Topic: Gambling by financial dependents. - page 12. (Read 4204 times)

Yeah, he might not even try to look for work because there's someone giving out money for free. This is not how a dependent child should be disciplined especially in this era where kids tend to find new ways to spend their money unlike before when we only spend it for toys. That's all we ever think about or snacks. The problem today is, that streamers in social media are doing advertisements of gambling platforms at the end of their videos which makes kids have an idea about it and be tempted to try it out.

But there's another problem that will float if their allowance is cut. Being rebellious. I've talked to parents, this is what they are trying to avoid. In the end, their kids become spoiled brats because they are just giving away everything they want. I am not saying I am a perfect parent but that is just wrong. We can give them what they need but not what they want. There's a big difference in that but parents today are ignoring it because they want to silence their kids all of the time by giving out whatever they wish so that they won't hear them cry. Discipline today is whatever is the easiest way around especially for parents who are working their ass out and had no more time for arguments.

you don't need to support ugliest because it is obvious that a child who supposed to gamble should be adult that is up to 18 years above if you are not up to 18 years I don't think that you are supposed to gamble so therefore the mother come accuse the young guy at for anything because if there is a missing money in the house it is obvious that the mother don't need evidence to accuse the sun that is the one that is stealing the funds or the money at home so if they don't use strong hand there will be more displacement of money in their house and probably they will not know who always use their money if they continue to doubt.

In this kind of case you don't need to cover up a child who is coming up and the involved himself into gambling so the child can do anything to get money for gambling that is why it's not advisable when you are financial handicap you don't need to engage yourself in gambling that much

He has to stop gambling or else it will soon hinder his goal as a student. He cannot do the same thing because we all know that gambling is an emotional based game and will surely affect his school performances. One reason for him to stop gambling is the fact that he wasted the money his parents gave him as allowance and this might lead him to steal money when urge to gamble will occupy his young and weak mind.

If he says that he is gambling with his own savings then may be he is true but I think that if a person from an early age start gambling then he never think about that what is good or what is bad for him therefore he does not consider stealing as a bad habit.

The young boy should stop gambling because advice of mother should be accepted in every situation but if a person is completely entered into gambling then mother's advise also has no effects on his decision. Gambling is a bad activity that is initiated with little sum and continues by ending of all money and selling of all materials whether they are necessary or not because they just want to continue gambling.

Maybe all of this can be tolerated and understandable, but there must be a better solution, such as providing advice or guidance so that in the future the nephew does not do or repeat the same thing.
After all, he is still school student and he still has lot of knowledge and learning to complete in order to have the ability to develop his potential to have decent life.
Honestly, this is very worrying because he is school student who cannot yet have personal income and still relies on money from his parents, which means that the money that he should use to meet his needs for school or other purposes is instead used for gambling.
Problems like this really must be resolved immediately, especially the role of parents is very important, they must put pressure on the teenager so that he can immediately stop gambling activities.
If there is still concern then all family members must be willing to play role in efforts to guide and also direct them to much better path, avoiding several activities that endanger their growth and development.

I agree. Despite being matured enough to be considered an adult, I wouldn’t advise someone who’s very much still dependent on someone else for survival to pick up a gambling habit.
As a dependent, he has no money of his own and has to make do with what is being given to him. Picking up an activity like gambling could tell on his finances.

There’s a possibility he may resort to stealing after burning through the little funds available to him. Dependents are literally still relying upon others to survive and as long as he is being given money, his actions with that money would always be scrutinized. There probably won’t be much ruckus from anyone if he works and earns his own money.

You have a good point and it would not be inappropriate to say that you are right at the same time. They have not been making money by themselves despite being in the legal age to gamble, therefore they do not have the right to be wasting money at the same time. If you know, it will be fine, and you will be careful about the money you give to them, or else they will continue to waste your money. You know, gambling is risky and addictive, they will do it all the same despite not earning themselves, but it will be at your back. It is good that way, and the moment you know they are gambling, it is better to limit the money you give to them and also make them accountable for the little money left strictly. If not, they will still find the means to be gambling.

Also, you continue to advise them rightly, it is not only about depriving them of the needed money so that they will be more prudent, the advice that will speak to their psychology will go a long way too. With time, if you realise that they are now doing the right thing and not gambling again, you can change your stance on this, but they must prove themselves before you can be convinced about the change. Come to think of it, it is your money they are wasting, and you might be seriously sweating for the money, so it could hurt so much seeing another person wasting your money for you. You will be wise to nip it by the bud immediately but still be wise in the approach as well so that it will not be so severe on them to avoid higher consequences than what you were trying to prevent.

Yes, I also think that @OP needs to provide alternatives by getting him to do things so he can forget about gambling for a while. By doing many things frequently, his nephew can forget the pleasure he gets from gambling so he won't want to go anywhere near gambling again because he already has experience, especially if he has experienced loss. His nephew may lie, especially since he is still a child who often sees adults doing it too. They will think about covering up what they did even though we cannot immediately believe it as adults, especially when they have lied before. But that is everyone's choice and we can only direct them to the path they should take. But he is his nephew who should be able to guide him on the right path, especially since he is a growing teenager.

