Topic: Gambling by financial dependents. - page 21. (Read 4204 times)

I've heard stories of teenagers winning millions of naira in sport betting and I've also seen first hand what gambling can do to someone if not kept in check. Your nephew is clearly within the age bracket but the fact that he's not doing anything to make ends me worries me. He can't be depending on charity from the mom or family members to gamble, in a situation when the money is not forth coming, what do you think will happen? Teenagers do a lot of crazy things at this age and if they are not guided they might go astray. You guys need to sit him down and make him see reasons why he needs to quit gambling until he can stand on his own, also he should be enlightened about the dark side of gambling.

An addicted person needs a strong desire to be able to stop gambling. That child also needs a strong will to recover from gambling even though he is not a gambling addict and can still be a responsible gambler. But no one knows how long he will be able to become a responsible gambler because once he starts to lose control, and everything can go out of control at any time, he will start gambling excessively and that's when the gambling addiction will appear more often. They need help from other people to cure their gambling addiction, even people who can gamble responsibly because with other people they can do other things that can distract them from gambling.

And a person who loses his gambling responsibilities can devour his family's wealth without anything left. When that happens, nothing can help him other than just regretting it. Therefore, before it was too late, it was time for someone to talk him out of gambling and since he was a responsible gambler, it shouldn't be difficult to break the circle of not gambling.

this is so true I guess, some people out there just couldn't have self control, thats the reason why they are becoming addicts in the first place, had they have self control they'd rethink their decision twice.
but honestly some people are just so hard to get ouf of their addiction towards gambling doesn't matter how much you help them they'd still relapse and come back with irresponsible gambling which might spent their entire family fortune, I guess it comes to every individual themselves when it comes to this.

But will luck be on his side? Because gambling addicts can only play and keep playing. They don't care about anything. Continuous defeats actually make addicts addicted to placing bigger bets until their money runs out. When they win a game, they will do it again with bigger stakes, hoping to hit the jackpot. it will not stop and they will only get worse. the victory that should have been able to give him an advantage, was instead returned to gambling and finally lost and got nothing.

The gambling addict need of some fortune to get some win and get away from the gambling.After the win only he can get some stable mind,the win may change the gambling addict to the normal person.Most of the gamblers become a gambling addict after some continuous loss or continuous win.When they had good fortune,the gambler will win all the game.So the winning money will be huge.Some gamblers get more greedy to earn more dollars or to multiple their winnings and may plan to withdrew the funds.But some times,it may work and he withdrew the more dollars.

Well that's right, gambling moves under their subconscious and emotions get the best of them so it's almost impossible for them to minimize any unwanted possibilities such as possibly experiencing a lot of losses. But in terms of recovery I agree with you that they need the help of others to get out of the addiction zone, they need a lot of advice from others that will allow to help change for them. But it must also be accompanied by their intention and seriousness towards this problem, if indeed they are serious then most likely this will work.

In fact, this activity (gambling) will be very dangerous for those who are still underage, maybe you know they are still unstable in any case and you also know that their curiosity level is very high towards anything that comes especially new things like gambling. And I would say that gambling is very risky for those who are underage because it is unlikely that they have self-control or other limits, and I don't believe that they do. Some of the things that are out of bounds might be done when they have no other options to earn money. In this case the role of parents is needed, limit all access that can make them gamble again and keep them away from bad environments.

Gambling addicts need some help and unfortunately, they cannot help themselves to get out of the cycle without the help of others. It will take time because an addict will always seek what he is accustomed of but he or she needs to endure so that sooner, he can pull himself or herself together and start living normally.

For the boy who just turned 18 years old, he might've been a responsible gambler but he is still in a risky position because at that age, he will still have some hardships weighing the situation which in turn make a bad decision in life. It's still to soon for him to take this path and it's best for him to find another hobby because he is still studying.

Imagine him on a basketball court instead of a poker table. While playing hoop, someone says, "Hey! You shouldnt play basketball since you're not in the NBA!" Right, ridiculous?

