Topic: Marriage vs. Divorce - page 3. (Read 796 times)

Problems between husband and wife are a common thing. The real problem is could you handle that situation and survive your marriage life. Many couple couldn't handle it and decided to get divorced. As for me, if you can forgive your partner then give them a second chance. Because we are only human and human makes mistakes. But if you can't stand their attitude, maybe your husband hit you a lot, tend to crush things, then yes you can have a divorce. Better to separate before it's too late.

As the OP said, marriage is a commitment of two persons. Thse differences could be managed and changed with the right help and guidance. But then again i still agree with divorce. I wouldn't want my daughter to stay in a marriage if she's being battered with in an inch of her life. If my grandchildren are abused physically and emotionally. Yes, marriage is lasting covenant with a higher power. But staying in a dying one is hell in its self. I hope we don't abuse divorce as a way out.

Yes thats right. Marriage is sacred and no man can separate what  God has join together. If that happens in your marriage,  I believe it can still be settled. They need to forgive each other and forget the past. Workout your relationship. Dont bring out the past and.mistakes of each other everytime you quarrel. It will not help your relationship. If your husband or wife decided to go despite of the effort you did,  dont divorce. Pray for him,  wait patiently. If he is meant for you,  he will come back.

I agreed Marriage was a sacred thing in the sight of God. But for what is happening now most couple got separated and Divorce in most countries are the one who is most applied and here in my country since there is no divorce here annulment is the one was applied here.

Marriage is a pact you have made with your partner and with God. You both made your vows and should stick by your word. But it will all depend if the situation is diffrerent. If you have made all the efforts to make it work or if there are factors to consider that could really be a deal-breaker like abuse, infidelity, etc, then maybe that's the time Divorce becomes an option. Why put yourself in a situation wherein you're not happy and you're no longer valued? But it all comes to this, you should make sure that you're 100% sure and confident that you and your partner will honor your vows and make sure that you guys work together in order to make the marriage work.

Marriage and divorce nowadays is a serious topic because many marriages are ending up in divorce.The causes could be many to talk about.Many couple after marriage release that they did not really love the person that they married and a lot of issues start to display which can lead to divorce.Some of these problems that lead to divorce are cheating in marriage,unsatisfactory sexual life etc.But once married,efforts should be made to keep the marriage until death.

It's easy to say that when you're in a happy marriage or a semblance of one. But what if your partner is abusive? What if your partner hurts your kids? What if they cheat on you multiple times? What if your partner tried to literally kill you but failed? Would you still hold to your shared vows even if you're the only one holding it? Yes marriage is a sacred bond. But people change and sometimes for the worse. So yes, i agree with divorce so long as we don't abuse it.

Marriage is a sacred sacrament,it is union between man and a woman who inlove with each,promising the vow of loving each other even poorer or richier,in the time of happines and sadness...I still hold on to marriage what ever happenes

I will still hold on to our marriage.  And divorse will never be my option. Because marriage requires acceptance and we should work out on it whenever you got to the point where your both differences appeared.  Except when there is a physical harassment involved. 

As for me marriage is a companionship between two individual that was build with foundation of trust and nourished by love.  It's between two people that have mutual understanding, in any relationship we cannot avoid to have a problems or misunderstandings and for me it's not the reason to give up easily on your partner because you are now considered to be as one. You two have to face the problem together. A strong bound of relationship do not require divorce.

Patience, understanding and communication to your partner is the key to successful marriage. Let God be the center of your relationship. Have a blast!

Therefore you must think over and over again before getting married, marriage isnt just about love, because when loves gone, like you said your reason to be together is gone too.. But if you two already got children/s , well there is things must be considered more than just love, this is for the sake of your children/s..

A union of two hearts in love with one another binded by martiage is a life long decision that someone must take note. Marriage should not be just an act to fullfill life. It is a serious matter on whom you are to spend your beautiful life with. We all should look forward into marriage as no one can even seperate you with your partner. Never think pf getting a divorce for marriage is sacred.

In my opinion, if divorce will be implemented in all nation and states, there is a tendency that the population will grow up more, why? The lust of the people can't be controlled, if they want to make love with other people, they are free to do that because marriage can be nulled. I am pro with marriage and I want don't to have divorce.

With my opinion and life prespective, your not kid anymore with marriage. You have a commitment after God's presence and it if very sacred that you pledge that you will hold on to that relationship even if its hard or just like what you have mentioned. Love is a Choice or desicion, love doesnt have to on fire always love is when you cant find good to your partner and still choose to stay to understand them.

Remind yourself that you fell in love with this person for a reason. If you truly loved him before then your love can't go away. In the Bible, there are several qualities of love. Here is a famous passage: "1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away".
Love never ends

You interpreted my mindset quite well. I really don't plan to get married because I don't see a value for me to do so.
A relationship can work as well or as bad if you are married or not.

If you love your choosen partner until the bitter end and your partner feel the same for you that's the perfect scenario which often enough happens.
But don't forget the other people who don't have the luck to find their soul mate. I don't think those couples should stay together when they don't love each other anymore. But of course you should first try to work on the relationship and try to fix it before going separated ways. I don't mean you should give up a relationship after the first small discrepancy.

You say, the person you married becomes your closest family. I agree with that. But sometimes it happens that this person becomes your biggest enemy.

When there are children involved it gets more complicated but even then I think it can be better when the parents don't live together. If a child get love by separate living parents or even get love by only one parent it can be better than parents who constantly fight each other.

And also if they stay in the relationship it will prevent them that they can find a better partner.


That's the main problem. Too much people don't follow this rule. They rush with the decission to marry someone and then wonder why the relationship did not hold.

If there is really no other way, I would not stand the marriage for the sake of any commitment or children... If two people already look in different directions and their views don't suit each other, what's the reason to waste one another's time?

You are right that marriage is sacred and should be treasured. But to define it nowadays as sacred is hard to accept because of negative cases which was end up to separation or divorce. So I think the definition about marriage is not acceptable as the major reason but it is only depends for each couple since the image of marriage is already broken and the evidence is very rampant already.

If your not given another chance to your partner to rebuild again from healthy relationship due to her infidelity, irresponsible,and causing you to lose your love with him  its better to divorce than stay at bad marriage life,because life is short don't waste your time to spend with him despite unhealthy relationship,but on other side some christian religions belief that marriage life well also holy in the eyes of god,

In that situation, it is not hard to fix it, both of you need to talk all the problems you encountered and you must true to your self telling what are your feelings and don't think that it will hurt him/her because telling the truth can keep your relationship stronger. There are lots of ways that a relationship is no longer working or unhappy, first is sex, if both of you are not aggressive then you need to talk about that, having great sex is having a great relationship so it will not go to divorce.