Topic: Can Gambling affect your relationship? - page 22. (Read 4383 times)

Gambling is our personal life and we should not associate our gambling activities with family matters. We can only gamble when our responsibilities as head of the family have been fulfilled. Starting from household needs to the needs of a child, only then can we carry out gambling activities for our personal enjoyment.


In my opinion, there is no choice in gambling, there is also a necessity. Namely, as much as possible we must be able to take full responsibility for the gambling activities that we carry out during. Gambling is everyone's right, but before we take this right, we must first fulfill and complete our responsibilities and obligations as a husband or head of the family.

I know a lot of people who are like that, they are either dependent on their partners or on someone from their family to feed them and their family (spouse and kids) as well and that is the worst of a person you can see. They don't work because they are too lazy for that, but they will need money from time to time so that they can gamble with it hoping to make something out of their gambling that they can use to run their household but that never works out.

We all know that gambling isn't a constant source of income and one cannot rely on it, but some people simply don't get it. I have a relative who does this exact thing, they don't do a job saying they will do their own business when they will have money and all they do is sit at home and eat by taking money from others.

Any activity that you do that interferes with your relationship with your family or those closest to you is included in the category of addiction, so in fact it is not only gambling addiction that can damage relationships but also other addictions.
If you can still control yourself well then it will not be possible for gambling to damage your relationship, because everything is done with good control, when to play, how long to spend playing, including the money spent on gambling. However, if you talk about self-control, it's just a theory, but it can be done even though it's difficult.

But it won't be that easy to have a positive effect. If a husband can control himself, what about his wife? If wives and husbands can control, what about their children? It will become more complicated in the future. Because a person's ego and emotions are different. I think there should be 1 person who can prevent the potential for gambling more. and in my opinion the wife is the one who should not gamble, because maybe the husband hopes that his wife can help manage how to use his money for gambling (if permitted).

However, I know that there are many wives who let their husbands gamble, because they feel that their finances are fine and remain harmonious.

I remember a story about Jerry and his wife to solve the lottery code together, Jerry & Marge who made big profits from their cooperations to break the lottery code with their mathematics skill

On the other hand, I believe that if you approach the subject correctly and it benefits you in your family, other endeavors, or even your personal life, it won't have an impact on the relationship.

Gambling can affect us for either positive or harmful causes, and there are only two possible outcomes. When we attempt to play gambling in the gambling business market, we have the choice of which of the aforementioned outcomes we wish to occur.

Actually gambling is choice and no one can stop gambling activities once someone has decided to do it and it is very rare for someone who gambles to tell what he is doing to other people even to his own partner.
Not many women are willing to accept that their partner is addicted to gambling and there are probably only one or two women who are willing to accept or even support every gambling decision their partner makes.

However so far many families have been destroyed because the husband became gambling addict and when harmonious family has to be destroyed because of gambling then I say that the man is a failure in the sense of failing as a husband and father because he fully responsible for the warmth in the family.

If are still just boyfriend or girlfriend maybe don't really regret it and it can still be considered a problem that is not too complicated but if you are already married then this is problem that is quite regrettable.

How i wish that i do have a partner or wife which would really be understanding on the things that what i do like or simply being supportive.This is why it would really be always better that before you do make yourself getting tied with marriage then it would be ideal on choosing the partner on which it do really accepts you on who you are specially if you do gamble then im not saying that she should tolerate you on what you are doing
but something that shows being supportive at the same time she give out some reminders and cautions then thats the best feeling ever. Dont ever come into a point that you are already compromising your relationship specially with your wife becase we know that finances are supposed to be handle up properly and not something to be wasted on somelike gambling which you could really just wasting your money instead of making use of it on the right way. It would really be affecting your overall relationship and status of your family on the time that you dont have money to be spend already and this is something that you should really be that careful.

I think the topic is not limited to relationship of spouse or girlfriend but seems like you are talking about a situation when you have a real partner who understands you better and love you for who you are find out in your back that you gamble and from the beginning you didn't inform them. It's really sad when you find the truth later because I do see it as lack of trust and anything that comes from that same mouth in the future will be doubt to me isntead been accepted as the truth, it's always good to come clean and straight, if your partner can manage you, they will accept you for who you are and if they will not, they will let you know before the relationship go deeper.

Just like I saw some months ago in a thread where a young boy won a million from gambling but the parent refuse to accept the amount their son gave them because their beliefs is against it and they weren't happy about the source of his money, this is how the people that loves you lost trust in you when you gamble but in the real sense, they think you are just an average guy who do average things.

However, let's say you are a hard die fan of gambling with the addiction but you pretend to your partner that you don't gamble and they later find out that you do that and maybe on that same day, you won a life changing amount of money, even if they feel disappointed and angry for pretending, they will only be angry for a short time, the money under your possession will make them forget that reaction quickly, that's the power of money and how it transform judgement quickly without doing anything. This is to show you how some people loves money than anything in this life.

