Topic: Life with a Gambler - Solution! (Read 1179 times)
Some people gets addicted to gambling without even knowing. They see it as a normal thing, but can't let a single day pass without placing a bet. While some people knows, but don't know how to get out of it. I know a man who sold his properties, just to gamble. I think the first step of getting out of gambling addiction, is realising and accepting that you are a gambling addicts, then you have to make the decision of getting out. Although, is not always an easy process. It requires time and determination.
[...]
this is a 2018 thread, although the question OP talks about is something that no matter how many years pass there will always be this problem in the gambling world, I think we should have let this thread die and create another one if anyone wanted to discuss this subject that has been seen in the gambling world
[...]
this is a 2018 thread, although the question OP talks about is something that no matter how many years pass there will always be this problem in the gambling world, I think we should have let this thread die and create another one if anyone wanted to discuss this subject that has been seen in the gambling world
A person is able to defeat any addiction. If he can define it as a problem.
If this problem is noticed by everyone except the addicted person, it requires the intervention of a "specialist".
The sooner the problem is found, the sooner you can get rid of it.
I didn't experience it nor experiencing it right now but I know a lot of people here in my place who are addicted to gambling (cock fighting, poker, and lottery). I thought if they lost their job, they would quit gambling because they don't have anything to bet, but I was wrong. They made a loan to loan sharks, and this is the one they are using to support their addiction in gambling, which leads to disaster.
Gambling addiction will give you a pile of stress and problems if you're not going to solve it, instead you're just making it worst every single day by betting and betting until your debt is as big as your addiction.
Gambling addiction will give you a pile of stress and problems if you're not going to solve it, instead you're just making it worst every single day by betting and betting until your debt is as big as your addiction.
Không có một giải pháp nào cho vấn đề này. Cờ bạc là một chứng nghiện, vì vậy cách hành động tốt nhất là ủng hộ họ và đưa ra các cách để tái tham gia vào một thứ gì đó khác, hoặc có thể tổ chức một cuộc thảo luận về các buổi trị liệu có thể xảy ra?
You reached thi Rank but does not know the rules of forum? never post local language in English board in which this is a section for english posts only.Reported for deletion and for checking from mods.
In gambling we should only use our money, if we run out, we must go home. Don't use children's rationing, our wives to gamble because it must be very painful for them. If you want to gamble, use our personal money.
That is a good suggestion but I will stick to what other people say to me, instead of gambling, why don't you invest your money on your children and family? It is something that made me realize that I am risking my money into gambling while my family has a great future ahead of them than my gambling. I'd rather risk my money into my family rather than use it on gambling.
Good thinking, but have you also thought about the possibility of winning millions from gambling, a substantial amount that will give both you and your family joy?
A better approach for me is keeping the money you spend for gambling in check. This may be achieved by drawing up a monthly or weekly budget depending on how you earn and allocating a certain percentage of your income to gambling and then try to stick to it.
controlling ones self to not gamble the next day or straight for almost one whole month can be uncomfortable .
we shouldnt spend all the funds for one day but we should stretch it into smaller parts so that we can gamble most of the times and we can easily survive months and months by just spending less money .
gamblers life is not easy but theres always a solution to keep them going .
A person is able to defeat any addiction. If he can define it as a problem.
If this problem is noticed by everyone except the addicted person, it requires the intervention of a "specialist".
The sooner the problem is found, the sooner you can get rid of it.
I have never been addicted to gambling at any point I have been into gambling since 2015 and since then I only gamble what I can only afford to lose and as such I don't tie my source of income to it. I think lack of tangible occupation could be one of the key reasons for addiction which first starts with greed and urgency for quick money. Blackmailing loved ones who are addicted has never helped the problem but talking to them in love can go a long way to help control the addition
Agree, when there is a lack of work, someone can become a gambling addict because they think gambling can provide income. Addicts who are a burden to their family or people around are certainly very bad addicts, because some other addicts will not burden others even though they get defeat and that is a control they have. But when the case is that we become people who are affected by the destruction of the addict itself, then our attitude can help him and help him to get out of his problems. But if we can't afford it, then I think we can take a stand to leave it because after all we also have to think about our destiny for ourselves. 
A person is able to defeat any addiction. If he can define it as a problem.
If this problem is noticed by everyone except the addicted person, it requires the intervention of a "specialist".
The sooner the problem is found, the sooner you can get rid of it.
Không có một giải pháp nào cho vấn đề này. Cờ bạc là một chứng nghiện, vì vậy cách hành động tốt nhất là ủng hộ họ và đưa ra các cách để tái tham gia vào một thứ gì đó khác, hoặc có thể tổ chức một cuộc thảo luận về các buổi trị liệu có thể xảy ra?
