Topic: Practical methods to help addicted gamblers(2). - page 3. (Read 704 times)

They are on things, which is a fact to be considered when you want to rescue someone from addiction. You can’t tell him to quit it all, and you won’t still give him or her a solution, but you will work together to help him or her identify the solution to his problem by himself, which will help him or her to take it more seriously and make it easy for them to adopt the solution. because they were the ones that identified the solution, so to me, that will be the best solution to quit gambling. because if you give them the desire to work, they will find you to be blamed in any circumstances.

Given an advise dose not matter but not all some people's can listen to what you want to tell them, because of a person is trying to tell them they should stop gambling completely so that it will know lead them to addicted, but they will even listen talkless of fellow the advise and my problems with some people's is that, you see some of gambling people's that are allowed ot to be come an addicted to their body are the one that didn't have gambling experiences.
Even thought you try to deceive them that a gambling is not a reliable success of income, they will never believe with that, expecially those that as been a while in gambling they didn't have hands work apart from the gambling, they can directly you tell you that nothing a person can tell them that a gambling is not a success of income some will say that, since is the one put food on their table.

It is actually a great idea to help people with this topic, some experienced gamblers may have things to say where nobody else can give as he never been addicted. It’s also great to read all the possible way that can help people control themselves and at least reduce their excessive gambling activities.


I believe that the best possible way to help addicted gamblers is by sharing you bad stories with gambling and how you dealt with it for another successful way other than being just an addict. Honestly, I am a gambler myself and sometimes, I have hard time to control my activity and feel bad once I end up gambling even a small amount.
My first days feeling the addiction of gambling, I felt so bad and helpless against it, because you end up always losing more and more money while chasing a small profit or your previous losses. That feeling of guilt and wanting to recover your money is so hard to manage. However, the best way to stop gambling is knowing the chances of losing and accepting them. Staying away from your phone whenever you have extra money and spending it in another place rather than Gambling may help you a lot, when you see the benefits of getting something from that amount of money rather than losing it, I always say if I gambled that money I wouldn’t have this device or meal or whatever you did with that amount.

IMO the best way is to tell their friends and family so that all of them act like gambling is wrong and keep telling him that he should quit., When he gets surrounded by similar opinions he'll eventually start thinking like he's the only one with a different opinion, like the whole world is against him and he should do something about it. Family should also block his account and stop all money outflows. A gambler with no money to spend will not gamble.

what I understand from the people who advised another to quit from gambling is that there are using the advice as a trial because when you see majority of people who advice other people not to participate in gambling any longer those people the gambles secretly without the awareness of those people the encourage so in some certain thing we should not depend on some people's advice because there is some antivirus that is not relevant that can also destroy you when you believe on their thought of theory that is why it is good for someone to have a personal decision if you want to quit a gambling that is your personal decision not something someone will wake up one day and they encourage you unnecessary so I think that idea is not valid from my own way of understanding things

I do not think it is the right thing to do to hide your gambling activities from another person that is trying to quit, after all a person that has never gambled before has no idea what it is like, it is like if a single person gave marriage advice to those that are married, it does not really make a lot of sense, so if anything your advice holds more weight because you are a responsible gambler, and you can tell them that what they are doing is not right and they need to change their ways or quit.

There is no need to hide your gambling activities to advise gamblers. Because, if you are a responsible gambler and can manage your betting style and finances well. Then at least, your gambling activities will be an inspiration for those who are gambling addicts, because they have more losing experiences than winning. Thus, you will be able to advise them by pointing out the experience or results you have in gambling. But indeed, basically advising someone is something difficult, no matter what kind of background you have. Because if they have become an addict, the reality is that they will not care about any advice given.

I do not think hiding your gambling activities will be of help to an addicted gambler, especially one who is not willing to be helped. If I have a friend who is a problem gambler which I want to help, I'll rather recommend that we gamble together and do many other activities together too. We are friends and I believe we will both enjoy doing many stuffs together, including gambling which we both enjoy.

I have just one simple mission; to divert his attention from just gambling to many other activities he never knew he could enjoy, help him manage his time effectively till he gets use to it and reduce his addiction to gambling. It is difficult convincing an addicted gambler to stop gambling completely, especially when he is yet to make up his mind on quitting. In situations like this, you just need to make them comfortable with you till whatever plans you have for them is successfully achieved.

I am not a professional, anything beyond my control will be communicated to a therapist  who will take it up from there.

Frankly, a lot of these gambling addiction stories are that of online gambling and this is as a result of frequent use of the internet and we can’t just shun people off the the air simply because we want them to over come some sort of gambling addiction which might even change the gamblers life for good someday when lick shines on the gamble.
Internet is one thing that is already becoming part of our daily life and I wouldn’t have to blame the internet for anything because it offers both the good and the bad and it is left for an individual to filter out what they would prefer to take from the internet.

