Topic: Learning from those who have experience - page 2. (Read 2299 times)

Yes, before it's too late to realize this, parents should approach their children as soon as possible so that later, there will be regrets from parents and their children affected by gambling. We know gambling can take its place easily and even in games we never expected. That is why parental supervision is still needed even though their children have grown up because if their children take the wrong path, it will also impact the family.

Parents must implement education and supervision from an early age when they still really need guidance from their parents so that they can differentiate between what is good and bad for them. If children already know that gambling is entertainment and there are more dangerous impacts behind it all, they will not try it because the impact can spread everywhere. And that will also put their lives at risk.

Parents need to have that kind of talk with their kids as soon as possible, since gambling is not only easily available to them thanks to smartphones, now gambling is also included in many video games as a feature and yet it is completely unregulated.

So if you wait until they are older to explain to them why gambling at such an age is a bad idea, it is likely they could have experimented with gambling already and your advice is coming too late to make any sort of impact, fortunately most people understand the nature of gambling early on and think of it as just a way to get some fun, but many others fail to learn this and try to make a living out of it despite how unlikely it is for them to ever reach their goal.

I disagree if we assume that our children are not entirely ours, honestly this statement is quite confusing, but well forget it. Of course we can give freedom to our children but that doesn't mean we give freedom in everything, of course it must be supervised too, if indeed they do something that can harm themselves or even others then obviously we have to stop it, as you said the role of parents is nothing but educating, protecting and directing them.

I agree with that statement, because it is true that they have a high level of curiosity about new things that they first find, they really want to try it, gambling is no exception. If we parents are careless in supervising them then it is very likely that they will enter the gambling zone and we will be surprised when we find out. One of the factors that will be able to greatly influence them is from the surrounding environment, so we as parents must really be able to provide very good understanding and learning to them, and also even though you release them but still have to be under strict supervision as well.

Our children are not completely ours, they are free to do whatever they like and whatever they want. However, we as parents are obliged to guide and direct our children so that they do not go in the wrong direction.

Adolescence is a time when the level of curiosity is at its highest and they always want to do new things that they have never done before, including gambling, so it is true what you say that we must give them an understanding first as a provision before exploring the outside world. , because then at least they can differentiate between good and bad, positive and negative, so that later they will try not to do things that will only harm themselves.

You are very correct and I agree with you completely, and the most profound thing you mentioned is that we cannot control our children forever, this is absolutely true, but in terms of gambling, i do not see any need to talk to our children about it until they become teenagers and probably get themselves involved in gambling maybe through those they keep as friends. For we as parents, it is already known that children will naturally want to do what they see their parents doing, so on this note, we have a responsibility to do and keep all our gambling activities away from our children totally, by doing this, we will never have to talk to them about gambling because they will never get involved in it.

So, when our children grow up to become teenagers and we discover they are into gambling, first, we will have to find out from them where they got the idea of gambling, after learning this, we can now educate them on the danger of gambling and possibly ask them to keep away from friends leading them into gambling, because for me, any child still in school should not engage in gambling, not under my roof.

Letting them to understand things that important to know will give them enlightenment and guidance to avoid making that mistake, most of the time those who thinks that gambling is the easiest way to earn money got attached too much and become addicted, we can't control our children's future but we can always have that way to properly give them the right pattern in life, experienced already dictates that the influences of parents established that big parts of our children's belief, just be there when things is just starting and you can take over most of the time when your child is trying to explore for something new.

We all know how gambling can affect the life of an individual person, especially if he’s into addiction. So as much as possible, we should not encourage our children to get attached with gambling. However, that does not mean that we can still control them in the future if they really want to engage in gambling. So the best approach is just to educate them the risks about gambling and make them understand that it should only serve as a source of entertainment, but never expect that it will be a sustainable source of living. That way, if ever they will gamble in the future, at least they are aware already the negative things about gambling.

