Topic: Does having children have an influence on gambling habits? - page 7. (Read 1964 times)

I think we can measure or predict whether they will be able to be responsible or not in terms of how or how bad or whether they are responsible gamblers or vice versa, because obviously if you are a responsible gambler in the sense of being able to manage and control your gambling activities properly and according to your abilities then I think the gambling activities that you often do will not really affect the financial situation in your family relationship, But if it's the other way around or if before marriage you were an irresponsible gambler or an addicted gambler then I think this type of gambler will not care about any situation, meaning that the situation with full responsibility after they have a family is unlikely for them to be able to think about reducing their excessive gambling in the sense that they will still gamble in a bad way that will endanger themselves and their families.

Overall and from the few cases that have happened, I would agree with you that most of the time gambling only makes a person experience financial problems in life regardless of whether they are single or married, and however I will not forget the best advice and ideas which is obviously the best decision is to quit and get out of the gambling habit regardless of whether you are a responsible gambler or otherwise, because this is what is best for long-term security.

Having a family is a big responsibility, I also have a wife and 2 children who need attention and certainly need good and transparent finances.

Whatever I do in gambling or in any business in crypto, I tell everything and hopefully my wife will understand and when I start to work in front of the computer.

About how often or reduce gambling activities, it will have a schedule that is certainly getting less.
I gamble only as entertainment, not to seek so much crazy profit that I become an addict, I know my limits and when to stop.

Doing time management for family, real work, crypto and gambling should be balanced enough so that there will be no problems arising due to gambling reasons and so on.

I guess it does. I don't have children yet but I'm now married. And as I compare my single life and a married life in reference to how I gamble, there are two reasons that are changing my gambling habits. The first is financial transparency, It's not that my wife is asking my money but I'm expected to be transparent on how I spend my salary. And the next thing is the spare and private time available to yourself.
As you have kids, you might be expected to be more efficient on using your money and would have less time for yourself as you give more to your family and the job/business. So, it won't be hard to conclude that you'd be gambling less and more reasonably.

When the time comes that you have that become a father or having a family then tons of those things that you've been dealing in the past would really be needing for you to left it behind.
You do have tons of responsibilities already on which you would really be needing up to comply or something you would really be needing to provide since you have that decided to dive in
into the world of marriage on which there would really be tons of responsibilities but at the same time it is really something that could bring out happiness.

It would really be just that right that you would really be giving out importance into your wife and children on which giving them the best things as we could and providing on what they do need in life.
If gambling could really be resulting into that tons of spending  you do have or getting a huge chunk into your day job salary then it would be best that you should really be quitting up.
Dont tend to stick into those vices or things you've been involved in the past when you are still single. Everything cant really be just that the same.

Believe it or not, being married changes a lot of things in both the man and the woman and when children starts coming, it is also another experience all together. There are somethings people do as singles that they will not find interesting anymore when they are married. Regarding gambling, the approach of a gambler when single, with less responsibilities, is always different from that of a married person. The reason is that a married person take a lot of things into consideration such as the reaction of the partner, protecting his gambling business from the children who might not be old enough to know about gambling and also the sense of responsibility in terms of resources allocation. Having children definitely influence our gambling for the reasons I have given and more that exist. A father is seen as a role model so he must strive to maintain the expectations reposed on him by the children and one way of doing this is to keep certain things secret, especially things he wouldn't want the children to do at their early ages.

Male gamblers without children /responsible would always want to gamble with everything they have but I am sure that when they full married and have children they won't gamble overtime. Having a family is like have a responsibility and you must provide for them because they are your main priorities.
Providing for a family is a mans responsibility but the woman is just there to support the family also, if you are addicted to gamble you have to reduce the way and the amount you use in gambling because you have responsibilities.
The way children influence gamble is only if the children are more than the salary the parents earn, they won't be any to gamble after the parents finished spending for the family expenses and savings but if incase there's any they will gamble but not always.

i don't have a family, but from my experience of seeing people around me who gamble and have families, there are only two possibilities, firstly, the person understands his responsibilities and reduces his gambling and focuses more on his family, and secondly, he doesn't care at all about his family and only gambles. those are the only two types of gamblers, so it depends on the person whether they care about their family or they don't care at all and just gamble without thinking about their family.

I agree with that, even before marriage we should be able to change our habits for the better, because marriage is not a small matter. Marriage must be prepared as well as possible because we must be responsible for everything that will happen when we are married. Including with our own finances. As you said, we have to manage our finances well, because when we get married there is another soul that we have to live with and that, in my opinion, we must or must be responsible for. I agree with you, indeed many people who are single they do gambling often and it might be said to be a hobby, which of course is draining money not making money, when married then obviously we have to reduce that habit if it can't stop completely.
It's true what you said, as much as possible we must be able to reduce the habit of gambling if we are married regardless of the percentage or amount because otherwise it will become a problem that can trigger a broken relationship or divorce. If you can, it's better to stop, but to stop gambling is difficult especially when the approach to gambling when you are single is very close, so it is likely to be difficult to be able to increase the gambling that has been done.

When we are married and have children, we have to change all our lifestyles and do not continue like we were doing were single. we have to manage money strictly. Gambling is the same as hobby, when you are single and have a hobby that drains your money, you have to reduce it when you get married. maybe you used 50% your salary to gambling, but when you have married you must reduce it about 25%, except if you have additional income like signature campaign, maybe you can use it in full of them so that your main salary remains intact.

