Topic: Gambling is a fatal mistake - page 8. (Read 1504 times)

The Major problem is that gambling might mean different thing to different people, what happened to your elder brother is a mistake alot of people do as per not having settling out a specific amount of money to be used for gambling every months as a salary earner of which whether he wins or not he is supposed to stayed within such allocated amount of money for gambling, chasing losses is another reason why people gamble above their budgets and completely ran out of lost, I don't give a fuck about what the society or family feel about gambling because gambling is not as bad people rather it is as results of bad approach others are having towards it, I stay within my limit so I couldn't get into any form of emotional trauma.

The title seems like blaming "gambling" while in fact the story says about irrespoinsibility (I prefer to say stupidity tbh) of someone when using money in gambling.
I'm not sure if it is happened regularly or it is happened for the first time, if it is the first time then there is still a better time to advice him but if it is happened multiple times already, it means that he is hardly addicted to gambling and it will be hard to advice him.
You as his younger must be knowing him much better on what to do, it is not the right time to find the reason of what he was doing but you should use the time to have a deep talk with him to advice him so he wont repeat the mistake.

        -     I think he really has an addiction to gambling, because he was able to gamble away his entire salary with a gambling mate, not even living a little for his family, even though he knows that he is the head of the family and that his wife and children expect his son.

And that kind of behavior is no longer normal because he was the one who got angry with his wife when he found out that his wages were spent on gambling. Any wife would be angry when her husband did something like that. It would have been fine if your elder brother apologized, just in case that's not what happened, but he was still angry with his wife.

I would call it not the power of greediness, but wrong priorities in life. The guy has 4 kids to feed, educate, dress. What would they learn from their father? If there is a problem - run from it. If fathers intention was to use gambling to get more money, then he has chosen a wrong method. What makes this situation worse - the guy left his family and left many people worried. Totally irresponsible. That is what not an adult should do.

It could have been worse. It is normal for those who gamble but cannot control themselves to be in dire straits. One should never gamble with the money that could cause family problems if lost but that is what the person did. He lost full salary If he had spent even 10 percent, he would not have accepted that bad situation. I don't know if he has gambled like this before but it is not hard to guess that he is addicted to gambling. He must have thought that he has a family and if he loses, his family will be in financial trouble. Such incidents often happen if a gambler does not realize these things on his own self and correct himself then his gambling life will never be enjoyable.

That's the power of greediness in gamble. After losing upto half of his salary there was still an option to walk out of there quietly but he chose to stay back to win all that has been lost, what's the essence of visiting the gambling hall in the first place after receiving his salary, that explains how addicted he is. I don't blame gamble for anything, I only blame the gamblers who have given themselves up to addiction and irresponsible gambling. If only they could think critically before making some important decision, I don't think anyone would be addicted. Depression from losing all your money to gamble has made lots of persons do things they ought not to do, like committing suicide and even involve themselves into some criminal activities in other to regain back what has been lost.

Blaming is supposed not to happen for whatever we do because we choose to gamble and we choose to become irresponsible gamblers. What to OP's brother is not really the thing we expect upon gambling but because of addiction, it all changes and badly affects his thinking. Sadly, he is not the one who suffers the consequences of his addiction but the entire family. We can't say this is not the normal and usual thing to see but it is shown already how devastating it is when a person can't manage their gambling addiction that a peaceful family and a loving father would turn into an irresponsible husband and family leader.

It is too late to realize the wrong thing he did and I hope this will serve as a lesson for everyone who plans to try gambling. We gamble just for fun and entertainment, not for addiction.

This is a terrible situation. Your brother clearly has the initial signs of gambling addiction.
Obviously, his actions come from good intentions, I think he just wanted to withdraw the amount of money he received from his salary, and thus surprise his wife, but it turned out according to a bad scenario. All he can accept now is that you can't try to win back. It is very important to understand this. Such a loss causes a lot of anger towards the casino and a sense of injustice.
But he need to end this and not go to the casino anymore.