But you're right about financial independence. I know he's living off his parents' money, but financial discipline is important. Lets not assume stealing. Like accusing every basketball player of doping because they're talented.

Studies are vital, no doubt. But everyone needs a break to decompress. Why not let him play if he's skilled and disciplined? When financially independent, he'll decide. Lets not judge and assume him until then, okay?

It depends on the condition of our family because by talking to our family as the people closest to us, maybe they understand us better than people outside our family circle, so they can know what to do immediately. This is more about trusting the people closest to us who live and live with us every day so that they can find a solution for us so that we can deal with it immediately. But if fellow family members don't care about each other, it will be useless if we talk to them because they will just say, you should go to a psychiatrist and let him help you solve your problem. It's not a good solution because the person can get desperate and can't realize that he needs the presence of the people closest to him to help him.

It will depend on one's habits because it also looks at what one does on a daily basis. But those habits can change, especially if they want to change their bad habits into good habits that can also change their bad lifestyle to be healthier, more orderly, and can make them more comfortable than before. Everything can be learned because the most important thing is how someone wants to learn something new, and has the will and intention to change it for the better. Perhaps learning what we need takes time, but if it's worth it, we should give it a try because, who knows, it might do us good.

Although he is just playing to enjoy the game, has discipline and already 18 years old (able to gamble legally), it can't deny the fact that he is still a student who's depending on his parent. He's not earning his own money yet, and that is one of the basic rule before starting to gamble. If you don't earn your own money yet then refrain from playing.

Thus I understand his mother if she is worried and suspecting her son stealing their money because she is already aware of her son's gambling habit. He can say he is not stealing and he's a responsible gambler but, who knows right? We really can't tell. So much better for this young man to quit playing and focus first on his studies. In time, if he is already capable to stand on his own, earning money from his hardwork then he can decide what he wants to do in his life.

We make decisions every single day, we either turned out to be victims of these decision or become gainers. Gambling is not intended for people who do not have an employment position or an uninterrupted source of finances; yet, because gambling is impulsive and dangerous, it can be used to supplement one's income. Gambling is life-threatening for teenagers who get involved in, and having spent budgeted money to place bets is completely unacceptable. A terrible firm will also have a detrimental impact on the psyche, raising the level of vulnerability to gambling.

Op stated he's 18 year old, on most sites required age to gamble is 18.

Gambling is not bad at all but it does not make sense when a teenager start to gamble when he has not gotten to the stage of age that require them to gambler. We should never look at it with a mere decision. Anything can happen and the teenager might become influenced by friends and the worse might happen. I can't even advise people to go into gambling unless they have a good decision why they want to gambler because when it become excess, it won't be easily controlled at all which can always lead to gambling addiction.

Sometimes leaving things like these in the hands of the family is not good, there are always some who can find out or imagine it but they don't say anything so as not to get into trouble, sometimes some people are delicate with their lives, and it's normal and one like A person cannot be interfering in the lives of others, it is not good because that brings problems and a series of things that are not good, so this type of thing when it comes to games is delicate, casinos and games Like sports betting, some people have it as a taboo or as something that those who believe that they do it are addicted or that they no longer have a way out that they do it because they have to and they have it as a vice, so this type of thing sometimes has to be done. eu avoid it even in the same families that is where they can do things the most to get themselves into trouble, there are some people or players who have the casino as something additional in their lives to have fun and not as something bad that will harm their lives, because The more control they have over the things they do, they move away from being an addict.

When talking about habit, things can be very counterproductive, because a person who doesn't like the game and another talks about the game, it will cause that person to cause some contempt, rejection, or something like that, I say this because There are many people who are of that style and it is not the idea, the habit of playing and if they already have it as a habit, it is not always bad and one knows how to play, knowing how to play, I mean how to bet, how to control oneself and knowing that any movement can lead to a total problem because without money it is something that cannot be carried out with anything, then creating the habit is only less, because we are people who by repetition at least 21 times we already seized it as a habit and as a learning that is not forgotten, that is what we as humans, as people do so that it can stay in our minds and apply it all the time.