Truly sad when we see such news that they're not showing any good result of their change. Because if that one incident has been covered and reported, for sure that there are also incidents that are close to it that had happened.

That's right, it's not just us as gamblers that are being affected but also the people around us especially the children that we're taking care of.

If you're not going to change your habits, a worse case scenario is that you'll be able to send them the same activity and soon they'll be the ones that will become addicted to gambling and that's even worst than us being addicted.

I can attest to this that you would really be having that changes once you do have a family on which your priority would really be that changes and since you do have wife and kids then your main important target is to raise them up and having no problems in regarding living. Just like on what been said above that it would really be totally irresponsible if you are prioritizing gambling over your family specially when it comes to budget
on where you would really be needing to provide all of their needs if you do want to have a good life. Its not bad to gamble if you are really that a gambler and cant leave on it but everything now would really be in moderation. You cant really just that make yourself that spending like when you are still single. Everything changes when you do have a family on which you would really be having tons of responsibilities now.

Raising up a family is never been easy or simple on which as a father or husband then you would really be needing to provide all the things that they do need if you dont like to mess up your life with.

I think that such a step as starting a family can change a person’s life. I mean a person who has problems with gambling addiction or some other addiction. When I had big problems with drugs, God helped me and freed me from it. I also know who were unable to change their lives for the better after starting a family and even having children. I think everything here is individual and depends on the person. In any case, when a person has a family and children, he is no longer responsible only for himself and such bad habits as gambling should be eliminated, especially when a person cannot control himself and regularly loses all his money on bets or in casinos. I also think that the future spouse should be aware of his partner's gambling addiction or past gambling addiction if the person is done with it and no longer does such things.

I think this was actually a recommended for a known addict in my work place after when we had some good talks about his gambling addiction and how he was able to get rid of it because he was showing signs that he has cut down on his addiction and started showing rooms for improvement and it made me wonder and one thing led to another and he told me that a therapist actually prescribed for him to get himself some responsibilities to carry that it would be good because he will see the world from a different angle.

Let's just say, it should make you change your mind and approach to life. Unless you have a special skill and can show a profitable return in your area of gambling year after year, then chances are you're losing money. There was a study done, probably out of date now and more expensive, that showed raising children can easily cost a quarter of a million each. That's a lot of money you have to devote to raising them on average, which leaves less room for this form of entertainment. You should also want to encourage the best habits in your children as well, so as they grow up make sure they are not exposed to gambling because it can effect everyone differently and you never know if they'd get addicted to it.

Responsibility means many things but in gambling definitely sense of responsibility plays an important role in gambling especially when a gambler participates in gambling from a sense of responsibility he must always have a mental pressure and target. If a gambler has more than one child, his sense of responsibility must be high. And if the sense of responsibility is high, of course it is normal before the influence of gambling. However, people should not participate in gambling due to stress or busyness, drunkenness or mental disorder because these factors make a gambler suffer more losses than gains.

With gambling habits it can affect anyone including our children, we may be able to avoid this such as not gambling in front of children or prioritizing others even if you yourself are relaxing.

I have always had a habit of gambling but it has not delayed other work so the severe negatives are not so obvious, so now I am still trying how this gambling does not have a worse impact on others.

While there is free time, you can play gambling, while if there is no time, you will choose something else.

There is a thread about it here on the forum and gambling really has an impact on a person, we can't say if it is a positive or negative impact but based on what is being read and reported today, it seems that the majority is changing for the worst, because there are many sensible people People who have been engaged in gambling have changed a lot in their actions and behavior. It's just sad because there are other incidents where parents can afford to neglect their children in exchange for gambling.

I've read that news as well and that's just a sad story because gambling really changes people whether he's a family person or not.

So, as for the topic about if gambling changes or influences a gambler. Yes, it's true but it's not just always for the better.

And based from that news that we've read, it can also change a person negatively and doesn't know what to prioritize if he's itching to gamble wherein he can just stay at home and gamble online.

Of course, the first thing that comes to mind is that those who have children become more responsible. But sometimes I saw that even with children, some behave as irresponsibly as this, I don’t understand this. Even on the form there was a theme of how the father played the game and placed bets while very young children were left to their own devices and it could end badly because they are not yet independent.

As for me personally, I don’t know if I continued to play gambling at all, but I think that I would focus on raising children. In general, I think the excitement should fade a little in any case, because we cannot afford huge losses, because our children simply will not have anything to feed, and this cannot be allowed.

I'm flabbergasted with this question but on a second thought, I remembered that a lot of people gamble to make money and not the love, fun and entertainment they all claim to be and that's the majority don't enjoy gambling, that's why the majority don't make profit, why majority don't make profits and gamblers are depressed as result of addiction from gambling, so before I go on the children part, learn to gamble because you want to and not because you are looking for money to pay bills or take care of some responsibility.

Here is my advice for you, before you marry, make sure you have a good source of income to properly take care r your family and the rest will be easy to for you. If you are a moderate gambler, you will not have any issue bearing the burden of loss in gambling unless you use the family savings to go and gamble that's when I think you will think hard and might lose your cool.