Topic: Too much pressure on the male child - page 3. (Read 983 times)
Everyone has to earn after a certain age limit. One should earn money at least for one's livelihood. But if he fails for some reason after trying, then he should not be subjected to mental torture. Because he is trying. And if someone wants to be unemployed then it is definitely not desirable because everyone has to take responsibility for himself and his family. Do not run away from responsibility. And the government job is not the only one to do. Many people are doing good business after studying. If a well-educated person does business, there is more chance of improvement.
This subject you just talked about is actually true and it reflects the reality we are living in today especially in third world countries. As an african too, I totally agree with you and i think that this matter is very important and not a lot of people talk about it, it needs to be discussed.
The male in general is seen in society as the main provider for the family, so the idea of making money is always put into a male's mind since his very early ages. For a male child who comes from a poor family it's even worse, the lack of money, pressure and envies all push him to try anything to get money from, which explains crimes and frauds in third world countries.
Fortunately, now even an African male child can easily learn a lot of interesting things from the Internet in order to find money sources and have an income. One of them is CRYPTO
The male in general is seen in society as the main provider for the family, so the idea of making money is always put into a male's mind since his very early ages. For a male child who comes from a poor family it's even worse, the lack of money, pressure and envies all push him to try anything to get money from, which explains crimes and frauds in third world countries.
Fortunately, now even an African male child can easily learn a lot of interesting things from the Internet in order to find money sources and have an income. One of them is CRYPTO
In general, there has been some discussion on this matter in the recent years, about how society treats men and the expectations society has on men.
Nowadays, because feminism and the female oriented education and ideas, I believe men and male children are being put to a second order of priorities. I don't try to negate society has been very unfair against women or people of color in the past, but that is not an excuse to make half of the western society not as visible as they need to be in order to ensure they have what they need to face problems.
In the case of developing countries it may also have something to do with men having more chances to get education or study or getting a better job than women, so men have a more clear set of expectations on them which are to be complied.
Nowadays, because feminism and the female oriented education and ideas, I believe men and male children are being put to a second order of priorities. I don't try to negate society has been very unfair against women or people of color in the past, but that is not an excuse to make half of the western society not as visible as they need to be in order to ensure they have what they need to face problems.
In the case of developing countries it may also have something to do with men having more chances to get education or study or getting a better job than women, so men have a more clear set of expectations on them which are to be complied.
In the africa and Asia world the society is expecting a lot from the male child, even in the neighbourhood their is an amount of money you will have the people around will be looking up to you when their is a problem in the neighbourhood. This is something that we can't escape from. In Africa it is the Duty of a man to take care of his parent and younger ones who still need support. It is the duty for a man to provide for his family, when is unable to provide for his family the society won't give him the respect he deserves. Men are being respected based on how much they can bring to the table.
This way of thinking on the responsibility of the male child in third world countries is now changing. I think globalization is having an effect on these countries. Before now, the female hardly will receive inherited properties from the family but that has changed because they are now inheriting from their parents just like the male child. This is an evidence that the male role in the family is gradually changing and currently the women support their husbands at home financially, some women are also bread winners. If you go to the academic environment, the female folks have flooded it and a testament that things have changed because in the past they say the place of the woman is in the kitchen but that is not happening anymore.
In the africa and Asia world the society is expecting a lot from the male child, even in the neighbourhood their is an amount of money you will have the people around will be looking up to you when their is a problem in the neighbourhood. This is something that we can't escape from. In Africa it is the Duty of a man to take care of his parent and younger ones who still need support. It is the duty for a man to provide for his family, when is unable to provide for his family the society won't give him the respect he deserves. Men are being respected based on how much they can bring to the table.
Yes ooooh, it's never been easy for a male child,man is born to face Many challenges in life, and that is why every man needs to be very strong and focus in life, most especially if you are the only male child in your family,you are to face everything All alone and that is why we have man no rest , the pressure mounted on a man doesn't start today it has been right from the creation man was created in the image and likeness of God,, and after the creations of everything man was given to authorities over all other creatures,, meaning that man is the head in everything, meaning that man is independent rather every other depends on man,both responsible is upon the male child as a man.
So therefore every male child should hustle and ever ready to face anything that comes to his way anytime anymoment..and it's not good for man to be lazy knowing too well that they're alot of responsibilities waiting for you,what makes you a man is the ability to face and conquer your responsibilities in life..
