Trading merit is the main reason why newbies lose their accounts, but it's not a bad thing in the forum because it's the only way some people can move up the ranks. However, trading merit doesn't require you to trade something with someone and then ask them to send it back to you; instead, you just need to calm down and ask what the process is.
I hope you know there is a difference between trading merit and giving out merit freely to post’s that is worth it. Trading of merit is disallowed, lots of people’s accounts have been tagged on the forum here just because they were caught sending merits to their alt accounts, which is very wrong. The merits system wasn’t created because they wanted us to be trading our smerit. If you see any post that you believe is useful to you or the forum and you think it’s worth meriting, then you can merit it.
What the OP means by trading merit is that you might receive a random message from a forum member asking you to send merit to them, then they will pay you back the amount of merit that was sent to them, and some will request merit from you, and they will offer to pay for the merit. Things like that are not allowed on the forum here, and if you are caught, your account is going to be tagged.
The primary goal that some novices pursue on the forum and inside a forum is merit. You won't receive merit if you don't do anything to earn it. To persuade some senior members to grant you merit, you should create quality posts and excellent answers with insightful comments.
I can say most of the newbies on the forum are here because they just want to rank up their account and join signature campaigns, and they want to rank up their account without making any impact on the forum. Some of them don’t even care to go through the forum rules and regulations, which is why they end up going against forum rules and losing their accounts. If you join the forum primarily because of merit, I'm sure you won’t be getting merit, but if you join with the mindset to learn and make an impact on the forum, I'm sure gradually you are going to be able to accumulate merit.
Many people who have been here for longer than a month or a year are still in this position because they did not understand the forum. I have even witnessed a newbie trying to quit because he did not receive a merit and feels like he is wasting his time. I told him that everything needs to be patient and that if he understands the forum, he will receive merit in a way he did not anticipate. My advice to all newbies is to never give up on the forum; instead, keep trying until you achieve your goals.
Any newbie that’s planning to give up because they didn’t receive merit is free to give up. We need people that are ready to make contributions to the forum, and the once that can make an impact on people, if you are here just because of merit, then you don’t have anything to offer. If you want to give up, you are free to do that, because even if you don't give up, you won't be receiving merit. We all know merit is not given anyhow, if you can’t make quality posts, then you won't be receiving merit, and don't be surprised that some quality posts don't even receive merit.