is the simplest sacrifice you can make if you truly love them.

I won't even think twice!

The first thing that comes to my mind about cases like this is that it depends on our economic situation, if we have children and we are still able to divide our time, pay for or take care of children properly, gambling habits in my opinion can still be continued and because of that I also don't think it will affect anything.
Unlike the case with people who have little income and if they insist on gambling, of course taking care of children will be more difficult because they do not have the costs and time because they have to work harder to get more income to cover their needs, therefore it is important to realize that stopping gambling behavior and focusing on children is much better in taking solutions, so the conclusion depends on your own situation, because that will determine what kind of action you have to take so that everything looks good.

This goes beyond gambling's huge losses. Negative effects strike families most. When you're responsible for others, selfishnes isnt acceptable. People need to hear this opinion loud and clear. We risk funds and the stability we've achieved for our loved ones, who depend on us. Putting your kids' futures at risk is serious.

Experience has taught me that only bet with money you can lose without flinching. But honestly, folks, there are far better investments. Think long-term: family is legacy. So much duty falls on us as providers. It demands careful choices, smart strategy. Instead than chasing unpredictable wins, build a solid foundation. It needs wisdom to see the larger picture and trade delights for lasting. Giving our families a chance to succeed is our goal. I believe in that type of winning.

It depends, there are those who are aware of their responsibilities and change their behavior, but there are also those who think that their gambling is not a problem at all. But I think that it comes back to the individual, in most cases it really changes the gambler's behavior because they think that their responsibility to the child is greater, so like it or not they need to change their gambling behavior.

It depends on how much you are risking on gambling, your losses will be harder to bear still with kids or not kids, if you want reduce the risk of losing money you need to reduce the money you are risking on gambling, its not hard.

I am against having a family and a home and then turning yourself into a stupid gambler, you can't be selfish when people are depending on you, not even just people, but your own family, so you have no room to be a selfish risk taker.

When your budget is very tight, do not gamble, it's not as if you will make money if you gamble, quit gambling until the day you have some extra cash that you are willing to throw away, because its possible you will lost all the money, be responsible with gambling.

family responsibility has a way of affecting almost every part of our lives and most of the things you could be doing regularly will normally change once you've gotten married and as children starts coming in, if you don't cut off from certain things or at least reduce them, you might end up endangering yourself in the long run.

If you've had regular losses in your gambling as a single person, it's not close to what you will experience when you're married cause marriage comes with a lot of responsibility both from the aspect of teaching your children the right moral lessons that will make them better adult and also making good use of your money so the family won't ever get into a position where they need money but don't have it.

Normally taking responsibility is a very crucial aspect of our lives and a situation that we're into gambling and having children by our sides it's an eye opener in such a way that we should know that our chances of gambling habits should be limited and minimized because we now have a bigger task and responsibility at hand and spending on bets and gambling does not necessarily make us achieve that goal of taking up our responsibility.

Tho to some gamblers they feel having kids doesn't stop them from gambling but it's Not proper to keep gambling when you have kids cause you should be spending more on your vital responsibility which is your children than doing it elsewhere so in the later future there won't be any damages of sort and regrets.

Absolutely yes, because I would no longer risk like before. When people are single they can take any decisions both necessary and unnecessary decisions but when you become a parent you adjust yourself otherwise you get in to financial problems. Apart from that, when you have a family you reduce most of your reckless attitude so as to teach your children a good morals. Because if you don't limit or astain from some kind ukward behaviour you may end up not being able to raise a happy and decent home.

Loses are indeed harder to bear when you have family. That is why it is good to reduce gambling habit when you are a father in other no to get much angry when you lost. Because when you have a family you get provoked at a slight lost. You would even be saying that it would have been better you use the money to take care of other important responsibilities, than wasting it on gambling. Which you where also trying to win big to take care of the family responsibilities.

Gamblers own unique upbringings, and not every one of us acknowledges the respect responsible gambling adds to our family. Those players who care less about their families and focus on gambling only add disrespect to their homes. Nobody talks about something else in that home, instead, it's all about blame and troubles. A compulsive gambler is concerned with winning big, while gambling. He'd neglect the needs of his children and let them behave the way they wanted, without screening their actions. Such people are not qualified to be called good fathers. Their behavior affects society as a whole, not partly.

Because his sad and emotionally bedraggled kids will go about exhibiting strange attitudes amongst their peers. Instigating those behaviors on some innocent kids which circulates or extends to a wider variety of children in that environment or society. Hence, such gamblers should imagine a wider view of their irresponsibility in their homes and how it affects their environment. It causes extra pain to society and not just his family. The people around such a player need to create some awareness, at least to help the gambler adjust his lifestyle. A married man with kids, shouldn't pay his precious kids with self-inflicted hardship. Cutting down on the behavior is quite better than pushing endlessly on that attitude.

