Topic: Gambling and Behavioral Change!!! - page 24. (Read 3202 times)

Yes of course every person will change their behavior based on winning and losing in gambling. For example, when I participate in gambling and win the bet, my mindset and behavior are very good. I treat my family very well and prepare good food for them. I have never lost a bet since I participate in gambling so far I can't misbehave with my family but I participate in trading platforms when I have a lot of losses in trading I misbehave with my family even though I don't want to do it myself. A bad mood arises in me. From here I can feel that if I lose on the gambling platform, I might be bad on my family.

Regardless of how little you lose or win in gambling, it could bring some emotional changes. Nobody wants to lose so it could be disappointing when you fail to achieve your aim. But we should look for means to control our emotions especially when we lose because there is life outside gambling. We should ensure that our friends and family won't be victims of our losses. We need to separate gambling from other activities because it might lead to regrettable actions. Our family deserves respect and love at all times so we shouldn't let our gambling experience deprive them of that.

Not controlling our emotions might also affect our performance in our place of work because we need to have stable emotions to give our best in our offices. An uncontrollable emotion could lead to a strained relationship between you and other employees or even your employer.

One of the ways of controlling our emotions is to gamble what we can afford to lose and not exceed our gambling budget. We should also see gambling as a source of entertainment and not just a means of making money.

We shouldn't only control our reaction when we lose but also when we win. Some people drink alcohol irresponsibly when they win. They engage in wild parties to celebrate with friends because they won in gambling. Too much of everything thing is bad, so there is a need to curtail these excesses.

Until you understand fully how gambling works and see it as a means of entertainment, you won't stop getting all emotional after every loss. It is obvious that gambling means a lot to you and you do not see it as just a fun activity, hence your grievances whenever you lose.

It is okay to feel disappointed after every loss, just the same way you would feel excited if you win. But transferring aggressions on innocent people around you is something you need to work on, control your emotions. A lover of football will hail and jubilate if his club wins. On the day they will lose, he will feel disappointed but will still believe that his club will do better during the next match. Handle gambling just the same way you handle other games.

Yes, there are times we experience a change in our way of behaviours when we realized that we loose in gambling or win as the case maybe, but the negative one we mostly reacted upon is when we loose a bet we so much anticipate a winning for, we then feels bad about that, there are moments also that we may wanted to gamble but due to lack of financial capacity to be able to fund the gambling we are intending for, we may wanted to have a change in our behavioral manners just to be able to make another means of getting money for gambling.

that is the mistake of a gambler who takes gambling seriously or considers gambling to gain profit so that when you lose you will feel annoyed, angry, hate yourself, even your emotions cannot be controlled and your family is the impact of your gambling losses.

this behavior is very bad and should not happen again and remember that gambling is not a serious thing, it is just entertainment that gives you pleasure and your money will provide profits for the gambling owner. so immediately improve your mindset before things get worse.

I think you are taking gambling lose to personal and you are allowing it to trouble your emotions,  I think it will be best for you not to have mich expectations from gambling thinking  you can win in every game and one needs not invest much money in gambling because gamble is unpredictable,  for one to be happy one just need to invest in small amount,  that one can afford to lose. Gambling should be a game for fun and not a means to generate money.  When gambling is taking as a source of income it always ends with emotional feelings when loses are made but when it is consider as a game people play and have fun.

This is not funny even though it is coming out funny and you are not the only one in this 

Majority of the people are having this transfer of aggression to people around them, they get irate by their losing and begin to behave in a rude and threatening manner and when they win then the family will be cool and merry.

Is this not a sign that gambling is not for fun  This is the sign because if you get angry because you lose then you didn't actually playing for the fun but the profit that you are expecting.

I tend to experience changes in my mood, even over small mistakes made by my loved ones when I lose in gambling. This sensitivity often leads me to isolate myself, to avoid any misunderstandings with them, as I understand that it's not their fault that I lose in gambling. However, sometimes I can't help myself and easily get angry with them. Later, when I feel better, I feel guilty about getting angry and always make the first move to apologize, since it's ultimately my fault.

Same. I am kind when I win and the smile won't just go away in my face.  
When I am at a loss I get mad easily but I always try to control it, especially in front of the kids. Better, I try to still feel happy and just laugh whatever happened. Because what can we do about it? Nothing. Let's not make one trouble and add another by being unkind to the people near us just because we lose our balance in gambling.
I think these kinds of emotions are normal and that's what makes gambling fun. Without those emotions, I doubt we will be going back and forth to our favorite gambling sites just to get our revenge or win more. Greed and regret are both part of gambling and it's better if we understand that as early as possible.

Yes, I really felt that, and this change was very evident when for the first time I lost a considerable amount of money. Where I became someone who was angry and easily offended whoever it was. it was an incident of my past, because at this time I was quite good at controlling my emotions and finances.

And it turns out that after I thought back at this time, it was not the amount of the bet that was too big, it was just our mentality that was not ready to accept defeat in that amount. Because maybe for rich people, the biggest amount I spend to play gambling, it is the smallest bet amount for people who have enough money.
So in conclusion, if we are mentally unable to accept a loss then never try to bet that we cannot afford to lose.

You can't control yourself from your emotions so you feel a change in your behavior after playing gambling. You may be the type of gambler who is always obsessed and wants to make money there so you get carried away by your emotions when you experience defeat so that's what happens. You will feel a change in your behavior. To be honest, I never felt that change because I think it's not good to bring emotions to our family, let alone our own wife and children.

