Topic: Gambling and Behavioral Change!!! - page 21. (Read 3435 times)

       -  I am happy that you immediately saw the signs that happened to you, mate; you controlled and stopped it immediately. The good thing about what you did is that you found out what your priorities are. And that happened when you tried to gamble. At least at that point, you learn and know what you should do better.

That's good, and I also believe what you said: that gambling is fun in the beginning, but once you manage it properly and correctly, any day you think of gambling, it's fine as long as you know how to control it. yourself in such situations.

Gambling, like clay in a potter's hands, changes minds. But dont we all create our own fate? We gamble to ride this uncertainty. We reveal our temperament's frailty.

Doesnt each dice roll or card flip mirror life's unpredictability? Despite this, we blame the game, not the player. But dont we, the players, own our decisions and reactions? The joy, sorrow, generosity, and anger are part of our multifaceted selves. What about those around us? They're not bystanders but members of our complicated web. Are we gambling with more than money? Possibly gambling with our essence, relationships, and peace of mind. The real cost of this gamble?

The effect of such cantankerous behaviour and transferred aggression to the family is that the children will be avoiding the father and even the wife too will be trying to stay away from him because she never knows what he is going through at any point in time. Such behaviour for a gambler means such person is only depending on gambling for income and when he doesn't get it, he gets angry.

The act of addiction is also responsible for this when a player only have the mind that only winning is what can happen in his bet and he has not assume losing his game. Of course children don't know how to understand such harsh behaviour, if you get unfriendly to children you are sure to see that they will start keeping distance from you and that is not good for a parent.

The experience varies alot and another thing I've learned over the years is that these emotions mainly erupt when we use the last cash we have to go and gamble, losing it we get agitated thinking of the penury the loss have made of us, but when you see the rich guy gambling he hardly get that emotionally aggressive even after losing reason being that he's conscious of what is left in his bank account and sonhe doesn't have to worry a bit about the loss and it's just a little piece loss. So it will be appropriate people don't go gamble with the last cash in their possession to dodge getting emotional if lost.

You are taking gambling too seriously and it is not good for yourself and your family as well. It will affect your life negatively if you don't change yourself soon. You are addicted to gambling because only a gambler who is addicted to gambling and gambles to earn money will have such behavioral changes a normal gambler wouldn't care much about their losses because they know that one can win or lose and both of these are a part of the process and there is nothing new in losing and one shouldn't take it that way.

So, you will have to start working on yourself, build your character differently, and make yourself better in terms of patience and self-control so that even when you lose, you don't take it too seriously and you accept your losses gracefully and move on. Remember that gambling is not a way for you for earn money, and also remember that your family is the most important thing for you, they are the ones you work for to earn money so that you can provide the best life for them.

I also think that it is normal, I believe that everything you are doing has an effect to you especially if it is something that you are really into it. There are people who tend to have a fluctuation in their emotion when they are currently doing gambling, these kind of people are the one I think can possibly have a massive behavioral changes after they had done gambling. The behavioral changes would depend on the capacity of the gambler but one thing is for sure, you giving a hard time to the people around you just because of the gambling vices you have is definitely not OK.

The behavioral changes differs to gamblers, there are some who show low self-esteem, aggressiveness, generous, joyful, it depends on the gambler and the result of the gambling session that they have. The only thing that makes it bad is when it can negatively affect us or others when things go bad. 

Of course gambling can make someone change their attitude and behavior as well as their mindset, which is unfortunate that this change is not a positive change but the change that will be experienced is a negative change. and of course this is detrimental to themselves, where they can get into debt, because a gambler who is addicted and when he runs out of capital maybe he will borrow money here and there to be able to return to gambling, and with the belief that gambling can restore their losses and get a win to cover the losses they have got as well as to pay off their debts. also they can lose many responsibilities, because gambling like this can make someone forget about time and other things that should have been their responsibility. and health, especially in the mindset which of course this is very fatal because gambling can make someone experience a lot of debt. also they can lose a lot of responsibilities, because gambling like this can make someone forget about time and other things that should have been their responsibility. and health, especially in the mindset which of course this is very fatal because gambling can make someone crazy if they are already heavily addicted, where their mindset is no longer healthy by only thinking about gambling in their life.

