Which is why people should look for help at the first signs that they are not controlling their gambling anymore, and this is relatively easy to know, gambling is supposed to be engaged in for purely entertainment purposes, so if you are not getting any fun anymore and if you are instead suffering then this is a clear sign there is something wrong with your gambling and you need to stop immediately and look for the support of your family before it is too late.
It's difficult for a person to look for the signs that they are addicted because they will be in denial, they need an external influence to intervene. This words that @Silberman says looks easy on paper but it will be another story in application.
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It's difficult for a person to look for the signs that they are addicted because they will be in denial, they need an external influence to intervene.
I agree that is the reason gamblers are not focusing and not at all trying to be responsible while gambling. Because they are not aware of what they are actually doing. In their view, they are all perfect with respect to their gambling and other disciplines while gambling.So, when you're assuming something is already going perfect then you will never think about making it into in a right way. This leads to being irresponsible while gambling. The excitement of gambling is that kind of dangerous one which will make you move forward at the same time it will get you losing over initial plans. This is the reason even gamblers are responsible in their initial days, they are losing that control over the course of time.
Which is why people should look for help at the first signs that they are not controlling their gambling anymore, and this is relatively easy to know, gambling is supposed to be engaged in for purely entertainment purposes, so if you are not getting any fun anymore and if you are instead suffering then this is a clear sign there is something wrong with your gambling and you need to stop immediately and look for the support of your family before it is too late.
It's difficult for a person to look for the signs that they are addicted because they will be in denial, they need an external influence to intervene. This words that @Silberman says looks easy on paper but it will be another story in application.We can see signs in their behavior and their Money handling.
Mostly addicted people don't wanna spend money aside from gambling. they even keep their food cheaper just for the sake of gambling.
and addicted gamblers become more greedy and selfish .
Which is why people should look for help at the first signs that they are not controlling their gambling anymore, and this is relatively easy to know, gambling is supposed to be engaged in for purely entertainment purposes, so if you are not getting any fun anymore and if you are instead suffering then this is a clear sign there is something wrong with your gambling and you need to stop immediately and look for the support of your family before it is too late.
It's difficult for a person to look for the signs that they are addicted because they will be in denial, they need an external influence to intervene. This words that @Silberman says looks easy on paper but it will be another story in application. 
My heart beats high, my pressure keeps rising, my mind is restless, my body is shivering. It all means I've lost big. My girl is in deep sleep, once she gets awake I don't know what is gonna happen. I lost big of around $4500. Everyday morning she wakes and first see the wallet, if there is any change in the holdings due to market growth. I don't know what to do, this has been continuing with me. She had forgiven me several times. This time I don't know what is gonna happen.
Truly she is unlucky to have me in her life. She manages well the money, but I spend it completely on gambling. Last time she even said if something happens like this, next time I'll end my life. She said it out of anger and we have big debt. We don't have the source to repay, that's the reason. Gambling is a hell, I'm experiencing it in the world. I don't know whether being in hell will be this painful.
Truly she is unlucky to have me in her life. She manages well the money, but I spend it completely on gambling. Last time she even said if something happens like this, next time I'll end my life. She said it out of anger and we have big debt. We don't have the source to repay, that's the reason. Gambling is a hell, I'm experiencing it in the world. I don't know whether being in hell will be this painful.
Is this a new case or you just adding details to the OP?
Anyway, you are lucky you have a girlfriend, and you are super lucky that she can manage money well. Your only solution is to leave it to her, I mean money management. You shouldn't have access to the main balance. The max you can have is money for one day. Live like that around 6 months, or more, until you know that no one should try to make money through gambling, and you are not an exception.
After all even the decision of seeking for others' help is still on the gambler's hand and nobody else can make this decision for him. If the addicted person doesn't accept or ask for help, nothing can be done to overcome the issue, because he is actually reluctant in doing so intimately. Or in other words, he doesn't want to get ride of addiction at all, because he knows once he stops gambling definitely he won't feel that pleasure sensation anymore. So it's a really hard decision to make and one of the main reasons so many gamblers struggle in getting free from these chains, like you mentioned.
