Topic: Gambling by financial dependents. - page 25. (Read 4202 times)

There are lots of young people who are also students who are fond of gambling and of course most of them only rely on money given by their parents to be used for gambling while their parents give the money to meet their needs as students or school pocket money.
It's a shame that those who should be the next generation actually like or worse become gambling addicts, indeed there are some children who can make their own money such as starting a business because where I live there are quite a lot of young people who are still in school starting to learn to do business to make money but if they are already familiar with gambling then I can ensure that it will be difficult for them to develop, especially to develop a business that is being pioneered.
There is no way that can be done to stop these youths and the ease of accessing gambling sites actually makes them feel as if they are being facilitated by existing technological developments.

Honestly, I am very concerned about incidents like this but there is not much we can do to stop them and only self-awareness can stop or control these gambling activities.
Maybe if there is socialization and also educational services for youth it can put more pressure on the increasing number of gamblers classified as teenagers or students who are currently mushrooming in every country.

That's the problem because according to OP the money that had been used by the kid is not from his own pocket or his job. He is still a dependent kid who uses the money of his parents for his own gambling activity? So, why not stop him? It would be better to be clear to him that he should be using his own money from his own blood and sweat work. That way he would feel that whenever he will lose he will regret the idea of doing it. But, as for now, he won't have those kinds of emotions because he knows he can get more money afterward.
He should learn his lessons on how the financial world works because if this keeps on it would be a bigger mess. The chances of him stealing are high because he lacks knowledge of the importance of money.

I highly agree, those financial dependent found gambling should be condemned and be thought of avoiding gambling activity.  If I am the parent, I will ground them cutting their allowances.  Since they have the audacity to gamble the money I work hard for, it only means that they are not lacking and maybe I have given them too much making them spend the extra on gambling.

After the duration of grounding and allowance cutting, I will talk to them seriously and tell them the reason of the punishment and make them see the importance of giving value to the money that is given to them.

If his mother is really that serious on making his son quit gambling then better cut-off that source of funds or money that he has,
but of course it would be having those possible implications if she would tend to do so, this is why its really hard to make out decisions in here part.

1. Totally able to get rid of gambling activity due to lack or no money to play with
2. Would be doing illegal things and possibly be stealing into other people because they are really that
planning to play even more.

Just like been said that this what makes decisions even more harder and should really be taking up the consideration because it could really be only having that two possible outcome.
So i do agree on some points that it would really be just that better if you do have that serious talks in between your child and made him realize that everything should
really be in control and really be careful on dealing with gambling.

My opinion is that he must stop, while he is above the minimum age to gamble, the money he is using for that is the money he is receiving from his mother, money that was obviously not for gambling and had other intentions behind it, now if he was working a part-time job and he was using the money that he has earned on his own my posture will be the opposite, as that would be money that he earned by himself and no one should have the right to tell him how to spend his money as long as it is legal for him to gamble.

It's absolutely unwise for a financial dependent to gamble and should be condemned by anyoone who's around such person. Over the years, I've seen very young people who are still surviving with the financial assistance of their parents or guardians use money that was meant for something very serious like school fees, money meant hospital bills and sometimes money that was given to them to go and buy food items using such money to gamble.
They end up losing the financial trust of their parents and guardians because of their very silly decisions to gamble with those money.

My advice would be you shouldn't force him to stop gambling or you'll regret how it'll turn out, he is eligible to gamble since he is 18years and that's the years many countries consider their citizens to be adult so your nephew is an adult and he should be allowed to gamble.

Since he's still a student, you guys should monitor him and try to stop him if he's over gambling or getting addicted. He shouldn't take gambling as a full time job as that doesn't always end well. You can monitor where he's getting the money from so he doesn't start stealing.

His gambling career is still early so he'll be enjoying it, you have to advice him so he doesn't get carried away by the profits and he should saved so he doesn't always depends on gambling profits to have money. Your nephew is becoming a man so he need his own income.

This is a tough task to educate this individual on the currently stage of his life, since he is already a young man and not a child anymore, as it means his personality and character are consolidated and hardly ever it will change, but the family have to try anyway. However, I think that worst than stealing is to steal and lie that he hasn't stolen anything. If that is really the case, I fear this young man is really compromised. It would be better if he had stolen, but confessing he did it and apologizing for the wrongdoing to his mother right after.

When people don't take responsability for their acts and try manipulating others through lies, they are put aside by society, so it's definitely a very bad decision to make.

I agree we should made it clear that he it is disrespectful to spend the money his parents gave to him to gambling.  We should let him know that it is irresponsible to waste the money his parents work so hard so that he can meet his needs.  As a dependent, he must use the money or allowance he received on the essential needs and save the rest for worse scenario.


It is not being responsible to gamble while a person is depending on his parents.  Responsible spending means not wasting any amount given by our parents through gambling.  We can only have the right to gamble the money if the money is hardly earned by ourselves.

