Valid point.
The pressure is much,no doubt the increasing rate of this fraudulent activities is as a result of the over demand been placed on the male child but not only limited to them but also the female.
Both genders are affected,even the family tend to compare and push her children to carry load and think about what would have been a collective effort rather than a single-man business.
I would also advice our youths to put efforts in what's productive and avoid bad influences...
Trusting and believing in the process,long term view than short term enjoyment should be encouraged.
The fight for significance should be accompany with productive efforts .
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That's cause we live in a patriarchy, what did you expect? Probably even worse if we live in a matriarchal society if I'm being honest, I mean look at it this way, being a male has privileges, when we need work, we almost always have more chances of finding a job as most works involve manual labor and stuff, I think that pressure is different in each household so it's a matter of who your parents are.
In the africa and Asia world the society is expecting a lot from the male child, even in the neighbourhood their is an amount of money you will have the people around will be looking up to you when their is a problem in the neighbourhood. This is something that we can't escape from. In Africa it is the Duty of a man to take care of his parent and younger ones who still need support. It is the duty for a man to provide for his family, when is unable to provide for his family the society won't give him the respect he deserves. Men are being respected based on how much they can bring to the table.
Restricting this topic to only Africa and Asia I think is under statement rather you say all over the world. I remember when ever they born in our community people with age first asked what kind of baby did she born, is it she/he, when they said she, they will said congratulations for coming to the world but when they said he, they smiled and said welcome to the world of hustle and suffering, then I couldn't understand that until I grew up and I started to see things on my own.Men are born with a lot of responsibility right from the date of birth, almost every religion speak about men responsibility over people around him, I will say men are in really pressure and we can live without because we alone get ourselves closer to that pressure, first men have to marry and have children, apart from this if you are found the first man in the family the responsibility are double because you will be the one to take care of yourself, your parents, your younger ones and all this need to be done for him to earn respect from the people around him for fulfilling their need, and again all this responsibility are compulsory for man that if he failed to do it he will be punish by God,
Our expectations from the male child is killing them gradually, a man without money is not just a problem to others, but to himself.
when I see young men engaging into things they ought not to due to lack of money, my heart bleeds.
Our society today have made the male child without money useless, and that have push them to their early grave and most of them engaging into criminal or fraudulent activities just to make a living which have brought them to their untimely end.
I am a proud African, I know how blessed we are with different mineral resources but our government is not helping matters by providing good jobs.
We should stop putting too much pressure on the male child, because they also feel pain.
The male child without money is not useless, they also deserve to live without being pressured!
when I see young men engaging into things they ought not to due to lack of money, my heart bleeds.
Our society today have made the male child without money useless, and that have push them to their early grave and most of them engaging into criminal or fraudulent activities just to make a living which have brought them to their untimely end.
I am a proud African, I know how blessed we are with different mineral resources but our government is not helping matters by providing good jobs.
We should stop putting too much pressure on the male child, because they also feel pain.
The male child without money is not useless, they also deserve to live without being pressured!
In the part of the world where I come from, what's expected of male child is too much, that's why we experience a lot things, the load on male child is one of the reason why you experience more bp in men than women, it too bad that a woman that's rich most times does not deem it necessary to take full responsibility of the family if the man doesn't have anything doing at the time being, is a problem.
Men engage in different things to make money just because of family pressure and what people will think about them and this leads to depresion if this man does not handle it well, may God help men, though money has to be made but why the pressure, let's do it gently and legitimately.
We are living in a society where a male is considered a provider and everyone has higher expectations from them. Parents want their male kids to be responsible and earn a good amount of money so that they live in peace. In our subcontinent settings, a male child is responsible for all the household work. He is even responsible for marrying his younger siblings as well. He continuously works hard so that he can get a good life partner. After marriage, he will be taking care of his parents and wife along with effectively managing his home and office. Life is tough for a male child because of the huge burden of expectations.
Today's society See's male children as providers and protector, so anything less of that is practically not accepted in the society.
Maybe this is only applicable to the African society. The world is revolving , so also are the things we hold of value. Nobody necessarily needs to pressure anyone to work hard and stand strong in the jungle, as you grow older you realise you have to step up your game to be able to meet up with your personal responsibilities and maybe responsibilities to your friends and loved ones.
Women too ain't left out on this. Women are even becoming more competitive than the men in most industries. We are now in an era where gender equality is being preached, both the men and the women all have thesame capacity to provide and protect. I am yet to see a society in this present day where Women are not striving to make names for themselves. Things have changed a lot and the practice of seeing only men as providers is a mere old tradition.
The believe that men should be pressured more to see to the wellbeing of his family is merely a thing of the mindset. Those who have tied themselves down with this negative mindset will eventually get exhausted because of too much pressure.
To me it's quite normal that as a male child, expecially in Africa and Asia, it comes with it's own added pressure. In my country male children go through a lot just to live up to the expectations of the society, just imagine that even in the bible, it is written that any man that cannot feed his family is worst than an infidel, that alone put men in a very difficult situation whereby as a male, you can't cry out loud for help due to the fact that you don't want anyone to start looking down on you, some even go as far as venturing into something dangerous just to be able to provide for their needs and family, let them not be seen as failure.