Which is why people should look for help at the first signs that they are not controlling their gambling anymore, and this is relatively easy to know, gambling is supposed to be engaged in for purely entertainment purposes, so if you are not getting any fun anymore and if you are instead suffering then this is a clear sign there is something wrong with your gambling and you need to stop immediately and look for the support of your family before it is too late. 
Important Note : If you're jobless don't get into gambling, I'm an example. I don't have a job, and that's the reason I wasn't able to keep me deviated from gambling. Hope this helps someone.
Thank You
Oh man, really good story. One of that kind of stories that I read two times Thank You
And I can to improve your advice: Do not gamble if you can't hold yourself. It doesn't matter do you have job or not. Because if you're easily addicted, when you will lost your job, family and friends.
your story is a good example of how things going in real life, not in casino promotion ads.
still into gambling even though I don't have one, as long as I'm been given an opportunity then why not especially when there are bonus spins, I'd rather not hesitate lol,
as that could giving up my lucky day.
LMAO, we can't really miss those free spins can we ?
I know it doesn't make much a difference when we have a source of income which can giveaway in gambling.
It's all in good spirit as long as we are not addicted towards gambling. Things only turn worse when we can't control ourselves from playing it.
I think you should try to test yourself too by taking a week break or so.
Haha. Good thought ! If not daily promos then there are so many casino sites already. Even if we try one site a day we can easily make it through a month.
And the events at least run for 2-3 days minimum. So that gives us around 2-3 months with continuous gambling
May be after that we can take a month break or so. Lol
I know things don't go as planned and definitely not in gambling.
Exactly! It seems that many here fail to understand how hard and tricky the addiction can be. I think it would be fair to say, that all gamblers are addicted to some extent, but while some can control it, others can't.
The problem is that those who do not control think they do, until they fall very low. There is a fine line between one thing and another.
The normal thing is to control at the beginning, until the thing gets out of control, and when a person cannot control his addiction to gambling, the only solution is to quit completely for life. Not one more bet, in the same way the solution for an alcoholic is to quit drinking for life and not to drink one more beer, because one more drink will trigger the old self-destructive habit.
Important Note : If you're jobless don't get into gambling, I'm an example. I don't have a job, and that's the reason I wasn't able to keep me deviated from gambling. Hope this helps someone.
Thank You
Oh man, really good story. One of that kind of stories that I read two times Thank You
And I can to improve your advice: Do not gamble if you can't hold yourself. It doesn't matter do you have job or not. Because if you're easily addicted, when you will lost your job, family and friends.
your story is a good example of how things going in real life, not in casino promotion ads.
still into gambling even though I don't have one, as long as I'm been given an opportunity then why not especially when there are bonus spins, I'd rather not hesitate lol,
as that could giving up my lucky day.
LMAO, we can't really miss those free spins can we ?
I know it doesn't make much a difference when we have a source of income which can giveaway in gambling.
It's all in good spirit as long as we are not addicted towards gambling. Things only turn worse when we can't control ourselves from playing it.
I think you should try to test yourself too by taking a week break or so.
Is this a new event that happened on your life or is this a recollection of something that happened to you some time ago? If this is something that just happened then my recommendation is that if your girlfriend or wife forgives you that you give her complete control over the finances of the family and go as far as maybe even canceling the Internet connection in your home, this may seem harsh but you are in an incredibly difficult position and something drastic needs to be done if you want to get out of this situation.
Seems like it was a new event. The addiction of gambling is truly bad. OP shouldn't get back into gambling, even not in hope of recovery. He will keep losing, because he has huge debate. As a result he will feel pressure always during gambling and won't be able to stop him from keep playing after recovering small amount. The situation is tricky for him. He should search for a job which will keep him busy and help him to stay away from gambling.The OP won't stop considering that even the $35k debt didn't stop him. It truly is a sad situation and the only solution here is to redirect this addiction towards something else. E.g. find a new occupation, work, business even better and put all mind and effort into it. Busy people can become addicted as well, but at least they don't have that much time to gamble and to think about it.
