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I share your view. Some gamblers who are addicted to it will be so arrogant and will never admit to it, but it is written all over them with their deeds towards gambling. Gambling is what we should engage with care, if not, we will always regret it. It could first start in the way of the money needed or fun, but if care is not taken, it can grow to what we will not like and will be difficult to control. In either case, one has to understand gambling on that path from the beginning so that it would be guided againts. If it is for fun, one should moderate it, even though the addiction of this is not so much because one can only be engrossed with it since they could have taken it as a hobby, and if they need to change, they could change easily even without the external help of being lousy about it.

But for addiction caused by a money-making mindset, which is rampant and will always happen because people want to make money through it. Some people's positions are justifiable, while others are not, and this is in stages. Some will be so broke and need money for urgent important things, they would now turn to gamble irrespective of being a good decision or not. But some others might just want more money, and not that they are broke. They will continue to gamble and gamble, and when they see it as not forthcoming and promising but losing, they will be revenging and lose more. And to some of them, they needed this gambling to live an extravagant lifestyle, not that they really needed the money for pressing needs.

Regardless of the category, if any of them could have that mind to change, it would be so good for them. But the money would have been wasted and an irresponsible lifestyle towards it must have been detected for anyone to even interfere in such affairs.

I think that there are very few gamblers who manage to realize in time that their seemingly harmless addiction to gambling is no longer just their hobby, but already a gambling addiction at the stage of illness. 
Still, most of the players are too lenient about this mental state of theirs and they are sure that they can completely stop playing almost at any moment as soon as they want to do it.  However, such a moment does not come in their lives and their game continues more and more.  Here the question immediately arises about wasted money.  And the question arises that such a player has already begun to lose so much that it has seriously begun to affect the life of his family or close relatives.  And only then did everyone suddenly come to their senses and start persuading that the player should be prohibited from playing and that he should be treated.  But everyone should have paid attention to this player’s predilection much earlier.  Then it would be much easier to get rid of gambling addiction. 
It seems to me that this is a very common mistake made by the player’s relatives and himself.

Most gambling addicts don't even realize on time that they are addicted to gambling and they need to find a way to get out of it before it's too late, this is how they get further into the addiction until the point where they find it difficult to get out of it and then they start looking for help to get out of it.

And believe me, those who find help to get out of the addiction are lucky because not everyone is lucky enough to get that privilege. Many gambling addicts just ruin their lives with the addiction instead of getting help and getting out of the addiction, some of them don't have any assistance available for them, and some just don't try and get help with their addiction and they keep giving up against their urges and accumulate and spend money from here and there.

Most of the addicted ones won't admit that they're addicted. And that's why even with the help of those closest people that are concerned to the condition.
The help that will be taken from them is a big thing but it's still gonna be dependent on the gambler if he allows them to help him or he'll follow all of those help.
But if none of them really helps, and we've got services like this to help quit gambling. What matters to these people is that there are people that are concerned to their own welfare.

You would really be mainly having the sense on trying out to make yourself that convinced that you would really be just that able to recover into those loses that you are suffering or experiencing
on which this would really be causes for you to play even more and something that cant be stopped as long you do have the funds that you could really be able to play then this is something
that you would really be able to make yourself that play further until you would be only noticing that you have done wrong on the time that you would really be that
suffering some financial problems on which this is something that you would really be lastly to be noticed about.

At that point we can say that its hard for the to get aid since they are in denial stage where they denied everything people say or suggest and they continue to do those destructive gambling habits that slowly destroy their personality.

If these people know how to handle well their emotion also always take consideration on peoples opinion regarding to what they do especially those concerns of other people for sure they can change their attitude and will not go in worse situation where they might struggle to fix those issues that happen to them in that while.

They could really recover since experience will show up and they would realize their negative actions and decisions done then try to fix it.

I agree with you. If someone addicted to the point that he/she is spending all money on it but at the same time thinks he's a responsible gambler, it's extremely hard to help such a person. Gambling addicts think that there are ups and downs in their gambling career, and when they lose everything it's just one of those times, but surely they will recover in the nearest future. That's the main mistake of gambling addicts.

That's the issue with many gamblers who are facing addiction, though some will not know that they are addicted, and this is probably because they are not just sensitive. They would think they are still doing the right thing when all that they do reveals that they are plainly doing the wrong thing. While for others, they know, only that they just do not care about it or they can't just stop. In either category, I believe that if they know already, it is still better and safer for them, after all, it is a problem half-solved. Now, where the remaining issue lies is whether or not they are willing to change. Some will not even give it a try at all, which makes it so pathetic, it is only when they give it a try that they can get healed.

But for some, they will try and will get healed, while for others, they will try but will not be able to help themselves. Anyway, it is good that people say what they are facing, especially if they've tried and couldn't work. Who knows, what others could ship in might be what will eventually help them. Also, the extensive categories I shared show why we should not limit the predicament to them alone, we can be of help as well. This is irrespective of whether they seek for our help or not, as long as we have access to them and we are sure of the issues going on in their lives, we can ship in our advice/help and even find external help for them depending on their willingness and the efforts they're already made. Even if they are not willing, it doesn't still mean that they can't still get our help.