There are people that can do anything in order to gamble and we should not be surprised when we see people gambling and using there hard earned money to pay bet just because they want to win. I have seen someone that used the money that his father asked him to pay for hospital bill of his uncle and to everyone surprise, he uses the fund to play bet thinking that he is going to make profits that he will use to take care of himself but the contrary was the case. This happens when to us or people around us when the gambling spirit has eaten them to the core making them to misbehave.

First of all they should clear out the misunderstanding about the money. I don't understand why a mother blames her son without proof, just because she feels like he's stealing her money and the son complains to OP that he's never  stolen anything and only uses his own money to gamble. Why do they use OP as a third party mediator or something?

Get them to sit down and talk. If they can't talk, help them, since they both trust you. Make sure this case is close and they stop blaming each other. If there's no proof the mother should start looking for another suspect, and/or hide her money better so that nobody can steal it. Are there more people in the house? Maybe someone else took the money? They shouldn't live in such a toxic relationship.

If he's really gambling using his pocket money and the mother wants no part in it, she should stop giving it to him.

This depends on the person to be fair, we can't just brush them with the same stroke all together. There will be some gamblers who will steal from their parents or go down a bad path and I understand the fear and that makes sense. But also there will be some who will be smart enough to just put in a little work and only make small returns as well. This is why I need to make sure that we need to receive a situation based on the person and not the situation.

If you look at the situation and say "oh they are getting money from their parents, so they should not gamble" that doesn't make sense, I mean sure, if you are young don't gamble, in fact nobody should gamble if we look at it financially being responsible point of view, what we are doing here is not financially responsible at all, but we still do it.

For a young man like OP's nephew, he will learn eventually after losing money and circumstances change where there are more things to spend on than playing slot. Young men always commit mistakes they learn eventually how easy it is to spend someone else hard-earned pay while hard to spend the money you worked so much.
 
Not being able to learn all these will really make the guy dependent all his life. It's pathetic to see a grown man asking Mommy for money so he could play slot.

But one is not supposed to over react either. Sure, it is good for anyone who is young and inexperienced to be aware of the risks of gambling in the long term, but not all the gamblers are destined to become addicted to their hobby.

There are people out there who are gamblers and one would not even notice, because they are able to control their feelings and their money.
It is a matter of paying attention to him to see whether he starts to behave in a different way and he loses the control over his finances. As long as he keeps a healthy budget and can stick to it, then gambling would not be harmful to him or anyone around him.

He is not worried but has a problem. Perhaps, she would be worried more because her son is gambling, not just a simple gaming activity. She would stop her son as early as possible before he totally fall into a gambling addiction. She would have not let the worse thing happen because it was hard to stop it once addicted and yes, stealing could be possible.

We should have to educate young minds about gambling and must tell them the real thing - they must know the negative impact on their life in order for them to discourage.

thats good solution since the problem here is the fact that he is not getting the money himself through working but instead its his mother that working hard so his mother simply reserves all the rights on what to do and what to allocates her money for.
I think it could also give a way to teach him a lesson like you said and even motivates him to earn some money through real hard work so that he can use it all he wants.
the problem here is that if he is spending more and more money his family economy would eventually collapse and this will lead to poverty.

 What I can say is that as long as the son is eighteen (18) years old he has the right to do what he thinks is right after all gambling is not a bad thing, if the mother thinks her son is stealing from her she should just asked her son and if the boy said no she should let go because from day one she gave birth to the boy she should have known what her son can do and what he can not do, although some parents as long as they finds out that any of their children is a gambler or takes hard drugs if anything go missing they will start accusing the child because they thinks the child is no longer on he's or her right senses, some good parents knows what their children can do they can even take an oath for their children when it comes for stealing accusations.
It will be a good endeavor if people at the age of twenty (20) downward try the best to keep their gambling or hard drugs behaviors away from their parents so that their parents can still trust them.

No suggestions, since online gambling sites are easy to access, including minors who are still in school, it's hard to handle it, because things like this are common nowadays, In almost every country where children under the age of 18 are involved in gambling, it's just that parents really think about what to do for their child's future.

There is no way to advise children, except: parents must make a decision to send their children to school, schools that have dormitories, with rules that children may not carry an android cellphone while in the hostel etc., he is really taught to learn.

This method was once used by my neighbor and the results were extraordinary, now the child is no longer gambling, so it's good that this is what must be done in such a problem, if the child still lives with his parents, do not expect him to stop gambling, even if the money used is his own, there is a need to worry if it is not resolved immediately, it is very possible that an act of theft, robbery, etc., is already in front of the child's eyes, just waiting for the time and opportunity to do it.

When it comes to gambling, people won't easily accept the reality when briefed by a person next to them. Only on experience they'll understand the reality. The mother can restrict him, but these days kids are not in a state to understand rather they try to explore. The habit of using the savings for gambling will make him further go earn to gamble as years pass. Such scenario shouldn't happen, before that necessary measures need to be taken by his family.

Tempting will not always work, it will work if there are only two people live in the house. If there's another person who's live in there, there's a chance if his father is actually steal her money or the sister steal the her money etc. The woman think it's her son did it and she already blame her son, usually parent has a high ego, they will not want to admit they were wrong.