You have lost a lot of money in your story, whenever we gamble we should use only our money, we should not debt just to use it for gambling because gambling is not sure money for us, it is taking a risk, what would happen to you if you lose all of the money you have debt in gambling? that is really a big problem. A responsible gambler knows how to manage their time and the know-how to manage their money. If you want to gamble then save money first, a small amount of capital in gambling is not good advice you will just losing it all, it is good to start gambling with a good enough amount of money, depends on you on how much it is, or much the money you can afford to lose.
Many people think that if they borrow money from other people, that can solve their problem. But then, if they use that money to gamble, that is not a solution to make money instead can make them losing that money. That will not make them responsible gamblers because they will make money, especially if they borrow money to gamble. But we can not blame them if they think like that because I think in out there, many people still think that gambling using borrowing money can help them to solve their solution and they can make money from gambling. Maybe some of them can really make money from that, but their number is not too many. So no matter what, we really need to be responsible gamblers and not trying to use the borrowing money that we do not know if we can pay back or not. Important Note : If you're jobless don't get into gambling, I'm an example. I don't have a job, and that's the reason I wasn't able to keep me deviated from gambling. Hope this helps someone.
Thank You
Oh man, really good story. One of that kind of stories that I read two times Thank You
And I can to improve your advice: Do not gamble if you can't hold yourself. It doesn't matter do you have job or not. Because if you're easily addicted, when you will lost your job, family and friends.
your story is a good example of how things going in real life, not in casino promotion ads.
still into gambling even though I don't have one, as long as I'm been given an opportunity then why not especially when there are bonus spins, I'd rather not hesitate lol,
as that could giving up my lucky day.
LMAO, we can't really miss those free spins can we ?
I know it doesn't make much a difference when we have a source of income which can giveaway in gambling.
It's all in good spirit as long as we are not addicted towards gambling. Things only turn worse when we can't control ourselves from playing it.
I think you should try to test yourself too by taking a week break or so.
Funds is what important in every gambling activities and if you have Lack of this then best to Keep out first and find Job for your own capital and never disturb anyone just to sustain your vices .
gambling will always end you losing no matter how lucky you are until you learn how to manage the right attitude in gambling.
I'm not seeing anyone to get into a job just because of they are needing more funds for gambling bankroll but at the same time we can see many people are quitting their regular job or not fully focusing into their job just because of interest/belief on gambling (gambling sometimes will show you like having high potential to get you big profits than your regular job which might be the reason some people are deciding to quit their day job).gambling will always end you losing no matter how lucky you are until you learn how to manage the right attitude in gambling.
Learning how to manage gambling like how to limiting it must be the big thing that every gambler must need to do at first hand. Being responsible gambler is nothing but doing them as the early as possible before it will be too late.
Important Note : If you're jobless don't get into gambling, I'm an example. I don't have a job, and that's the reason I wasn't able to keep me deviated from gambling. Hope this helps someone.
Thank You
Funds is what important in every gambling activities and if you have Lack of this then best to Keep out first and find Job for your own capital and never disturb anyone just to sustain your vices .
gambling will always end you losing no matter how lucky you are until you learn how to manage the right attitude in gambling.
You have lost a lot of money in your story, whenever we gamble we should use only our money, we should not debt just to use it for gambling because gambling is not sure money for us, it is taking a risk, what would happen to you if you lose all of the money you have debt in gambling? that is really a big problem. A responsible gambler knows how to manage their time and the know-how to manage their money. If you want to gamble then save money first, a small amount of capital in gambling is not good advice you will just losing it all, it is good to start gambling with a good enough amount of money, depends on you on how much it is, or much the money you can afford to lose.
Last time she even said if something happens like this, next time I'll end my life. She said it out of anger and we have big debt. We don't have the source to repay, that's the reason. Gambling is a hell, I'm experiencing it in the world. I don't know whether being in hell will be this painful.
