Topic: Does having children have an influence on gambling habits? - page 4. (Read 1964 times)

It won't end quickly but it will shatter if the leader of the family which is the father gambles a lot and starts to ignore his family's need.

Once the children starts to complain that they aren't given time by their pops, that will be remembered by them forever.

Kids are too sharp in their memories as they will always remember on how you've spent your time with them, the same goes if you don't.

You owe your responsibility first to your family. If you’ve got a limited budget, you do not gamble as you ought to prioritize the needs of your family before your own. So you don’t indulge. If you really want to continue gambling, then you have got to increase your income levels. Get another job that would help increase your income so there won’t be any financial issues that may arise later on.
And even that, you still have to be financially responsible and not let your guard slip so as to not let loose and forget your responsibilities. A budget always help one remain focused.

Everyone knows kids change everything, especially gamblers. Folks, priorities change. Simply put, it is. I've seen the best; a family wakes up gamblers and clears their minds. They prioritize their kids' prospects over long-term bets. A powerful person can change that.

Not everyone can. Addiction is strong. Too many people have lost their homes and families for the excitement of the hunt. No reason for this tragedy. Leadership means taking responsibility and not risking those who depend on them. Knowing when to leave to focus on family is the ultimate gain. Its about good judgments, not easy money. Sometimes, the smartest play is the one you dont make.

Of course having children could sometimes change the narrative of most gamblers because they will  be on a serious tight responsibility in making sure they provide for the family, so at that moment it will have an influence on there gambling habits because even if they would want to gamble but the first thing that would come to there mind is there family and from there they will start thinking about what the money could do for them if they channel it to there family, so perhaps that's were the influence of having children or family come in play.

Although all this things I explained only entails a responsible gamblers to keep because there are some people who has so many children with numerous responsibility but they still continues there gambling habits whereas they could gamble with everything they have just to make money and disregarding there responsibility to there family, however the reason I'm saying this is because I have seen a gambler like that, though is mostly common for those gamblers that are already an addict because they don't have control over there gambling habits.

I think there are only two scenarios in gambling and children combination. It is either you dedicate all your time and money to your kid, which means there is no way you can gamble at all. But later return to gambling when you have more free time. Or persons gambling habit did not change at all. He isnt limited by funds because of a kid, and most of the time manage to find free time. Not like he gambles whenever he wants, but when the kid is sleeping for example.

When he is married and has children, a man must realize that he has a responsibility to support his wife and children. But that doesn't mean you have to give up your pleasures like stop gambling. Gambling without considering family finances is a big problem in the future. And leaving gambling because you think about investing time in your family is something that is very good as long as you can stop gambling. The problem is that some people who like gambling can't stop right away. I agree to reduce the time and money spent on gambling little by little. Because it is impossible to stop gambling completely after you have a family.

from my experience as the head of a household, it actually all depends on the monthly income that I will get and if the income we get is greater and we still have a little money left for gambling it doesn't seem like it will cause serious problems.
as I do now, financial management is also very important, even though I have children, I still rarely use money from my job just to gamble or if not, when there is a football match where the winner is very clear, maybe I will use my personal money to bet, but it's very important, rarely because I rely more on the money from the campaign to gamble to try my luck while having fun.
but still, I also have to manage my gambling finances carefully so that within a certain time the budget I have for gambling remains to be used for gambling at a later date.

so that when I get paid from a real job, I will use it for my daily needs to meet my family's needs and of course, even though I have children, I can still gamble safely and comfortably without having budget problems.

You right because parents must responsibility with their children. Children needs their parent and if their parents busy with their gambling activity, their children will be less attention from their parents. We can't risks their future by not giving attentions to them while they are grow and when we have children, we must give the attentions for them than just to playing gambling. We can reduce our gambling activity slowly until we can control ourselves better and not depends on gambling to release our stress and relax. We can release our stress playing with our children and that can makes we bond each other with tight. We will always take care of them and gives attention to them.

And a little extra, friend, it is true that if you have become a husband or father, he should maintain the integrity of his household so that it is harmonious by looking after and being responsible for the physical and spiritual needs of the family. with the thought that if he still wanted to gamble, that would be the impact. It's not just him who feels it, but his children and wife also feel it and the impact of the risks of gambling really disrupts family relationships to the point of making them fall apart.


I agree with your opinion that when a man wants to have a relationship in marriage, of course he must be able to stop or reduce his bad activities while he is still single if he wants to build a harmonious and prosperous household in the future.
And it's true, if you have built a household, trust and openness are the keys to a harmonious household. If he continues to cover it up and does not try to be honest with his wife, of course his household will have continuous problems because of his gambling addiction which is the root of the problems in his life. his own family.

If the number of family members increases, there will be an increase in expenses, of course, a gambler may lose money in gambling due to the loss or it is normal that there will be a big change in his gambling habits. But there is no guarantee that this will be the case for everyone. Even if the number of family members increases in the upper income level, there will be no significant change in their gambling habits. But for those with relatively low income limits, the increase in the number of members in the family means changes in their money management. The amount that I can budget for gambling on a monthly basis, if my spending increases, then I have to reduce the amount of my monthly budget. Gambling will  have a negative impact on those who cannot match this budget with their spending. The same situation can happen if the amount of expenditure in the family increases even if the number of members in the family does not increase. Basically a savvy gambler must try to match his expenses with his income.