I have never felt like you feel, maybe because I can control it, so I gamble without any behavior changing me, whether I win or lose, everything is the same, my behavior remains the same with my family, I will have fun with them, enjoy happy days, for example playing with my children or hanging out with them for dinner when I get home from work, usually I gamble when they are really fast asleep and that's only on weekends so I never take out my losses on them with bad behavior. Enjoy your gambling like you are at an entertainment venue to have fun. that is the correct mindset when gambling so change your mindset  

Yeah man that felling is general, I don't usually gamble to win a lot of money, which means I gamble with small stakes but yet the feeling of having a straight 3 or 5 strike win is different from when you have experience some loses in strike. despite the amount I used in gambling, whenever I experience loss, my mood changes and it obvious to anyone I have contact with that period, for like an hour I'll still be feeling moody. But the interesting part is that I am looking forward to stop that behavior, and I think it's actually helping me now. After gambling I try to interact with lively persons so as to keep the good vibe going, and this practice has really been helpful when it comes to my mood change after gambling.

It seems like you have a pretty good self-control to keep everything under control so that it doesn't affect you like a change in attitude which is possible for every gambler. But honestly I have never found or even felt any indication of a change in attitude either from myself or some of my friends who also like to gamble as a result of losing.  I never found it, unless at the same time when you lose then you are a little emotional because of the bad results, well if that I think it's normal but if it changes someone's attitude and behavior I think it's quite rare.

Yes that's right, one of the causes that we can use as a reason why they can change their attitude seems to be a mistake in the approach at the beginning, like what you said about their unpreparedness in accepting the risk of losing which is very likely to make them very emotional at the end of the session and not applying any limits or self-control so that their emotions are unstoppable and cause unconscious loss of control and behavior to become more aggressive, it makes sense.

You do really have that severe addiction mate or some emotional abnormality or having that impulsive kind of emotion on which it do suddenly changes up basing on the situation you are facing but actually i couldn't blame you out since we are really just that humans on which these kind of reactions because we dont really like to lose money but it isnt really just that right on which you are really that putting all that frustration into other people
which it is really bad. If you do find that you do have that kind of behavior then try to assess out emotion and try to control it next time because you would really be hurting your loved ones if you would really be having
that kind of treatment to them when you are on losing condition.

It is really just that fine when you are winning on which it is really just that normal but when you are losing then this is where things turns out to be bitter on which your emotion cant really be controlled
might really be able to involved some physical hits or something like that when your temper reaches out of control. This is why you should really be
careful when it comes to this.

Usually it's okay for your mood to change or mood swings when you're in loss, but for me, I really don't let my loosing days affect my behavior or cause any sort of behavioral changes in me, yeah I may feel bad at the moment but I always comport myself and don't let it affect my behavior towards others. Maybe it's because I prepare and anticipate every loss before it even comes, so when it comes, it doesn't affect me that much. I think the only reason it can cause such behavioral changes is when gamblers don't anticipate the losses.

I might be doing incorrectly, but I try to hide my emotions when I win or lose in gambling. Maybe I am not perfect at it, as I smile more when I win, but I am sure I can do stone face when I have lost. In my mind, gambling is individual. Emotions gambler get must stay with him. No matter how much we want to share emotions, better have some time after gambling session, have a rest and then go to people. People dont need gamblers negative emotions, energy. They dont deserve it.

An advice - when you make a deposit, I advice to say goodbye to your money right away. Consider it as a purchase of experience. It will help to stay focused.

Denial comes first since you provably think that you are fine but you didn't realize that you are gambling to much and telling lies to your family or to those people around you then you do some crazy things which you think normal but if you look at so deeply its totally damaging. We experience this scenario in life especially when we are just newly starting up since expectation is so high that's why we think all of those possibilities that came up on our mind is really possible but we realize later on that we are losing to much and to many people affected on what we are doing. That's why we need to understand ourselves and see if there's changes happening since if we can't control everything we do especially on gambling for sure we would face all those negative implication about the actions we do.

If money is what dictates your happiness man you are fucked up, it means you are doing something based on anxiety and that's not good for your health, this is why I rely more on something that's a certain, like jobs or businesses, if I am working, my monthly salary is $400 and I know that every month is when I get paid, all my live spendings is shaped around this $400, brother you will be fine this way rather than, it may happen or it may not.

I don't want to be spending my life with mixed reactions, when I win some money I feel fine and happy and when I lose some money I lose myself, get mad and angry with people around me, you don't even have to say a lot, I have seen this happening before, some people are very good at controlling their emotions and feelings but if you have problem doing this you should not get involved with things that can mess your feelings up.

Like I've said already, you are messed up if money is what's dictating your feeling, it's a very wrong way to live, gambling is gambling and you should get involved with only what you can afford to lose, your mood won't change if you lose your small money, you are a irresponsible gambler that's why your feelings get ruined when you lose money.

I think most of the gamblers has already experiencd this kind if episodes in their life, you will realized that you're just like a different person, that's how gambling affects your emotion and mental health. Due to lack of sleep, completely and continously losses, tendency is they can feel the annoyancs in every little thing because they are out of focus.You will develop the anger issue because of what you've experience in gambling.

I mean, it is obvious gambling and the fact one could be either losing or winning money can affect the behavioral patterns one has when comes to interacting with others in the household and in the street. There are people who are more sensitive than others and people react in a different way when comes to losing money to bad luck streaks. Some get angry and lose patience like you, others are more prone to fall into sadness and won't feel like doing anything.

In my personal case, I can easily tell me behavior changes for the worse when I am losing and I get sad when happens.
Also, since you admitted to have problems with addiction to gambling, you ought to be careful with it and try to control yourself, be responsible...