Topic: Life with a Gambler - Solution! - page 3. (Read 1179 times)

This is a delimit that we don’t want to leave this gambling thing. Most of the times when people think they must earn money and need some good earning source, instead of joining bitcoin world, they mostly prefer gambling. Why this is so? Because they are greedy. Their greed took over all their mind capabilities and assign it to go for such easy earning money source.

It is really sad. Especially people who have children - family should control themselves more than others, because they are responsible for their family too.

It is really sad. Especially people who have children - family should control themselves more than others, because they are responsible for their family too.

Addicted and immature gambler never think about it. They only know how to collect money for playing gambling, even in worst condition they will play gambling with their children’s school fees.  The never think about their family even do not think about his own life.

Addiction should always be addressed right away. It's like a little plant at first, not really taking up that much space. Every time you gamble, you're watering that plant. Until one day, that plan has become a tree. And the roots are a lot more deeper. And the trunk and branches of the tree are thicker than ever. Mental health is an issue that's been around for a long time. People think that gambling addiction is a phase and everyone has had it. Everyone did gambling in their lives, but not everyone got addicted to it. Up to now, addiction is still an issue that a lot of people are talking about, but not really fixing. Mental health is just as important as physical health, probably even more important. Funny because it was only recently when a law in my country was established about getting help with mental health.

As a gambler, you should realize that your life isn't just a life for yourself. Your life is also for your family and your friends. You might think that they aren't affected by your actions but they really really are deeply affected by it.

The solutions can be so intense, but for furthermore developments to happen as a gambler we should learn how to move on in times of failures. One way of that is to overcome our bad habits and control the situations which leads us to addictions. Self control must be learned so that we will be able to withstand the current struggles, and if you wanted to get away with gambling always think about your family and future financial security.

Although it seems to you that there are no solutions, I assure you that your answer is within your reach. The answer to the question of what you should do cannot be given to you by your friends, families or even experts, but only by yourself.

What I can tell you is that you can not influence the will of your loved one to solve the problem if he/her ever thinks he has it. The behavior of the loved one can certainly indicate that he/her is a gambling-dependent person. Gambling addiction is sometimes referred to as - "hidden disease" because there are no obvious physical signs or symptoms such as drug dependence or alcohol dependence. Compulsive gamblers usually deny or alleviate the problem, and they do everything that is in their power to hide their problem.

The gambling addiction is the type of impulse control disorders and because of that, the compulsive gamblers cannot control gambling impulse, even when they know how bad and harmful they are. The gambling problem can burden relationships, hinder responsibility at home and at work, and lead to a financial disaster. Although gambling addiction can be cured, every treatment is the key readiness of a person to admit to having a problem and wanting help.

In most cases, the relationship is burdened to such an extent that it also affects the health of the non-gambler in a relationship, and ultimately determines the further course of life that does not go in the desired direction. Blackmailing the loved one to terminate the addiction will not lead to the desired effect, nor the "forced" treatment will. If a loved one is not aware of at the moment that he/her has a problem that needs to be resolved, none of the above solutions will result in improvement.

It is important that you realize what you want and how well you are willing to neglect your own needs, wishes and priorities until your loved one feels he/her has a problem.

I suggest an honest conversation with the loved one, without condemnation and blackmail, which will show you in what way is he/her looking at his/her own problem, and then comes your decision about the further course of the relationship: the willingness to fight with the uncertain end, or the decision to continue your life course in the other direction.



To all of you with the same problem, I wish a lot of luck and courage!



My questions are:

Do you have the same problem at home?

If you have this particular problem are you trying to solve it?

If you have solved it, can you share your "personal fight" flow and outcome here?

Thank you!

The solutions can be so intense, but for furthermore developments to happen as a gambler we should learn how to move on in times of failures. One way of that is to overcome our bad habits and control the situations which leads us to addictions. Self control must be learned so that we will be able to withstand the current struggles, and if you wanted to get away with gambling always think about your family and future financial security.

I think the psychic of every addict is almost the same, they want to continue playing because they are already familiar with that activity and they think that they can get big profit from gambling, actually we can use the same method for all addicts but not everyone can come out because of the desire and intention to healing in each person is different, that's the difference. I agree with you maybe you can focus more on your hobby or what you like and spend time in it, until you forget about gambling

Right.Gambling may only become  positive and even profitable if a person involved knows how to handle enough his winnings and losses.Cause if not,better to get away from gambling now or else it will only cause damages in your own personal life in the latter part.

Solutions to this problem vary per person. It may or may not have the same effect as to the other but it never hurts to try. I think one of the most effective solutions is to invest on a new hobby (that does not relate or is a far different category to gambling). Once you’ve invested in that, you’ll be able to spend more time to that hobby and to yourself. Little you’d know, you no longer find yourself gambling.

Solutions to this problem vary per person. It may or may not have the same effect as to the other but it never hurts to try. I think one of the most effective solutions is to invest on a new hobby (that does not relate or is a far different category to gambling). Once you’ve invested in that, you’ll be able to spend more time to that hobby and to yourself. Little you’d know, you no longer find yourself gambling.

Solutions to this problem vary per person. It may or may not have the same effect as to the other but it never hurts to try. I think one of the most effective solutions is to invest on a new hobby (that does not relate or is a far different category to gambling). Once you’ve invested in that, you’ll be able to spend more time to that hobby and to yourself. Little you’d know, you no longer find yourself gambling.

I haven’t got that problem at home but an acquaintance I know used to spend too much in slot machines and the solution was self-will and leaving all kind of gambling forever, the same way for an alcoholic the solution relies on self-will and not drinking a drop more for the rest of their lives. Just one drop leads to the same old self-destructive pattern, the same way as just one bet.

I don’t agree with it being called a “hidden disease”. There might not be physical signs or symptoms but someone with a real problem spends too much and that’s clear symptom of a behavioral problem and they cannot hide it for long.

The saying "easy get, easy to lose" fits so well when it comes to this situation.
Gambling addicts usually gets addicted to the part where they can earn "easy" money if they could just win but what they don't realize is that they lose more through the process.
Unless, that is if he's a very lucky guy whose odds are always in his favor.

“Hard Work Is The Only Shortcut To Success"
Gambling addicts should be thought on how to make their lives more productive.

these are exceptional cases i think, but as a whole i do not think that most of the gamblers are too much successful in gambling. I do not think that there is any better future for most of the gambler.

I, once, made a thread and I said that if you want to quit gambling, you should quit yourself. What I meant by "Yourself" is that you should be the exact opposite of yourself. If you are a gambler, then you should not be a gambler. It is quite too philosophical to fathom. But it really helps if you truly know yourself. Added to that, every addiction has a cure. If you cannot cure yourself, then how can you cure others? How can you sit down with your loved ones and listen to their problems without advising them?