You can still place timed bets before the game but live betting, playing slots or casino games might take up too much time.  I bet the majority of people preoccupied by household tasks like this take up playing the lotto or similar low key betting instead.    I dont see its any change to betting on the horses or other bets you can put on the day before a race but being busy is going to stop people listening or watching the games, races, etc. live thats the problem.

If you got kids or other big priorities you no longer have the luxury of as much free time readily available.  Thats a situation not exclusive to raising a family but a common occurrence no doubt like it or not.

It can but it depends on the individual. Some persons may feel pressured as a parent (having to provide for the family), and would not stop because they are finding that one winning ticket. Meanwhile some others would consider that they can’t take care of their family based off on gambling predictions, and would rather use that money to solve something while investing that time into something that is worth it.

Well said, married gamblers should respect their homes as well as their gambling habit, nothing beats family, same as the house. Hence, players must take their gambling habit as a fun activity. Not just a way of fun, but a means of relaxing after a hectic day or week. It's not easy to run a family, most gamblers tend to chill with gambling but end up making mistakes. That could affect the growth of their home, physically and emotionally. However, missing out on the crucial importance of leveling down compulsive gambling as a married man puts a growing family on a stagnant level. It'll drag backward the success of such a family.

Another important factor is letting the spouse know he's a gambler, way back, before getting married. It helps in settling issues in the future, especially when things get difficult for the gambler, his wife wouldn't face it unexpectedly. A family should be run as a collective effort, everyone contributes, and nobody should be let down, or left behind. The kids should be respected, as well. Because they are the future of the family. It's degenerating to watch kids undergo ill treatment from a compulsive gambler. Some players don't show their kids the love they deserve as children. All for the sake of gambling.

Yes, you can set limits on how much money you can use to gamble according to your income. In fact, gambling doesn't require a high budget if you decide to gamble just for fun and gambling is not a source of income, so it doesn't matter if you want to gamble in your free time to enjoy gambling.

but don't force yourself to gamble if you have a limited budget, only enough for daily needs and you don't have other sources of income, so you as the head of the family must be responsible for your family's needs, so I agree with you that you can gamble when you have a budget and gamble with responsibility.

You do have a responsibility to fulfill towards yourself and your family. And whatever activities you do indulge in that takes up time and money before would have to be drastically reduced or if possible, stopped entirely. It doesn’t mean you can’t give yourself to a nice time treat occasionally, it means you’ve got dependents that are looking up to you as a parent financially and morally.

You could still indulge in gambling occasionally and still be a responsible parent to your child. Having a family shouldn’t make one quit doing what they love doing. As long as it’s legally and responsibly done.

In our roles as parents and spouses, it is important that we keep family welfare and satisfaction as the main priorities. Among other things, this entails bearing in mind that our actions have consequences and assuming full responsibility for those choices even if it is gambling we are talking about. The presence of ours and the support given to children and partners determine whether they feel well physically, spiritually, or otherwise.

I think that a person who developed a gambling addiction prior to getting married should be responsible and work hard towards minimizing or eradicating this behavior once they are married, particularly when it can affect the family negatively. When you have your partner’s permission before placing another bet shows the level of respect and sensitivity in the relationship and with the financial matters that affect the family.

Family trust and relationships can be adversely affected when one plays his or her own game without knowing how much money to stake and keeps the secret away from his or her partner. So, in order for a family to live harmoniously, it is crucial that gambling behavior is transparent and there’s an open discussion about it. It is important that the family survives and remains happy if all of us are responsible for our actions and bear in mind how they affect the family.

Right but gambler will not understand this thing because he loves to earn money and he does not care about his family. Parents do everything for their children but when they grew up then they cannot obey their parents and do all bad things without realising that this will make their parents feel discomfort.

People are gambling just to earn money but money is not everything and gambler will realise this fact when they loss all the relationships, friends, money and family. For temporary happiness they achieve from gambling they lost their whole money and spoil their life just for the hope of earn more but a person cannot get more than the amount present in his fate.

I think for us to get the right prospective and analysis of this discussion we need to take a look at some thing's that are very important to the discussions and how we relate responsibility to gambling and how a parent should began gamble responsibly because gambling have a lot to do with how we as a parent handle our affairs and how we expose our family to our activities.


The truth is that gambling shouldn't be done at a passive level because at some point we all need to have it at the back of our minds that gambling can ruin one life so at that we need to have discipline while gambling.

If that's your case then it's not advisable to go too far in gambling because after all self-control is very important for a gambler, all the concerns you wrote about the importance of dividing time and being able to have more time with family, it will be useless because you can't fully control yourself, let alone have a family later and have children, of course I think you should stop gambling if your personal problems cannot be resolved. The thing that must be clarified is to look at your situation first, not only about the economy but how your relationship with your gambling attitude also needs to be considered because it will make the output of thoughts that you can take wisely.

This change everything from a real father/mother perspective , I said REAL PARENT because there are a not so real parent that only have children and not acting as a responsible one and this change the thought of the answer here.

If I am the one who is in the question like what I did in the past? i managed to change everything that i use to when i saw my first child , maybe others have the same experience as well here.