Topic: Too much pressure on the male child (Read 983 times)

Now i use to believe that, man are sent to this world for taking all responsibilities. They Work harder and harder to earn money so that he could be able to do his responsibility for his family. in my country, man have to work alone for his parents, his siblings, wife and children alone. That's too much responsibility and pressure which is created by society where we are living. when a male have no money to live with, then his situation force him involve himself in negative sides. And unemployment plays vital role cause no government fail to give you a job space, then what Will you do? It isn't easy to start business without money. Although somehow man manage his job.

Job problem seems turn into a major problem not into your country but also lots of countries. People can't manage any good job even they are qualify enough. But as a man he need to take responsibility for his family and that's why he have to do something to maintain and manage his family. So pressure will automatically come in that situation. And if a family is poor enough then they don't have any option without pressureing their male children for do any job for money. That's very common problem, what is not going to solve easily

Most of this pressure do come from parents, some parents mostly put pressure on there male children may be when they see that other children around them are doing well in life they start putting pressure on there male child using all kinds of abusive words on them making most male child to do what they are not suppose to do, some time this pressure make them to go into doing anything that will make them be successful, some involving there self in ritual act, kidnapping, arm robbery, and so on.
And also as a male child you have a bigger responsibility expecially here in Africa it is expected for a male child to take care of there parents, pay bills, also as a male child you will get married, born children rise them up, send them to school, build house and so on and these things come with a lot of pressure.

we are supposed to know that I male child have a responsibility more than the female child on earth because each of the male child in each family is seeing itself as a liberation to their family that is why the male child work responsibly to make sure that it has accumulated number of things that will make him to be a successful person on Earth

The pressure of a male child starts from adulthood.A male child grows up to become a man and carter for his family as a breadwinner of the family.A male child can only be pressured by family members and the society only when he fails to provide the basic needs.Some male children are craving to get a job in other to provide the basic needs of life while some are lazy to work even when they have the opportunity to,and those set of lazy male children who have the opportunity to work but refuse to face pressures from different angles of life.
Exactly in African we are blessed with natural resources but the government fail to utilize these resources to create job opportunity for the youths to work. And when government fail to utilize these resources to create job opportunity it then becomes a problem to the society.

this is the more reason why young men die too fast and end up getting involved in bad activities that damns them in the long run because of the pressure that's coming from different angles on them. No one wants to understand that you're just as human as your female counterpart. You just have to make money if not you've lost your place in the society.

It's the stage the society has gotten to and every man has hard to adopt to this reality with massive battles going on in Thier life's and yet no one cares to give a listening hear to him. He has to prove to people that he is strong regardless of what he is currently going through and it gets even worse for most persons from Africans descend that have to carry out extended responsibility that makes life very deficult for the average man.

Most of the families depend more on boys to fulfill their needs and hence the stress on them is high. As boys grow older they may take on responsibilities within the family such as helping with household chores or assisting elderly parents. Maintaining connections It is important to stay connected with family members including parents and siblings and to nurture those relationships a man has only the responsibility to lead protect and provide for his family.

Now days there are many families who are middle class.  It becomes difficult for them to run all the expenses of the family.  So family members put that pressure on their son.  For that, boys have to work at a young age.  As a result, their education is also affected.  And he can do good things in future too.  Because making him work at a young age is wasting his valuable time.  By doing this he is not able to make his career.  Lack of family is the main reason for putting pressure on boys.

The human being without money is useless. That is how society measures the worth of their citizens, which goes beyong beind a man, as we can also include women on this situation and every other categorizations such as age, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation and so on... The pressure is over everyone! And each person finds their own way to try raising their personal value through another means, when they don't have money to do so. Then we have the political agendas pushing the rights of their respective groups upside, while denigrating and underestimating the other ones which don't fit their agendas.

And ironically, such movements end becoming only methods for the people leading them to earn considerable sums of the money they couldn't achieve through another means along their lives.

With money comes influence, popularity and the worth they have been looking for so long in vain, although nothing really changes for the people who aren't in prominent positions inside such groups. Personally, I highly suggest you that instead of complaining about reality, you should do your best to overcome its obstacles and your personal challenges. Money is attached to autonomy, independency and access to quality material things in this world.

If you just complain, nothing will improve in your life. So don't conform yourself with the fact you don't have money and that it can remain like this forever without any issues. There are a lot of issues implicit on it, and you are the main prejudiced one if you keep this mindset you have.

Besides God, nobody is going to save you from your misfortune... And God doesn't act in our favour when we don't do our part of the job!

You're saying the fact mate, the pressure is getting too much on male children, if you are a male child without making money there's no way you will be respected by others, how are they going to make money to live the life they want when the government have refuse to provide a job in the societies? No even peace of mind when you move around with your friends because if they buy something nice for themselves, you might feel like getting it for yourself and you won't be able to afford it. The pressure on male children has led them to commit crimes, they join bad gangs because the pressure is getting too much on them.