So therefore every male child should hustle and ever ready to face anything that comes to his way anytime anymoment..and it's not good for man to be lazy knowing too well that they're alot of responsibilities waiting for you,what makes you a man is the ability to face and conquer your responsibilities in life..
It's more like a norm that every man should be strong enough to face any kind of challenge in life even from childhood we are all expect to remain calm when situations get too tough and try as much as possible to be strong without crying out for help and this is killing some young men inside.
Although I have grow to see that society decides almost everything in life, if society say as a man you must have kids at this age and if you fail to have kids at that age you seem to be awkward or not belonging to the society. and this notion has to change everyone has a role to play in live let's not make it a big deal for men that they most be at the top every time and met up with our own failed expectations. some fathers couldn't make it to a certain level so they decided to force their male children to meet up with that goal and this has the biggest pressure on the male children.
Parents have to stop the difference in male children and let them live a free live not one filled with so much expectations.
Although I have grow to see that society decides almost everything in life, if society say as a man you must have kids at this age and if you fail to have kids at that age you seem to be awkward or not belonging to the society. and this notion has to change everyone has a role to play in live let's not make it a big deal for men that they most be at the top every time and met up with our own failed expectations. some fathers couldn't make it to a certain level so they decided to force their male children to meet up with that goal and this has the biggest pressure on the male children.
Parents have to stop the difference in male children and let them live a free live not one filled with so much expectations.
The pressure has made the male child to become stronger and independent at some point because being a man myself I have realised the importance of taking up the responsibility as a man and that has helped me a lot in this life since I have been building with that understanding that I must be the head of the family and whatever I want I will have to go out and work for it, this mindset gave been what have to push me never to give up.
Well lately not all male child accepts the responsibility of the family, some will just choose to become useless and with such mindset, they end up unproductive, so the tho g I have noticed is that a child be it male or female can perform the same and it all depends on the training you give to them that will determine the level of responsibility at some point, because I have seen some female children becoming the pillar of the family and the male being so useless.
Well lately not all male child accepts the responsibility of the family, some will just choose to become useless and with such mindset, they end up unproductive, so the tho g I have noticed is that a child be it male or female can perform the same and it all depends on the training you give to them that will determine the level of responsibility at some point, because I have seen some female children becoming the pillar of the family and the male being so useless.
The male child living their hardest part from the younger age,because at the younger age his mother guide him to study till their school days.The male child will read without any deviation and no girlfriends.They also don’t involve in any of the entertainment,but after they join the graduation.His mother ask him not to do any love during their graduation and ask to get the good job at the end of the graduation.The same will be followed by the male child,but the mother guide him to the male child at the workplace also.When the male child becomes 30 or 30+ years,the mother of the male child ask his son.If he had any lover ask him to share,So the mother can marry the girl for his male child.But due to family pressure,the male child never love till his graduation.
yes. I totally agree with you. there are much pressure on a male child, but, it is not everywhere in the world. this is very much here in Africa. and if you can ask me, I will tell you that government is responsible for all this pressures. because they have failed to provide job for the youth. some male child who are into illegal things today, is not because they like it, just that the government has failed to provide job. as a male child, you need to fight for your survival by all means.
Don't tell me you are just noticing it. As a male child, indirectly you are already taking care of alot of duties and responsibilities.
Just imagine you belonging to a family where you are the only male child and still the first with female siblings (the burden will be unbearable). Automatically you will shoulder the responsibilities as the man of house and that's why it advisable as a male child you should try as much as possible to hustle so that you can take care of yourself, parents and siblings.
Just imagine you belonging to a family where you are the only male child and still the first with female siblings (the burden will be unbearable). Automatically you will shoulder the responsibilities as the man of house and that's why it advisable as a male child you should try as much as possible to hustle so that you can take care of yourself, parents and siblings.
There is an African saying that says "One man for himself". Yes, most people would say what completes a man is the ability to commit himself to the responsibility of his family. And when we talk about family, we are refereeing to both his own family, nuclear and extended family in general. If we look at things the burden to carry such responsibility is too much for just one man. Only a man knows what he is going through and no one truly cares all they want is to take from and not contribute. I think a man should be focused on achieving what the goal he wants in life because too much of responsibilities can make you deviate from your visions in life. I want all the men here to know that the burden of a man is the burden of his dreams anything that will make you deviate should be avoided or be taking care of.
