Topic: Letting the cat out of the bag - page 4. (Read 622 times)

If we are able to have the courage to dive into gambling and start betting, then we must also be brave and ready for all the risks we will face, including the problem of gambling addiction. And we ourselves have decided to gamble, so we ourselves should be able to get out of the gambling activities that we do. However, it seems that the problem of gambling addiction is not as easy as we think, so we need help and the role of other people so that we can be truly aware and get rid of this gambling activity.

And when someone has entered the gloomy valley of gambling (addiction), then that person is actually in the most difficult time of his life. And when you enter that gloomy valley, only a few people will try to help you get out of that situation and for the most part, they will just laugh and wait for your destruction. so it is very difficult to find people who really care about the conditions we are experiencing.

Actually when gambling addiction hits you or really have that kind of situation then it wont really be that becomes severe if you are really just that having that control of your senses or awareness on what things happening around. People who dont really share up their condition specially into their family doesnt mean that they cant really be able to do so, it is really just that we are really that afraid that things becomes even more messier
or simply we dont really like to see on whats happening to us even if we do speak about family. We dont like on getting teased or being that scolded or being that discriminate basing up on what we have become.
Somewhat it would really be that giving that kind of shameful feeling whenever you do see that you are really that down. When gets addicted then expect that you are really that on a tough situation
in speaking about finances.

Actually we could really be able to save up ourselves in our own if we are really just that having that will and control on quitting on everything that you are currently experiencing now.
Nothing beats out on human brain if you do really just persevere on quitting because you would really be that normally be finding ways and methods for you to be able
to resolved out on whatever problems that you are facing right now.

We should know that gambling is not for the underaged so we have to identify that we are dealing with adults. Every adult knows what is good or bad for him or her and we should always respect people's privacy. You don't have the right to intrude in someone's personal life until you are invited or you have clear evidence that such a person needs help. 

Most gambling addicts don't always accept or believe that they are addicted or need help. And even they know about their problem they tend to keep it to themselves because of societal stigma. People always see gambling addicts as untrustworthy even when they are free from addiction. This is why some of them prefer to die in silence. Some of them might also keep it secret because they don't trust anyone and there is no counselor or addiction therapist in their location.

But I will always tell people suffering from gambling disorders to seek help from reliable friends, family, or trained personnel. They shouldn't be ashamed of stigma or discrimination because their health is more important than the shame they are avoiding. They can also seek help online if they want to protect their privacy. We should also help these challenged people anytime they come to us for any form of assistance that will make them break free from addiction.

Gambling addiction normally is something of self discipline and determination so I believe that what you said that it's actually the affected person that can help himself stop this act. Most addicted person that I know are very hard to give advice to and even if you give them advice they usually tend to do what's in their mind and that's why only the person that is affected can help himself. But most cases I have seen too, the affected person usually get some help from family and friends, especially people that have gone to the extreme with their hobby.

I may be wrong and stand to be correct but those who are addicted to gambling are those who live a secluded lifestyle. They have no friends, social life, hobbies, relationships. They are introverts. These are the folks who are at higher risk of getting addicted to gambling. They find comfort in it.

Cool beans. The OP can proudly beat his or her chest and reply when ask what is their contribution to making the society a better place. They'll reply and say that they have been able to help some gamblers recover from their addictions which they have struggled with for so long.

Have never dealt with a rock bottom gambler in my life.  A lot of my friends like me are casual betters and just lay bets on sports to make them more entertaining, fantasy football leagues etc.  Same thing with brick and mortar casinos, go there to have fun.  No one has had life issues like losing a family, house, missing bills etc.  But I'd have to say it's difficult to alter anyone addicted to anything.  Most of the time they need professional help for permanent results.

Good to know that these people are getting and being helped by their mutuals. It is indeed amazing especially those who managed to escape addiction not only in gambling but also with other related conditions. Truly a display of courage ‘coz no matter how we would want to help people get out of addiction, if they are neglecting and being avoidant of the solution we tend to offer, then nothing would happen. They also play a key-role in those instances not only people who offered the help.This is really a problem. But with addiction it is a case wherein the individual is only aware of what addiction is but not aware of how symptoms are being displayed through behavior and drive. The initiative will always come from the helper but the one being helped should also exert effort to create the changes.