If anyone seems to be addicted in to gambling

1. go for a break or quite if possible

2. Don't associates yourself with those that gamble

3. Always have a certain amount of money to allocated to gambling and just stay within it

4. Monitor the time your spending while gambling (timing)

5. always getting yourself in the mist of people that don't gamble can also help alot

There aren't any... stop inventing ideas to help with simple advice, addiction is something complex and if you are a player you are the least indicated to help, the best example is not being related to anything that has to do with gambling.

Most people will think you are like them when you try to advise them about gambling addiction. But not everyone who gambles is addicted to gambling, that’s what most people don’t really understand. Some people gamble just for fun, but if people see you gambling, then they will think you are addicted to gambling.

Why do I have to hide my gambling activity? I don’t do my things like that, if you see that I am a gambler and I advise you, then it’s left for you to listen to me or not, but I won’t hide my gambling activities just because I want to advise anyone. I will tell them I am not addicted to gambling, and I will like them to follow my lead.

Some people have other means to make money, but they will prefer to take gambling as a source of income since they believe gambling is an easy way to make money compared to going to do a job, and they will be underpaid.

Listen, shutting oneself off from the internet today is like cutting off the globe. The internet is a tool - a quite effective one. Make advantage of it. From it, learn. Connect with it. Gambling? It is not the devil some people portray. Its a calculated risk, like any business deal.

Sending money around the globe? Indeed, it can be really frightening. We are not cavemen, though, now. We create systems; we secure stuff. It is about control rather than stopping the flow. And supporting someone else in addiction? That is the essence of human existence. Its about presence, showing up, being a shoulder to cry on. We build great families and great communities this way.

Thus, people, dont panic; instead, Be wise, conscientious, and supporting of one another. Thatd the winning recipe. We create America great once again in this way.

"for you can hide the truth from them, but you can't hide from the truth yourself "... If you're an example of the negativity in something, but you wanna pull others out of it, of what purpose does that reckon? "You can't be stuck in a mud and you're also trying to pull someone outta the mud as well" control YOURSELF and let there be a positive response on your attitude before going ahead to advise another person. Why? You are just as good as they are...
Did you just say we can help 'em find another source of income? Are you serious right now? You practically can't provide for everyone in the situation you just described, but even if it were possible, always remember -- "you can take a man away from the hood, but yo can't take the hood away from the man"

The most winning approach that I have verified is really simple. Ask to a gambler to count wins and losses, eventually counting what percentage he is losing according monthly earning. It's a must also understand "why he is gambling"? For Fun? For earning?
 
It's also important join a group of Anonymous Gamblers or similar that could provide some tips ( I will not count as a professional help).
Generally speaking, all free resources are very useful in cases that not requires a medical helps and mild situation.

n fact, showing him how to become a responsible gambler like you will bring better results because it is a real example.
If you advise other people to stop gambling and lie that you don't or have stopped gambling, most of them won't listen to your advice, we know how stubborn a gambler can be when someone advises him to stop.

is is indeed the best solution and the most hoped for by many gamblers who have financial issue because they cannot get a job or/and often lose when gambling.
The problem is that not everyone can do that because it is not easy to get a job nowadays.

I don't think there is more practical than having the help of a professional; all the other will not work; when we say addicted, there are symptoms that need to be taken out, so only a professional can devise a plan to take those symptoms, and there's also monitoring, mere advice will not work.

Much more if he finds out that you are also a gambler, you also have to be transparent to show that you are a good role model as a gambler. 

Only what can make people to change is when they realize that they just have to change. If someone is addicted and he has not lost so much or still think it he can make money through gambling, advising the person may not yield any good result because the person could prefer to continue to gamble. What I noticed that is effective for gambling addicts is when they have lost huge amount of money that cause them significant pain. Many of the gamblers will even change without going to a rehabilitation center.

Honestly whether one is playing responsibly or not but it will be difficult for a gambler that is addicted to take an advice from a fellow gambler, and I don't even know how easy it will be for a fellow gambler to be free to think of advising someone thst is playing gambling.  This two person's they are gambling because they both love gambling, a gambler can only feel free to advice someone who have not started gambling not to play gamble.
Do you know it is not only people who see gambling as a source of income are addicted to gamble, even people that have good source of income still fall by being addicted to gamble.

For us to make some alternatives to divert these addicted individuals, there's some other ways to deal with it like helping your family who got in trouble like this to enjoy their spare time with sports and entertainment.
With respect to professional help, I don't think so because most professional person is prone with addiction because they got enough funds to capitalize their activities. What I can offer is only moral support and encouragement. I was once experienced from a friend who's really fun and addicted with cockfighting online gambling, and all beneficial advice I've given on him went useles because until he's been doing same. Nobody could help them but only themselves, all we can provide is advices and motivations.