Topic: gamble continuously because have surrendered to the situation - page 2. (Read 315 times)

Obviously, this fellow is already addicted, because he doesn't care anymore about the money he got from his parents or even his own assets. Maybe if he still has some families around that can step up and help him out, it will be really good for him.

But if there are no external influence for him to stop, then it's going to be very difficult for him and we can only wish him the best at this point. We don't want to see him wasting him life for gambling.

That is a very sad story and I feel like advising a friend at this point to stop gambling has no impact at all. Once someone surrenders to his situation things are really bad and we need professional help to get him out of this hole. Even for your best friend you can't be there all the time and control actions. The same would be if it's your brother, uncle or cousin. We all have our own lifes and can't put everything on hold to help. The first step would be to get him to accept the problem of a gambling addiction and find help for him. In such a severe case it probably needs to be an institution that is specialised in gambling cases.

Suddenly I remembered a thread, Online Casinos Want you to Gamble Responsibly.
It is a proven fact that gambling, if not responsibly, can be a big problem in terms of financial, emotional and social. This man has been broken socially (family) and emotionally messed up, forgetting the greater risk of chasing losses regardless of anything else.
I even doubt if someone without competence in psychics can advise him.

this is what addiction means mate, there are even worst in my country couple years ago that a addicted gambler  try to rob the casino and killed many people including himself in fire .
wait a little more before this happens if His addiction will not controlled till then.
we all love to give advice mate but the thing is will they listen? if they did not listen to their family and love one so who are we to be obeyed ?

I feel pity for this guy that the OP has posted, and I wish that he learned a lesson from his losses... but he doesn't and he still wanted to continue to play slots. A very unfortunate turn of events for that guy. He got money from his father, but instead of using it for their own good, he used it for his own good thru playing slots. He sold everything as well just to play slots.

This is a prime example of "Gamble Responsible". Same like with drinking liquors where they always say "Drink Responsibly". It's the same with this one. Maybe putting him to some experts might help him and at least decrease or even remove his addiction with gambling.

For now. He isn't a criminal, and he isn't a thief, but what if he will do it in the future just because he don't have anything to sell anymore, and he doesn't have any money to use to play slots? For now, it's good that he isn't doing it, but there is a chance that he might do it in the future.

Like what other people does, of course I will advice the addicted person especially if he's that close to me. On the other hand, there is a limit on how I will give him advice. I mean if he doesn't listen to my advices, what's the point of helping him if he, himself doesn't want to do it. Return him to the family or put him on the rehabilitation center.

Geez, this is not what you need others to make a decision for, as long as he is an addict and this addiction of his has affected him in a bad way then you prolly should start advising him to quit or get an expert to assist you in convincing him to quit gambling because if he should continue more damage will be done and before you know it he might even pick up the act of stealing all because he needs cash to gamble.
I just hope your efforts to get him to stop gambling works because this story of his is heartbreaking indeed.

He's already such a heavy addict that it's a little hard to stop him unless someone with expertise in this might be able to stop him I think he will also quit eventually when he does run out of money overall but don't let that happen there's still time to find someone expert to stop it, this is a lesson for beginners to gamble according to their ability to lose money, so that when you lose you don't have to chase losses, you should limit your daily budget so that you don't like this, gamble wisely and responsibly 

Well, he won't steal from others, but he has stolen part of the future from his wife and child, and that's why they have left him.


I think you are quite right on this. Many people who have this kind of problem with gambling are from poor backgrounds, with few qualifications to work, who are unhappy with their lives, mainly because of the economic component, and see gambling as a possible way out, but which in reality ends up being a problem. It is no coincidence that there are considerably more gambling dens per square metre in poor neighbourhoods than in rich neighbourhoods. But I wouldn't take all the blame off him and consider him a victim. There is a component of personal responsibility, and by no means all people in his situation end up behaving like that.

This is saddening, one of worst stories I have read here.


Of course, I would. But he must be willing to heed advise. Even if I don't have family, I would stay away from such minded people, just to keep myself sane. Never drown in other's misery.

it's true, that addict rehabilitation center is the best place for those who are really crazy about gambling and even give up other things just for gambling

I don't have friends who are gambling addicts, but a few years ago there was a friend of mine who was a drug addict and then I advised him to go to a rehabilitation center and luckily now he has recovered from his addiction, however a gambler still has responsibilities in his life, is a fool who forgot his family only for gambling and became a heavy addict

Now maybe he didn't rob or commit a crime to be able to gamble. But when he is addicted and has no money to make for gambling, he will do many things to be able to earn money and gamble. I know the slot gambling application you mean, and it's widely used today. It's very addictive when you are given one win, you want to keep playing without limits. Having a friend like that is a good idea for you to advise, because it will have an impact on his life in the future. want to get the Jackpot, even though they always lose and keep making deposits. Gambling like that will only bring misery to your friends, risk addiction and risk finances. If don't have money to deposit anymore, then the only way to get it is by criminal means or by selling the things you have.