It was his own fault because he should not have used his entire salary to gamble and only used a small portion to gamble, meaning that the person was already addicted to gambling and he was determined to gamble without thinking that it was very risky for him because that was the only result. their hard work lasts for a month and ends in less than a day, people who are addicted to gambling cannot think clearly when they have the ambition to win and what is on their minds is playing and playing so they can get big profits and without realizing it their money is gone and he went home empty-handed.

This is just the initial stage, maybe in the future he will start borrowing money to gamble and that will be the beginning of the destruction of his life which is caused by irresponsible gambling. Indeed, gambling is a very dangerous activity if you cannot control yourself, but it is not dangerous for someone who is able to control himself. so that you don't gamble too much and only use it as temporary fun without having to get involved in gambling that plunges you into a deep abyss.

I feel bad for what your family is going through. But wisely never blame gambling, blame the individual who is not responsible for his life. Because many people blame gambling when the gambler has a problem, even though he is the one who is wrong in his gambling activities and does not practice responsible gambling. And as a family member we should also be proactive about what is experienced by other family members, especially addicts like that. Ask what caused them to be like that and give them input that what they did was wrong, because the role of the family in this matter is very important and do not let your brother's family fall apart because of your brother's stupidity - just ask your parents and let them come up with a solution to it.

Gambling is actually seen by people as horrible and seriously harmful from the perspective of society and family. But I think the person you mentioned was probably very ignorant about gambling, otherwise he wouldn't have spent all his money on gambling and lost. As the man gambled all night and lost all his salary it was his grave mistake that he gambled with the whole money, maybe he gambled a small amount and if he lost he could have returned home later. But instead of coming back, he may have continued his gambling and lost money. He may have sunk so much into gambling that he lost his money and became a delinquent to the family. Anyway, I think gambling should be played with experience and if not responsible then gambling should not be done. Although in this case I would say that the person was at fault and wrong due to which his money came and here the person's less experience behind this loss.

A gambling addict never thinks about his family, if he had thought about his family he would never have gambled with full money and lost money. Gambling is a niche that drives people to danger. So everyone should avoid gambling addiction. Gambling addiction only creates various chaos in his family how will he manage his family if he wastes all money gambling or family members can't expect anything good from him. Today's youth are becoming addicted to gambling which is very harmful for our society. If the gambling addict invests the amount of gambling money he is spending on his family, he would surely be able to live a prosperous life. If a person is addicted to gambling, if he does not have money, he becomes so addicted that he constantly gambles until he goes into debt.

You should not be sad. That guys wife and kids must be sad right now. But we got another reminder, another free experience how serious we should be with gambling and money. The "fatal mistake" of this story is not addiction and money issues (nothing new), but the way that guy acted - running from problem. Probably now sitting somewhere and waiting for someone to feel sorry for him and swearing on casino and cruel world. While he is trouble maker on first place.

It's a bit of a sad story that you mentioned, OP. That's why it's always said that you should only gamble moderately. Let's not let addiction form in our person as gamblers. It should just be a game for fun or limit the amount of money we gamble.

Because without this method, for sure, the gambler will end up having an addiction. And we also know that addiction does nothing good but destroy the family or one's own family. Now in the story that Op told, we just don't know if the man left due to stress or depression, and no one knows where he was. I just hope it doesn't lead to suicide after what happened to the man.

This is a situation of how gambling addiction affects not just the person but family and friends. This man has put his wife and young children under tension and suffering. I think this man needs help because gambling off all his salary in a night shows that his level of gambling addiction is high. How would he not consider his children and wife when he was gambling uncontrollably. Maybe he was chasing losses or gambling with more than he could afford to lose.


Your elder brother needs help, so you should do everything you can to locate him and assist him to be free from gambling addiction. He needs to be counseled and, if possible, seek the help of a professional therapist. You also need to inform the wife that she is not the cause of the problem. The main problem is her husband's gambling addiction. Please ensure that his family has basic needs.