In my country, I have seen news where a male child killed his younger brother only because his mother had been pressuring him to make money at a young age and he decided to use his younger brother for money. Many parents have led their children in a bad way because they also want to be a mother of a rich son and enjoy life. If you're a male child, don't let anything pressure you to commit suicide, work hard there's always time for everything.

Well said Op most times I usually ask myself if there is any law that stipulates that all male children should be rich, even in our different families there is this expectations that your Family wants from you as a make child not consisering the stress or source of income. I have seen So many male children depressed as a result of pressure arising from parents or what the Society expects from them .
This pressure on the male child always Make some of our youths To die prematurely By either committing suicide or involving in illegal acts just To survive And Care for his Family . But for me the  whole idea is baseless because any body can be rich And any body can take of his or her Family wether male or female . So let the younger boys Live their normal life And pray for God’s blessing instead of engaging theirselves in any form of illegal act just to peovw a stupid point.

We all deserve to live, good thing that my parents didn't put pressure on me and I've done a lot of crazy stuff on my teenage days. There were not that much words of encouragement on how successful I should be when I grow up and become a family man. But, it's all natural when I've come to realize them all because I've seen the truth and situation of my life and that's why it made me realize that I need to work my ass of and become successful. I think that I am still far from that actual success but I am happy with my life and that can be considered as a success right?

Because with what we know, success is being defined by money, career and wealth. But on these days, life is tougher and even you've got those but if your mental health isn't doing well then it all means nothing to your life even you're the wealthiest person in world. I've got peace, health, a happy family and whatever I can wish for. So, the younger ones that are also here, do not pressure your life. Find your purposes and work for your dreams.

This is why in some tradition (especially in Africa) they prefer to have many sons than daughters to carry the name of the father (to me is just a name nothing more) and I don't think nothing is wrong to have a girl, in as much as she'll marry amd leave the house it still doesn't change the fact that she can't help out the family who raised her or it doesn't stop her from calling her father dad or mother mom.
If the girl child will marry and go out it still doesn't mean the boy child won't marry and start his family outsider his biological home, so for the family to grow and not to impose the pressure on "only the boy child" is bether to have a collective efforts from both the girl and the boy child, with that I don't see the pressure on the male child.

That’s what society has put in people’s head. Male children can be broke but not when they are in their mid twenties and above. And female children can be single but should be married before they are in their early thirties. An ideology that limit individual freedom. I think everyone should have the right to define their success and happiness irrespective of what society has to say. You may just want to train your mind to not accept such ideologies so it doesn’t influence your personal choices.

As a result of the government's lack of concern, the victims are boys, they are sometimes forced to commit crimes to maintain their lives. World institutions that deal with children should draft special laws for their welfare through the development of skills training, so that they each have their own expertise and creativity. That way they can open independent businesses without having to do things that are violated by the state. This result can at least reduce the crime rate

If we are going to consider by the way of virtue, a female child will grow and leave her parent house to marry another man and then this has always been the custom, while a male child will be the one to receive in a wife into the family, so they believe that the female child who marry to another man and family entirely has joined with her husband family and she will be bearing his surname henceforth while a male child will maintain his father name through his generation and remain, all these are the olden days customs some of our parents follows and the male child will be the bread winner of the family.

More precisely, it is not pressure that should be given to boys, but rather education and learning to be able to live in the future. I act as the head of the family and I have 2 children, 1 boy and 1 girl. My wife and I compromised to educate and provide learning to my children from an early age. Boys are my job and girls are my wife's job. I believe that educating and nurturing children from an early age is the right thing to do nowadays considering the social interactions that are becoming more and more disturbing. The nature of a man is that once he is an adult, he has a vital role in determining the direction of his life and success. how is it not vital? In the future, a man will have to work hard to meet all the needs of his future children and wife. So in my view it is not right that boys should be given pressure but should be given education and learning from an early age. The pressure will definitely be there when he grows up and matures. It's really heartbreaking when a boy is put under pressure when he is young and in the future he is also pressured by the demands of life as the head of the family. It would be better to educate and teach boys lessons about life from an early age, rather than putting pressure or demanding that he be what we want him to be...

A male child is subjected to many family pressures and external pressures. Such as psychological stress, economic stress and other environmental management and some social stress. We should all refrain from creating too much pressure on men. It can be either in the family sphere or in the social sphere. If these should be avoided then a person will not have to face any obstacle in living his normal life. Nowadays mental problems are the biggest problem.

The problem is that male children are born with responsibilities cause the society sees them as potential bread winners and when they are up to an age without showing any signs of progress by providing for themselves they are seen as useless and as tho they won't make it, and worst of all the life of a youth us now wreaked, you would see a lot of your mates doing well and you know damn right that they did something bad to get there and you end up with no choice but to either follow suite or find your own way which would often take longer, surviving with a lot of pressure is not easy and male children have the worst burden to bear.

Nan can not solve all his problems,  problems will always be their if people don't understand this they will just stress themselves trying to solve all the problems of life. Men should learn not to be worried so much because of problems because when you try to solve all your problems you may end up getting depressed,  it is just better to do the ones you solve and leave the rest for another time, I think with this life  will be very easy.