 Obviously gambling can make a person's life a mess, and there are also examples like we all know about what people who are addicted to gambling are like, even in relationships can be affected. and there are also many other things that will be harmed only because of gambling. there are also many changes that a person will experience if they are addicted to gambling. even if someone is gambling with all their might, it will not be easy to win, it does not rule out the possibility that they will lose, and defeat is also a factor that causes someone to experience changes in themselves.

Behavior changes after losing from gambling because at that rate a lot of money is lost. Moreover many people borrow this money and sell their assets. I personally cannot be happy when losing money from gambling. And when i gain i celebrate those happy moments with everyone. However you should pay more attention so that the effects of gambling do not affect your family and if you can't fix yourself in those losing moments then gambling is not for you.

Gambling, as an activity does have its fair share in the behavioral change of an individual. That’s if you allow it to have such an effect.
I think It’s only human nature to be happy when the good times comes rolling and quite sad and annoyed when it’s not so rosy anymore. That’s fine and expected. What isn’t expected or fine is taking out your annoyance on someone else(your family). This happens when you allow your emotions overwhelm you. We’re human and have/feel emotions whether you like it or not. It’s left for us to decide how best to show/channel such emotions.

You(OP) should get some help. You said it yourself that you’re addicted. If you want to keep your family happy and together, get some help that would help you quit your addiction.

I believe this is a common human psychology, not just among gamblers. However, for gamblers, the emotional rollercoaster can be more intense. We could be elated by a winning trade, only to be immediately frustrated by missing the next opportunity or facing a loss. The emotional shifts happen faster and more frequently compared to non-gamblers. Additionally, when gambling or engaging in short-term trading, emotions like FOMO (fear of missing out) or frustration often impact our mood.

A few years ago, when I entered the cryptocurrency market, these emotions often took control, especially when trading futures. I even found myself getting angry at those around me just because I missed an order due to a phone call or some other distraction. Now, although those emotions still linger, I've learned to control and not let them burst out like before. However, complete elimination is nearly impossible unless I stop engaging in these activities entirely.

I'm better now than when I had just started, I just realized my priorities and my priorities are my jobs and my relationships with people I am close with, gambling takes away my priorities, back then I spent a lot of time and money which is not right because you eventually forget what matter most in your life, glad that I overcome it after so many months of struggling.
Gambling is good in the first few weeks but once addiction starts that will cause a lot of dissatisfaction and depression, so every new gambler should watch out for the warning signs, or you will struggle to get back, to the life you once enjoyed.

I mean, this is quite the obvious that a person would feel irritated if they lost a certain amount of money when they lost; and if the person won, they would feel generous and kind to others.

This is nothing but natural human behaviour that we are more kind, happy, and respectable if we experience a good/positive outcome. In the contrary, a negative outcome would most likely affect our mood, thereby making us more aggressive and sensitive at the same time.

This natural human behaviour applies to gambling which is purely dependent on the outcome of the game. If a certain gambler won, then he would feel happy; if he lost, then he has the potential to be aggressive to his surroundings (though this also depends on the goal of a person if they gamble for money VS if they gamble for entertainment).

Stress could change tour behavior especially frustration wherein you'd be easily irritated with things. This happens a lot after a huge loss in gambling wherein even the slightedt inconvenience would negatively change your mood. This is also a sign that you are already being consumed by this activity. One reason why we should be preventing ourselves to bet across the amount or loss tolerance. In my case, I am anticipating loss and never disregarding the possibility of it in order to safeguard myself from regrets and frustration. This helped me control and lessen negative emotions after gambling and have improved my gambling expenses as well. Going all out in gambling will make us broke for sure; you could win a one time big time jack but it won't be enough to cover all of your losses eversince.