The idea of being kind to the gamblers is also a great one, as they lack the love from society and family. Everyone wants to stay clear from them and wouldn't want to associate with an addict. But that's really wrong. Most of them for into deeper trouble in life, due to the ill treatment they get from loved ones. With your idea of inviting them to our homes and offering them good relationship can alter their compulsive gambling thoughts to a better reason in life. They could begin visiting the house once a while. But, what could be the fate of the player or you when he goes back to gamble with the funds you've offered them. Trying to fix them into a business or job when they're not yet free from addiction is very risky. Because when they make things difficult for the company, messing with their funds, it can derail your reputation for referring such a nuisance into their business. The goal remains trying to change them first, by providing any possible alternative, that can keep them away from gambling. Or visiting gambling shops. It could be channeled to video games or its type. Although, it's quite expensive to do that for somebody, but the whole process worth it, and he'll always be grateful to have known a person like you. Who volunteered to make out the best in them.

Maybe we should really slow down in all this discussions patterning to gambling addiction, I personally think we have so much discussed about this that it looks like we have no other thing related to gambling to discuss aside from addiction in or to gambling.

Anyways, I only have had one friend who was really addicted to gambling, and this was a very long time ago, at this time, I myself wasn't a gambler, so I didnt know what gambling addiction was, all I knew was that he was gambling way too much than normal, and I did advice him from time to time to slow down with gambling because he was wasting too much money.

It was much later when I too started gambling, that I realized that my this friend of mine was dealing with gambling addiction, unfortunately, there was not enough time to help him since I relocated to another state the next year and soon we lost communication with each other, I hope he's doing well wherever he is now though.

I have to believe you on this because those who do things secretly have no knowledge about what they are doing, secret things are so hard to stop as no one will tell the person or advice the gambler to quit or just take a break.
Those that don't gamble for fun can not make there gambling life be a secret to others mostly their fellow gambler, but only their family members.
However, it is only the new gamblers that can do such things,whereby hiding their gamble life very far from their love ones to know, secret things are very hard to stop but if they can still make it open to others, then they can also get help from others.

If its your mission to help those gambling addicts, youre gonna have to go understand what motivates them to gamble because its mostly for profit. They wanna make money, they'd not come back for more if they don't need money.

To certain friends they can share their addiction but to fellow family members, its going to complicate things for him. They hid it for reasons and sometimes it already was an issue before.

Remember a secret shared is no more a secret but it is now a public information. Even though the person has not broadcast it in the public but for the fact that the information is not with you again it is a public information. And this not the first time this has been discussed that it is not easy to convince an addicted gamblers to leave gambling. And that should be a rigorous process to go about it because if you used force then you could spoiled everything for the process.

If the person goes out to casino centers to gamble then you can invite the person to your house and prepare a delicious meal for him and discuss with him to stop gambling and after the discussion, you gave the him small cash to buy things he likes because most of those addicted gamblers are doing it because of hunger and unemployment. Though you can't help him like that forever so if possible look for job for him to do to earn money monthly.

This won't help, it just won't help for sure am telling you. Take addicted smokers for example, irrespective of the diagram of a damaged lungs caused by smoking that's been labeled on the cigarettes packs as a warning to scare and discourage addicted smokers from continuing smoking and reduce or stop smoking they are not moved by it, neither does it make them worry about their health what the smoking can also cause to them. It is the same scenario with gambling addicts what can save them from the addiction is thorough rehabilitation from specialist in the field.

