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I agree with you. If someone addicted to the point that he/she is spending all money on it but at the same time thinks he's a responsible gambler, it's extremely hard to help such a person. Gambling addicts think that there are ups and downs in their gambling career, and when they lose everything it's just one of those times, but surely they will recover in the nearest future. That's the main mistake of gambling addicts.

That's the issue with many gamblers who are facing addiction, though some will not know that they are addicted, and this is probably because they are not just sensitive. They would think they are still doing the right thing when all that they do reveals that they are plainly doing the wrong thing. While for others, they know, only that they just do not care about it or they can't just stop. In either category, I believe that if they know already, it is still better and safer for them, after all, it is a problem half-solved. Now, where the remaining issue lies is whether or not they are willing to change. Some will not even give it a try at all, which makes it so pathetic, it is only when they give it a try that they can get healed.

But for some, they will try and will get healed, while for others, they will try but will not be able to help themselves. Anyway, it is good that people say what they are facing, especially if they've tried and couldn't work. Who knows, what others could ship in might be what will eventually help them. Also, the extensive categories I shared show why we should not limit the predicament to them alone, we can be of help as well. This is irrespective of whether they seek for our help or not, as long as we have access to them and we are sure of the issues going on in their lives, we can ship in our advice/help and even find external help for them depending on their willingness and the efforts they're already made. Even if they are not willing, it doesn't still mean that they can't still get our help.

It all matters with someones self on which it would really be pertaining about the acceptance and realizations made out. You wont really be able to quit if you arent that serious on quitting.
Therefore, if you are really that meaning on quitting then you should do it on your own.If you do fail then this is the time that you would really be having problems on quitting
then this is where those external factors or things that might be able to help you but in overall it would really be just that still depending on yourself whether you are really that
serious on quitting gambling or not. Things would really be reflecting out on how you would really be dealing up with those and the decisions been made.

A person who gets addicted to gambling will only get out of it if they are willing to do that because you can't force someone to stop doing a certain thing as long as they are not ready to do that themselves. When it comes to gambling addicts, they barely acknowledge the fact that they are addicted, they will always be in denial and say that they do gamble but they aren't addicted to it even if you can see that they are spending all their time and money on it.

A professional, a friend, or a family member can only help an addicted gambler get out of their addiction if the gambler says it themselves that they are addicted and they feel like they should stop gambling as it's eating up all their time and money and it is causing issues for their life.

I do, I mean I can definitely see the difference as well and I understand what's wrong. Studying psychology has helped me understand getting some perspective into peoples emotions. So when you get addicted, usually there are a few things that causes it, and I assume that mine is feeling the emptiness of life, I do not feel like I have a purpose in life, I just work, eat, sleep, and that's all that I do.

So, when I get addicted to something, I try to make that something of a personality trait for myself, like I am a gambler, that's how I am ,Ronaldo is a footballer, Bill Gates is a billionaire, Elon Musk is weird, and I am a gambler. That's why I saw that and I had a chance to stop being like that because I understand what caused it eventually.

If he's still in denial, maybe he thought and consider his gambling activity as normal. Sometimes if you are already in such stage, you won't notice that since you're blinded and tend to ignore others.

Anyway, he needs to have a will to change what he used to. Because no matter how hard you advice your cousin to seek for professional help, that's going to be futile if he don't cooperate.

Very often taking the first step is the most difficult decision by far, your cousin most likely knows he has a problem but he is in denial and refuses to admit it, because if he were to do this then he will need to begin to take actions to solve his problem, and deep down he knows that this is not going to be easy and prefers to ignore the problem hoping that it will go away on its own, an impossibility of course but that does not stop a person from wishing that it became true.

Go to the professional yourself and ask questions on your cousin's behalf. Tell him how often he gambles and how much he loses, how does he feel in general and other stuff that the pro professional will ask you about. He will make a conclusion and you'll see how severe the condition is. And then, in a relaxed atmosphere, tell about it to your cousin. Convince him to go to the professional himself. All of this might not work, but at least you'll try.

Really? But I think I won't believe on that because I already proved to my self that I'm aware of what I do and if I'm already addicted or not. It's only true that some won't admit it because they don't want to be scolded and then they can't afford to stop gambling for a long time or permanently. They don't know that the more the people around them will hate them if they get addicted and they won't actually be scolded if they will tell the truth.

The truth is that they are only concern to us. And there are still activities out there which can be a good alternative to gambling that we can do once we are on a therapy to cure our gambling addiction problem.

Yeah , back then I thought I knew everything about gambling but now that I totally understand the importance of professionals I kept telling my Addicted Cousin to try consulting or seeking Help from a clinic.
though up to now he kept denying yet I will not stop to ask Him and help him get through this problem.

This true, nobody can force you to change, but there are words, the right words, that can be said to you that will help you to come to conclusion that change is what you need. Good professionals know those words and that's why it's important to turn to them as soon as possible. Your close ones may wish you only good but they lack the knowledge of how to nudge you into taking the right steps. If someone wants to get rid of gambling addiction of their own free will, that's good, but if some doesn't have those intentions, there are still methods that can help him/her.

