Topic: A gambler's family action. - page 13. (Read 1847 times)

This is a wrong way to go about this because it can damage his self esteem and damage his name entirely within the neighbourhood.  People in this situation might resort to suicide. What they need is to seek the help of a psychologist. With proper therapy,  he will be fine. Besides, he does not need to go to shop to gamble, he can just create account in any of then numerous platforms.

Moving away will not help his situation rather he will be frustrated the more. Like I said before, what he need is therapy and urgently for that matter.

They were trying to help him but using wrong approach. People have passed through such situation and were treated. Shaming him is never a solution to issue of addiction because that cannot make him stop.

I think yes and when there is prohibition or advice that is too harsh to suppress then he will be even crazier in gambling because gambling addict cannot be directed to extremes and it is better to advise him slowly.
Moreover, threatening methods like that will never produce results because there is definitely not just one gambling shop there, plus when the state allows gambling then no one will be able to sue for something like this because the shop owner is in business and the young man came by himself.
It really ridiculous to hear about this kind of case.

It all depends on how they behave towards us because if they are too loud and really offend us then whatever happens they will definitely be quiet and not care.
But again, this kind of thing depends on the attitude of all family members and those of us who are gamblers ourselves because if we still consider the importance of our siblings and family we will definitely never leave it.
Having family destroyed just because of gambling, I don't think is the right thing to do because after all family is everything.

Here's my 2 cents.

1. Yes, the family went too far trying to control this young man's compulsive gambling behavior. I don't know how they approached all the gambling establishments in their place, but based on this story, they went too rude to threaten these establishments. That's not how you properly escalate the situation when you're trying to engage the gambling establishments. The family can just hand over a photo of the young man and ask the establishment in a nice and calm way that if it's all possible they should never allow that young man to enter the establishments, then continue with the story why. Pretty sure the people from the establishment will understand.

2. Depends. Firstly, you ran away from your family just to feed your gambling behavior, then you come back handing them over money for forgiveness? That is a big NO NO for us. If this family has a strong behavioral principles, they will probably believe that forgiveness cannot be bought. So, better stay away for a while, make an attempt to contact them before you decide to come home and ask for forgiveness genuinely, then you can go ahead and share that fortune you made. 

      -  I'm just wondering: is it really necessary to threaten the casinos that will accept their families who have a gambling addiction so that they will find a way to close it down?

That's how I understand it. Let's assume that what the gambler's family is planning is true. Why does it have to lead to such a situation? Also, if I am in the situation of a gambler who wins a large amount of money, if my family is not important, I may not be able to give them what I won from gambling.

1.) First of all, the family's goal is actually good, namely to stop his brother from gambling excessively, especially as his brother sells his property and gadgets to satisfy his compulsive gambling desires again and it seems like his brother has spent so much money even to the point where he had to sell his property, this of course made his family very worried about his actions.

2.) If that happened to me, maybe I would still share the gambling proceeds with the family I love because after all my family's objective are good but the method is too excessive, but I will only share a little of the winnings after that I will leave the house and live in an environment that allows me to gamble in peace.

Nothing went too far, what his family did was because they loved this man. He sold his personal assets and it destroyed him slowly because his gambling activities were too excessive. What his family did was right to prevent him from going too far.
However, we don't know what will happen in the future, whether it will get worse or not, because from the many cases like this, usually these addicts will get worse the more they are prohibited from gambling.

I am not sure where in the world this happened but it certainly wouldn't fly in here. Those gambling places would basically be holding an illegal register, even if the register contains one person.
Not even bars can have pictures of banned people, they will just have to remember them. Also it's far from effective, and might have worked 100 years ago when regulations were looser and moer people used to know each other in the same village or city.

Like you said, all you need to do is change the scenery and play in somewhere else. Or just play online. If the person wasn't grounded and offline, there's only so many ways to restrict them. Better way would be convincing them not to gamble, and find them something else to do. Something else to fill their time with.

A family shouldnt have to do this by hand, a court should be able to do as much on a regular basis for any requested people.   Its still not a solution for this person only a delay, if they cant stop themselves they will find a gambling game to take.  Its not hard to just play cards all day and gamble, so he has to find a better solution then closed shops.    Occupy his hands and mind with something  nicer is necessary, I dont know what but often people have hidden talents but lack focus to develop their skills into a profession to do well by.

1. If you love your family then you can go extreme on ways to prevent him gamble again. It's alright for me and they are doing it for the right thing.

2. It's difficult to put ourselves in the same position as the gambling addict in the story especially if we haven't been on what he went through. Most of us are not gambling addicts here so imagining to be in his position is not an easy thing to do.
Well, if I did win big then I would definitely share it with my family.
But the problem is do we all have the same traditional belief as other people? I don't think so. It's up to him and considering his situation, I really doubt it could be shared because if he can go to the extreme of going to another place just to continue his bad habits then why would he come back if ever he wins a lot of money?
There's a high chance he will keep on avoiding his family just so he can do anything without anyone posting his pictures all over the neighborhood again and prevent his addiction.

that addicted person will always find a way to gamble, maybe not in their area but other places where no one knows him. it may be a tough move from his relatives but i guess, that's not the right approach on this problem.
because if they won't talk and discuss this problem to the person himself, they won't resolve the situation. what they need to do is find a way for the person to cooperate on how to change his lifestyle for the better.