Today's society See's male children as providers and protector, so anything less of that is practically not accepted in the society.
Today's society See's male children as providers and protector, so anything less of that is practically not accepted in the society.
Male children can face more pressure due to societal expectations & gender norms. From a young age they are often encouraged to be strong, assertive & successful. This can create added pressure to conform to traditional masculine roles & excel academically, physically & socially. There can be pressure on males to hide emotions & appear tough which can be challenging. These expectations vary across cultures & societies, efforts are being made to promote gender equality & challenge these stereotypes.
In some regions, having a male child is very important because they are seen as the heard of the family. Make child has some many obligations to handle acting like the next father to the family. Every male children need to be equipped with the necessary information and maturity that would help him to succeed in life. There is more pressure on a child taking the mantle of building a strong home in the future.
The male gender is already designed to be the provider for the people under him, this is not even about the societal beliefs but it’s just nature. The society a male child grows in has a significant part of his life and how he feels and react to things in the society. The pressure and the zeal to make it by all means can also come from the societal pressure peer groups and not from the lack of government not providing for them when they are denied their provisions even after studying. The male child is suppose to withstand all pressures directed to him and be able to come out successful in whatever they put their minds to do. It is really something of pity for a male child not to become productive in the society, it kills them inside and the society review is not always encouraging to help them out when in such state of mind.
Male children can face more pressure due to societal expectations & gender norms. From a young age they are often encouraged to be strong, assertive & successful. This can create added pressure to conform to traditional masculine roles & excel academically, physically & socially. There can be pressure on males to hide emotions & appear tough which can be challenging. These expectations vary across cultures & societies, efforts are being made to promote gender equality & challenge these stereotypes.
In the africa and Asia world the society is expecting a lot from the male child, even in the neighbourhood their is an amount of money you will have the people around will be looking up to you when their is a problem in the neighbourhood. This is something that we can't escape from. In Africa it is the Duty of a man to take care of his parent and younger ones who still need support. It is the duty for a man to provide for his family, when is unable to provide for his family the society won't give him the respect he deserves. Men are being respected based on how much they can bring to the table.
It is for the reason of such pressure of responsibilities from different angles on the male child in continent like Africa that's why the men hardly live to a longevity of age. It is out of this wrong belief system by majority of persons in the society that the respect deserving of a man is to be measured by the amount of material wealth he posseses that have forced a lot of young men to indulge into immoral and criminal activities to make money in order to retain their respect and dignity in the environment they find themselves. A narrative that's very bad and need to be squashed with a a radical orientation about how a true respect should be earned. 
Everyone has to earn after a certain age limit. One should earn money at least for one's livelihood. But if he fails for some reason after trying, then he should not be subjected to mental torture. Because he is trying. And if someone wants to be unemployed then it is definitely not desirable because everyone has to take responsibility for himself and his family. Do not run away from responsibility. And the government job is not the only one to do. Many people are doing good business after studying. If a well-educated person does business, there is more chance of improvement.
The reason why there is more burden on male child is because there are countries I would say the geographical region like West Asia, Middle East, Central and South Asia wherein women are not allowed to work as they are being fed with thoughts that male member of family has to earn and female has to take care of household work and take care of the kids though this doesn't apply to the whole region I have mentioned but there are instances where this happens more often thus entire responsibility of earning and providing a better life falls on male members of the family and I have seen people looks down at a man whose female members has to do the job and earn in order to feed the family as they look at the male as someone who is not capable of feeding his family which is forcing his female households to work.
Sad but truth.
Everyone has to earn after a certain age limit. One should earn money at least for one's livelihood. But if he fails for some reason after trying, then he should not be subjected to mental torture. Because he is trying. And if someone wants to be unemployed then it is definitely not desirable because everyone has to take responsibility for himself and his family. Do not run away from responsibility. And the government job is not the only one to do. Many people are doing good business after studying. If a well-educated person does business, there is more chance of improvement.
This subject you just talked about is actually true and it reflects the reality we are living in today especially in third world countries. As an african too, I totally agree with you and i think that this matter is very important and not a lot of people talk about it, it needs to be discussed.
The male in general is seen in society as the main provider for the family, so the idea of making money is always put into a male's mind since his very early ages. For a male child who comes from a poor family it's even worse, the lack of money, pressure and envies all push him to try anything to get money from, which explains crimes and frauds in third world countries.
Fortunately, now even an African male child can easily learn a lot of interesting things from the Internet in order to find money sources and have an income. One of them is CRYPTO
The male in general is seen in society as the main provider for the family, so the idea of making money is always put into a male's mind since his very early ages. For a male child who comes from a poor family it's even worse, the lack of money, pressure and envies all push him to try anything to get money from, which explains crimes and frauds in third world countries.
Fortunately, now even an African male child can easily learn a lot of interesting things from the Internet in order to find money sources and have an income. One of them is CRYPTO
In general, there has been some discussion on this matter in the recent years, about how society treats men and the expectations society has on men.