It is normal for this to happen because gambling has lost your money and at that time you will feel bad and you will not be able to behave normally. No one in my family knows that I gamble but I noticed a lot of changes in my behavior when I lost most of my money in the early days of gambling. After losing money in gambling when my mother would talk to me about something nice or call me out on something I would still get angry and misbehave for no reason. Losing is not expected by everyone everyone expects to win and make money but winning and losing is not what everyone expects. Now I bet less and my winnings are bigger, so I've been able to sort myself out in that direction.

No, I do not bring my gambling performance outside the gambling platform.  If I lose I lose, since I only gamble what I can afford to lose, it does not affect my relationship and mood.  Besides I have the habit of not showing my frustration in front of other people since I always laugh it out whenever I encounter some loss in gambling.  For me, there is nothing to lose in gambling anyway since I already considered the amount I deposited in the gambling platform as spent so losing them is does not make a difference.


True!  People have different way of reacting to loses.  So a person may get infuriated, short tempered and easily agitated when losing in their gambling session while other just shrug their shoulder and move on as if nothing happens.

That is normal when you are on a losing streak. You become angry because who wants to get into a losing streak and you're losing always everything that you have? Anyway, what's abnormal is about your anger issues. It's normal to be upset when things to go accordingly to what you are expecting in return.

And if you've been affected with it and your anger is being transferred to the other people like in your family members. That's a wrong call though and that's why you need to manage your anger as much as you can because you'll never know what the person you're talking to and seen your anger because of gambling. You need to change and manage to control your anger whenever you gambled badly this day.

Because the impact and impression goes to you and you being a gambler that they should think that for you to be normal and lively without anger is not to gamble or else, they'll resort that gambling is giving a person angerness and that's going to give them hate not just on you but also to gambling.

This was the common way of gambling impacts to all the gambler,if they encountered the loss in the gambling.The reason for this was very simple,we are using the real money for the gambling.Which is the problem of loss can be used for the monthly expenses of the family man,this also may be the school fee of their children.The foremost thing need to remember as the gambler was,you should not use the money which was the budget of the other stuffs.The gambling also boost our ego to win more then we had loss in the previous bet,but the gambler will get the ego only if he had made big win in the previous bets.

the experience will always vary from person to person as we have different situations in life. but the most important thing is how you rise up from your situation and as you said regain control of yourself.

do remember, don't get too attached with your losses or winnings. you will go crazy if you will put your head into this and worry every bet you make. though i can't totally say, i always abide within my limits, but i do frequent check of my situation. so i need to remind myself what i really would be compromised if i will go overboard. do i want myself to be subjected in a grueling spot and have the feeling of regret? or better yet, sticking to my financial capability so as not to lose my mind if i lost it all? i believe, it is a better choice if you have lesser problems, right? so the choice should be clear on yourself for this one.

Of course there is no need to share any more information with us that you have already done, but it would be interesting to know whether this is an observation of yours that only occurs when you are gambling? What about a bad day at work or a good day at work? Perhaps your boss was angry or some people were attacking you at work, what is your emotional state after other bad experiences? Is your behavior towards your family similarly dependent on other negative or positive events in life? If not, it is psychologically interesting and there is probably something to be found about that on the Internet, but narrowing down the scope of a problem would be a good start.

Its nice to read about your testimony and tonknow you were able to regain control of the emotional flows. We all have had such experiences as gamblers particularly in the beginning of our gambling when not so much have been gotten about how gambling is all about. I honestly don't care anymore about how much I have lost in the session and that's the strategy I use to not get emotional about thinking how much must have left my pocket instead I just decide I have reached my limit and it's a enough for the day. Was kind of hard to keep up with initially but progressively I have been able not to think of my losses as I do with winning.