Well when we talk about addiction it is a very broad topic, generally when we emphasize with respect to them we can have some things that can be sensitive for some players, and those things are what can make the difference if some of them You can leave it aside, in the forum I have seen that things are focusing a lot on what addiction is and this makes me think that when we can do things that we can help it is much better, when I have seen that there are people who are in an addiction problem and they say that their friends help them or can help them, well I completely agree with that, because the first people who can help in the most immediate way are friends, because sometimes the trust with them is superior Of course, the family has absolute support, but things tend to be too difficult when it's with them, so sometimes we trust people or third parties more than the family.

Addiction is a topic that for those who suffer from it is very sad, sometimes they do not realize the things that they can harm or do when they start inventing, but what I am saying is that at the moment it is the most remote idea that he is falling into addiction, we have to act, or stop gambling or stop spending money, or stop being involved in the casino, because that's the only way problems will arise, both in the family and at work, like that. As in any event that is planned in life, it is not healthy to do it, it is not good for anyone, if there is a family associated, and if you have or are one less head of the family, things must be very emphatic Regarding this, What I think is that when something like this happens, it should be attacked, and as I said, in the forum there must be many who are going through that problem, but here we are to help them with that problem , even if it is by making them forceful, if it is possible, So some advice is not bad, if someone identifies with what we say , then they are free to choose if they want to let us Help them.

Yes, they can return to gambling again even though they have tried to get gambling treatment. That is normal because he will not always be able to control himself, especially since he has just started healing. The important thing is that he knows what to do because he knows the preventive measures if he starts having the same problems. What is done during the healing process can help him not to be tempted by anything in gambling so that by continuing to learn to cure his gambling addiction, he will be able to recover from his gambling addiction.

If you think it's good, I don't blame your opinion, bro, maybe what you mean is that outside of school hours students are guided or taught about the impacts or risks of gambling, I don't think that will be a problem. .
Apart from school, parents must also guide their children at home in knowing what gambling is and its impacts, because at this age children are still very vulnerable in carrying out all activities, by paying special attention and monitoring their child's behavior. it would reduce the chances of them entering the world. gambling, because good understanding will be easy to accept even if slowly.

If that was the after effects then it may give it a good practice but most of the time, when an addicted gambler goes back to his usual way of gambling things is un-controllable there's always a possibility that he will just repeat that same mistake and will undergo with the same problem that he just went thru, it's best not to come back or not to try playing again to surely quit away from it and if chances will be given, guiding others with this possible problem to raise will be a good help avoid anyone to engage and possibly get addicted.

       -  Perhaps it's not a bad idea to reiterate or teach, at least in school, the negative effects of gambling when it is used improperly and shouldn't be available to minors. I don't see anything bad; the only issue I have is when we see people gamble who are not of the appropriate age since no one has ever explained what gambling is to them.

Given that it is still a matter of knowledge whether it should be done or not, it is my opinion that it is only necessary to explain the negative effects of gambling to everyone, regardless of age. It is just that easy to grasp.

It will also raise awareness in him that he can heal with the help of the people around him because he knows they care about his life. This will give him greater enthusiasm to quickly recover from his gambling addiction and not repeat the mistakes that made him fall into gambling.

He has felt the negative impact of gambling, so he intends not to experience it again. And even if he returns to gambling, he will be more responsible than before because he has experienced bad events in his past. However, some people will not return to gambling and will probably help other gambling addicted people to provide something useful that can help other people recover from their gambling addiction.

yep, indeed everything you say is very correct, when an addict who wants to recover from his addiction gets great support from the people around him, it makes his mental strength become more enthusiastic to recover from his addiction.

this is the negative impact of gambling too often, ignoring the risks and not being able to control oneself, becoming addicted, which has a slightly complicated stage recovering from the addiction, and conversations like this should make us all understand how risky gambling is if we take it too seriously, such as thinking about getting money, which ends in regret. chasing defeat and becoming a loss. I just hope that anyone reading here is a little more aware to really understand how gambling works.

Yes, maybe the role of a professional can help in this problem, but I don't think it will be completely influential because in essence they will be able to get the cure if they want it for something better. But the problem is that it is very difficult to be able to restore the addicted mindset to normal again, almost all of their thoughts have been instigated in gambling, their expectations are too high so that they always spin in a gambling cycle that never has a limit.

