Topic: How do you play online/offline without your wife or family knowing it? (Read 1868 times)

I also do not understand why some people hide their hobbies gambling from their wives because gambling is the same entertainment as drinking beer in a bar with friends. I understand when we hide our gambling from our employer, colleagues but not from our wives as only the closest people can help us if we suddenly cross the line between gambling for fun and gambling addiction.

Yes, that's true because when we lose the trust of our wife because of gambling, the wife will probably be stricter and will always ask us why we ask her for money.
The wife will not easily believe our words; of course, there will be quarrels between us.
Indeed we need money but that does not mean we should try to make money from gambling.
There are still many ways to make money, so we must be creative in thinking about how we can make money.

That's given, when you go outside your wife would never know obviously, but you're going to be suspected with a different thing other than gambling for going out more often.
Betting at the comfort of your home is still a better option especially during weekends when you can spend time with your family while secretly betting on your favourite team. My personal preferences in gambling is sports. So, there's no way my wife will suspect me I'm gambling though sometimes she knew I'm betting with my office mates, but online gambling is a different thing.

Different people have their difference in terms of acceptance, I value that statement in terms of negative impressions with gambling activities most if not all seen that negative impacts of gambling participation though in some cases, there are open-minded people who are okay if they seen their love one's doing things like this for some entertainment practices or some socialites practices. We can't conclude anything since like what I have mentioned there are difference in taking this kind of matter and we don't know what type of person that will judge the activities.


In this case, you are not required telling anything since what you mentioned is outside with your daily budget, spare money
that can let go in case you losses it, but like what you said, there's a need of controlling yourself and not to allow excess deposit
as it can be the start of doing something un-controllable.

No matter how you hide your phone or when gambling you won't call your children or wife, to be honest with you am sure you can't hide that forever, your secret will be exposed it might just take time, sometimes you might even forget that you are with your wife then you open the gambling site which you have already be boosted, gambling is not what you can hide forever. Just think about it how will you be in the same house with your wife and you think you can hide it for life from them that you are a gambler, you are a man just open up and be honest to her, you don't have to keep on lying and hiding things from her. If I marry I will let my wife know that am a gambler but I only gamble for fun and relaxation and am not addicted to it.

If you are truly using money that is not meant for important thing then I see no problem why you need to Hide your gambling activities mate?
let them know so maybe there are support or cheering when you are playing that will add attraction to Luck joining you?
Am not sure but i think there is no really an issue in your part playing gambling .

So far I have been gambling, my family didn't know that I was doing it because I was gambling with money that wasn't really used, meaning that there was special money that was set aside for gambling without disturbing the needs at home and I had to be able to control myself so as not to make excessive deposits. because it will destroy your economy when you can't control yourself.

It's really good to be open about your personal matters to your wife because you are already committed and should act and decide as one. Your partnership strengthened with marriage should have a strong foundation which should be honesty and trust. If you will keep secrets from your spouse, then expect misunderstandings later on. Because being secretive can lead to series of arguments once the other one suddenly finds out and is against it in the first place.

Discussion should be done in a relationship. If you want to gamble, you can tell to your wife and then from there, communicate what you want to do and why do you want it. If you are confident that you can provide, then adding leisure activity wouldn't be a problem. As long as you know your priorities such as providing your household's needs, most especially if you already have children, then you won't be lost because you'll properly allocate a part of your budget only in gambling. After all, we should only risk what we can afford to lose.

Communication is the key for a relationship to workout. If you are a good provider and a responsible person, for sure your wife would let you relax and do some entertaining activity once in a while to avoid burn out and of course, to reward yourself as well. But if your wife knows that you don't have the sense of responsibility in spending money, then most probably you'll have a hard time convincing her to let you gamble. I think this is one of the major reasons why some men do not let their wife knows they're gambling. Because once you get caught up, you might be lost and the risk is high too.

There are some wives which are selfish and doesnt mind about the happiness of their husbands specially on other activities and its true that not all would really be that opposing on what you would gonna do as long
you had fulfilled your duty and responsibility as a husband and a father but just like on what most people been saying on here that you should not hide something on your wife so that you would not end up on hiding
and stressing yourself and keep on hiding on the activity you've been doing but also you should be mindful on not to exert too much risk or putting huge money on gambling because sooner or later
it would be resulting into something negative which might you unexpectedly for it happen.

Being tied to someone will need you to ask permission of the things that you're about to do such as gambling.
You can do that but you will lie on your partner on what you're doing and where you're about to go. That's what unfaithfulness is and as someone who's attached to a partner, you will have to think if that's the right thing to do or not.
That's good of you and just keep doing that.