That's what I've been saying, instead of toleration, OP should've considered telling his nephew an alternative instead of just telling the dangers and the negatives of gambling, there's a lot of stuff that you could probably tell that person that doesn't involve gambling or tolerate it. I don't trust people by standard so I came with that conclusion that the kid's probably lying but that's all there is to it. At the end of the day, it's that kid's life, if he chooses to go down that path of having a gambling problem then let him go down that path I guess.

The nephew is honest when he says he is gambling with his funds and not stealing from his family. Family members should talk to each other about gaming and help each other find good things to do. You can deal with the problem in a more fair and well-informed way if you keep an eye on academic progress and get professional help if you need to.

In as much as your nephew has reached the legal age to gamble as stipulated by many jurisdictions, the fact that he is still a dependent, he shouldn't gamble. He is currently building an addiction and there is a stage he will get to he can do anything to satisfy that urge to gamble.

Even if he doesn't resort to stealing, he might use funds meant for payment of bills to gamble, and in the end, his mom will face the consequences of such behaviour.

Gambling by a dependent should be seriously frowned upon because it will amount to throwing away the money laboured by another person. My advice is that his mom should reduce the money he gives to him because that can also reduce the money he uses from gambling.

We will never know what his nephew did after getting orders from him. Yes, most children and teenagers like his nephew would probably ignore what he was told and not carry it out, but hopefully, he was a good teenager who would listen to his advice. While he is still a teenager, there is no harm in teaching him about investing because that is one way to gain profits in the future. Bitcoin is the best investment his nephew can use to prepare for his future. Hopefully, his nephew will listen to his advice to invest or do other more useful things.

Every child is the responsibility of the parents if they are not married or do not have their own family and of course every parent will direct their children in better direction and also provide education for development in building more stable future.
We know that gambling has significant impact on child development in building their future and of course every parent don't will allow their children to be addicted to gambling, although there are some parents who don't care.
After all, this is not all about age but about mindset, someone who is an adult can of course know the good and bad of every step they take, but they don't necessarily have sense of responsibility for every step they take.
The age that has just reached adulthood is very unstable age, they are easily influenced and cannot really control themselves, so they still need proper direction from their parents.
The biggest mistake is letting child go alone without proper guidance and direction because even though they have reached adulthood, they are still unstable and easy to make mistakes.

Are you really sure that your nephew is doing what he's telling you and that he's not going to be a problem with that gambling habit of his? The reason for that question is that children and teenagers like your nephew is likely to lie about stuff and tell what you want to hear from them so either they got to do something about this habit because it looks innocent and harmless at first but it's going to be a problem right before your eyes and it's going to catch everyone off-guard, that's how it works. Tell your nephew too that there are other better ways that he can spend his money that's not even his money in the first place, teach him to invest or get a healthier hobby.

Well, in my opinion, if the person is of legal age, then I think it's up to the person what he will do in life. I understand the concern of the parents and family because it will surely affect her son in a bad way; it might pick up or develop a bad attitude and do wrong things. But what can we do? The person is already of legal age. The parents might be a guide or something, but the child's decision is up to him. I don't know, maybe I advised him to let him see the world and experience the bad effects of gambling if not done with discipline, but of course the parents will not let the child completely; it's more like a part of the process so that the person will wake up to what he is doing so that he can learn it himself. He is already of legal age, so his action is also his responsibility.

For me, he is 18 which is the starting age for an adult which is too early for gambling because at this age he can not withstand or make some decision that he can maintain, but reading through what you said, I still believe that this young man is disciplined with how he explained things to you when you confronted him, he has to know that gambling is addictive and when you are into it, you must learn how to erase the idea of going for more, and this gambling should not be taken as a source of income or a dependent source of survival so that addiction will not come in, he should give his studies more attention than the gambling because gambling is not a career but just an uncertain means of doubling money, this is my take.

Kids these days believe they know it all, but even if they have more access to information than any generation from the past, they still make the same mistakes, and it could even be said they commit those mistakes at a higher rate, since they believe themselves to be infallible, they do not take as many precautions as their predecessors and end up gambling with money that is not even theirs and wasting it away despite the complains of their parents.

You can also start to cut him from joining bad companies and make him learn the value of earning your own money rather than just stealing it and spending it wastefully in order to make himself look cool. At that age, they really need to consider making an effort to educate him and provide some good advice for him because this is the time when he i exposed to the real world and all of its glittering deceitful, and sugarcoated moments seem to be fun while in reality we know where it would lead them to. No kids should be acting like this towards their mother if only they were not loosely given the chance to have any kind of friends they want in their lives.

Yup, And even if they say that a person is 18 years old, in other countries that is legal age but if in our country where 18 years old's  still need the guidance of parents and other adults. Sometimes, when we are too relaxed with them, they abuse the kindness of their parents, so it is better to cut off the bad work and attitude as early as they know. It is a good idea to teach them how to make money in a good way, Just find a job so they know that money should not be used for trivial things, especially vices, But perhaps when they learn to commit their own money they will be more motivated to gamble because they have an excuses for their parents when they are told about their gambling.

Once he's hook to gambling it would be difficult to change, so as early as possible they should cut everything like allowance, should be monitored, also ask their son to find a job if he's still studying the good thing about that is he will learn that earning money is not as easy as it look, and might realize that gambling is bad thing to do, or let him gambling but never give them money let him earn what he spend.