Topic: When will you be comfortable to start a home. - page 3. (Read 542 times)

Op,Men and women are treated very differently when it comes to marriage and age. Men are frequently advised to put off marriage until they are grown, financially stable, professionally established, and at ease with themselves. However, women begin discussing marriage from a young age because they want their ideal partner to possess many positive traits.As a woman, I will think about starting a family once I'm comfortable in my finances, mental health, and spirituality.

I think it's better to wait for a stable formerly income before getting married. So that life after marriage is not too burdened because you already have a stable income. Which makes the family economy easier.

Both parties have to be able to contribute in a marriage for it to work out perfectly. You shouldn't expect only the husband or the wife to take charge of the chores or breadwinning for the family. This means until the both of you have a source of income, it doesn't matter how small it is but the both of you have to be bringing something to the table. If that isn't possible then you shoudn't be getting married.

Marriage is not a get away card from poverty or shame from the society judging you that you're not married. You should have some sense of assurance in your marriage that if you were to fall sick or something happens to you that your spouse can handle the family until you ar able to stand back on your fit. I don't believe in early marriages, I believe we should allow ourselves to experience the world before we tie the knot. This is because when we get married, we should be loyal to our spouses but those who are still having a fantasy can't be loyal and this leads to cheating. The financial ability of the man or woman should be considered and not just marrying blindly because of love. Those that have done this in the past has regretted making such big decisions of their life based on just love and now they can't be able to afford a comfortable meal.

When will you be comfortable to start a home.


For all of you who live in your motorhome or car, do you start your home everyday... or how frequently?

Anytime when you have the money to pay mostly in cash.

The fastest way to go broke is to apply for a mortgage or loan that you can't easily pay. For early years, you'll be paying only the interest without even reducing the principal. It's the same as working for free for them! Marriage status, child, etc., doesn't matter, you can always rent if you don't have the financial capacity to own, pay taxes, and maintain a house.

I think everyone is stuck into that idea that they should be stable before marrying someone. Because it's not an easy responsibility that you'll be taking in and life in marriage isn't going to be all about you being alone. Every decision that you make should also be consulted with your partner.

There's a mutual decision together with your partner whether both of you are stable or not, as long as you agree that you'll strive together and work with your plans and dreams so that's it.

Starting a home is not something anyone should rush into this is because marriage and family life go way beyond that and it should be taken note of how much preparation the singles put into themselves before their eventual marriage or starting a home as it may be hard for one to make some headways when their have an attachment to family.


Some feel once have money then you are free to have a family, but that is not possible and most times it is not realistic per se, so one needs more than just money to build a home.

Let us see. I am personally pessimistic on those topics, to be honest with you. It seems that here the government and the crooks who are in charge do not even want to give a chance, so honest people can thrive and start families in a very stable situation.

I do not know what country are you from, but considering what you classmates have expressed, I think you know what I talk about then I say bad politics can hold a whole generation down in uncertainty. 

Granted, I may have also personal problems which make me not to want to start a home as soon as other may want...

Nobody wants to fail in their marriage and if you think that you need a big income and too much before you will get married,it means that you are seeing marriage from a shallow view. Fear of the unknown is what makes the youth not to have trust in God and believe in themselves by thinking positively on getting married without a job that pays high. The Bible says he that finds a wife,finds a good thing because both of you becomes one in spirit and become more powerful in overcoming some unforseen challenges to make progress. If you get married to a good woman,you will be successful in whatever you lay your hands on and when you give birth,your kids also have their own fortunes which will make your more successful. There is a stage in a man's life that he will see that he has stability in his financial life,then he will know that he can take care of one more person and himself. At that stage you should be able to understand that you need a wife. I have seen so many of my friends that weren't rich but has a stable income that isn't big but took the bold step and got married,before I knew it they increased their hustle and step up their game because they know that they have responsibilities to take care of. When you are married,you will no longer think like a boy because your family depends on your reasons to move forward.

I'm a single person but based on my parents experience and that of my elder siblings, well I'll say it's not necessarily a must that one's got to have a very stable income before going into marriage, yes money is one of the vital things required in marriage but then many couples won't even want to go into marriage if so, financial stability is something that would occur in as much you're working hard to meet end needs even the rich billionaires like Dangote, Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates are still hustling to get more money despite being financially blessed, they're not relaxed and most of them end up divorcing their spouse regardless of the wealth they've acquired.

 However for the single people before venturing into a relationship or marriage, you need to have a handwork or job, that would atleast generate some income that would sustain you and your spouse before you grow bigger in wealth, might not be very massive, even though it's little for a start, just do something and not relax when you don't have any sources of income, relationship mustn't be built on love only, you'll still need to satisfy ends need as the head of your family.

 Also for those that are already married, you ought to a have source of income as well, whether you're a woman too, even though you don't have a job while in marriage seek help financially from your spouse, so as to create a business that would yield more income and also be beneficial to both parties, cause your husband might be down on the long run and you'll in return assist him, that's why it's good to establish your partner if you're more financially balanced because togetherness in marriage yields greater result.