Sometimes it is necessary for people to take tough measures to prevent their relative addicted to gambling from gambling, in this case relatives cannot threaten store owners because stores are private properties, store owners can complain to the police and they say that the addict's relatives are putting their store in danger and the addicts' relatives could be arrested. What the addict's relatives should do is the following: they should put the case in court and then the court will schedule a hearing and then force the addicted relative to have an appointment with a doctor and if it is proven that the guy is addicted, then he would be hospitalized

and all the assets of the guy addicted to gambling will be managed by his relatives until the addict is cured. This is where it creates a problem, because the addicted relative will be hospitalized very far from contact with people and this makes him hate his relatives to the point that even when he is cured, he will continue to hate his relatives because the relatives will keep the property. from him. although this is not true, but in his head he thought that his relatives put him in court to keep his money and his hatred could last until death. This is why it is necessary to talk a lot with the addict to reach an agreement

The gambling addicted person will d aarnge of the funds in different way in the gambling.They even go the gambling place and make the gambling owner to allow the free game in the offline mode.So the addicted person also get money from their friends and family member in the gambling.The worst part of the gambling addicted person was he get funds from the close friends and their family memebers.So this leads to the mis respect of the good friend by taking loan to their friends family for gambling addiction.

A person addicted to gambling will always find a way to feed their addiction.
The family's action is certainly valid, as I noticed in their report that they are determined to do everything possible to keep their family member away from the games, but unfortunately it is necessary for the player himself to realize the harm he is causing to his family. and have the desire to change your playing style.
If the player himself is not aware that he needs to change, then unfortunately, all the family's efforts will have been in vain.

It's sad to see how a family can be destroyed by an addiction... and I believe that every casino should take more responsibility for this too, I think that a "black list of addicted players" would perhaps be something useful and effective.

Said level of extremes depends on how much an addict a person is. If said person sold his assets and properties to gamble, then you'd better be sure as hell that his/her family would do everything to stop his addiction. Heck, this is already light enough really, would've placed him in some sort/form of house arrest if possible just to calm himself down and maybe find a new hobby.

An addict doesn't share jack, they gamble it all again. Greed is insatiable, and they're always at that point in time where "just one more big win" and stuff like that. Though I guess there'd be some that might move on, those are really in the minority imo. And to add, having a lot of money doesn't exactly remove the idea of being addicted in the picture. I mean, look at some lottery winners who spend their money like water after getting a large sum all of a sudden. I reckon the same would happen to addicts really.

Gambling addiction is in divers parameters that when you come around some compulsive gambler whose addiction is so intensive you may wonder if they are cursed as a result of how they acting in the opposite direction with their gambling habit.

Just in similar manner some drug addicts behaves in selling their properties to have cash to buy drugs to satisfy their urge that's in same manner some gamblers exercise their addiction too.  Gambling can be an activity for leisure and calm down from stress and at same time it can be harmful if we are not watchful of how we manage our gambling life.

Legally speaking, his family did nothing as gambling establishment can still let this man gamble on their casinos even with their warning as they have no legal basis to sue them. Also, his family not only did an extreme action but they also didn't focus on the problem which is their family member whose addicted to gambling. Instead of them fixing this man, they've inconvenience other businesses.

As per your question, (1) they're actions were extreme but they didn't really help him on stopping his gambling activities. (2) If I were on that gambling addict's position and won a huge amount, I would probably help other people and relatives but would end up broke soon due to continuous gambling activity.

It must have been alarming that they've gone to this extreme to stop addiction. when we care for our loved ones we will also go to the extreme so that he will not go from bad to worse, it may not be a good action but they have to think of a way to stop their family members from total addiction although it will haver a bad effect.

Even if I want to I don't think they are going to accept knowing that it comes from something that they don't want me to attach myself, but since they are family I will still allocate a portion because after all these bad things we are still family and we have to pass tough times, it will also teach them a lesson that there's still good things that comes out in bad scenarios

1. It is for your own good and we know that family knows best on whats for you, if they do saw you that you are addicted already too much with gambling then the thing they have done is
just right. They dont really just like that you would really be ending up miserable or mess up your life with gambling.

2. Im not that a selfish person, even if they have been stopping me lately about my gambling urge or activity but still family is family. Money is just a tool or thing
which family cant really be replaced. Of course it would really be sharing up in case i have win significant amount of money.

ACtions made out by your loved ones just to make you stop gambling because they've already seen something bad will not be always a negative thing.
The wrong this is upon you.

Nonsense. The family has no legal ground to sue any sportsbookies. If they try it, the bookies can counter sue them and win a lot of money from the ignorance of the family. Neither the sportsbook, the boy or the family has any signed and written contractual agreement so there is nothing binding them.


This measure they took can never make the boy stop betting. Instead it will increase it because he will want to make money from gambling so that he can get as far away from them as possible for tarnishing his image.


If I win, I keep all monies to myself. My family has got nothing on me. They have already done an irreparable damage by publishing my pictures and distributing it around without my consent. I probably will never forgive them too.

This is such a weird scenario but I can understand what the family is doing. Can you confirm how young is this gambler? Is he below the legal age to gamble? If that's the case then it's probably not that extreme for the family to ask the gambling shops not to accommodate him and also to uphold the law prohibiting underage gambling.

The family's way of intervening isn't going to last though since that man will be of legal age sooner or later.