Topic: Gambling is a fatal mistake - page 10. (Read 1490 times)

what I want to say is that gambling have advantages and also disadvantages and then when you are dated in gambling you will not be thinking any other things so I know very well that you really understand the method of gambling when you have loss many things on the process of participating in gambling many people does not have this statistics on how they will participate in gambling neither weekly or monthly in normal circumstances The Gambler is not supposed to use all it monthly salary for gambling because gambling is a game of risk and the anything can result out into gambling neither you mean or you lose so for you to participate in gambling and make profit you have to know your source of income and they have to avoid not to be addicted in gambling.

Gambling can be good or as bad as a gun or even a fast car... if it is "presented" to someone who knows how to use it, who uses it consciously, knowing the risks and maintaining control , you will certainly only be able to extract good things like fun, which relieves stress and promotes emotional well-being, and even some profits that could allow you to buy something much desired or a different weekend.

However, if it is "presented" to someone who is emotionally unprepared or does not know the risks, the result can certainly be tragic, and unfortunately the example you mentioned is a common situation to occur.
The problem is that your brother probably won't be able to wait until his next paycheck to play again, and the problem could escalate the moment he starts borrowing money.

It is advisable that you talk seriously with him and convince him to seek professional help as soon as possible.
Good luck!

That's one thing with gambling that many people fail to understand and that's the fact that addiction is very real and it can fuck you up very badly to an extent that you don't even care about anything at all. Some of the things I have heard addicts do is really not surprising anymore because I have even seen gamblers sell their own houses just to fill up that urge of gambling even without fully knowing the results of the repercussions that follows with their actions.

There is a high possibility that this person has been gambling for a long time, maybe he just kept it a secret from his family, or maybe because of greed he didn't realize that he had been gambling for some time and the money he earned was running out little by little. The best thing to do here is once we receive our salary, we go straight home so that the money we hold will not be used anymore, or if you really intend to gamble, maybe we should just set aside a sufficient amount for that because we don't know what will be the outcome of the gambling session we will do.

That is unbearable kind of gambling addiction. Someone who's going to leave his family at the moment that when his wife tried to ask the money for their food and sustenance. You have to go and ask your elder brother why he did that, he doesn't need to leave his family if they don't have anything after being asked for the salary he's got. It's a mistake followed by another mistake and it won't solve any problem if he acts like that. That's a childish thing to do but how can we help if most of the attitudes of these addicted gamblers are like this? They probably won't even listen to you after this event but it's possible that he might get some help and firstly, it's going to be with you and your family.

I think that he's ashamed of what happened and his pride was stepped on by his own action so he can't face his wife. But tell him to be brave and go back to his family because he's nowhere to go and there won't be any other people that's going to embrace his problem. They're the ones that's going to help him overcome it and at the same time, it's himself that needs to have that willpower and has to focus on providing everything for the family.

This isn't the first time that I have read such stories and there were even real world events that I've found as well. This is sad but this is a real deal that matters for many families if the dad is addicted to something like gambling, drugs and other activities that's going to be a bad thing for the family.

This is one of the effects of gambling that destroys financial balance along with destroying harmony in household relationships, and I think that this incident will very likely be experienced by gamblers who are married if they treat their gambling activities in the wrong way, and from what your brother did, I can conclude that he is addicted enough to gambling that when he gets money, the first thing on his mind is gambling and going to the casino to bet without thinking about the fate of his wife and children at home who are starving.

From his actions alone it is clear that it is a very excessive action because it prioritizes gambling too much while on the other hand he does not care about his obligations as a husband who should provide for his family, especially when he gets a salary. On the other hand, I have nothing else to say except to pray that he can recover from this addiction soon and you can help him in various ways that make sense and can help, because now his household relationship is under threat.

This topic has come up many times here on gambling discussion board, just with different titles and different stories, but the problem is always the same: addiction to gambling. I can only say one thing about these kinds of topics: people gamble so severely because of the dopamine they receive when they win. To prevent this kind of gambling addiction, I suggest studying what dopamine is in relation to gambling and admitting that they are addicted to gambling.

Several cases like this have happened before and it all boils down to gambling addiction but sometimes I wonder if some people don't have conscience because a man that has a family should know he has a family to take care of because they are his responsibility so if a man run away from his responsibility as a result of silly decisions they take then that man is a coward.
Some people makes gambling look so bad in the eyes of people in the society but that is not true because gambling is not bad but the way some people go about their gambling habits is what is raising concerns. How can a man gamble all through the night and didn't spend the night with his family just to waste his salary on gambling now tell me why people that witnessed it will not condemn gambling. It is very shameful for a man to run away from his responsibility just because of carelessness.

This is addiction and this is not the first time he did this for sure, and what you can do as a family is to guide them and force him to stop gambling while giving him your proper guidance. This is very unfortunate but its really happening and we should be more careful and be understandable when someone close to us is addicted in gambling. If you want to help your brother the make him feel the importance of family and stay with him through this bad times.

To me, I don’t still think that Op brother is addicted to gambling. The reason I said that is because if he truly is addicted, he won’t have gone far away for home because he will still have nothing to be ashamed of because most addicted people feel like what they are doing is the best.

 So going back to the story, if he really is an addict, then it is most likely that he wants to forfeit gambling but no way because his mind has already overcome his actions, and if that is the case, then definitely this won’t be his last regret because he will soon do the same thing because he can’t control his mind anymore, so that will definitely affect his family more than the way it will affect him. Take a deep incite in the family’s life; they will need to feed, clothing, school, and shelter, so this child of his i in a very big risk that can even spoil their life in the future. 