Basically, it is quite difficult to cure someone from gambling addiction, especially if it is at a high level. But that doesn't mean we have to just let it go, we still have to make efforts as the closest person to him or his family, calling those who are already professionals is pretty good, and also in my opinion they as his family should try to provide other activities to that person, just give or invite them to do other activities that are still fun but there is no risk in it,
so that slowly they will be a little distracted from the gambling mind, and well with some advice too of course.

Getting a professional to help cure his gambling addiction is necessary, apart from the support of his family members, so that the gambling addict sees that he still has other people who care about him. He will see it as an encouragement and support for him to be able to undergo the healing process and will not find it difficult to go through it. And maybe there is a healing process that requires him to do activities to divert his attention from gambling. And everything will go well if there is attention from everyone so that without realizing it, he manages to cure his gambling addiction.

Apart from that, we will not know what we will teach our children, so there may be differences with what we teach our children when we return to our children. They may not really care about our children and only teach our children as they are without giving our children genuine love. And it is clearly different if the parents give love to their children.

Yes, that's because the hired guardians only work according to their jobs, get paid, and are no longer responsible for their children when they return home. They will hand the children over to their parents and will return the next day as usual while the children are already asleep when their parents return. The guardian cannot decide everything and must wait for approval from the parents when something needs to be decided, so it may take a while before deciding something for the children.

And that is why parents should take care of their children and not hand them over to guardians. It will also bring the relationship between parents and their children closer so that there will be a special feeling that cannot be explained.

Professional help is a must when a person is already addicted, as even if the family members of the addicted have good intentions they do not really know what steps to take to help their loved ones.

And even if they spent a great deal of their time with them and they kept watch over the addicted in order to stop them if they wanted to gamble again, this only increases the dependency they have on their family, and once you leave them alone the very first thing they will do is to look for the nearest source which can satisfy their cravings.

According to my experiences, I have seen that we can only control ourselves in gambling if we rarely play in the casino. Because if you increase your gambling in the casino, it is as if you are the one who is paving the way for you to eventually become addicted to it. In short, you are shaping yourself to be addicted to it in the future.

But if from the very beginning of your gambling you shape yourself in the right way of gambling that will not lead you to become an addict later on, for sure you will be able to manage your gambling correctly as time goes by so that you are not going to lead to something not good, instead you will be a responsible gambler that will not affect your character or damage your relationship with family and friends.

True some kids are even a victim of child abuse done by their caretaker.  There are issues where the nannies are harming babies and were caught by cctv placed on the house.  Aside from that, there are care taker that shows no concern because they are not blood related and is just after the money that is given to do the job.


Aside from that these kids who know they are not blood-related pay no attention to the guardian's advice.  Some kids do some vices such as gambling to get the attention of their parents and some even do gambling due to possibly hate feeling since their parents ignore them.


As a parent, there should always a good communication between them and their kids.  Even though parents are busy with work, they must allocate time to show their affection to their kids.  Have their kids open up to them and make their kids feels secure and make them understand that parents are always there to help.

Giving out the responsibility of looking after your kids to some one else from outside is not ideal because it's definitely not a guarantee they would do their job exactly as expected of them, at some point they could be negligent or better still the kids could device means to get away with what ever it is they are doing around their guardians and you wouldn't get to know.

In the case of gambling addiction the kids could have gotten this trait and possibly hide it from their hired guardian and it will never come to their notice as they will not be with the kids always except during their official working hour's. So I don't think leaving them to a hired guardian will do any better on them as some guardians in the bid to act professionally will have restrictions and can not possibly monitor the child enough as you the parents will do.

In the case of the parents, you have full access and control over your kind at almost any point in time and you can take decision for them  without been cautioned and to a very large extent you could possibly pip into their privacy to get a glimpse of what they do, something your hired guardian could possibly not do, this way you can spot these habits earl enough to curb them.