Topic: Quit gamble! Easy or Hard? Let's talk. - page 52. (Read 10336 times)

Like you I think the most important thing for people to do when they are trying to quit gambling is to break your daily habits and focus on other things. Especially when we are used to gamble at a fixed time, like every evening after dinner. Then you need another occupation for that time to get your mind of gambling. Humans love their daily routines and once a habit is formed it becomes really hard to break it again. Like with anything in life that we got used to and enjoy, a change is not going to happen overnight. There will always be setbacks and we shouldn't be discouraged by them. Change takes dedication and effort over time. It's important that the gambling addict realises his problem and actually wants to change, because it will lead to nowhere if there is not a strong will to change the current situation. Even with the best help in the world it won't change much if people don't realise that they are in trouble and need help to get out of it. For someone struggling with severe gambling addiction it would also be helpful to try to visit an institution that is specialised for it.

Just because someone gambles occasionally doesn't mean they can't change that and they can start to gamble more and more often, even when they have important things to do, family, work, etc. If you can control yourself, set boundaries and most of all  hold her, then it's okay.  On topic - if you can't stop gambling then you have a big problem - of course you can lie to yourself that you don't, but the truth is that in this situation it's really hard to stop gambling and it's best to ask others for help, first of all  go to therapy and slowly return to a normal life, but no longer gambling.

Yes, to stop gambling you need a process and it takes time to get rid of it because the habit also makes the severity different. If he is an addict who only gambles on weekends, it will be easier for him to stop gambling and it will not take long either if there is a gambling addict who plays gambling every time it is clearly difficult, the best thing to do is reduce it slowly.

But it all comes back to his own intention, because it is also difficult to stop but in his heart he has no desire to stop gambling, reducing and learning to control is a basic lesson to be able to stop it all slowly, because I know that see my friend who is an addict it took a long time for him to really completely stop gambling. it is not as easy as imagined but with the intention it will be faster.

Gambling is not always that easy to quit, most especially when it has turn into a habit, but it can be controlled when it hasn't gotten to that extent which is the reason why we always tell people to be careful and gamble with the amount of money they can always afford to lose, so as not to go bankrupt and end up living a miserable life, all because you gave gave your all hope to gambling, and it never worked the way you thought.

Well, one thing I was just thinking about is, if we all actually quit gambling, what happens to gambling casinos? but then, this aside, it is not actually wrong for anyone who feels they are gambling too much to try quitting, I mean, if I was addicted to gambling in any way, the first approach to solving that problem of addiction will be to quit gambling completely for some time, even casinos encourage gamblers to feel their gambling activities is putting them into serious problems to quit, and that is why they provide gamblers with different measures through which they can quit for some time, and possibly come back much later when they have healed off gambling addiction and can have more control over themselves, and one of those ways is self exclusion.

The best approach to addiction is to quit doing that which the person is addicted in, trying to reduce your activity in such while that addiction is still there might never work, you will always still do it excessive than it should be or normal.

Quitting all of a sudden may have a bad effect to the gambling addict.  It may incur relapses and aside from metal ang physical negative effect, it may even worsen the addiction of a person since the change is abrupt and is not planned.  Aside from that a gambling addict needs external support from families and professionals in order to treat gambling addiction correctly.


I agree, gambling treatment does not need to be rushed to avoid human error and overlooking things that may result in relapses.  Taking it slow and steady is the best method, IMO, in curing gambling addiction because as you stated, everything should be planned perfectly.

Going cold Turkey with any kind of addiction is always harder that reducing it a step at the time.
It reminds me a friend who suffered from a severe addiction to alcohol, to the point he needed to drink regularly sometimes everyday. He once tried to quit completely and he suffer from severe symptoms, both physical and psychological ones.

With gambling I assume it is the same, it takes a plan and support in order to follow it and achieve it. But it is definitely possible, specially if a the person is question is able to slowly replace it with other habits which are not so destructive to both their health and their personal finances.

What I believe is that,  people are focusing  their energy on the wrong fight,  because fighting gambling by trying to quit is one of the hardest routes to take in battling with over-gambling behaviour,  this is because,  instead of trying to minimize the rate at which their gamble,  they busy trying to quit gambling which is a hard battle.

Minimizing gambling ambition will stabilize the urge to gamble over time and eventually arrive at moderate gambling habits which will at that put the gambler in total control.

Betting will always be our decision, it is up to us whether we want to or not, any decision is up to us, if a person feels the prevailing need to bet because they can't stand it, because they have that need, it is a fact that they have to control, it is something that it has to be done or else things can get very bad, we as humans, or as beings sometimes do not know the power we have for everything, we even have the power to heal, what apsa is that we are so little believers in so many things, that our willpower is very great, to say, we want to get rid of each other, we don't want to play, or we don't want to bet, we can only achieve, that is something that we must see and believe.

The people who cannot really do it, it is because they fell into a very big addiction and this obviously affects their lives and that something that is not wished on anyone, however, what happens here is that when a person falls into addiction it is because I couldn't control his emoticons, and that made him make many mistakes, rather than letting himself be carried away by emoticons, it's because he couldn't control his impulses. In General, when a person suffers from something like a gambling addiction, it is difficult to stop gambling, because the person already depends on it , well , it Creates a dependency and that affects their daily life, so much so that if it is not controlled it can cause misfortunes and that is what Should be Avoided.

I would love for a person to understand that when they say to themselves, I don't want to play, or I don't want to make a bet, they have enough willpower to do it, that can be done, I couldn't say how to do it, just do it , because one cannot have a bad life, one cannot take ill, if there is something that affects us when we do an activity, then we should not do it, if a person knows that they can lose their money playing, do not play, until you have money more to play and not Compromise on the basic things.

