Topic: Are you a generous gamblers - page 12. (Read 1464 times)

You need to know if age is the most important part in this discussion.

Your friend is an old person, what do you think he will achieve when he's already old? seeing his relatives' smiles because of him. Money isn't really important anymore when you're old since you're looking to make a true friendship that will support together in terms of relationship, not for business or money oriented anymore.

So I won't be surprised to see an old person turns generous.

There is nothing really to hide when you win there will be a lot of people who if they win will not want anyone to know just because they do not want to give, and I don't see anything wrong with giving they said givers never lack.  we almost have the same way of doing things. because I don't give too much value to gambling. and I don't even know why people will take gambling to be a job when there are actual jobs out there. and since it is a game of luck then you can do reasonable things when you win. and your daughter will appreciate you buying her favorite phone. Putting a smile on your face makes you happy also. and doing guys' outings with your win hits differently. and it will just make everything more interesting. what interested me the most is the fact that you put a smile on your daughters. I hope for more wins, the next will be your wife.

1. If you are generous because this way people won't ask you about an addiction you acknowledge you have, you're somehow denying the problem, and this is not good.

2. If you are generous when you win in the hope of getting that generosity back some day when you lose, this won't be the case and you're preparing the ground for the blames when they don't help you with a problem that only you have the ability to control.

Either way, generosity is just a facade that hides some deeper and not so praiseworthy motivations.

Generosity has to come from the joy you experience seeing the joy in the others (empathy); it is still selfish, but in a good way because it is good for everybody.

No, I'm not a generous gambler the way you described it, but I consider myself generous in general to some extent.

My friends and family know that I won when I invite them for a treat, It is ok to be generous in gifts or cash, every winning is a blessing, and you should at least share a portion of your win even if it's a small portion but I make sure that I am not the kind of person OP described in his post.

When I treat my friends I do it expecting nothing in return, it's my own free will and they can ask me or warn me about the risk of gambling and I will not take it personally against them, we should be generous not because of gambling but because being generous is part of our nature and character.

The friendly gesture of your friend is absolutely good and I totally commend him for trying to be generous with his winnings by sharing with his friends. However, we can't shy away from the fact that his likes are very uncommon in our society today majority of gamblers we know engages in gambling just for their personal benefits and wouldn't even want to share their winnings with anyone.
For me, I'm a generous gambler who derives so much happiness in sharing my winnings with people around me whenever I win not because I don't have financial needs to sort out with my winnings but because I derive so much joy doing in sharing my winnings with people around especially my friends and family

Actually some persons are generous when they win as they don't care about their losses but whenever they win they tend to share part of their money either with their fellow gamblers or some family members and some of those that does give family members part of their winnings, does that on purpose because most family members always condemn gambling so if a relative is into gambling they normally say ill things about such a person and even tag the person as wayward and someone that doesn't do anything useful with their money so trying to give his family members part of his winnings is rather a way to shut them up so that they will no longer be saying provocative words to them due to their gambling habits and moreover the reasons why most people see gambling as bad is just because of the excessive loss people experience if not had it been that gamblers win oftenly believe me no body will condemn gambling.

No one will give you approval to gamble or to stop gambling because you gift them something and those who gift them are not doing that for the purpose of getting verdict from people. Afterall, nobody gave the gambler money to gamble.

There is difference between being a generous person, a philanthropist and giving to get approval. So I don't believe that people bet for the sake that they gift people to get their approval to continue gambling. It is just the particular person's nature to gift from his volition and not that he is force to do that, he likes to give and if you observe him closely you would see he is not selfish with money in his private life.


Like I understand being generous is an attitude not something that is inebriated because someone won jackpot. Like some people still win and finds it difficult to gift or will never gift but pretend not to win anything rather asking to get from you.

This is a healthy approach to gambling and is indeed recommended, I am sure that with this, you will be able to enjoy the fun of what is called gambling activities, however gambling should be used as a place of recreation, seeking entertainment without putting expectations or even forcing yourself to win because the risks there are not worth it in the sense that it is too big and we can see how the fate of gamblers who are addicted because of excessive gambling activities, they almost lose their way due to the adverse effects they feel as a result of the wrong approach to gambling.