Am sorry about the sad story of your elder brother, but that doesn't mean "gambling is a fatal mistake" as you claim it to be. I guess it is the fault of your elder brother, you shouldn't blame it on gamble. Just like a person will kill with a gun and blame it on the gun where as the person intentionally killed using a gun, of which a gun can not kill a single soul if not used by a person. So also is gambling, if you dont gamble and lose or get addicted, I think there will be no blame on gamble. I hate it when people complain and shift the blame on Gambling forgetting the person that didn't apply wisdom why gambling.

Eventually divorce? Oh yeah that's what will happen if he can not be traced or reach out to his family for a reasonable time. At some point, I thought perhaps the money is not enough to meet up with the family responsibilities and he was just trying to be caring father for the family by attempting to gamble and probably make something out it but is that a valid reason to gamble the whole salary no matter how small it is? Absolutely No.

People do gamble without regarding the ethics of gambling which is gambling responsibly. When you have a limited amount of money you are supposed to stay away from gambling knowing how tempting it can be and you may be carried away or probably end up chasing your lose that will lead to more lose. It's sad to hear things like this especially when it affects minors. I won't give a damn of concern if it involves only the man but the innocent children are suffering from irresponsible actions of the father. This is very unfortunate.

In this post, I am not in order to defend or seek justification for casino platform service providers or gambling games. Actually, what you are saying is a classic story that takes place in society wherever it is. referring to the thread title of this post, "Gambling is a fatal mistake", I often try to think and reflect on it. In fact, I try to see it from various points of view. but one thing that I cannot tolerate is that the biggest mistake lies with the perpetrator. I mean, the gambler himself. We often look for justifications to condemn what we do, as nothing more than pure scapegoats for the mistakes we make. In this case, a person gambles even he forgets his responsibilities. My question is, who is to blame for this incident. Moreover, referring to the point you said "how dangerous gambling is".

For me, in my personal experience, it is ourselves who are dangerous. I mean, one where we don't have an important understanding of gambling, responsibility and self-control. Again, in every discussion, I always involve these three points.  why should we, and why should we look for justification for how dangerous gambling is. The problem is, we ourselves are our own masters. For every action we take, we must consciously take responsibility for it. whatever it is, including gambling. Dangerous is when a person has no benchmark for his personal pleasure, where he has to separate family interests and personal needs for entertainment.
The problem is, in this story, the man we are discussing ignores that he has a family and he has full responsibility for providing for his family's basic needs. However, he ended up gambling and ended up getting his salary on the gambling table. I asked again, who is actually at fault in this story. for me, that guy. because he clearly prioritized his own interests and ignored his family who might be waiting to come home. is gambling dangerous, yes for those who do not have a good understanding of control. but what is more dangerous is, someone who does not realize that he has neglected the more important of this risky entertainment.

They create some new things to enjoy and give bonuses to people so they could attract them to gamble for more. Also there are contest which give huge rewards which make people feel competitive that's why maybe this is one of the reason why lots of gamblers urge to gamble more because of those offers given by casino to them. If we know that we can't gamble much due to financial difficulties then maybe its better to take all easy and gamble only in moderation since we know that its really hard to achieve something if we only have less funds to use. If we push things just to comply then there's a big chance that we will just lose our money on the process. So best to enjoy gambling without thinking for any unreal things since this will just give us false hope and stress.

At the end of the day casinos are a profit making business. They use well known psychology tricks to make gamblers think they are going to become rich if they gamble at their casino.

It is an addiction basically, dopamine in the brain gets released when you win, and the brain doesn't understand probabilities very well, so there is a disconnection between reality and what they think is really happening.

Gamblers continue to gamble all the time, until they run out of money. That's usually how it goes, because there's no other stop mechanism, just bankruptcy, lack of funds. That's the only way an addicted gambler stops.