..mentioning that you're female is always met with distrust and naturally considered as bait in a userbase where majority is male, hetero and got used to scammers.
btw stuff like r/girlsgonebitcoin and history of several supposedly female users in here manifested the golddigger prejudice even more.
I know the majority is male, but everyone needs to make an effort to let us participate, the first step being non alienating us when we join. We need to kill that golddigger prejudice ASAP, for good. Donations are fine, everyone's free to spend their btc anyway they please, and I'm not even against those guys going on girlsgonebitcoin getting naked pics in exchange for btc, boys will be boys (although a bit dumb to part with their hard earned btc when they can get naughty pics from pretty much every girl on tumblr for free. Guys, take note!).
I just want everyone to sort of understand that girls involved with btc doesn't necessarily mean they are beggers, scammers, or taking naked pics, some of us are nice girls who don't like being associated with that sort of behaviour.
i agree that shouting scamalert when a user mentions being female is an overreaction (must feel quite discriminating, esp as a newbie),
and that conditioned "safety function" adressed at warning inexperienced users came too hasty in your case.
imo this should only take effect when a user is actually asking for coins.
but besides that no further steps are needed.
what would you tell someone who asks for efforts to let LGBTs participate?
this is an anonymous forum and as hilariousco mentioned gender and also age/origin/religion/sexual orientation should be irrelevant, everybody contributes however she/he wants.
so don't be bothered by the initial distrust, you seem like the rare and needed cases for community to reconsider position and handle this subject a bit more sensitive.
Have
some friendly hugs and enjoy reading & posting here.