Our environment is what keeps us in addiction, changing to a different zone can only be effective in some kinds of addiction. If a person is already in severe gambling addiction he may not be cured by traveling out of his environment. He needs a medical practitioner to help change his life through emotional techniques. Which helps the gambler to understand, he's truly in pain. And that the doctor can help him out of such pain. Whenever the addicted person decides to meet an expert, his problems becomes half solved. Where the problem sleeps is when the addicted person, doesn't have in mind what's actually their problem. They still enjoy the habit of gambling addiction. Such that, their mental health, despite being hurt, still claim to derive joy in gambling. It's like enjoying something that hurts at same time. The process will be difficult to quit. But, once the person is getting back to their senses and creating a routine that can work for them, in limiting their bad habit. The journey to change starts coming to light. The problem never gets solved, when kept secret. Saying it out, is also a good remedy in sunning the problem in the light, for others to see and contribute ways of solving them. Nobody would care if people doesn't know what's actually happening in the life of a gambling addict. Those who tend to stop and control themselves to become free from addiction are really strong people. I must commend you, Docnaster, for breaking free all by yourself. It is never easy to change people. The techniques required is not simple. Most times in trying to change them, the whole problem would worsen as the addicted person would begin to think we are the cause of their problems.

I have a friend who is addicted to gambling. It's a good thing about my friend that he tells me about the gambling he does, how much money he loses and what else. At first it was just small bets until it grew little by little and he stopped going to school because of his gambling, it reached the point where he was borrowing money from me and I found out that he had already bet his school tuition fee too , I told him that what he is doing is wrong, what he is doing now is not worth it. He changed his future just for gambling. So what I do is I always invite him, I always talk to him, I'm always there for him so that he can avoid gambling. I made him realize that there are many better things to do than gambling, after a few months he became okay. They really just need someone to talk to and guide them when they lose their way while their addiction to gambling is not too deep.

That someone should be the right person to talk to about gambling addiction, not just an acquaintance, not just your relative it should be someone who understands addiction and depression, who can lead you to the right agency or professional that can treat your addiction.
Admitting addiction to gambling is one of the dilemmas of gamblers, they are lost on who to turn to if they want to get help that is why there are groups that specialize in this, these groups of former gambling addiction are the right group to talk, they know how to treat you and they know what you really want so reach to these groups and you are in the right path.

I get that people look at gambling addiction in various ways.  My friends who like to gamble may seem like addicts to some, but I don't really think they are.  You can't just make blanket statements and say that anyone who gambles is an addict automatically.  Most folks I know actually have a decent grip on their gambling.  For them it's more like a hobby than an addiction and  addictions definitely a big issue, but at the same time, some people can enjoy gambling sensibly without it taking over their lives.

So True.. Addiction is not a joke, whatever addiction it is. No one can help the addicted people, untill the addicted people decides to help himself.
But while self-determination plays a crucial role in the recovery process, external support and intervention can make a significant difference in encouraging and guiding individuals towards seeking help and navigating the path to recovery. This needs expert, of course.

Social environment has big affection towards addicted people, if he want to recover from the addiction, he need to walk away form the place he live in, and find a better social environment. This is why play pivotal role in the recovery. Their love, understanding, and consistent encouragement can be a powerful force in helping individuals embark on the path to recovery.

I wouldn't consider myself an addict or a problem gambler. I've gone years without gambling and don't mind going off the thing for as long as needed. Frankly, I don't have gambling in my mind all that much. But it does take some philosophy to come to this mindset. I'll admit that once I did lose an amount that at the time was substantial to me. After this I really had to prep myself to understand that working and learning is more important from the momentary pleasure of winning n gambling.

Once you have good end enjoyable things for you to focus your life on, gambling would be nothing more on a hobby. Your bets should always be amounts that you wouldn't mind losing. Just as you throw some cash away at buying drinks every weekend for instance, going gambling should be limited to amounts you're comfortable never seeing again. But if you see yourself getting carried away easily and having thoughts that you must win back what you lost, just stop and think, are bigger losses worth it? Maybe it's time to just stop. So for anyone, a bad moment can be a big lesson. Don't let bad thoughts make you a problem gambler.

I don't remember talking sense into any addicted gambler. After all, I've never had anyone confess their gambling addiction in front of me and express concern about their life and everything because I believe most gamblers don't do that and they barely accept the fact that they are addicted and need assistance, only a few realize that they are addicted and the addiction is ruining their lives and they need to find a way to control that before it's too late.

So, the count is zero for me, and I know that I won't be able to talk someone out of their addiction and make them ready to stop gambling just to get out of the addiction because it's not that easy for them to accept this since the urge to gamble gets very strong when a person has reached a high level in their addiction.