Topic: Have you been threaten to stop gambling - page 6. (Read 2503 times)

I understand what you're saying but I'm a bit thinking isn't it not very good or very bad in the long term? because it seems as if you think gambling is a place to win or get more money from your bet.
I admit that as a man, I have the responsibility to provide for them in various ways to get money to be able to meet their needs, but if it's like what you do, it seems a little disagree.
I don't know for sure if you will gamble every day like you said when nothing can stop you from gambling but at least you try to have some control to try to make a profit in something other than gambling and try to stop gambling 

That's a funny story but something serious at the same time. Lol. I haven't been in that kind of situation. I haven't been secretly gambling. My family knows I gamble once in a while. That's not really a big deal because I am not an addict gambler. I gamble just for fun. Although sometimes I lose a good deal of money, it isn't something that is intended for something else. So if a significant amount is lost, there's still food, bills are still paid, etc. No serious damage done.

My elder siblings have often advised me to stop gambling, but they do rejoice with me whenever I win the Lotto, because they, as well, are human beings who really need money to solve their own problems. We strive and work for our everyday survival; nothing ought to cease us from accomplishing or taking a new step every day. Family members are free to do whatever they believe is proper, but a man is obligated to stand his ground and seek his daily bread. It's a good thing to take action and combat dissatisfaction; we're here to conquer and make the best of our opportunities.

Now a smart phone is enough for gambling so it is possible to gamble blindly if one gambles in his spare time.  But if someone is addicted to gambling, the addicted gambler gambles for long hours every day due to which his gambling is revealed to his family and relatives. And then he is put under a lot of pressure from his family and relatives and everyone starts to dislike him because gambling is not a good thing in the eyes of the society.

This is not necessarily so. There's so much bad publicity about gambling that your relatives or close ones may be concerned about your betting even if you don't lose much to that, or you don't lose at all, or even win. And why is there that bad publicity? It's because there are addicted gamblers and their life is a tragedy. And people love reading tragedies, so, there's a demand, right? And journalists are happy to supply. They don't care about how objective it is as long as it attracts attention. Not all journalists are like that, but many, unfortunately.

Any addiction is bad, there are people that call themselves workaholic, basically it is a way to say they are addicted to work, however a person which was truly addicted to their work will be as bad as a drug addict or an alcoholic, after all they will not attend to the needs to their families as they are fully concentrated on their jobs, and this will lead them to develop the same problems any addict develops.

Also as a personal note maybe it could be a good idea that you give up on gambling, as there is no point on risking your family over something which should be a harmless hobby.

If I understand you correctly, you're arguing that it's difficult to help compulsive gamblers because they don't realise they have a problem. That's not unreasonable at all. It's like trying to lead a horse to water, right? They would be angry and maybe violent if coerced into doing something else. So, there are no counterarguments.

However, your second paragraph suggests that these gamblers would be more receptive to help once they recognise they have a problem. This makes sense, but we need to know what brings about this insight. We can't sit back and hope that enlightenment suddenly dawns upon them.

So, what are our options if we can't make them do anything and we can't wait for them to accept their predicament on their own? Maybe it would be better to help them figure out what it is about gambling that they find so appealing rather than try to find an alternative to it.

Gambling is a bad addiction due to which many women cannot accept it. And drinking alcohol and other drugs are very harmful to the human body due to which women cannot accept their consumption from their husbands or boyfriends. Not just gambling or drinking but my wife can't tolerate a simple smoking. I gamble secretly from my wife because she is too much of a threat to me. If she finds out about my gambling and smoking activities, she might leave me too 

I also gambled in small amounts and still like that because I realized that gambling small amounts and keeping limits would not hurt me or my family's finances. And even though my partner often doesn't know I'm gambling, I can still control myself so nothing happens. And even though my partner later finds out, he's also okay because he knows I'm trying to be able to manage my finances and not interfere with family finances.

We should be able to stop gambling if we can not control ourselves because it can interfere with our finances and may cause big problems for our families. There have been many cases where families are in big trouble where in the end, they have to divorce because there is no communication between them. We have to pay attention to this, lest we experience the same thing as them. While we are still able to stop, we should stop immediately so that we can avoid any bad problems. We should gamble using the free money we can afford so we don't cross the line, let alone disrupt our finances.

Absolutely right mate the main reason why gamblers addictions can still have a doubt if the gambler can leave or not. But many people around the world successfully leave the gambling world because they are strong and disciplined gamblers. And that's what every gambler have because the more the gambler can control and have a discipline to himself then all I can say is that he can successfully leave in the world of gambling .