Gambling is not a skill and been addicted to it is not good, so i can not encourage my own child to participate in gambling , because i know that gambling will profit it nothing, gambling is nothing to show your people the way I'm seeing everything that comes out from it, but i believe that, some people who is on gambling do that for leisure purpose not to get or make money.

That's the worse that can happen to any gambler living only to gamble and don't care anymore about the good thing about life, it's probably the lowest low of any gambler, and if you are into this deep no amount of persuasion is enough, he just come to a point that he realized that he needs to stop, and when this happens to be sure you are there to guide him.
Don't give up on your friend yet, if the gambler is that low he is at a point where he will realize that he needs to change either he'll go crazy or find a way or help to get back on his feet just check if you see this sign.

Gambling addicts believe their only chance in life to make something of themselves and be somebody is through gambling.

What they really need is a 2nd career option. Another hope for earning a decent living, aside from gambling. Many parents encourage their children to acquire vocational skills and a college degree so that they have something to fall back on. In case, their dreams of being a musician or artist do not pan out.

Many gambling addicts have no 2nd option. They believe their only chance for becoming a millionaire is to win the lottery or win a lucky bet. Having no other options in life, makes it very difficult for them to gamble responsibly.

That is what I don’t understand too. Losing everything doesn’t mean you have to throw away your hope in the bus too. I’m pretty sure there were a lot of chances for this young man to turn things around but he simply just chose to gamble because he believed that there is no longer any hope for him and his family. Instead of abandoning his gambling activities, he still pursued it believing that it could help them someday. Wrong mentality and obviously, a huge mistake for him to just throw it all away because of a mistake that can be corrected if only he is willing to.

Very bad decision in my opinion, his mentality though, I somewhat pity this guy, like selling all what he inherited from his parents. Might be worst if he has a family of his own as it will be a big problem because he needs to bring food in the table. If only he will realized what he has doing is wrong, maybe he can change his life for the better. We don't want to hear from his selling everything to gamble until one day he doesn't have any assets and start to live in the streets and begging money for others just to survived.

this guy has a living wife and children, so his life is not destroyed yet, and what he should do is stop playing, he should forget about games and when I say that he should forget about games, I'm talking about all games, even this games of phone, computer games, ( I know it's hard to resist not playing call of duty ) but you have to be strong and forget games. the ideal would be for him to be without a phone and computer and anything that has internet access for many months, and move to the countryside, where there is no technology and physical casinos and games. this will make him stop playing

and start to live more interacting with people in the real world, he will start to have things in the real world and he will be able to dedicate himself to his wife and child, while he has a wife and child, his life is still much more important, this son of his needs it, and will continue to need it for many years to come, I hope people value real-world interaction more than gambling

If he doesn't think he has lost a lot, there is no reason why he would stop gambling. I mean if his situation were caused by gambling losses and it brought him great shame, he would stop, but otherwise, why stop?  The gambling sites or centres don't care if  his wife or family left him or not.  Their ads would continue to air and new users would join.
 It is left for those who see and understand his situation to talk to him and be the encouragement he needs to stop by either helping him secure a job or putting him in an earning job or better still opening his eyes to the importance of moderation and family around.

If he didn't listen to his family do you think that person will listen to his friend? No for sure he continue what abusive thing he do and ignore the advices given to him coming from other people. For now he don't do crime yet since maybe he still have enough money to use but once he can't control his self and all his money are gone maybe he can think about doing it. To bad his family left him since they can do something like seek for help on health experts and put him on rehab since for sure he will be cured there.

One of the most common scenario no where a gambler could ended up on which they might really be chasing up their losses and trying out to recover it back.This is where desperation would set in
and we know that it isnt something that good for you to aim because it would really be making you desperate.Just like the rest been saying above that a gambler would really be stopping on betting
is on the time that he wont really be having no money on his pocket for him to do so. This is why you should really make yourself that fully aware that you shouldn't really
make yourself reached out that point.Regret do always come at the end.