Topic: Learning from those who have experience - page 12. (Read 2299 times)

Yes, this can be due to a lack of responsibility and also maybe they are not strict enough with all the boundaries that they have previously set up, oh yes in my opinion, especially if they have a personality that is easily provoked or provoked by something that makes them emotional so they are very likely to get caught there. I think they have realized that they are addicted and I am sure they also want to stop or get out of the addiction zone but well maybe you also know or have felt how it is there, it is very difficult to get out of gambling addiction my friend, the brain and mind are like something is taking over, honestly I have felt it. Asking for professional help maybe it can, but I don't think it will work because professionals are still the same gamblers who can even do things they don't want at all. But I think a good alternative to quitting or quitting the addiction is maybe you can find a new hobby that is just as fun but without the risk, you can find an activity like adding a job maybe, because slowly I think you will be able to forget about gambling.

Yes that's right, basically it's very difficult, but if they really want to stop then there must be ways they can do it, don't just talk through words but start with action, that's all I think.

Yes, this mistake arises due to the lack of responsibility of individuals in gambling, so they become addicted and have difficulty curing their gambling addiction. They really need to realize that they have a gambling addiction so they need to go to a professional who can help them cure their gambling addiction. Each gambling addict can block the thought or desire to gamble but unfortunately, this is lost to the urge to gamble and many of them are even unable to resist the urge to gamble. If they are willing to learn to overcome their desire to gamble, they will see opportunities to do other things that have nothing to do with gambling. They need encouragement to do something different from their routine activities, where they need to create or build new activities.

Few years ago, i'm a kind of gambler who gamble without discipline. I forgot my responsibilities to my family and rarely go out with friends because I prefer to just gamble. Gambling is more enjoyable and the thought of winning really gave me the eagerness to continue what i'm doing. I started playing in moderation then I became out of control. What changed me is when I almost lost my family due to gambling. I took a vacation away from the city and gadgets (everything that can tempt me to gamble) with the support of my family. It's not easy but if you're determine to overcome your gambling addiction then you can definitely change for the better. I'm still playing now but not often unlike before.

I have never been addicted to gambling, however all the addictions despite their superficial differences are roughly the same, a person will need a period of a full year to detox themselves from an addiction, also it is often recommended that unless absolutely necessary you never engage on the same activity to which you were addicted.

And this is because even if you can control it you are only one mistake away from becoming addicted again, and some therapists go even further than that and prefer that you even avoid places and people which may lead you in that direction again.

Sure. If we always gamble in the right way and never gamble excessively, we can avoid the addiction. We need to be discipline and has he some limitations, so we can handle everything properly. I suggest that we have certain rules for ourselves in gambling, we need to obey the rules for healthy gambling. For example, we limit the time to gamble in each day, may be around 2 hours as the maximum time. Then, we need to allocate the maximum funds to use daily. And we must to remind ourselves to never take a loan for gambling. If we obey these rules, I think we can avoid addiction.

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*We limit the time and funds allocation daily, but doesn't mean we must gamble everyday. There should be time for no gambling time. On weekend, it will be better to gather with family and lovely friends.  

Somewhere, even on a subconscious level, you want to play, win and prove to those who told you not to play every day that they were wrong. So there is an opposite effect from those who give such advice. At least I think that's what I would do.
The question that worries me is, what if you win the jackpot, what will you do then, continue to play every day or finally stop? If you continue to play, then this is pure addiction to the game.

People can go through various stages of life, some start off with very little money and prospects - maybe throwing away any spare change they can get on different habits, like gambling or drugs. Then, one of two things will happen - they either burn through it, wake up to the realization that they fell too deep into the hole and decide not to hit it again or they sink entirely. Those who get a grasp and remove themselves from the temptation for a period of time, maybe a year or maybe ten, can get stronger once they regain their feeling of self control. They move on to a new stage of life, hopefully growing wiser from their previous experiences and they may have enough control at one point to gamble once or twice a year in the right setting.

I have not be addicted to gambling before but I have been able to successfully break free from other maladaptive habits. If you don't mind, I will be happy to share  how I broke free which is basically the same core principles of breaking free from any other addiction.

-First, be honest with yourself and the fact that you need to break free from the addiction
- Second, talk to someone about it. The person could be a therapist, a close friend. Someone you trust and you know would help you fight through.
- Third, eliminate if possible all items or objects that could serve as a trigger for the addictive behaviour
- Fourth, find a new habit to replace the old one. This will help you have something to fall back on when you feel the urge or something to keep you occupied.
- Fifth, join a community of people who are on the same path with you.

These may sound simplistic but I know they are not however, since other people have beat the addiction you too can.

While many demonize gambling as the root cause of addiction and financial ruin, isn't it time we shift the blame from the industry to the individual? After all, countless activities can lead to addiction, but we don't vilify them all. Maybe it's the lack of self-control and inability to understand risk that's truly at fault. Let's stop blaming the game and start holding players accountable for their choices.