I don`t see the problem if the gambler get profit from the gambling. Of course it depends on lots of moment like how much money he get, how much time he spend, etc. And in your example i think that this woman knows about her father`s problem but send him money anyway. It is only her mistake. And her father has more money for gambling and can continue waiting big win. He must lose the opportunity for gambling, only after it he can think about his deeds.

Indeed, our experience will not be the same as other people's, but we will have the same goals when we want to stop gambling, but we will also use different methods. But if anyone can stop gambling easily, that's a good thing because they don't encounter difficulties when they want to stop while other people will encounter difficulties that might be unimaginable.

But if they can get a win from gambling, that means they are very lucky. And it would be even better if they could control themselves while playing gambling to reduce the number of losses. So keep it up if you can stop gambling easily because there aren't many people who can't do it yet.

I like that analogy, if you can maintain that treatment with gambling as a source of entertainment no harm will be made, we can generalize all the people who gamble as there are some of them who are just doing it out of fun and are capable to quit and accept the defeat each time they ended their sessions, while most are being engage and turn into addiction there are some who can manage to quit and not to do any unusual practices that will affect their finances.

In terms of numbers or percentage, I can say small but really doable for people to have that good control over their gambling participation.

Your experience in gambling may not be the same for others. Gambling may not be as safe as you if no one else makes the same mistakes you have made. There are some gamblers who consider gambling as a means of enjoyment. For them, that happiness is more important than money. Moreover, many people have achieved good reward by gambling. Though not everyone will be so lucky. But if it is not conceived as a financial field for earning then gambling will not be a threat to one's life.

This story is typical in principle and shows the usual behavior of gamblers, who may already be considered as gambling addicts. 
Even a person who is not a gamer often finds it difficult to stop and not continue playing. 
Especially in such cases, when suddenly it became lucky in the game and immediately there is an obsessive thought that the moment has come when the streak of luck in the game has begun.  And similarly, when you lose a series of rounds in a game, your thought works the other way.  An inner voice or intuition, in other words, as if whspering to a person - now the losing streak will end, a little more and you will definitely win!  These two states are the maim reasons to keep playing.  And of course, many people need a good reason to stop and not continue playing.  And the reason when you just lost everything and the money ran out is definitely the most compelling reason.  But some go further, play with other people's money, lose them too, and then look for where else to find money to win back.  But it never works out.  And it turns out bad.  The player becomes an addicted person.

Don't you know that some compulsive gamblers lose some sense of reasoning and cannot even think the way you have described? All their concerns are just how to gamble, have fun, and earn money from it. My friend's girlfriend was telling me stuff about her dad some days ago; she said her dad is a Gambling addict and that she sent some money to him for him to buy her a plot of land, and the man assured her that he had already bought the plot of land. While he was lying, instead he used the money to gamble, and he lost the money. That was really a huge amount of money, but this man gambled it off. I was just surprised at how some dads have even lost their dignity and self-respect for their daughter to just waste some money that is not even their own.

It's just that that's what happens with people, I have a friend who was very good at what he did, but he allowed himself to be convinced to fall into drugs, and that led him to believe that it was a crazy thing, he just wanted to have money to buy that and that's it, his life didn't value him anymore, he didn't feel sorry for anything , this can be similar to what addiction does in a casino, if a person Falls and surrenders completely, stick to the addiction it doesn't give him important to the rest, they lose their shame, the meaning of many things and they don't care what they think of them , it's something very bad and it makes me feel sorry, but there are people who cannot get out of that world of addiction alone, there are some who Need help Urgently.

Yes Gambling should be for fun only. Its never a substitute of a regular income because of the risk involved.

Risk only that part of your savings which you can afford to loose.

 

No ardent gambler is ever proud of the act of gambling, they can't just help it. Its beyond control when you allow it eat deep into your soul.

I for one, will not subscribe to gambling even for the fun of it. Although, we unconsciously fall into what society classifies as gamble, but its not with the intention to gamble. For example, overleveraging is considered gambling but we subconsciously indulge in it.

Overall, Gambling is a 'NO NO' for me and I advise others to do same.

And if this is the case, it will be difficult for us to stop even for a moment because our focus is still on gambling. But that probably won't help us much to win because the house will still win and make a lot of money. We can only try again another time. For this reason, we must be able to overcome gambling addiction and before that happens, we must be able to stop ourselves.

However, before it's too late, we must find other activities that distract us from gambling. This needs to be done so we don't get addicted to gambling and lose money.

It is important to have a strong will to reduce our gambling time. This is because we don't want to experience a gambling addiction that can take up all our time. And we also want to enjoy this life well.

If someone has continued to feel comfortable, he will find it difficult to move into the discomfort zone, especially if he builds a new habit. There is no need to use gambling as an example. We use the example you mentioned, namely the habit of drinking coffee in the morning. And we change it by not drinking coffee. There will be a rejection effect from our bodies.

And so it is with gambling. But it's all for the good of those who want to stop gambling. Otherwise, we will only regret it for the rest of our lives. We need to change ourselves first so we can really do it. By starting a new habit, we can overcome gambling addiction and old habits will not carry us away.

Quitting gambling is not easy because it requires great effort to divert our attention from gambling. Maybe many have tried it but haven't succeeded and still need much more effort to overcome gambling. Reducing attention by doing other things will help a person to be distracted but if he does not try to do other things every day and prefers to use gambling as a filler in his time, he may still find it difficult to stop gambling.

The only way to stop gambling(if it is a problem) it to understand that it is a problem by yourself. You right, that the gambler willn`t hear anyone else with cautions. As for me it would be nice to make a pause in the game and spend some time for analyze - how much time you spend for gambling per week/month, how much money you lose, how many time you spend with your friends and family, etc.
After it the gambler can understand if the gambling a problem for him or not.