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At least, being open to a few people about his gambling addiction can give him hope that he can find the solution he should use. He can ask for help from other people to help him find the right solution so that he can reduce his gambling activities first or immediately cure his gambling addiction if he already has a gambling addiction. Some suggested and took him to a community that had successfully cured him of gambling addiction so that he could learn from them and get his motivation from the experiences they shared. By paying attention to the progress of those who are trying to cure themselves of gambling addiction, enthusiasm will begin to grow within them so that they will not experience difficulty in undergoing any therapy process.

Why is it my job to change anyone? In a perfect world everything would be free, people would help each other, noone would kill anyone, no adultry, no famine, no bad shit period. We obviously do not live in a perfect world and most only care about themselves no matter who it hurts.

I haven't seen anyone in such bad shape from gambling that I should intervene. People I know gamble what they can afford and go on with life.

Another topic from the "golden advice series." If you feel addicted, talk to someone.
It's pretty much like telling someone, if you're getting abused by your husband, leave the house and get help.
If you feel sad, go meet some friends and you're going to feel better.
If you get addicted to drugs or alcohol, go to a rehab and they'll help you.

Thanks for saying the obvious, OP. I'm sure this saved some addicted gamblers from falling deeper into the bottomless pit of addiction.

Being open is not that easy but I agree that if they will tell the truth and ask for a help, I’m sure your family can help you and even the community might find a way to help you recover. Let’s also avoid to criticized those gamblers who become addict, we should help them instead because their life is at risk and we might lose them without even trying to help them. Being addict is not easy, and if you are already in this situation better to start seeking help and start your recovery.

I think the addiction cannot be overcome directly except the cases where people ask for help and go to rehab centers.The most of addicted people including me who was once addicted overcome it by slowing down their dose of gambling sessions during the day,week,month and years,the more we stay without gambling in time span the more prone to not be heavily addicted we are.

I have found that the best to overcome such problem is like I did in 2019-2020 and once I lost big I settle down and started to think cold headed that I need to be playing less and less,the first step is acknowledging it and start developing a strategy to play less and less in a long time frame.

In fact we often discuss it and repeat it many times. but that's okay, there's no harm in it and it's also useful to remind us all. what you say, I completely agree. If someone experiences a disorder such as addiction, whatever the type, opening up and seeking help is the main and most important part, especially for the family. thus, we will try to find a solution to overcome it and even cure it. although some of our families do not hesitate to ostracize the addict. It's natural, because everyone has different thoughts and ways of responding.

However, the points you make are absolutely correct. especially, for addicted people who do not have limits and understanding regarding the level of gambling. although in reality, the healing process will be different for the sufferer and even then it must be accompanied by strong intention and determination. otherwise it will be useless, even though we have told our family about it. In fact, there are many cases related to addiction of any type. but instead of giving help and taking him to a rehabilitation place, even to an expert, the main key lies with us as sufferers. if the intention is not firm, let alone not having determination. then the healing process can take a long time until a person reaches the peak of his consciousness. Well, just make gambling part of your entertainment. It doesn't have to be all the time, we can play it according to the conditions and situations plus sufficient understanding.

You are indeed the one who would really be needing to be that having that will on quitting gambling and you should really mean it and not really just that temporal same as you said. There are people who are really that just good when it comes to words and saying but on the time that they are on the actual situation or condition then they would really be already that forgetting on the things that they are dealing with
or simply then had already rejected or neglect out on quitting because of that change of minds on the time that they do gamble and this is one of the most common problem that we do have
on which you would really be finding yourself get stuck with addiction.

You wont really be able to quit if you wont really be meaning it, you wont really be needing some external help if you are really that serious on quitting on the first place.
You wont really be that get stucked if you do really get serious on quitting or getting rid of it. It all matters on someones control and dedication on quitting
gambling for good but if you do still have those thinking about getting rich then you would definitely fail.

One of my hobbies is psychology, and after I became part of the DuelBits signature campaign, I happily began to study the phenomenon of addiction to bets and casinos. The Internet is full of videos with stories of gamblers and psychologists, based on them I realized that the number one rule for healing a person from addiction is that he himself must want to get rid of addiction. At the same time, do it sincerely, and not at all “put on a temporary” mask who wants to quit gambling. Only truth and repentance.

I think this is the hardest part for a gambling addict to do.  This is also the reason why many are having the difficulty or hard time in treating themselves.  Addicted gambler tends to keep their predicament secret because they are either afraid to be judged or ashamed to admit that they have fallen to gambling addiction.

If it happen that we somehow fallen into gambling addiction, we should eat all our pride and have courage to admit that we are addicted to gambling.  Admitting that we are addicted to gambling is one of the very first step of recovering our sanity.  People who really love us will understand what we are going through and they will surely offer a helping hand in order to treat our gambling addiction.  I agree with @OP that finding someone reliable and will not laugh on our troubles will greatly help us in recovering our control over ourselves.  And don't just look for someone, make sure that the person we confide with our problems are people who are responsible in keeping secrets and is knowledgeable enough to know what to do in order to help us in our situation.

If a gambling addict can tell the truth about his gambling addiction, maybe it can make it easier for the people around him to start helping him. I don't really know anyone who has become a gambling addict, but I heard stories from my neighbours that there is someone in our neighbourhood who has started to become addicted to gambling. My other neighbours often see him gambling using his phone when he is not doing anything. So far, we have known him as someone who is good and never does anything out of the ordinary for the people around us. But I don't know the truth and don't want to find out at this time because there have been no complaints from his family saying that he was addicted to gambling.

