Topic: Do you care about what people say about you gambling? - page 26. (Read 4689 times)

Apart from my wife, no one else knows that I play.

This is the result of two factors:
1st: I am a responsible player. My gaming moments always occur at home and never at work or in any public place. Imagine someone witnessing the moment I'm earning $1 million!? It will certainly be difficult for the person to "forget" about me and that is dangerous.
2nd: I don't reveal my gaming habits to family and friends (besides my wife). Very few people even know that I own cryptocurrencies, so why would I tell them that I practice gambling? This is unnecessary.

I don't see any problem with people who like to share this with others, but I believe that whoever does this should be aware of the security risks and also discriminatory comments.

As an adult,I don't think there is need for any body to control anybody.The age at which one can Gambles starts from 28,so the moment one gets to that age,everybody is aware that he has reached the age in which he can make decisions on honor own and nobody can hold her.So you saying we need to respect our family or listen to our family simply means you still have that childishness in you.A matured mind will do whatever he likes to do with his time and  nobody will question his decision except the person he is legally married to because he is going to be with that person for the rest of his life, therefore,there is need to have your principle and get yourself out of  what people will say about you or your family.

Good you've noticed how uncomfortable such people get if they gambler doesn't feel worried or bother about what they say regarding his habit. Most times such people also engage in other activities worse than gambling but point fingers on the gambler over his attitude. As adults, no need minding what people say or think about our actions. How we treat this type of people differs, depending on who they're to us. If it's a stranger, and he has some listening ears, about what I'd have to tell him, then discussing with the person would be my best take. Although, if they claim to know better, ignoring the person works best. In the case of a family member, removing their doubt is the best move. At least to reduce his thoughts that I'd get addicted and cause more harm to the family. Everyone is groomed uniquely and the way we solve our troubles wouldn't be similar. People must talk, our lapses would be having their wrong thoughts in mind.

Sometimes when a person I don't know begin to say all sort of things regarding my habit and how it could lead me to run out of money. I'd give them a response, like, do you think saving money is the best financial move? The person gets interested in the conversation, when I begin sharing few knowledge of mine why they shouldn't rely on savings alone. And for means to better their lives. Not saying that any gambler or the society is not capable of voicing his thoughts out to the hearing of a loved one, who is having a problem with gambling. The truth is, we need to respect one another in the society. Handling issues gradually, is the best means of reaching our to a healing points. Those who can't keep their mouth short, would be left behind to think of why they didn't get a response. After multiple years, of gambling, recently people stop complaining because whatever they thought would happen didn't occur.  

a normal circumstances our family should be our major priority so I believe that whatever thing we are doing we supposed to do or show a good impact to a family because when we are doing wrong our family will also learn how to do wrong when we are doing right our family will also learn how to do right so two things are involved in whatever thing you do about family, but some people does not understand such in earlier stage so I believe we need advice of good thing concerning anything that we do for the family god the family always follow the step of the head and if the head is doing bad there will also do bad

And this is the benefit of having a clear and reasonable mind so that we can distinguish everything that comes to us, people can do this, or I mean they can distinguish what is right and what is wrong but not everyone can admit that the actions they do are wrong and people say the truth about themselves. Not all gamblers realize that they have gone too far in their gambling involvement but for the problem of impact I think at least they must feel it like losing balance in finances.

But they can realize this if they can take a little time to meditate and really examine themselves about whether what they  are doing is benefiting them or making them miserable and in a lot of trouble. But the fact is as you said that a gambling addict always looks for reasons that they think make sense to justify something that is basically wrong, and this is what makes it difficult for people to advise a gambling addict, they are selfish even though they are wrong, all because of the level of belief and confidence about something they do.

This is an exceptional case. In such a case, we can say that this set of people are our loved ones, and they care about us.

What we do and how we spend is also part of their own lives because if we take the wrong step, it will not only affect us but also them, so they have every right to advise us, and we also have to listen to them because we might not know when we are passing our limit, but with their advice and calling us to others, we can be able to retrace our step. Such advice is worth giving attention because they are close to us and know our financial level.

Thinking about this point specifically, it gives us a good reason to not completely ignore other people's opinions about our gambling habits. If we are going too far with our bets and losing money we shouldn't be losing, people around are probably willing to help through advices. In case we don't care about what they are telling, says more about the addicted gambler himself than the people who are advising him, as it's also a serious symptom presented by addicted individuals. They think to be right all the time and don't accept the fact they are suffering from an addiction.

One don't have to care much about what people think about us when we gamble. There is a whole reason why we decided to start gambling so we don't have to care much about the outside would on there say about us. We can gamble as much as we like but we should know that everything is dependent on us and the result we long for. When we don't care about what people say about us as a gambler, we would also know that some people might be right about us and may be trying to help us out especially our family members trying to make us stay away from gambling to reduce our gambling addictions.