Gambling is always nothing more than a game of probability in the sense of profit - profit which also means that anyone will never know when they will be lucky to get a win, so therefore like you said, don't make gambling a job that produces, it's too dangerous and it's better to make this an activity for entertainment only as I said above when you are bored in the middle of your free time, and if you do manage to get a win then consider it a bonus or reward for your gambling participation. On the other hand, I also occasionally like to do the same thing as you when I get a win, if the amount is quite large then usually I like to call a few of my friends and invite them to go to a fun entertainment place such as a karoke place or gym, there is no problem with me because this way I can really enjoy the winnings from gambling which can also improve solidarity relations with some of my friends, and sometimes when they manage to get a win they also always contact me to share some of the money.

Being generous is fine as long as you don't spend that much just to impress someone.
I also treat my friends when I won in gambling, but its just a simple drinks and that is not too much and still within the budget because of course we have to make sure that we are really in profit considering all our previous losses and if that's a good profit, then treating someone that is close to you is fine, just don't think its necessary, though as long as you are happy about it, then it should be fine.

Gamblers who are generous are good because they care about the relatives and friends who are treated from the winnings means that he realizes the care for those who need it.

If I win big then YES/Jackpot but if it's just a small win then it won't be enough, but at least we don't enjoy ourselves from this win there are families who enjoy as well as close friends who feel from our big win so there is nothing wrong with this, I say this not too often because I realize jackpot wins are difficult to get.

I am not a generous gambler and I can never become one. If I lose the money that I am using to gamble, no one will help me. So why should I win and think of my neighbors or friends? I can not do that. In fact, I bet with little amount of money and if I win I win little amount of money that is not even enough for me not to talk of it to be enough for my friends and people around me. Not that I am stingy but I am not a generous gambler.

Our reasons for gambling may vary but the ultimate goal is to make money. Being generous is not my sole purpose of gambling, rather it is to help myself financially so I will be able to help others. Generosity is something most people have in them that is why charities and orphanages are still existing. Of course I will increase my role in that regard when I get more winnings.

The reason generosity is not part of my motivation for venturing into gambling is because I don't want get myself more burden and more reason to over leverage. I won't to gamble with a clear mind

Personally, I will depend on how many wins I get, if the win is big then obviously there will be friends or relatives to share small amount of money with or invite them to eat together.
But if it just small win then I won't give anyone any amount, this isn't win worth sharing.

One of the main reasons is that I have felt what it is like to experience lack and how not to have money, this gives me the feeling that when I get more money then I have to be able to give it to other people who also need it.

Indeed, victory is blessing and of course winning and sharing it with people who need it more can open the door to good fortune for us.
Moreover, helping each other and giving to people in need is also very enjoyable because we have become useful people to others.

I'm proud to say that I am. If I win big, I usually spend it either on things or experience. Since I don't really focus on gambling a lot like treating it as a job, then a win is already like a bonus for me. There was this one time that I won from a huge parlay, I cashed out a decent amount and spend it directly to buy my daughter her favorite phone, she was happy and I'm happy as well. Not only for my family, I also treat my friends going outside for a drink, at the end of the day, I'll just think that it's instant money and it's worth to spend it since winning does not come often.

I just met a friend while playing in a lottery called Keno. He is a good gambler and sometimes hits jackpots. As a pensioner with grown children, he is a heavy bettor. I noticed that he is a generous gambler. He uses half of his winnings to treat friends, neighbors, and relatives every time he wins. He does this to invite good karma and since he acknowledges his gambling addiction, people who know him don't question him.

One of his friends asked him why he kept betting instead of saving so he would have something when he needed it.

His answer was straightforward, ' I was surprised by his answer. His friends felt guilty for asking him. Some gamblers are that generous to avoid questions about their gambling activities and to continue gambling.

How about you? Are you generous and if so, why are you generous?

In my case, I am a little generous because winning is a blessing that should be shared. However, I will not make people feel guilty when I give an amount from my blessing.