If you're wife do sees that you had just fulfill your obligations well and been responsible into your family then for sure you wife would really be approving or wouldnt mind on what are the things you've been dealing

as long it wouldnt really be attached on 3rd party relationship or speaking on other girls then it should be fine.Actually this is really that subjective because not all wives are the same which even some do say
that it might really be just be fine in this case but there are women who cant really just able to avoid on not to mind bad things or impressions about gambling.
Yes, i cant blame other people no matter what the gender because we do always  hear up negative things when it touches about gambling.

If you have that point of view there's nothing to argue about that, it's also your decision to make if ever you pick and choose not to tell your gambling activities with your wife, I agree on your point about having a wife for that long time I just smile when you mentioned your example about who's the boss as for sure many will relate to that.

About buying a new laptop and have privacy, that's a call that will depend on how civil you and your wife are in taking that kind of action,

maybe we do have differences in terms of experienced and how we treated the situation, but if there's no obligation that being taken for granted and all your responsibilities are completely covered, the chance that your wife will respect that decision of yours is considerable.

Its indeed stupid and you would regret it for the rest of your life whenever you had broken up on your wife's trust.Just like on my situation where i had committed some mistake and she had never ever
had that trust ever again on me and its really a hard thing for you to mind off that particular manner and its a regrettable thing.If you dont like on being on this situation then you should
avoid on hiding up something from your wife because if there's something you've been hiding then you cant do it forever and theres a day that those things or secrets will
really be revealed or be known thats why its not really worth on doing so.

Yes and why not? I think playing outside is the most appropriate way of gambling and it must be done only on a dedicated gambling places like a casino. That is to avoid our family to get influenced on this addictive activity. The main reason why this isn't followed anymore is because there are now online gambling and there are smartphones which we can carry anywhere.

It's important to play only gambling when you have an extra time and the time for our family shouldn't be comprised. That is for them to feel satisfied and won't suspect you by the time you go outside. You know your family and I think you know that they won't rage once you confess your gambling habit but for others, confessing it will only give them a lot of complications so they choose to hide it instead.

This OP speaking. I have to indicate because it seem only the first post is being read.

Majority seem to advice not to keep secrets to their wife. Its nice that you guys share same view of relationship to your wives. I'm not however that very open to her about my activities whenever its about my sports betting.

I give everything to my wife and kid thats for sure. My salary but I also take whats mine to maintain equality. When you are married and have already passed the phase where you have quarelled already whos the boss in the family, you might really set aside something for yourself. My advice is to take a wife for 10 years, you might understand why some dont want everything shared to the wife.

My solution might just be to buy a separate laptop for myself and not share anymore with her and maintain privacy between us.

Everyone has interests that require money. Women as well as men spend money on themselves (cosmetics, some procedures, hobbies), so talk to your wife can find a compromise that will help protect the family budget and not give up gambling. I have always believed that discussing some issues is the best solution. In my opinion, it's just stupid to lose your wife's trust because of gambling.

I'm not sure if this is appropriate , but can we just let our self gambling outside our houses? if we really wanted to Hide from playing then better play outside their sight , meaning we should deal in gambling when there isa  given time or allocate time not close to them?
i never tried hiding because I am an open person that dont wanna make things complicated so instead of hiding I will tell them directly no matter how they react and decide .

And if your wife is against it, you better stop gambling and ask her to help you because quitting gambling is very difficult for people who have been gambling for too long.
Being open is highly recommended in this case, especially if it is your wife because, after all, you live with her and if anything happens to you, she will suffer as well.
Maybe you still want to continue gambling for a little money and, you need to ask your wife if she allows it or not.
It is important to say if you play gambling with him, there is no misunderstanding between you and your wife.

A wise man once said "Whatever is worth doing, is worth doing well" which actually means that whatever you have decided to do, you should always try to put in all your best. Because gambling actually is not a sin or bad thing if only you gamble responsibly, because currently now by hiding this from your wife, you are actually living a double standard in your own house, which is not actually the best thing to do, because as a member on of this forum who is  on a signature campaign that requires at least 10 post in the gambling sections, watching football matches is the only way to get latest info which enable you to effectively communicate here on the gambling board and gets paid for doing so. So I think the best way forward on this issue is to make your wife understand that the Gambling which you do is just an added source of income to you.

I'm sure your wife is complaining because you haven't won any good sum of money from gambling, because if you some day win $1million and you told her the money was gotten from gambling, I bet you, she will be the one forcing you to gamble from that very faithful day

- Wow, I wish all gamblers' wives were like your wife, just letting your passion for gambling go.
I wish I could call you an idol.

However, the beauty of your wife, she has faith in you even though she knows that gambling is not good, as long as you don't neglect your obligation to your own family is okay.

Then the beauty of you, as a gambler is that you know how to manage yourself when you are playing in a casino online. I hope all gamblers have the characteristics and strategies that you have.