That's the thing with gamblers though, we are very emotional, I mean that is the very basic of how we lose, we sometimes goes to the length of using our emotions that we don't stop when we still have money in our pocket but instead go and try to win big. So maybe there are gamblers here who are still very emotional as far as hearing what others are saying behind their back. Sort of they don't want to have that social stigma in their neighborhood or society that he or she is identified as a gambler. Specially if there are stories that you losing big money in gambling.

And admit it or not, there are people who loves to gossip and talk about others specially if you did like a taboo against the society. And then they try to influence others too and make them believed that something is wrong with. Obviously, this will get us to be irritate with this kind of people around. But for me, I will just laugh it off and try not to be influence by them.

No, I wouldn't care, I just ignore them. there is no point caring for someone's opinion about you if they don't really know you. besides, people who love judging other people are usually hypocrites and are just projecting their insecurities towards others to make themselves feel good about themselves. I've had my fair share of people like the one you mention and one of the things I've learned about those kinds of people is that ignoring their opinion and not getting a reaction out of you Irritates them, which is funny(at least for me).

The only time I think, I can care about what other people would say about my gambling habit is, if I gamble all the time without minding how much I spend in a gambling house in a week or months.

If someone is to draw my attention to it, I would listen to him or her to see how I am getting my habit of gambling wrong. Whether to re-strategize my betting stakes.

Any other advice than that, someone trying to make me feel less about my gambling involvement will not be accepted and I will shun the person not to interfere in what I choose to live up to in gambling since I am over 18 years old and I bet on gambling with little money I have and their money.

This is why tons of people would really be that keeping themselves that having secretive kind of approach towards gambling on which they dont really like on being criticized basing up on what they do.
We do know that gambling does have that negative approach or impressions towards it on which it is really just that common that they would really be having bad impressions and people who do really get involved with it would really be that be also be criticized too. In overall, its not really that bad for you to gamble since its your money then you do have the full rights on what you would gonna do.
The only issue on here is that when things turns out to be messy then it would really be always that reflecting on you and this is why you should really be that careful.

yes, I commented many times on the importance of having a good support network
it's important for us to have a network of people we can talk and share feelings and intimacy somehow, humans need that to be healthy, in my opinion


that is a good point
putting too much weight on other people's opinions won't let you go so far
it's your life after all...
you will have to face your decisions in the future

If I love something, and people are talking against me I don't care. In the same way, if I love to gamble and people are talking about me I also don't care of course. It's just an extra pain if you take it seriously.

But yeah, gamblers always should care about their privacy. and need to keep this hidden so that friends and family are not affected.

I will care about other people's advice, especially my family, if they see me spending a lot of time gambling, I am happy to hear them, and that is the importance of a healthy environment

I don't think I will give a damn about what people think of me because I don't think gambling is evil. Besides, i don't collect money from anyone for financial support, so why should I care what they think of me? However, I think a lot of people will be really worried about what other people will say about them. For this reason, they constantly attempt to conceal their habit of gambling, particularly when they identify with a certain religious group and make disparaging remarks about gamblers.

If the statements uttered by others align with reality, I shall be inclined to embrace their counsel and acknowledge the errors that I have committed. However, in actuality, individuals tend to deride me when I encounter defeat, while they shower me with accolades and request a portion of my triumphs. This recurring pattern has left me considerably exasperated with such individuals. Yet, it is beyond our control to impose our desires upon others and compel them to hold a favorable view of us. Likewise, we ourselves cannot be coerced into embracing the viewpoints of others. It is evident that we will experience a sense of admiration and regard from those who genuinely care for us, perceiving us as virtuous. Conversely, in the eyes of individuals harboring deep animosity towards us, we may find ourselves deemed unworthy despite our earnest efforts to do good and wholeheartedly offer our best.

Caring about what people say about the gambling I do is the same as keeping myself busy without meaning. There is only wasted time on things that are not important.
There are types of people's words that I will consider if the nature of what people say about my gambling is good rather than negative like a reminder for good.

If other people just say my behavior is bad because of gambling and blah blah blah... Then I don't ask them for money and the risks that will happen will be borne by me, not them. What do I care?
I just smile at that person.

I personally could care less.  I've never been one to try and be anybody but myself.  If someone judges me for gambling, then I judge them for being judgmental (oh the irony lol).  My gambling doesn't negatively effect anyone on this planet.  I also don't have a gambling issue what so ever, so it's just not a huge deal if someone sees this as a negative for myself.

That's true, indeed everything is based on our control, the money used is also based on what we feel, we ourselves have found it, but this must of course be paid attention to and limited, because if you gamble too much, I'm sure it can have an impact on other people. , financially or otherwise. It's true that we don't need to listen to other people about what we do as long as it doesn't harm other people. That's not a problem, but that doesn't mean we can do it excessively, we still have to do it carefully, don't let it become an addiction, because if it is Addiction will be a different story.

I also tend to gamble in secret, because I want to enjoy the gambling that I do, because I feel annoyed when I'm gambling but someone disturbs me, therefore I prefer to gamble in a place that I think is comfortable for me. also with gambling activities which in my opinion are better kept secret and not too publicized too.