You reached thi Rank but does not know the rules of forum? never post local language in English board in which this is a section for english posts only.Reported for deletion and for checking from mods.
I have never been addicted to gambling at any point I have been into gambling since 2015 and since then I only gamble what I can only afford to lose and as such I don't tie my source of income to it. I think lack of tangible occupation could be one of the key reasons for addiction which first starts with greed and urgency for quick money. Blackmailing loved ones who are addicted has never helped the problem but talking to them in love can go a long way to help control the addition
Your attitude is what gamblers need to know and use so they will never become addicted in long term .
I have never been addicted to gambling at any point I have been into gambling since 2015 and since then I only gamble what I can only afford to lose and as such I don't tie my source of income to it. I think lack of tangible occupation could be one of the key reasons for addiction which first starts with greed and urgency for quick money. Blackmailing loved ones who are addicted has never helped the problem but talking to them in love can go a long way to help control the addition
In gambling we should only use our money, if we run out, we must go home. Don't use children's rationing, our wives to gamble because it must be very painful for them. If you want to gamble, use our personal money.
That is a good suggestion but I will stick to what other people say to me, instead of gambling, why don't you invest your money on your children and family? It is something that made me realize that I am risking my money into gambling while my family has a great future ahead of them than my gambling. I'd rather risk my money into my family rather than use it on gambling.
Good thinking, but have you also thought about the possibility of winning millions from gambling, a substantial amount that will give both you and your family joy?
A better approach for me is keeping the money you spend for gambling in check. This may be achieved by drawing up a monthly or weekly budget depending on how you earn and allocating a certain percentage of your income to gambling and then try to stick to it.
In gambling we should only use our money, if we run out, we must go home. Don't use children's rationing, our wives to gamble because it must be very painful for them. If you want to gamble, use our personal money.
That is a good suggestion but I will stick to what other people say to me, instead of gambling, why don't you invest your money on your children and family? It is something that made me realize that I am risking my money into gambling while my family has a great future ahead of them than my gambling. I'd rather risk my money into my family rather than use it on gambling.
Good thinking, but have you also thought about the possibility of winning millions from gambling, a substantial amount that will give both you and your family joy?
A better approach for me is keeping the money you spend for gambling in check. This may be achieved by drawing up a monthly or weekly budget depending on how you earn and allocating a certain percentage of your income to gambling and then try to stick to it.
Some people are provided to be a gambler because they only hope on gambling.And it is good if you know how to manage being a gambler to profit But if you're become an addict there's no good thing to do in your life.
It is difficult to manage our time for playing gambling games because all we want to do is how we can win the games which are too difficult if we don't have a luck. We need to know that gambling will make us become addicting in gambling itself and we have a choice to play in every day or play in our free time. We already know about the risk of gambling but unfortunately, we are tempting to chase the money in the game so we continue to play the games.
Although it seems to you that there are no solutions, I assure you that your answer is within your reach. The answer to the question of what you should do cannot be given to you by your friends, families or even experts, but only by yourself.
What I can tell you is that you can not influence the will of your loved one to solve the problem if he/her ever thinks he has it. The behavior of the loved one can certainly indicate that he/her is a gambling-dependent person. Gambling addiction is sometimes referred to as - "hidden disease" because there are no obvious physical signs or symptoms such as drug dependence or alcohol dependence. Compulsive gamblers usually deny or alleviate the problem, and they do everything that is in their power to hide their problem.
The gambling addiction is the type of impulse control disorders and because of that, the compulsive gamblers cannot control gambling impulse, even when they know how bad and harmful they are. The gambling problem can burden relationships, hinder responsibility at home and at work, and lead to a financial disaster. Although gambling addiction can be cured, every treatment is the key readiness of a person to admit to having a problem and wanting help.
In most cases, the relationship is burdened to such an extent that it also affects the health of the non-gambler in a relationship, and ultimately determines the further course of life that does not go in the desired direction. Blackmailing the loved one to terminate the addiction will not lead to the desired effect, nor the "forced" treatment will. If a loved one is not aware of at the moment that he/her has a problem that needs to be resolved, none of the above solutions will result in improvement.
It is important that you realize what you want and how well you are willing to neglect your own needs, wishes and priorities until your loved one feels he/her has a problem.
I suggest an honest conversation with the loved one, without condemnation and blackmail, which will show you in what way is he/her looking at his/her own problem, and then comes your decision about the further course of the relationship: the willingness to fight with the uncertain end, or the decision to continue your life course in the other direction.
To all of you with the same problem, I wish a lot of luck and courage!
My questions are:
Do you have the same problem at home?
If you have this particular problem are you trying to solve it?
If you have solved it, can you share your "personal fight" flow and outcome here?
Thank you!