In our culture, especially here in our community, males are the ones who provide for their families and they do any hard work just to take home some food and what their family needs. this is actually a praise-worthy trait and it should be passed to other generations as well. Only those people who have drug addictions are always going beyond the limit whether they are males or females because of their addictions they end up committing criminal acts. If the male is a man, that kind of thing won't pressure him because that's his responsibility as a man and he shouldn't be pressured to work and provide more than what he is capable of in order to preserve his dignity and pride as a man.
Our expectations from the male child is killing them gradually, a man without money is not just a problem to others, but to himself.
when I see young men engaging into things they ought not to due to lack of money, my heart bleeds.
Our society today have made the male child without money useless, and that have push them to their early grave and most of them engaging into criminal or fraudulent activities just to make a living which have brought them to their untimely end.
I am a proud African, I know how blessed we are with different mineral resources but our government is not helping matters by providing good jobs.
We should stop putting too much pressure on the male child, because they also feel pain.
The male child without money is not useless, they also deserve to live without being pressured!
when I see young men engaging into things they ought not to due to lack of money, my heart bleeds.
Our society today have made the male child without money useless, and that have push them to their early grave and most of them engaging into criminal or fraudulent activities just to make a living which have brought them to their untimely end.
I am a proud African, I know how blessed we are with different mineral resources but our government is not helping matters by providing good jobs.
We should stop putting too much pressure on the male child, because they also feel pain.
The male child without money is not useless, they also deserve to live without being pressured!
I don't think it happens in other European countries but only in Africa and is really disturbing to see a young man who's trying his best to do something for himself and all he'll get is bad watering mouth not only from friends but from the family members. I don't think the government have anything to do with this issue from the start but the parents are the first to blame, they just have this mentality that a male child must be at the top like others but they forget that everybody have their own time to be at the top. And the government should be the second to blame for this because they don't even try to help the situation at hand, like after a male child finishes his education and he's done serving there won't be job and it will look like the child doesn't have a future. If such a thing happens I don't blame some who engage on ritual and other crazy things to make money like the OP said.
This is not limited to Africa, and I believe it happens throughout the world. Expectations from a male child are excessive, and when they become unbearable, they engage in unlawful acts or do anything possible to get favour and be appreciated in society more than others.
It is also crucial to understand that the increased expectations placed on the male child causes them to work harder in order to provide for themselves and those who are most important to them. It is acceptable to urge a male child to seek a source of wealth, but not at the risk of pushing them beyond certain bounds that will have an impact on their future.
They put too much pressure on men, yet by nature even in the Stone Age, when males were expected to hunt and farm—guys are meant to provide at any costs. But even at that there is time for everything there is particularly time for everything is not even a do or die affair And because of the high expectations placed on male children in our society today, young male children are under a lot of pressure to follow the latest fashions. Fraud is growing every day, whether it be through wearables or phones. When you clock a certain age as a male your responsibility will increase and when it comes to that you need to work harder.It is also crucial to understand that the increased expectations placed on the male child causes them to work harder in order to provide for themselves and those who are most important to them. It is acceptable to urge a male child to seek a source of wealth, but not at the risk of pushing them beyond certain bounds that will have an impact on their future.
But then the male child should accept this responsibility of being the one to provide for the family in terms of financial supplies, but then also we must train all our children to be self sufficient in their ways to be able to atay ahead of the time when the need be because the world is becoming a survival of the fittest so we need to build the survival quality in all our children's.
This is not limited to Africa, and I believe it happens throughout the world. Expectations from a male child are excessive, and when they become unbearable, they engage in unlawful acts or do anything possible to get favour and be appreciated in society more than others.
It is also crucial to understand that the increased expectations placed on the male child causes them to work harder in order to provide for themselves and those who are most important to them. It is acceptable to urge a male child to seek a source of wealth, but not at the risk of pushing them beyond certain bounds that will have an impact on their future.