Nowadays, because feminism and the female oriented education and ideas, I believe men and male children are being put to a second order of priorities. I don't try to negate society has been very unfair against women or people of color in the past, but that is not an excuse to make half of the western society not as visible as they need to be in order to ensure they have what they need to face problems.
In the case of developing countries it may also have something to do with men having more chances to get education or study or getting a better job than women, so men have a more clear set of expectations on them which are to be complied.
Nowadays, because feminism and the female oriented education and ideas, I believe men and male children are being put to a second order of priorities. I don't try to negate society has been very unfair against women or people of color in the past, but that is not an excuse to make half of the western society not as visible as they need to be in order to ensure they have what they need to face problems.
In the case of developing countries it may also have something to do with men having more chances to get education or study or getting a better job than women, so men have a more clear set of expectations on them which are to be complied.
In the africa and Asia world the society is expecting a lot from the male child, even in the neighbourhood their is an amount of money you will have the people around will be looking up to you when their is a problem in the neighbourhood. This is something that we can't escape from. In Africa it is the Duty of a man to take care of his parent and younger ones who still need support. It is the duty for a man to provide for his family, when is unable to provide for his family the society won't give him the respect he deserves. Men are being respected based on how much they can bring to the table.
This way of thinking on the responsibility of the male child in third world countries is now changing. I think globalization is having an effect on these countries. Before now, the female hardly will receive inherited properties from the family but that has changed because they are now inheriting from their parents just like the male child. This is an evidence that the male role in the family is gradually changing and currently the women support their husbands at home financially, some women are also bread winners. If you go to the academic environment, the female folks have flooded it and a testament that things have changed because in the past they say the place of the woman is in the kitchen but that is not happening anymore.
In the africa and Asia world the society is expecting a lot from the male child, even in the neighbourhood their is an amount of money you will have the people around will be looking up to you when their is a problem in the neighbourhood. This is something that we can't escape from. In Africa it is the Duty of a man to take care of his parent and younger ones who still need support. It is the duty for a man to provide for his family, when is unable to provide for his family the society won't give him the respect he deserves. Men are being respected based on how much they can bring to the table.
Yes ooooh, it's never been easy for a male child,man is born to face Many challenges in life, and that is why every man needs to be very strong and focus in life, most especially if you are the only male child in your family,you are to face everything All alone and that is why we have man no rest , the pressure mounted on a man doesn't start today it has been right from the creation man was created in the image and likeness of God,, and after the creations of everything man was given to authorities over all other creatures,, meaning that man is the head in everything, meaning that man is independent rather every other depends on man,both responsible is upon the male child as a man.
So therefore every male child should hustle and ever ready to face anything that comes to his way anytime anymoment..and it's not good for man to be lazy knowing too well that they're alot of responsibilities waiting for you,what makes you a man is the ability to face and conquer your responsibilities in life..
So therefore every male child should hustle and ever ready to face anything that comes to his way anytime anymoment..and it's not good for man to be lazy knowing too well that they're alot of responsibilities waiting for you,what makes you a man is the ability to face and conquer your responsibilities in life..
It's more like a norm that every man should be strong enough to face any kind of challenge in life even from childhood we are all expect to remain calm when situations get too tough and try as much as possible to be strong without crying out for help and this is killing some young men inside.
Although I have grow to see that society decides almost everything in life, if society say as a man you must have kids at this age and if you fail to have kids at that age you seem to be awkward or not belonging to the society. and this notion has to change everyone has a role to play in live let's not make it a big deal for men that they most be at the top every time and met up with our own failed expectations. some fathers couldn't make it to a certain level so they decided to force their male children to meet up with that goal and this has the biggest pressure on the male children.
Parents have to stop the difference in male children and let them live a free live not one filled with so much expectations.
Although I have grow to see that society decides almost everything in life, if society say as a man you must have kids at this age and if you fail to have kids at that age you seem to be awkward or not belonging to the society. and this notion has to change everyone has a role to play in live let's not make it a big deal for men that they most be at the top every time and met up with our own failed expectations. some fathers couldn't make it to a certain level so they decided to force their male children to meet up with that goal and this has the biggest pressure on the male children.
Parents have to stop the difference in male children and let them live a free live not one filled with so much expectations.
The pressure has made the male child to become stronger and independent at some point because being a man myself I have realised the importance of taking up the responsibility as a man and that has helped me a lot in this life since I have been building with that understanding that I must be the head of the family and whatever I want I will have to go out and work for it, this mindset gave been what have to push me never to give up.
Well lately not all male child accepts the responsibility of the family, some will just choose to become useless and with such mindset, they end up unproductive, so the tho g I have noticed is that a child be it male or female can perform the same and it all depends on the training you give to them that will determine the level of responsibility at some point, because I have seen some female children becoming the pillar of the family and the male being so useless.
Well lately not all male child accepts the responsibility of the family, some will just choose to become useless and with such mindset, they end up unproductive, so the tho g I have noticed is that a child be it male or female can perform the same and it all depends on the training you give to them that will determine the level of responsibility at some point, because I have seen some female children becoming the pillar of the family and the male being so useless.
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