I don't know why people have very negative about gambling. Like when they hear the word gambling, the first thing that comes to their mind is addiction, next is losing money and their home.  Maybe it's true because many people broke their life from it because they cannot control themselves and  that what you need to observe. The problem is not the gambling industry doing their business. The problem is the person participating yet they are not ready for the risk.

The real challenge is not in the probabilities of each bet. The real battle is inside the psychology of those unprepared to gamble.

That's right, I experienced it, several years ago, I ignored someone's advice not to play every day. but I actually play every day. Until finally I used the money I saved and ran out.  ::)The only thing stopping me is the limited money I can spend. Plus other unexpected events that made me responsible for my brother's debts, this situation not giving me possibility gambling. Can I stop? No, I still gamble sometimes, but not so intensely anymore, and only use small amounts of money from campaign, when i feel i can use it to gamble.

You will not get addicted if you know how to handle things yourself and just having an idea what these addicts will do will be sufficient enough for you to stay in the safe zone. Gambling might be hard to ignore but this is just a challenge that we need to endure if we are really inclined to gamble and we need to face it so that we cannot be one of those list who need help but chose not to because they don't know how deep they are already.

If you find the people who had quit the gambling after the addiction,you can use their strategy to reduce the gambling activities.Many gamblers won’t quit the gambling after the advice from the other friends.Because his mind will not accept the other words,the gambler start to play the game secretly.Some gambler are taking the gambling as the serious one,they forgot the fact gambling is just for the fun.The gambling had the enough entertainment giving possibilities.The gambler should use the gambling to get away from all the stress factor due to their real job stress.

@Accardo also have a point and we should give him that, but I think there's something missing because you can never have both when it comes to these things. I know what he is trying to say but what he is trying to suggest is also a very risky path because instead of learning from other's mistake by keeping them near, they will in turn give you a negative impact and you will be a gambler as well even before you realized it. Taking this path is not easy but if you're courageous enough, then it's up to you but you should know the risks and its consequence if it turns out trouble along the road.

It seems like a dice roll can impart a semester's worth of life lessons. However, "discouraged to continue gambling" may be underestimated. Do you think watching someone else fall might make you want to win, ironically? Borrowing money to keep gambling is clearly a terrible decision. More casino debts are like holes on a sinking ship - the faster you sink. Gambling as a source of income is like chasing rainbows for gold. The charm fades under inspection. Unpredictability is a career gamble, not a business model

That's true because if the gambler has no serious awareness and intention, he will not be able to stop or reduce his gambling activities. Everything will return to the person who lives it, and even if someone forces him to stop gambling, he still can't stop, and he might gamble secretly. And even though his life has become poor, he still cannot give up gambling, he will return to gambling, but maybe his gambling will adjust to his finances. Gambling activities are only for fun and entertainment, so they cannot use it as a way to make money, let alone passive income. They should know that it will be difficult for them to win regularly because gambling is not designed to give wins to the gambler but to the casino.

I have never been addicted to gambling before , but I have have a couple of friends who have been addicted to gambling, though it was a long time ago and we are separated now, but before we got separated, one of them managed to gain freedom from the addiction, but this was after he gambled away money a group of individuals contributed and gave him to keep, probably that was when his eyes got opened and he realized how much damage gambling has done to him, he was arrested and he spent about 3 months in a police cell, there was no gambling facility there so probably his long stay in the cell without access to gambling helped him heal from the addiction .

When he eventually came out from police custody after 3 months, he wasnt gambling anymore, when you talk to him about gambling, he assumes you are mocking him and picks up a fight with you ..

We still communicate on the phone though and I am glad he is doing really well today, even though he now gambles again from time to time, he is no longer addicted to it .

Fear has always been connoted as something that is cowardly, but I think having fear is actually a great thing because it helps us to be cautious and careful about such things. It help us to avoid possible consequences that we might encounter along the way. I am sorry to hear that you have to experience and witness such things at such a very young age. But what you've done is right, you turn those experiences into a positive thing and make it as a lesson so that you will not have to experience what these men had suffered from. But still, these gambling addicts need attention and care, because if we took immediate action we can stop their addiction from getting worse.

I am not speaking of personal experience but I have witnessed someone making a big comeback from gambling addiction.

I remembered that my friend used to tell me stories about his relative that was suffering from drug and gambling addiction. It came to a point where that person sold the personal belongings of his mother just to satisfy the cravings of drug and gambling addiction. In fact, there were also times were this addict threatened his own life while he was so high with drugs. But after that experience, everything went uphill due to his urge to change his lifestyle.

My friend told me that the journey took roughly years for him to recover and be sober. Gladly enough, that relative is now 7 years sober and he is drug and gambling-free!

It's the fear that make you avoid being an addict. Maybe it's a good thing I guess? Though you still gamble with the caution of not turning into an addict. Being addicted to something really turn the table upside down, there are bunch of vices that you can be addicted but one thing is for sure, it can possibly destroy your life and gradually affect you in aspects of life like mentally, physically and financially. I myself learned from my own experience of being an addict and now that I recovered, I'm trying my best not to be the same man that is being destroyed because of gambling addiction.