Topic: Gambling and Behavioral Change!!! - page 25. (Read 3434 times)

Why does every gambler only tell something bad about themselves, but don't tell about their winnings, it's really a pity for your behavior, remember that it's your own flesh and blood, change your mindset. What makes you like that is you yourself. Before playing gambling, you should take experience from other people, if you have something bad about gambling, you should avoid it. Usually gamblers don't think about this, they only think about how their money can be multiplied. People who gamble will never be satisfied with winnings. This characteristic that gamblers experience is only greed. There are still many ways to make money the right way, so you should look for something else to do to get rid of your addiction.

This is a normal thing that gamblers do feels but I think that you are gambling with more than what you can afford to lose and that is why you are finding it difficult to control your emotions.

Make a weekly budget from your income, like maybe 5% and set a time limit that you will use in gambling, so that this will prevent you from much loss and can also save you from your addiction. The moment that you see that you have gambled all your gambling budget, you should stop gambling till the next gambling budget is ready. Also, if you are losing or wining, the moment that you see that your gambling time limit is over. You should also stop gambling until the next day. Gamble responsible to stay healthy with your family.

There's no doubt to the fact that a gambler's gambling result is a big factor that determines his behavior at a given period of time and that's why gamblers are advised to always keep their behaviors in check at every given time especially during gambling moments. Most gamblers automatically becomes too toxic to stay close to whenever they're losing in gambling, the reason behind that I think is because of the pains that comes with losing money and this same gamblers exhibit their cool and accommodating life whenever they're making profits. It's absolutely unwise for a gambler to allow his gambling activities to determine how he feels because in some occasions, he might lose his close friends or good relationship with family members because of their reactions during their loss moments in gambling.

If I'm to advice a gambler about how to manage behavioral changes, I'll tell him to temporary avoid any engagement with friends and family immediately after losing in gambling so he doesn't end up having issues with them that he'll later regret

Engaging in this thread would help you fight problem gambling. Discussing with friends and family members about this development is crucial in reducing addiction. Punctuating it, with an attentive person, can help you see things the way it is, behavior like that can make you fearful of what has become of you. But seeing it as a problem with solutions, that when applied would stop, curtails the risk of gambling addiction. Try to rethink or ease your stress, whenever the urge to scold the kids erupts. Read books concerning kids and taking effective care of them. It's a kind of psychotherapy method of shifting your thoughts from what won't help to a better and more meaningful one. CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy, has helped therapists to battle client's addictions. If you wish to see a therapist, always stay active and don't resist the therapist. Sometimes we'll think of not being good enough if we can't help ourselves, who then can cure us. Regular activities in a different direction and engaging in discussion about our problems with other people has proven to be an effective way of curing gambling addiction. However, gambling addiction is quite hard to cure, as it's rare for gambling to switch focus on other things. Since winning money is attached to it. We hardly stop things that yield us money. Regardless of the risk or the mental disadvantages. Following the procedures for CBT can help reshape your thoughts on gambling and provide a fresh picture in your subconscious. Then you can have a happy session or moment with the kids. Staying happily with kids also helps in changing our bad habits as adults.

I guess everyone has experienced that, but the only difference is that some have managed to control their emotions while others find it hard and just let it out whatever emotions they have. And regret it after after the damage has been done.

However, for those gamblers who have never experienced these behavioral changes, I should say they are not real gamblers. Although they gamble but have never reached the climax in gambling.

I think it all depends on how the gambler reacts to it. If they respond to it by expecting a big win maybe they will do gambling that is beyond the limit or do gambling beyond the limit, then this will change one's attitude and behavior. Also this change in attitude and behavior can be sure to lead to a negative attitude, where a person will experience uncontrollable emotions easily they get angry because of even trivial things, and it is likely that they will become someone who is restless because they are addicted to gambling and when they don't gamble because they don't have enough money then they will feel restless, also will not be calm.

But if people who gamble deal with it well, I mean by dealing with it not as a source of money, maybe they won't feel that way, because by dealing with it naturally and having limits in gambling. And win or lose, they will definitely experience a change in attitude if they respond to gambling wrongly from the start. And that can also be detrimental to themselves in the future.

When we're winning, the brain releases a chemical called dopamine that makes us feel good. That's why your mood is improved instantly. If you're addicted, though, you're getting used to the dopamine and constantly craving more, just like how nicotine works in cigarettes. It's understandable to feel irritated after losing, especially if it's a large sum of money, but feeling moody and angry towards friends and family members is a no-go. It's a sign that gambling is getting the best of you to the point that it's controlling your emotions. Similarly, when you're stepping home from work, you need to leave your emotions out of your close circle; otherwise, you'll lash out about your work's issues to your loved ones, losing in gambling works in a similar way.

I believe that it's quite common among gamblers, and I've personally suffered some moodiness after losing a couple of times, but you eventually get the hang of it and control your behavior and your betting strategy.

gambling can have a serious impact on behavior. Personally, my inner concentration has improved significantly and I have started to listen more to my inner voice. I also try to meditate more often and engage in various energy practices. As a result, the results are better - but of course, winning all the time is something out of the realm of fantasy

Of course, and likely it's apparent and visible especially when you're losing. I think that explains a lot that it has effect on us and that's clearly understandable because you're not the only one that experience it, just don't get it to the extreme that you'll do things unnecessary.

It is difficult for a person not to change their behavior when winning/losing in gambling. Unless the amount of money you lose is small or the amount of money you are willing to lose. Is that amount all the money you saved? You cannot avoid changing your behavior with family members.
I also went through those days. What I could do was limit them from bothering me, and I would find somewhere to improve my mood gradually. I avoided it by saying I was busy with work. And when I won, I couldn't help but feel happy with my family. I hope my family and children will understand me about this.