That's right. The important thing is that gambling addicts have a strong desire to cure their gambling addiction. It may seem unreasonable, but for the gambling addict, it can still be done, especially if he gets support from his family. That would be a kind of encouragement for him to be able to cure his gambling addiction.

Indeed, he will encounter difficulties in undergoing the process of treating his gambling addiction. But if he is still able to survive with the support of his family, he will be able to undergo the healing process. And even in curing his gambling addiction, he got through it well. He could see that there was still a chance for him to get out of his gambling addiction.

He won't complain that it's hard and can still show his family that he can get through it. He will see that his family's support makes him want to return to his family immediately.

Why are you amazed here, is it about the who part of what the OP says or just a fraction reservation from your end? You should have been elaborated on your discussion since you started with a remark that looked objective to what the OP is trying to say, but unfortunately, your short response seems to be neutral in tone and still does not change anything from what we already know. But before you might be moved to add some words if so desired after my reply, I would like you to know that anyone could be healed of any gambling issues. This can only be easy if they are willing, but if they are not willing, they can still get healed but will take more time and a better approach from those who are saddled with the task to help them.

Also, irresponsible gambling is a choice, and I always advise people before choosing to gamble, this will not even cause them issues that will need external help as they would have guarded against such from the beginning. But people are so naive and also adamant, they are greedy towards the money, and hence the reason they are trapped often mentally when it comes to gambling. The same goes for healing as well, once they desire they want to be healed, they will be healed, this is a choice for everyone, especially if you know that what you are doing is not good and obviously negative to your life.

As long as a person really wants it, they can recover from an addiction no matter how pervasive, however this is not a process that happens from one day to another, since it is likely that during that period of time a great deal of issues come to the surface and the addicted will suffer many setbacks and they will go back to their former addiction several times, however if they continue to get the support of their family and the support of experts when it comes to treating their addiction, overcoming their addiction will happen at some point.

Gambling problems would definitely be starting to come out on the time that you would really be finding yourself not to be able to make out some good decisions or choices when it comes to spending.
On the time that you do become already being impulsive then you do really find these kind of actions or outcomes in regarding into your gambling dealing. Quitting is really one of the main or big challenges once you do get caught by addiction. This is why you should really be wary at least on the things that you've been doing if you dont really like to mess up yourself with gambling.
People do usually mess up their lives on the time that they would really be making bad decisions in regarding into their choices because they do really thrive and really that force up themselves
on happening on something which it cant be possible or something sustainable.

The average gambler is not aware that he has gone too far and is addicted to gambling, so it is not surprising that there are gambling addicts who are difficult to advise because most of them do not want to accept the reality of their life that they are addicted to gambling, although there are not many like that but on average they don't aware of it, that's why it is important for the people closest to you to remind the gambler that it is important to reduce gambling activities so that they can help slowly cure their addiction.

They as gamblers when they realize they are addicted to gambling must do something before things get bad and it is difficult to stop, gambling addiction has levels so when it reaches a difficult level, I am sure it will take a long time to cure their gambling addiction, I say this because there are many people near my house are addicted to gambling and it is difficult to recover, they play very wildly beyond limits, that's why where I live the crime rate and level of domestic violence have increased because of gambling

Seriously i'm amazed by this,seeing that a gambling or gambler problem can be solved.

But it doesn't make things better cause we all know everything that has a bad side,also have a good side but people will always tend to adapt to the bad ones,and that's to say they would still go on with their irresponsible pattern of gambling.

When it comes to security specially into those gambling places then it would really be just that standard or something in default. They could allow someone to play but on the time that they would be showing off with those acts which do pertains about being that impulsive of because of too much frustration and this is why it would really be just that normal that they would really be kicked in the venue. When it comes to those problems then it is really that common on which there are really those people who cant really just that able to control out themselves and this is why they do make out
such actions on which its not really that something right. Quitting is hard once you do get addicted but actually you could really be able to stop completely basing up on how serious you are on doing so.
It all matters on someones mind discipline and control.

This is an excellent question. The answer is very simple which is, nobody can force you to change. To change, you must first determine in your mind that there is a need for it. When you decide to change, the process is easy as you will turn to behaviours that would help you not relapse.

I think that anyone who exhibits obvious signs of intoxication will not be allowed to gamble because he or she may be a danger to the public or cause nuisance leading to a breech of public peace. However, the case mentioned above is very possible when the gambler is mildly intoxicated and there is no obvious signs. 

It should be the rule of every gambler: If you are under alcohol influence, never go to a casino and never open a gambling site. Yes, you can start gambling and win all of a sudden once, but later, if you keep acting like this, you will regret it big time, inevitably.


I think, whether person is drunk or not is easy to spot. I'd say the policy should be like this: When in doubt - not drunk. Of course it's allowed to drink in casinos, so, not allowing a person to bet after a drink would be ridiculous.