What I can tell you is that you can not influence the will of your loved one to solve the problem if he/her ever thinks he has it. The behavior of the loved one can certainly indicate that he/her is a gambling-dependent person. Gambling addiction is sometimes referred to as - "hidden disease" because there are no obvious physical signs or symptoms such as drug dependence or alcohol dependence. Compulsive gamblers usually deny or alleviate the problem, and they do everything that is in their power to hide their problem.
The gambling addiction is the type of impulse control disorders and because of that, the compulsive gamblers cannot control gambling impulse, even when they know how bad and harmful they are. The gambling problem can burden relationships, hinder responsibility at home and at work, and lead to a financial disaster. Although gambling addiction can be cured, every treatment is the key readiness of a person to admit to having a problem and wanting help.
In most cases, the relationship is burdened to such an extent that it also affects the health of the non-gambler in a relationship, and ultimately determines the further course of life that does not go in the desired direction. Blackmailing the loved one to terminate the addiction will not lead to the desired effect, nor the "forced" treatment will. If a loved one is not aware of at the moment that he/her has a problem that needs to be resolved, none of the above solutions will result in improvement.
It is important that you realize what you want and how well you are willing to neglect your own needs, wishes and priorities until your loved one feels he/her has a problem.
I suggest an honest conversation with the loved one, without condemnation and blackmail, which will show you in what way is he/her looking at his/her own problem, and then comes your decision about the further course of the relationship: the willingness to fight with the uncertain end, or the decision to continue your life course in the other direction.
To all of you with the same problem, I wish a lot of luck and courage!
My questions are:
Do you have the same problem at home?
If you have this particular problem are you trying to solve it?
If you have solved it, can you share your "personal fight" flow and outcome here?
Thank you!
Some people are provided to be a gambler because they only hope on gambling.And it is good if you know how to manage being a gambler to profit But if you're become an addict there's no good thing to do in your life.
the main factor is the environment, if the environment where we live is far from gambling, then gambling addiction can be reduced little by little because there are no friends to play. and the economic situation that is falling sometimes can also be a reason for gambling addicts to stop even for a moment.
But now online casinos are mushrooming and even though our environment is far from gambling the possibility of becoming an addict remains because online gambling can be done without the need of friends. We should do extra efforts nowadays to make sure our kids won't affected by gambling stuffs and things.
Doesn't this sound a bit unrealistic and hypocritical? You're advertising a casino, posting on a gambling board, possibly are a gambler yourself, and you're preaching that the rise of online gambling makes it easier to get addicted and that we should make kids stay away from it? Are you joking?
You don't become an addict by having access to a product. You can buy alcohol in every store and it's not very expensive, but less than 1 person out of 100 becomes an alcoholic.
the main factor is the environment, if the environment where we live is far from gambling, then gambling addiction can be reduced little by little because there are no friends to play. and the economic situation that is falling sometimes can also be a reason for gambling addicts to stop even for a moment.
But now online casinos are mushrooming and even though our environment is far from gambling the possibility of becoming an addict remains because online gambling can be done without the need of friends. We should do extra efforts nowadays to make sure our kids won't affected by gambling stuffs and things.
In gambling we should only use our money, if we run out, we must go home. Don't use children's rationing, our wives to gamble because it must be very painful for them. If you want to gamble, use our personal money.
That is a good suggestion but I will stick to what other people say to me, instead of gambling, why don't you invest your money on your children and family? It is something that made me realize that I am risking my money into gambling while my family has a great future ahead of them than my gambling. I'd rather risk my money into my family rather than use it on gambling.
Yes, this one of the suggestion to gamblers out there because gambling will surely kill us when we are addictive to it and which we cannot able to spend time with the family. It is always good to spend time with families and find other sources of investment, in order to spend some time with the families.
Besides that, we can lose all of our money which we can use for our family and gives them a better life in the future. It is always better if we can thinking about our family because without them, we are nothing and with them, I am sure that we can reach something that we want. So it is a good suggestion for every people which still in the gambling games or for some people who want to quit from gambling games itself. Remember your family, give them a happy, spend your time with them and you will get something that you cannot imagine before.
the main factor is the environment, if the environment where we live is far from gambling, then gambling addiction can be reduced little by little because there are no friends to play. and the economic situation that is falling sometimes can also be a reason for gambling addicts to stop even for a moment.
Well, in a way, environment can actually get to have a lot of part to play most of the time, and that is simply because what you are exposed to most especially at an early age, can make you to see things that are not normal as a normal thing because of those exposure, and if you manage to find yourself doing things in that lane without some extra caution, the chances of being fully exposed to it will always be there. Life with a gambler is something that can be crazy, most especially when you are trying to make them see reason to reality but they just do not want to. Jump to: