Topic: Life with a Gambler - Solution! - page 8. (Read 1239 times)

Ahhh, I'll never forget what I experienced before 4 years ago when I was still living at my grandmother's place. I have an uncle who was well-off before. He used to treat our family with stuff and unexpected surprises, not to mention his lovable and caring attitude. He had this wonderful girlfriend who cherished him for 7 years until the day came that he lost his job. At that time, everything started to fell and his life revolved around vices like drugs, gambling, and other relevant stuff. Our family tried to support and help him despite his downfall but the ultimate decision on whether he would fix himself relies upon him only.

Last July 6, 2013, I almost got killed by my own uncle who tried to stab me using our kitchen knife JUST because I did not let him borrow any of my money to pay off his debts due to gambling. Unfortunately, I did not tell my mom about the whole story as it may aggravate the situation (he was living inside our house and mom's house was beside- we have one lot and land) and I might get myself into trouble as he threatened me. As years passed by, we tried to help him by putting him into REHAB and by providing him with all the necessities and things are getting back to normal. Although slowly, but the current was going through that kind of positive light.

The moral of the story: despite any difficulties and hardships, when people are at their lowest point they judgement becomes clouded and makes them irrational and indecisive of the decisions that they do. Although I am not invalidating and defending him from what he did to me, continuous support from your family and UNDERSTANDING from both ends would result relatively to a positive impact.

The earning from the gambling site is not that much high when compare to gambling rewards but we have less risks because we knows that the house has more odds to win.People just want quick money and become millionaire over night is the reason fro gambling addiction and losses.

I think if he is your best friend, maybe you can talk to him and give some advice to him. maybe he will listen to you and slowly he will change his mind and he will think to stop gambling. usually, if someone has the closest friend, he will listen to his advice and will do what his friend suggest and he will change as the suggestion has given.

This is the main problem in touch with gambler. After some time you will also start gambling because of the community. I think before you become addicted of gambling you should leave their company. Bad habit and bad people have bad impact on your life. I try to keep avoid of such people and such game. I don’t want to be dis respected in my surroundings.

Yeah that's right, I have a friend and he has an unstable psychology, I mean he always focuses on something he wants even if he really likes what he wants then everything he has done before just a moment will he forgeten. Until now he gambled without time and even he forgot the needs of his family. This is the worst situation experienced by a gambler, and I am concerned about it.

Yes, that's why there are many people afraid to gamble because once they start playing definitely they will start making money in the beginning, this makes them invest more money in gambling. So it is always good to stay away from the gambling once after losing in gambling.

I know a guy who used to be an addicted gambler and according to him you can't really help an addict. You have to make him touch the bottom and realize that if he doesn't change his life will be over. Only when he starts being afraid of his addiction will he be able to start fighting it.
That guy that I'm talking about was borrowing money everywhere and even sold his car to have money for gambling, but he survived and recovered. If you know an addict, don't let him drag you down with him or you will only extend his fall and make it all hader for both of you. I know it sounds harsh but it's the truth.

but still, many people still curious about gambling games and they still come again on the other days but the result will be the same as a few days ago. they need to realize that gambling cannot be as a source of income and it is only a game that we can enjoy without spending too much money. maybe they can try to invest their money with the gambling site and I think this will more effective than they are playing gambling.

Gambling is just for fun,if you can't afford to it then we have to stay away from it because many people will going to lose their money in gambling that is how the system being designed.But if you still want to earn money from ambling better being an investor on it the odds of making profits is high but the percentage will be less,so it is like passive income from your money.

We mostly have the same scenario mate , I can say that I have addiction problem also before ,there were times that I cannot control myself I always look ways to gamble, but like you I just realize one day that there is more important thing that I can use my money , for my future and for my kids. It is hard to stop if you already used to gamble but if you are willing to earn you will stop wasting your money in gambling and think for brighter tomorrow.

I don’t have any gambler friend because i think that gambling is a bad thing and so the gamblers. I do not gamble because I do not want to lose my hard earn money so easily. So when I think that gambling is bad think how can I have a gambler friend? If he forces you to visit casino with him and you go with him, one day you will start gambling.  Keep avoid of such friends.

Everything works when is done or used in some limits. That’s why when we buy some new electronic appliance, there is a note printed somewhere on that thing with precautionary measurements written on it. These precautionary measures are basically the limits of that thing which means that beside these circumstances, this thing will not work.

Playing gambling in times will make you become dependent on it but also the people who tried gambling for two to three times in their lives only, they also would become addicted to it because gambling is more addiction than the addiction itself. When the person starts following gambling, no other substitute can be found of it for the people.

Like all forms of addiction/affliction, pain or suffering, it's actually really difficult to empathise if you've never experienced it before. As I grow older, I am more open to trying to understand things, no matter how insensible they seem to me. I can't ever see myself losing control in gambling, but perhaps I've never really made myself vulnerable to such situations. I do find shades of irresponsibility within my limits - countless times losing a bit more than I intended to, a few times depositing more when I promised not to, just to chase back losses. But perhaps on worse days, less desirable personal situations, I could have gone a few steps farther, and then it's hard to say what could have happened next.

Living alone is always going to be difficult, no matter the rigours of self-discipline. It's good to see the recognition that having friends and family help keep an eye on you, having first being open about the problem, is critical to keeping that addiction at bay.

As audacious suggests above, perhaps keep control of finances. Bitcoin makes this a bit easier. Keeping the private keys on savings and income, and funneling whatever you're comfortable with to her, until she can trust herself again.

Man, you are the only one here I think who is saying this. Gambling has a lot of positivity? Where it is? Why this positivity is not seen to us? Why people are getting so much negativity in gambling and why they are not making themselves beneficial with this positivity? I think this all is just a loss of mind. You are out of your mind or somehow you better become blind with greed for money.

I have also experienced going home without any winnings in gambling and i get really upset when i lost all of my money in gambling, but i do not get addicted in gambling because i only play when my friends just ask me to play. Only my friends who are a regular that almost every night they play in the casino and always expecting to win a huge profit.

Nice story, I really enjoyed. I have also a friend who is regular gambler and I also visited with him for many times, but I just look out and never gamble because I have no experience of gambling. I have never seen him winning big money and took it to home, he always lost and not only he but all other gambler also lost money. Only the owner of the place collects money.

But I am against this point. Reason is, why to involve families in this harmful game. Once you have decided to make fun of yourself and trying to ruin your own life, then why to grab shoulders of your family too? Don’t do this. Take good care of them and don’t let them down by doing this harmful gaming. Better to pledge on right way and that owl only lead you to best gate out.

people which around us can give a bad experience to us especially if they are often to play gambling, soon or later, we can attract to the games and we will difficult to leave the gambling. and if this is happening, maybe he needs to quit his job and search for another job because he cannot reject his friends to play gambling. but if he realizes that he doesn't have to follow with his friends then he can stay with his job and he needs to always reject if his friend wants to ask him to play gambling.

Gambling becomes an addiction whenever people tends to overdo it and that is when they start to spend all their money and time gambling instead of doing other important things. Gambling in itself is no problem but when it becomes extreme and addiction there is when the problem begins.