As much as children are indeed a blessing, there is also no doubt that unless a person is earning way more than what they need, an additional child will not only bring economic challenges to the couple, the child will also bring challenges to their existing relationships and even reduce the time they can dedicate to themselves.

So there is no doubt that anyone that may enjoy to gamble will have to sacrifice some or all of the time they dedicated to this activity to tend to their family.

Don’t know why, I think this post is coming from the angle of a person in such a situation and I just have to say, yes, that having children and more responsibilities also affects our gambling except the Person is an addict.
The greater your responsibility without any salary increase pays a major role on one’s gambling habits and might force them to reduce the rate and amount they bet on games and I think more the responsibility, the more difficult it is to bear losses.

Children are gift from God, and every responsible parent would want the best for their children at all cost even upto giving up on gambling if it’s taking so much out of them.

Responsible gamblers will avoid or curtail their gambling habits since they have an obligation to take care of and support their families at all times.

A family man who is addicted to gambling and bets excessively without prioritizing his family is not one to be proud of when it comes to his financial situation because he sees gambling as a source of income to support himself and his family. A bad move, which I am sure of, that doesn't end well

Parenting would really be  that different to each other on which there are ones who are really just that too loose when it comes to this manner and there are ones who are really that strict when it comes to certain things and there are ones who arent. This is why we've seen that there are parents who are really that too open when it comes to gambling but of course they do tell about moderation and being responsible
but it is really that hard to tell your kids specially if they've seen something that you arent that doing good when it comes to spending or providing needs. Just like on what other been people been saying
that when it comes to influence then us parents would really be giving out that kind of impact on which we know that this is something that could affect our kids in any way.
We do know that influencing them on something might really be resulting that having that huge problem in the future.

Many people change after the have children or change the structure of their families. That’s quite common
I could see some developing better habits after becoming a father or mother. Also due to their available time, priorities, need to save money or something else

It is true that of course they will teach according to their teachings as they should, but what is clear is that it is impossible for them to teach their children something bad. there is no way they will teach their children bad things like stealing or other things. It still makes sense if parents teach their children to be more independent because parents will be proud when their children can do everything themselves or be independent. There are no parents who reject their child wanting to be independent because that is a good thing too, even though they are worried at first but as time goes by they can accept it.
I felt the same way, when I got older I had a desire and had to make it happen in my own way, with support from my parents it helped me become more enthusiastic about carrying it out, even though at first they were worried but in the end they were able to accept it. Even if their parents are gamblers, I'm sure they won't teach them the same things their parents did, because that's an unnatural thing to teach too. and when we are married, let alone have children, we have to pay attention to them.

People are different, and we are all raised differently, according to the habits that are passed on from our parents to us, and so on. Some people want their children to be more independent, others worry so much that it becomes like overprotection, and it’s difficult for me to say what’s right, and what’s wrong.

The most important thing is that children are fed, clothed, receive a good education, and I also think that it is very important to give the child space, so that they can also decide and choose something in life for themselves, this is important, there is no need to try to do everything for them. In this case, both parents and children will have more time for themselves when everyone learns to solve their own problems. Children will never be an obstacle for you in anything, because they are your family.

Or simply this one really just that simply talks about being responsible and being irresponsible on which there would really be those type of people in regarding on particular situations. You wont really be that making yourself that messing up your life with gambling if you are really just that mindful on what you are doing. Now that you do have already a family then it would really be impossible that you would really be that making yourself spending up tons of money into it which you could really that make use of those funds for the benefit of your family instead. It would really be just that too much waste if you do have that kind of perceptions towards gambling on which you do give out less priority into your family.

If you dont like to experience on been left out by your wife and children then its better to make yourself that responsible because once they do able to experience hardships in life
because if your irresponsible behavior then dont get shocked that you would really be that left alone.

It was indeed something that if we didn't see it firsthand, we wouldn't be able to believe it. In reality, there are parents who neglect their responsibilities towards their families and all that is on their mind is just only their own pleasure and needs. Gambling addiction can be something scary and if it's like this it will be very difficult to treat because whatever the advice and whoever the advice comes from, it's very likely that someone who is already addicted to gambling won't pay attention to it.

My overall feeling is that if you have children that depend on you, you probably shouldn't be using your funds recklessly.  However, some people have a ton of money or make a ton of money and need a way to unwind as well.  I think if you fall into this category and it doesn't matter if you lose every bet, your financial life will not be impacted, then I don't see any problem with it.  It's entertainment after all.  On the flip side, if you can't afford to provide for your family and you're using the little money you have to gamble in hopes of striking it big, you are probably doing your family a great disservice.