No, I haven't been addicted myself. Maybe my family's approach to making our home a safe and open place to explore kept me from going down that road. In answer to your question, the difficulty of gambling addiction lies in the fact that it happens in secret. A lot of the time, addicts et alone and in secret. This behavior comes from a deep-seated fear of being judged and shamed by society. They hide more, and the more they use, the worse their problem gets

The key to prevention is talking to someone early on and with compassion. Your method of talking to them directly and involving your family is admirable. It fits with psychology research that stresses how important it is to have a strong support system. They are more likely to talk when they feel understood and not judged. This first step of recognizing is very important for healing. Even though I haven't helped addicts personally, research shows that the best chance of recovery is when family support is combined with professional counseling and, in some cases, medication.

Correct base on my experience. I have an uncle that is addicted in gambling despite they are poor since he is jobless and only relying to my grandparents sustain. His family including his parents always telling him to stop gambling yet he keeps doing that even though he always losing money that he can use to sustain his family properly.

Until he died, he never stop gambling even though he always create trouble to people around him. People that didn’t want to change is really a waste of time. They should be the one who realize that they are garbage because they will keep doing what they are doing when someone showing care to stop them.

You can only change someone who wants to be changed. Trying to help someone who does not want to be changed is a waste of time. I can help someone who is almost getting addicted as an unprofessional, than someone who has become addicted. Most addicted gamblers require more professional help that what I can offer. The best I can do is to recommend them for help by telling them the need help, or I can offer to pay for the help fee for these people required by the professionals. 

I told someone about the tricks behind gambling and they stop gambling, it's like opening up their eye to what they don't know, but it's just hard fact that I know about gambling, you shouldn't stay away from them at first, not until you sit them down and reveal what gambling truly is all about, it's either they fail to believe your theory or they become a responsible gambler after or they quit, one of these three will happen and if they continue then you can leave them be, such people are ignorant and they like learning by true life events in their own lives.

It's true that no one can change except themselves but some are weak at making decisions even when they knew that they are doing something wrong, they just some know if they should stop or continue, that's why we have people who are good only at leading people, and some people are created to be followers it could sound somehow to you but that's how this world was created, some people will follow you just to avoid doing the wrong things, they find you to be smarter than them.

Good people also become an addict to anything, not just gambling, and because someone is an addict to something doesn't mean that person is a bad person, not all criminals are addicted to something, a serial killer who killed a lot of people use no drugs and he is the most gentle looking person that anyone can fall for, change the way you think in this area mate, when bad people comes they appear as the form of angel, gambling addicts are not bad people.

That is true gambling addicts are elusive when it comes to what they feel and what's going on in their minds, if a gambler suddenly opens up he then needs help to get out of his addiction, and it can only be possible if the right people are approached, the right people who can recommend the right method to get him out of addiction, and the right method is always to consult on professional who can lay out a plan of action to recovery.
Advice alone cannot help a gambler, there should be a course of action that will lead to recovery and regain the confidence to deny the attraction of indulging to much in gambling.

I know someone who is a chronic and addicted gambler but he is not related to me, but he has tried personally to control this habit of his but to an extent it proved abortive, but something happened with the help of his elder brother he got a job in an offshore, so the brother explained the situation to the company because of his position, the company accepted, the decided to give him an ordinary phone that can not browse only make call, so this made him not to have access to the company site and warned their crew members not to give him phone for any reason and anyone found wanting will face query accordingly, his first outside job lasted for 3months, when he come back, his people noticed a drastic change, as am talking to you I heard that he no longer gamble, but to me I see this as a miracle because gambling is not something people quit like that, but it happened in the case if this young man.

To be honest, I can't say how many people I have actually changed from gambling addiction, because I think addiction is a very personal thing.  If the person is not interested on his own to get out of the addiction then there is no way to bring him back. But what I have been able to do is to point out the downsides of gambling addiction to my friends who are a bit addicted and leave the decision in their hands. This is because when a friend of mine gets into gambling through me and later he becomes addicted to gambling, I have no hand in it because of his fault. In that case, I tell them about the risks here, if they take the risk knowingly, I have nothing to say.

I have only been able to assist one person deal with the issue of addiction and that's my younger brother. He was heavily addicted to gambling without anyone knowing. Most of his money for important things goes into gambling and every now and then he will come up with excuses. I decided to put my eyes on him and I was shocked to see the extent to which he has gone with gambling. He target was to win amount that will change the lives of everyone around him forever.  He doesn't target small wins but the maximum payout. This was draining him physically and psychologically.

I had to sit him down and talk some sense into him. I made him realise that his approach may not be the best as gambling might frustrate him if he thinks he can destroy the bookies easily. I'm glad he took my advice and gradually was able to come out of that situation.

Many people are entangled in that situation. Gambling should be done with money that one can afford to lose and not the money for important things like education.  

In fact to overcome these problems one's own mindset is the most important even if an addict shows his problems he does not want to accept them. Gambling addiction is very bad so it is better to stay away from gambling addicts and keep yourself under control even if you come in contact with the addicted person. If you are human if you have a little goodness humanity in you don't gamble anymore don't associate with bad people don't go to gambling dens. You have to look at your own problems addicts often don't want to think about it or don't remember it instead of this habit you have to prepare yourself by analyzing the harmful effects-symptoms or the reasons behind it. Make your life beautiful. Those who know that life is one live life not only looking back but also looking forward look forward don't look back.

It’s actually possible to be addicted in a good way. You want to play more but when you play you do not overstep. If you’re addicted in a bad way and it’s tearing you down, you should talk to your closest friend or neighbor, but you have to tell someone. Try to also use the self-exclusion feature on some gambling platforms to ban yourself for a while. Immediately afterwards, you can find a new distraction; what are the things you like doing? Do then more often. Also, there must be support groups where people can anonymously join and discuss with others / share their experiences (with this you won’t feel like you’re alone). Most importantly, It requires intentionality.