Lack of management and no sense of responsibility as the man of the house. Who goes to that extent to make his families life’s be at stake because they want to play and win games for the fun of it or to earn back multiples of what they’ve putting into the game. This is very absurd and he has shown his true colours as not being a responsible man in the society. Let the society knows what he did with that money and stigmatize him with that all his life, maybe he’ll learn and adjust the next time he wants to gamble and hasn’t gone home to compensate his wife and children.

Another reason why he must have lost his money is because of the blind trust he had in himself that he’s going to recover all the money he has loss that day as he continues to squander all of the money he was paid as salary. Unknowingly he exceeded his limits or budgeted fund for the money or he deliberately not want to stop and felt he can do something about it. He has really failed as a man and I’m really disappointed in his actions on that regard. I pray he’s found soon because his family needs him.

There are plenty of threads about gambling addiction but this one has a sad story attached to it.  First off I hope the dude is fine.  Being addicted to gambling could be deadly if not treated.  Depression, etc can be a side effect of addiction especially when ypu have to support people and can't.  Sounds like the fella needs Profesional help there.

Honestly, you shouldn't gamble unless you understand how gambling addiction works. Because if someone's state of mind is "i won't get addicted. only addicts get addicted and i am normal", they don't know what hit them if they do.

And i don't think it's abnormal that after a fight and couple splits up or that wife would kick someone out for doing that. Couples fight and some people need time to cool off and get themselves together before they can come back. Especially if something like that happens. And sounds like your brother has been away nights before, like 4-5.6, so most likely he is just out cooling off or getting drunk, or gambling or thinking. If this would happen to me i think i would be too shamed to show my face for a moment. Honestly my wife wouldn't probably want to see me for a week after that.

But in short: Addiction! Addiction is the problem here. Just be lucky he isn't addicted to anything that can ruin his health. This is just money and if he can't be trusted to hold it, maybe his wife should deal with the finances.

What happened is nothing other than addiction, knowing fully well the needs and wants of his family as the head of the family still decides on risking his whole salary into gambling, it  doesn't happen just randomly if not to a person who is over addicted, now he has faced the consequences which he could not bear and have to run away, definitely he would return but it has already cooked up issues in the family which he would have avoided if at all he agrees to quit his selfish attitude.

Well that's the diversity among humans for you, it's not easy but for some folks as they simply can't handle the pressure that comes with losing while for others they can actually adjust their selves and amend to the outcome of their whole action. Their some crazy things that gambling addict do that gets me but leaving and running away from your family is certainly the height of it if you ask me because it's totally uncalled for because even if you run the problem won't actually solve itself as everything would be still waiting for you.

It's a sad experience for the family of the gambler. I think he's realized his mistakes and decided to have a quiet time reminiscing about his lost money. What could have kept him that long in the casino, if not for the need to recover the funds he has lost. I'd say he's addicted. Because, wagering all his salary on a single day, shows how gambling controls his actions.

Assuming he got some control over himself, he would have given his wife a portion of the money, then head over to the casino. Whatever it is he gets after gambling he would be going home to meet freshly purchased stuffs needed in the house. His pains would be how to replenish the exhausted needs of his house. Another one that bothers me is how he could afford going to work with no money left on him just about a day after receiving his salary. It's annoying.

"Fatal" seems like overreaction. I had about something similar happen in my life with my uncle, my father had to pay off all his debt after he vanished because he had a lot of gambling debt, and he came back after a few months when his debt was paid and he was in the clear, I still do not speak to him at all.

However, we should realize that we are going to end up with something that will take a while, we should not really consider how we could do better, it's just how life is, and how we need to realize the work it takes to hurt other people. And yet, the word "fatal" means something more than just "a bad feeling", it's about being alive, and gambling doesn't cause you to be no longer be alive, sure hurts you financially, but not physical harm.

Sad and this is an advanced stage of addictions and not only is gambling addictions but other substances such as alcohol and also womanizing, because he may have left home to his girlfriend place to avoid the wife nagging at him for gambling away with his salary.


But then also my advice is that you guys should not be hard on him and when he make contact with home, because it is only with love that you guys can win him over.

Very common gambling addiction story
Very common scenario that will happen to someone if they wont be able to control themselves.
Very common condition that you would be ending  on the moment that you do get addicted to it.

On the moment that you would really be that addicted with gambling then there's always the possibility that you would really be ending up with this kind of condition on which at the moment you do receive your salary from your day job then you would be thinking that you do have the capital to play gambling. It might that sounds easy to stop or would be avoiding but on the moment or time that you are addicted to gambling then it would really be that so damn hard to quit. This is where we do see these kind of stories on which spending all their salary, taking up some loans, committing some crimes just for them to have the money for them to be able to play.

Actually it is really just that a matter of self control for you to avoid such conditions but its sad that there are people who cant really be able to fight their urge
on playing gambling. Self realizations would really be only happening at the moment that they would be experiencing unfortunate conditions.

"this person" and "elder brother" seems like a completely concocted story to me, that you couldn't even keep straight until the end. However this situation does play out occasionally, it is at the extreme end of the spectrum in the things that people will do to their families. Frankly it's impossible to save somebody that does not want to save themselves, people will take either two paths in these situations: go full throttle into self destruction with maximum carnage (aka taking out lots of money which they're never going to increase by gambling) or hit rock bottom. If people hit rock bottom and really recognize that fact, then there may be an opportunity to help them, but it takes a period of time where they really have to prove that they've changed their ways by themselves.