They put too much pressure on men, yet by nature even in the Stone Age, when males were expected to hunt and farm—guys are meant to provide at any costs. But even at that there is time for everything there is particularly time for everything is not even a do or die affairs And because of the high expectations placed on male children in our society today, young male children are under a lot of pressure to follow the latest fashions. Fraud is growing every day, whether it be through wearables or phones. When you clock a certain age as a male your responsibility will increase and when it comes to that you need to work harder.It is also crucial to understand that the increased expectations placed on the male child causes them to work harder in order to provide for themselves and those who are most important to them. It is acceptable to urge a male child to seek a source of wealth, but not at the risk of pushing them beyond certain bounds that will have an impact on their future.
This is not limited to Africa, and I believe it happens throughout the world. Expectations from a male child are excessive, and when they become unbearable, they engage in unlawful acts or do anything possible to get favour and be appreciated in society more than others.
It is also crucial to understand that the increased expectations placed on the male child causes them to work harder in order to provide for themselves and those who are most important to them. It is acceptable to urge a male child to seek a source of wealth, but not at the risk of pushing them beyond certain bounds that will have an impact on their future.
They put too much pressure on men, yet by nature even in the Stone Age, when males were expected to hunt and farm—guys are meant to provide at any costs. But even at that there is time for everything there is particularly time for everything is not even a do or die affairs And because of the high expectations placed on male children in our society today, young male children are under a lot of pressure to follow the latest fashions. Fraud is growing every day, whether it be through wearables or phones. When you clock a certain age as a male your responsibility will increase and when it comes to that you need to work harder. It is also crucial to understand that the increased expectations placed on the male child causes them to work harder in order to provide for themselves and those who are most important to them. It is acceptable to urge a male child to seek a source of wealth, but not at the risk of pushing them beyond certain bounds that will have an impact on their future.
I understand your point and that is appropriate but the last of your statement of abuse on the child, it doesn't constitute an abuse if the child is made to be responsible. It is a role that has naturally come on the shoulder of a man to take care of a family. Although the government has a lot to do to help support the male child because most of the earlier opportunities have been given to the female gender and they are having more access to jobs etc.
So the casino should be the one to ask the lad for verification if it is a centralized licensed casino, but if not then the case is going to result in so many other factors of during the investigation.
Why you want to blame? Nobody force you to be responsible, nobody force you to pay taxes too, nobody force you must have two kids, you do it at your own discretion, and you even knowingly agree to it to the point you willing to be bond in a contract for many years.
There is a lot that government is responsible for these points you raised. It is the government that force someone to be responsible. Whether you are married or not, the government does not permit you to become a nuisance to the state and so you would find yourself behind bars if you don't conform to the societal norms, values and laws . If you evade tax is already a crime that you can be punished on.
There are roles that government should take in supporting the family system like giving out scholarships and other social responsibilities, it is important and that is why governance is a social contract.
The point of forcing a responsibility on the male child all in the name of just being the male without adequate provisions of support line is what we call abuse on the male child, and that is the situation in most third world countries.
I understand your point and that is appropriate but the last of your statement of abuse on the child, it doesn't constitute an abuse if the child is made to be responsible. It is a role that has naturally come on the shoulder of a man to take care of a family. Although the government has a lot to do to help support the male child because most of the earlier opportunities have been given to the female gender and they are having more access to jobs etc.
I believe that God made men that way and strong to be able to carter for any burden on them. It is the government that made it look as if a man is not strong enough to face the responsibilities on his shoulders. High rate of unemployment has made a lot that is expected from a male child not possible because it is someone that has a good job that will be able to carter for his family and extended family.
Being a male child, you are faced with so many challenges especially when you are the first child of your family, everyone will be looking up to you and when you are the lazy type, your siblings might even become better than you. This is the reason why a male child needs to leave his parent house early do that he can start learning how to fend for himself, in other for him to be able to see the inside of life early, so that he can be used to whatever situation he finds himself in life and to coupe with it.
God was the one that gave us all those responsibilities since he made man the head of the family, this means that man is to do whatever it takes to see that his family is okay in life.
Being a male child, you are faced with so many challenges especially when you are the first child of your family, everyone will be looking up to you and when you are the lazy type, your siblings might even become better than you. This is the reason why a male child needs to leave his parent house early do that he can start learning how to fend for himself, in other for him to be able to see the inside of life early, so that he can be used to whatever situation he finds himself in life and to coupe with it.
God was the one that gave us all those responsibilities since he made man the head of the family, this means that man is to do whatever it takes to see that his family is okay in life.
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