Not necessarily because the relationship between the members is close, they will know if there is something different with the other family members and will ask them directly. And it doesn't take long for those family members to know there's a problem or that all is well.

If someone has a lot of money but has an expensive lifestyle, it will depend on how much money they have but the money will surely run out if it is not managed properly. Especially if they use their money to gamble and don't limit it properly.

And back to the topic. It seems that it is necessary to discuss this gambling problem with his nephew so that he understands that having a gambling habit is not good and will even have a bad effect on that person. Hopefully, his nephew can understand the conversation and won't come close to gambling again, even though he's an adult. But it also depends on how he wants to avoid gambling.

Gambling is not a good thing, although it has it's perks here in this forum. From the looks of it, he looks like a responsible boy but he must take care that it doesn't become a habit, if bad habits take a root they are hard to get rid of, better just don't have them in first place.


Some people are great liers, I wouldn't put much trust on response unless I know the person very well.

What I want you to understand in gambling is that children don't have to engage in gambling and children engaging in gambling it will leads to many negative information concerning gambling, what I want you to understand concerning gambling is that gambling will make you to steal when you are participating in gambling without having your own money and when you lacks money to play gambling it will lead the child to steal and again in advanced countries they have a specific year someone will grow before participating in gambling,  like eighteen year should be the average someone can reach before participating in gambling, but that is really necessary what is necessary is having job and earning your own money, when you have your source you can gamble without stealing

So the bottom line is that,  being able to meet your family's needs is the primary foundation that guarantees a peaceful and interfered life, You are no far from the truth because the only way your gambling life could become a problem is when you are using the money that is meant to run your family to gamble away,  this will result into a grave problem in the family,  but as long as you do everything under moderation and never get caught up in the cycle of those who can't control their gambling life you won't have any issue.

But on a general note,  I think it is too much risk to take by choosing gambling as a means of earning income because gambling should only be meant for fun and nothing more than that.

Ok but even then if a gambler is very good at hiding it, it's difficult for a family to find out about it. Drugs and alcohol is so much easier because when you are wasted, you are wasted. No questions need be asked whether you have a problem when you are wasted five times a week.

But gambling is a different issue. Unless someone crosses the line and starts stealing money or borrowing money in excess of what has ever been usual in the past, it is still complicated to find out about it unless the person himself approaches their family and tells the truth. To get back on topic here, financial dependence can also mean several thing. Even if someone earns tons of money but has a costly lifestyle based on long-term obligations, financial dependence is still a thing. If there are existential dependencies and money is at risk that would have to be used otherwise, the problem can quickly overwhelm even someone who seems to be financially independent to outsiders.

That's not what it means. Family members can keep an eye on each other's family members by paying attention to their day-to-day behavior so that if something is different, they will know and can approach it more closely to discuss it. If a family they are used to being open to each other, they can tell what is going on, and other family members will know that pressure is on them so that other family members can immediately provide assistance.

We can't offer anything more meaningful if we don't know what happened to family members. For this reason, we can chat with each other or pay attention to their behavior to know if something is wrong with them. If a person wasn't used to being in his room for long periods, a mother or sister would be suspicious and might ask him what was wrong. So watching his behavior like that will vary from one family to another.

Our wife, mother or sister will be against what we do in gambling. And if they find out we are already involved in gambling, they will probably use all kinds of ways to get us out of gambling and maybe quit gambling for good. They will do everything to ensure we won't gamble again, and the ways they do won't be the same as what other people do, and often we will see ways that are out of the ordinary.

They will be too easy to be suspicious of our new habits and will make sure that everything is still okay. Perhaps we will be interrogated for a long time by them to make sure that we are still the same person who has not done anything wrong.