This is a domino effect and a continuous effect of uncontrolled gambling activities or gambling addiction. Which in the end will only result in misery, where a wife no longer wants to respect and be with him, assets have been sold to fulfill his desire to gamble, and also a child who is neglected because he is not financially supported, so he cannot get a formal education such as worthy of other small children.
And maybe an acute gambling addict will only realize it when they have reached their lowest point as I mentioned.

You are right, many such situations arise because of an addicted gambler. Many such good relations also break up at one time. I also saw a relationship where boy and girl are very close and they loved each other very much but at some point the boy started to change after he got addicted to gambling. When the changes begin to occur, his girlfriend becomes concerned and later realizes that her boyfriend has turned into an addicted gambler. I didn't see them taking money there but I saw a separation between them after a long period of time. Addiction to gambling actually has an impact on relationship.

If you have your gambling under control then gambling in terms of its costs it is no different than buying some clothes that you like on a whim, the problem appears when someone cannot control that desire to gamble they have at all times and at any cost, and in that case the life of their partner can become a hell on earth, as it is the case for any addiction, since it is very difficult to deal with a person that has such irrational ideas and desires.

It also depends on the type of gambling game and depends on where you play. Playing gambling without many people knowing will not damage friendships, but gambling with friends in one place offline can cause a rift in friendships because they know the amount of our winnings.

Playing gambling nowadays is different from traditional gambling which is not as popular as gambling that is accessed on the internet.
Most relationships will be damaged with wives because of different habits in the money factor. I often find that the relationship with my wife is broken due to gambling.

There are many couples who might never allow their husbands/wives to be involved in gambling, because they know the impact of gambling can bring problems in their lives, especially if the couple only relies on mediocre salaries for gambling. To meet daily needs is so difficult and involved in gambling will only make new problems for their lives. Unlike the case when the large income they get from routine jobs and does not affect the course of their daily lives and maybe cases like this can be accepted by our partners.

You are one of the lucky men if the wife allows you to gamble because in the area where I live there is very rare for a wife who allowed her husband to gamble. Regulating the gambling budget is very important, so as not to cause problems in the household and usually gamblers will be very difficult to regulate the gambling budget, because of the great desire to get a victory in every gambling they play. Except gambling as you do because it has a certain time and not too addicted.

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If ever they have a child, the woman will not let his husband spend even a penny on gambling. All the money husband's money will go to the wife that's for sure. But if the case is they both do gambling, that's really a huge problem if they have even a little understanding. Especially it's all about money. If you have a family, better to stop gambling to avoid affecting your relationship.

If parents or any family members gamble in front of kids then kids will definitely involved in gambling very quickly. Gamblers cannot be a respectable person in society if they gamble openly.  Because gambling is considered a bad habit, it is possible to win huge amounts of money in a short period of time. Because of this gambling addiction does not easily release a gambler. And as it is a bad habit, it also affects the relationship in many ways.

If both of them are gambling, meaning active in gambling then I think maybe one or both of them have been given a win by the casino and they consider it very profitable to help their economy, and after that well maybe you also know they continue to gamble and will definitely allocate a lot of money that should be used for living needs instead diverted to gambling with the aim of wanting to win like yesterday. For the beginning, the impact may still not be felt because they can still be called beginners and their money is still quite a lot, the danger is when they start to get into the wrong mindset, for example losing and then not accepting the defeat, then obviously they will return to gambling with emotions and revenge intentions, there is the danger. Because something that is difficult to predict, let alone just luck, will not always be in accordance with what they want, that is very clear.

Yes, that's right, if everyone does that then whatever the impact including the biggest risk they have to dare to face it, it's their own family's responsibility for being too careless. For the problem of togetherness, in my opinion, whether something like that happens or not, it's still the name of a family, anything will be lived together, I think it's not more points but it's natural and should be one.

If both of them gamble, then their goal is to really go make money otherwise they'd just stay at home and play together by themselves. Sooner their kids can join them, it's all in the family. But then they will understand if one occasionally goes to a casino or plays online, they may even share an account so yep it's a family affair. Why not? It bonds them together an d a family stays together. This is where you can see a positive effect I guess.  

Not many women give their husbands the freedom to gamble, but when a husband know if his wife is gambling, they can experience the same thing. If one of you doesn't agree, it's best to stop, because one day it will cause big problems in the family if you continued gambling. However, if the wife gives her husband the freedom to gamble, but with a maximum requirement of $xx for gambling, then the husband must follow these conditions. Thus, it can also prevent someone from getting into big trouble due to excessive gambling.

Since the society do not see gambling and what someone that want to take good care of it family supposed to be engaging in, we need to make sure that we keep our gambling habits to ourselves and we should not allow that to affect our family or allow people around us to know about our gambling interest. Gambling is not supposed to be supposed even to our relationship because it had ruined so many relationship because of so many reasons.

 Gambling lifestyle cam make people that are around us not to respect us again because they believe that people that gambled may not be responsible which is very wrong. Keep our gambling activities is the best option we can take to avoid unnecessary drastically from our partner.