That's the consequence if we hide something from our partner, especially when it comes to gambling, which will cost a lot of money. I only gambled in small amounts and until now it has not affected my shopping burden for daily needs, besides, I am not an active gambler like most people, so it doesn't matter if my partner doesn't know about this gambling activity.

Stop if indeed gambling can affect our family, especially if it has to end in divorce which will have an impact on children. But when the gambling that you run can be responsible and doesn't make things worse, I don't think it's a problem as long as our finances don't affect and don't make everything a burden. I use money from bonuses or other sources in gambling, so it doesn't affect a steady financial source for my daily needs and because of the nature of gambling that I do not get addicted or addicted, this will not have any impact so far.

    -  Any person they love who is addicted to gambling will not let them be reminded of what gambling can do if it is not controlled properly, so that's how they remind them.

I will do the same even if it is said that I also play gambling. That's why some people always say to be responsible in gambling, including knowing where your limits are as a gambler, if you lose, leave immediately and come back another day, that's all.

For those who say money can't buy happiness that's when they wrong, you can be happy gambling but make sure your family is supported so they wouldn't turn on you, sometimes that discomfort when you hear them rant was the unluckiness you get. I mean, it's difficult to be honest especially if it will lead to serious issues but gambling shouldn't be hidden especially to your spouse, they can understand for sure just don't make a habit that you loss a fortune regularly on that and has hidden debts as well.

However, we can hide it from our partner, sooner or later, our partner will know and we also don't know how they got to know. And I agree with always being open with our partners so we don't always suspect what we are doing. I am also always open with my partner because we are already living together and there is no need to hide anything.

If he could tell his wife about his winnings, surely there wouldn't be any problems between them so he could continue playing gambling as his wife knew. So he won't get any threats from his wife, he will be safe playing gambling, and he can enjoy his winning money with his wife. It will also make his wife happy because she can earn extra money from the winning money.

Being open with your partner makes a person able to play gambling comfortably because his gambling activities are already known. In addition, if his partner did not approve, he would provide advice for him so that he could leave gambling without any threats from his wife. This is a communication issue between them. Apparently, they are neither communicating with each other nor being honest with their partner. This problem can be resolved amicably between them so that there is no need for threats to stop gambling or divorce if the husband cannot leave gambling.

The most important reason to reveal that you gamble to your partner is that no financial decision should be taken unilaterally, now most people gamble a small amount of money, but over the long term this amount can grow to very high levels if you are not careful, so having a partner to remind you to keep yourself on track and spend a small amount of money is always welcome.

However it is also possible that if you reveal your gambling hobby to your partner a fight could ensue, since there are many people out there that have a bad opinion about gambling.

My parents have only one time told me that if I were married, I would not spend so much time gambling rather I would use that time to bond with my wife and kids. It was funny but looking back now I can see some sense and truth in what they said. Because I was unmarried then my idea times were either spent at the bookies or in some online casino. If your spouse, family or friend has to talk to you about your gambling habit, then it means that you should take it seriously and do not brush it off with some excuses. They know you better than you think they do.

Gamblers who don't acknowledge the fact that they are addicted to gambling are a pretty difficult case to handle to be honest, because even if you want to get them to do some other activity so that they stay way from gambling, they wouldn't agree to do that in the beginning and will insist they will gamble instead because they don't even see this as an issue at all, and if you try and force them, they will take it very seriously and might even start fighting with you.

So making someone do other activities and get engaged otherwise is only possible if they understand that gambling is taking a lot of their time and money and it isn't good for them, and that is when if you ask them for assistance, they will be more than happy to accept that because all they might need is your company in the first place.

If there is a lack of fidelity between husband and wife, it is certainly not at a normal stage. Here the gambler has kept his password in such a way that one can easily log in there. If the gambler did not want to inform the family he had to be careful enough. But there he showed indifference. I think if there is a big gambling win it should be told to someone in the family. Otherwise any kind of mishap is never recoverable. Most family members don't want any of them to become addicted to gambling. Because of which sometimes such a situation is created.

Hiding something from our partners is impossible because we are together with our partners for more than 12 hours every day, so gambling activities that are carried out will definitely be easy to find out. make it a habit to always be open with your partner because when you try to hide something, separation or divorce will definitely threaten your household.

I am very open with my partner, even in some of the sports bets that I do, I ask for advice from him, he is very happy that I still ask for advice from him on the choices I will make when betting football.