I am not interested to married but care to own a house

I think the best time for one to get married is when one is financially stable to provide the necessary things for family because money has a vital role it plays in the family. Finance is one of the first chateria if a man is ready for marriage.  Apart from the financial aspect there other things to consider if one is ready for marriage.

 Sometimes money is not only the thing that  makes marriage to work, their are lot of billionaire that their marriage didn't work out due to some misunderstanding between them and their partner.  Marriage is patience, tolerance and respect.  If  one lacks all this  characters I think it will be difficult for marriage to last long , the marriage will be full of regret and bad time. So one has  to be ready in character wise to sustain the marriage to last.

I chose to talk about these specific place because I couldn't say anything about those who were already married. However, in my opinion and plan, I can't wait until I reach a certain stage in life to get married and find a spouse because no one can predict how their own lives will turn out; all I can say is that I can't get married without a means of earning money. If you said you would wait until you are very financially stable, however, I think that would be a bad idea.
As a result, as soon as I have a means to adequately cater for my family's requirements without going through any difficulty, I will marry because people are dying.

Life is so much more expensive now than when our parents & before that, grandparents bought a home, got married & started a family. The cost of living means people have different priorities You find now that lots of people rent because they can’t afford to buy a house. These days both men & women have careers so creating a family is delayed. People get married & have kids older than before. There is no right or wrong but you just need to do what is right or wrong.

I believe some people do learn from the example that their parents have set. If it's a good example, they would want to follow it, but if it's a bad one, they would want to make a change, like never making the same mistake that their parents made. So, I think I would fall into the class of those who would want to follow in their parents footsteps and In regards to that, my dad did not marry his wife at the time when he had stable finances; his financial life then was still a bit shaky when he got married, and he told me that was not really very easy for him then, which became worse when babies started coming, but it was just one day that his efforts and pursuit for a good job favored him and he got employed. So, for that reason, I really don't see any reason why someone should settle for marriage when they don't yet have a sustainable source of income. OP, In my opinion, the right time to do so is when you at least have the finances to always provide for the needs of you, your wife, and your kids.

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What do you mean by financially stable,  do you mean when one has a stable source of income or has attained some financial independence!

I guess both play a minimal as in what makes a successful marriage since we have to put some other things in check it is obvious that many successful and wealthy people also have a crisis in their marriage and at some point end up in divorce,  and we have some couple who may not be a financially ok bit yet have a peaceful marriage,  so it all depends on the individuals involved and what their commitment is to the union.

Financial status does not have anything to do with marriage but also it very important to always be able to take care of all our bills so it is important to have money in marriage if not,  the lack of money can also make the marriage.

I want to believe you don't have to wait till you attain some certain positions in life before you decided to marry, one thing to first consider is your own personal self, if you think you're good enough to be responsible for another person, then you can marry, you must have this conviction in you for readiness because it's not for boys but a means roles and comittment for getting married.


singles should learn trades and be skillful, such could open them to getting exposure to diverse opportunities in life, many have started and ended well because they were both determined, everything starts with a relationship and you need to learn how to leave among people and tolerate each other, then you can cope with your partner even whe there's nothing much to fall back on.

I got married in 2018 and let me say I had not that stable finances but I was lucky to have a home passed down to me as a gift and that kind of gift gives you enough space to start a family even without much financial stability.I got a credit for about 15.000 EUR to furnish my home and I still have now about 2-3 years almost to finish it,so I am lucky to have been doing it.

In normal conditions you marry when you find the person that has the same objectives as you and you buy a home with mortgage and work together to finish it,meanwhile creating family and being a better citizen which gives the contribute to the world,i.e you bring up 1 or 2 babies in the world.As a single person there is no exact moment to marry,you marry when you find as I said your life partner,that person when you don't need much time but you soon realize that he/she is the one and marry,everything else come together after it as I explained above.

You sound the same way most of my friends talk. Many of my classmates are not married because they are scared of failing in their future homes. They think that getting married might lead to giving birth to children that can not be provided for. But I have also seen many people around me getting married believing that the future will be better. I tell people that the future is unpredictable which means your plans and projections might fail. Some people got married when they are millionaires but a few years after the marriage they become bankrupt and can't provide for the family anymore. But some got married financially weak but grew to become rich and financially stable. Finance is one of the main factors to consider in marriage but it is not the only factor. When two people who are compatible and in love meet, money is not mainly considered but joy and peace of staying together. There is always hope and joy where there is love. If you meet someone you truly love my brother Hispo you will get married in a few months.

I think I would rather to wait and have a stable source of income which could guarantee a life of dignity for me and my hypothetical family.

To be honest, though, this is the kind of topic which can make me feel anxious about the future, specially living in a country where sometimes we as citizens and workers cannot easily reach the end of the tunnel and see the light at the end. We want to live a normal life, to settle for a spouse and and children, but these economical situations make me think that perhaps it may not be for me, even if I managed to save some money and keep a good job.  

I am scared of being a failure of a father, seeing so many cases around me which are the case