What do you feel though after? Do you feel guilty when you shout at your kids? Or maybe this is the sign that you are becoming addicted to gambling? I haven't had this kind of experience. Most of the times I just put everything on me, why I lost in gambling and that I shouldn't have gamble in the first place.

So this is a dangerous or even can cause trauma to the kids, just saying. And as others have said, maybe you should take control of yourself winning or losing. So that you can still have a good relationships with your family specially we are approaching the holidays. So just stay cool and relax mate.

I guess because we hate to lost that's all, and we blame everyone around us, our kids or wife or husband. The last 2 days I also throw my mobile phone because I did lost on roulette games and my mood changes as all. So what I do is to sleep it out and calm myself.

So just be careful for everyone, we all know that losing has also a effect on us mentally that's why what the OP describe is real and we are very angry with people around us. Control is the key here, and just like in my case, I try to do it by just shutting down my self from everyone until I was able to get control of my emotions and apologizes to the people around.

Money is powerful but I must say that this behavioural change doesn't happen to me in gambling, and I believe the reason is that I do not have so much trust in gambling, and hence the need that my mind is not so attached to it as I do not view it as a means at which I will be rich in life. This alone is helping me not to be emotional in gambling, everyone can try it too. But I feel this way so much in trading. I feel the joy and excitement in me when I win or in a winning position, but the opposite goes to when I am losing. Perhaps, it could be for the fact that I am used to trading far more than gambling which makes me feel less of such in gambling, as trading is all that I have that feeling and attachment to when it comes to passive income.

Besides, let me advice you just the way I do. I never let my negative emotions show around the people I love. My wife and children deserve the best of me all the time, so I always hide it when I feel bad and it has been part of me as no one would even know how I feel unless I tell them. This is far more reasonable than passing aggression on them for something they know nothing of.

It might be difficult at first but with a very strong mind, you will realize you don't act based on emotion any longer if you wish to change.

People are different. When I was addicted, what I noticed for myself is that if I lose, I will not be happy, but if I win I will be happen. I do not know if someone can noticed such mood swing in me which can be common to gamblers but I do all best to hide it from people that I am moody when I lost money to gambling. I do not have the anger issue but people are different.

Well, this happening is very common, so, yes, I guess mostly of us or almost all experienced it, just like in gaming you will experience a change in mood or emotion, sometimes people build anger management, and what more in gambling? It involves money, so the stress and the effect are greater, but the thing is, you should not involve your family or people around you because you are the one who's playing, so you should only be the one who's affected, but it can't be blamed on. It is a common phenomenon for gamblers and also a sign that you are addicted and can't control your emotions, so you should always have a way to ease your feelings or a way to divert your attention to other things so you can be calm, or if you really can't contain your emotions, then better stop and divert your anger to something that is not alive.

Changes in attitude that occur in gambler when under certain conditions, such as losing or winning, can occur and are very natural to occur because emotions and feelings will follow when in certain conditions.
When you win you may feel pleasure, you heart and mind are full of joy, so you can be friendly and gentle to anyone in your family, but when you lose it changes to the opposite, from losing patience to being emotional and more irritable.
This is an attitude that of course all gamblers experience, even I myself also do the same thing, only I don't show it too much to my family and prefer to keep quiet.
It would be great pity if we as parents and husbands did things that were little harsher or more disappointed with because of our attitude them just because they lost from gambling.
Usually I tend to go straight out of the house, whether it just looking for new atmosphere to calm my emotions and also change the atmosphere to be calmer after the defeat that occurred.

My advice to you is to have more controlled attitude or do the same as I did, where you tend to be quiet and leave your family from home to improve your mood and thoughts.
That way, when you return home, your family will not feel the emotional level or inappropriate behavior you have treated them.
Don't you feel sorry for the children who have to feel emotional release when you lose gambling?

So admit that the truth is that you are influenced by gambling, not that you come to it with the simplification of being a relaxing player, or more accurately, the premise for the beginning of a gambling addiction.

I don't think the results are important because sometimes I always assume in my mind that I don't want to win and would rather make money in this field. Although in history I have had some very impressive but not too important wins, I can also understand the behavior of someone who easily loses control of their psychology when they place more importance on their possessions than on their finances.

It all depends on the attitude of the gambler. If we gamble to make money when we lose, we will definitely get emotional easily and vice versa, but if we use gambling as a form of entertainment, we won't cause big problems let alone looking for an outlet for our family who haven't done anything wrong.
It was your mistake in gambling and your loss was a risk you had to take so don't take it out on other people. We must be able to control ourselves and position ourselves to be responsible figures as heads of the family because our attitude reflects a person's self. Don't let your children imitate your temperament. Your temperament affects your children psychology. So use gambling as a form of entertainment and face the risks when experiencing it. If you don't want to lose and don't want your emotions to control you, you should avoid gambling or avoid things that cause you to get emotional easily.

Almost every one in gambling are fond of this attitude in gambling, I remember back in those days when my dad use to play gamble, whenever he wins he'll start giving us money and buy drinks for us and he will tell us that he won that's why he's doing all that but any time he loses hmmm don't even near him because the way he will respond to you will be very awkward and whenever we noticed such attitude from him we already know that he has lost a bet so we'll give him space at that material time till when he's settled.

This habit of being emotional when you lose a bet is a very bad habit because you can do some nasty things whenever you are angry and realise yourself later on so at that time when you're angry it can really be very dangerous as you may live to regret you actions when you're settled.

This is very common to us gamblers to be honest and I personally experienced this kind of thing before. With the said attitude and emotions, the relations between you and your family and friends might be affected. My only solution to this is to divert myself to movies, foods and think how important my family is to me so conscience haunt me and calm me down.