It all matters with someones self on which it would really be pertaining about the acceptance and realizations made out. You wont really be able to quit if you arent that serious on quitting.
Therefore, if you are really that meaning on quitting then you should do it on your own.If you do fail then this is the time that you would really be having problems on quitting
then this is where those external factors or things that might be able to help you but in overall it would really be just that still depending on yourself whether you are really that
serious on quitting gambling or not. Things would really be reflecting out on how you would really be dealing up with those and the decisions been made.

A person who gets addicted to gambling will only get out of it if they are willing to do that because you can't force someone to stop doing a certain thing as long as they are not ready to do that themselves. When it comes to gambling addicts, they barely acknowledge the fact that they are addicted, they will always be in denial and say that they do gamble but they aren't addicted to it even if you can see that they are spending all their time and money on it.

A professional, a friend, or a family member can only help an addicted gambler get out of their addiction if the gambler says it themselves that they are addicted and they feel like they should stop gambling as it's eating up all their time and money and it is causing issues for their life.

I do, I mean I can definitely see the difference as well and I understand what's wrong. Studying psychology has helped me understand getting some perspective into peoples emotions. So when you get addicted, usually there are a few things that causes it, and I assume that mine is feeling the emptiness of life, I do not feel like I have a purpose in life, I just work, eat, sleep, and that's all that I do.

So, when I get addicted to something, I try to make that something of a personality trait for myself, like I am a gambler, that's how I am ,Ronaldo is a footballer, Bill Gates is a billionaire, Elon Musk is weird, and I am a gambler. That's why I saw that and I had a chance to stop being like that because I understand what caused it eventually.

If he's still in denial, maybe he thought and consider his gambling activity as normal. Sometimes if you are already in such stage, you won't notice that since you're blinded and tend to ignore others.

Anyway, he needs to have a will to change what he used to. Because no matter how hard you advice your cousin to seek for professional help, that's going to be futile if he don't cooperate.

Very often taking the first step is the most difficult decision by far, your cousin most likely knows he has a problem but he is in denial and refuses to admit it, because if he were to do this then he will need to begin to take actions to solve his problem, and deep down he knows that this is not going to be easy and prefers to ignore the problem hoping that it will go away on its own, an impossibility of course but that does not stop a person from wishing that it became true.

Go to the professional yourself and ask questions on your cousin's behalf. Tell him how often he gambles and how much he loses, how does he feel in general and other stuff that the pro professional will ask you about. He will make a conclusion and you'll see how severe the condition is. And then, in a relaxed atmosphere, tell about it to your cousin. Convince him to go to the professional himself. All of this might not work, but at least you'll try.

Really? But I think I won't believe on that because I already proved to my self that I'm aware of what I do and if I'm already addicted or not. It's only true that some won't admit it because they don't want to be scolded and then they can't afford to stop gambling for a long time or permanently. They don't know that the more the people around them will hate them if they get addicted and they won't actually be scolded if they will tell the truth.

The truth is that they are only concern to us. And there are still activities out there which can be a good alternative to gambling that we can do once we are on a therapy to cure our gambling addiction problem.

Yeah , back then I thought I knew everything about gambling but now that I totally understand the importance of professionals I kept telling my Addicted Cousin to try consulting or seeking Help from a clinic.
though up to now he kept denying yet I will not stop to ask Him and help him get through this problem.

This true, nobody can force you to change, but there are words, the right words, that can be said to you that will help you to come to conclusion that change is what you need. Good professionals know those words and that's why it's important to turn to them as soon as possible. Your close ones may wish you only good but they lack the knowledge of how to nudge you into taking the right steps. If someone wants to get rid of gambling addiction of their own free will, that's good, but if some doesn't have those intentions, there are still methods that can help him/her.

That's right. The important thing is that gambling addicts have a strong desire to cure their gambling addiction. It may seem unreasonable, but for the gambling addict, it can still be done, especially if he gets support from his family. That would be a kind of encouragement for him to be able to cure his gambling addiction.

Indeed, he will encounter difficulties in undergoing the process of treating his gambling addiction. But if he is still able to survive with the support of his family, he will be able to undergo the healing process. And even in curing his gambling addiction, he got through it well. He could see that there was still a chance for him to get out of his gambling addiction.

He won't complain that it's hard and can still show his family that he can get through it. He will see that his family's support makes him want to return to his family immediately.

Why are you amazed here, is it about the who part of what the OP says or just a fraction reservation from your end? You should have been elaborated on your discussion since you started with a remark that looked objective to what the OP is trying to say, but unfortunately, your short response seems to be neutral in tone and still does not change anything from what we already know. But before you might be moved to add some words if so desired after my reply, I would like you to know that anyone could be healed of any gambling issues. This can only be easy if they are willing, but if they are not willing, they can still get healed but will take more time and a better approach from those who are saddled with the task to help them.

Also, irresponsible gambling is a choice, and I always advise people before choosing to gamble, this will not even cause them issues that will need external help as they would have guarded against such from the beginning. But people are so naive and also adamant, they are greedy towards the money, and hence the reason they are trapped often mentally when it comes to gambling. The same goes for healing as well, once they desire they want to be healed, they will be healed, this is a choice for everyone, especially if you know that what you are doing is not good and obviously negative to your life.

As long as a person really wants it, they can recover from an addiction no matter how pervasive, however this is not a process that happens from one day to another, since it is likely that during that period of time a great deal of issues come to the surface and the addicted will suffer many setbacks and they will go back to their former addiction several times, however if they continue to get the support of their family and the support of experts when it comes to treating their addiction, overcoming their addiction will happen at some point.