This should be enough reason for you not to gamble anymore. Does your girl's life not matter to you ?
Did you not think about her before gambling again ?
Whatever the circumstances are, if it comes to a point where someone's life is at stake then you shouldn't gamble bro.
You are basically gambling with her life. Even though there's a debt on you but it doesn't mean you can gamble and expect to win and repay the debt.
You should have instead used some other way to invest the $4500 and gain more out of it.
I hope you handle things well with your girl and make it up to her and find a stable way to repay the debt.
Its true that the only one who could help you out is only yourself but if you do fail out to do so that then thats the time you do seek out for others help.
When dealing with gambling then its just right that you should do it on moderation because making it as a habit is never a good thing.You are making yourself prone
on getting addicted and will eventually affect your finances further on which might result into a big mess as you go ahead.
Is this a new event that happened on your life or is this a recollection of something that happened to you some time ago? If this is something that just happened then my recommendation is that if your girlfriend or wife forgives you that you give her complete control over the finances of the family and go as far as maybe even canceling the Internet connection in your home, this may seem harsh but you are in an incredibly difficult position and something drastic needs to be done if you want to get out of this situation.
Seems like it was a new event. The addiction of gambling is truly bad. OP shouldn't get back into gambling, even not in hope of recovery. He will keep losing, because he has huge debate. As a result he will feel pressure always during gambling and won't be able to stop him from keep playing after recovering small amount. The situation is tricky for him. He should search for a job which will keep him busy and help him to stay away from gambling. 
Last time she even said if something happens like this, next time I'll end my life. She said it out of anger and we have big debt. We don't have the source to repay, that's the reason. Gambling is a hell, I'm experiencing it in the world. I don't know whether being in hell will be this painful.
This should be enough reason for you not to gamble anymore. Does your girl's life not matter to you ?
Did you not think about her before gambling again ?
Whatever the circumstances are, if it comes to a point where someone's life is at stake then you shouldn't gamble bro.
You are basically gambling with her life. Even though there's a debt on you but it doesn't mean you can gamble and expect to win and repay the debt.
You should have instead used some other way to invest the $4500 and gain more out of it.
I hope you handle things well with your girl and make it up to her and find a stable way to repay the debt.
Its true that the only one who could help you out is only yourself but if you do fail out to do so that then thats the time you do seek out for others help.
When dealing with gambling then its just right that you should do it on moderation because making it as a habit is never a good thing.You are making yourself prone
on getting addicted and will eventually affect your finances further on which might result into a big mess as you go ahead.
Last time she even said if something happens like this, next time I'll end my life. She said it out of anger and we have big debt. We don't have the source to repay, that's the reason. Gambling is a hell, I'm experiencing it in the world. I don't know whether being in hell will be this painful.
This should be enough reason for you not to gamble anymore. Does your girl's life not matter to you ?
Did you not think about her before gambling again ?
Whatever the circumstances are, if it comes to a point where someone's life is at stake then you shouldn't gamble bro.
You are basically gambling with her life. Even though there's a debt on you but it doesn't mean you can gamble and expect to win and repay the debt.
You should have instead used some other way to invest the $4500 and gain more out of it.
I hope you handle things well with your girl and make it up to her and find a stable way to repay the debt.
Important Note : If you're jobless don't get into gambling, I'm an example. I don't have a job, and that's the reason I wasn't able to keep me deviated from gambling. Hope this helps someone.
Thank You
Oh man, really good story. One of that kind of stories that I read two times Thank You
And I can to improve your advice: Do not gamble if you can't hold yourself. It doesn't matter do you have job or not. Because if you're easily addicted, when you will lost your job, family and friends.
your story is a good example of how things going in real life, not in casino promotion ads.
still into gambling even though I don't have one, as long as I'm been given an opportunity then why not especially when there are bonus spins, I'd rather not hesitate lol,
as that could giving up my lucky day.
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