Topic: Have I done wrong by lifting him outside the betting shop? (Read 962 times)

My advice in the future is that if he still blames you for gambling, in the future don't come or take him to the casino again, let him come alone, so that you don't backfire on him, I'm sure he will regret his own behavior.

Now I want to asked; Have I done wrong to have lift him from the gambling shop?
Also did you think he would win more if he had continued gambling?
Again, if he lose all the money won do you think he would continue or stop?

Taking him away from that gambling shop is a mean of instilling discipline on him truly he could have been tempted to continue to gamble more due to greediness consequently might ended up losing all his already won bets, this is common and rampant among gamblers it's a like a spirit tempting them to continue betting with guarantee of winning streak whereas it's just a spirit of addiction, this is a more lesson learnt here and that is how addiction to gambling is started if caution or discipline is not imbibed on any gambler to stop it is very disastrous.

What you said is true but most people are not as thoughtful as us specially the gamblers. There are various reasons why gamblers have a different mentality when they gamble. They might believe on lucky streak or some superstition. A fried of mine believed the gambling luck depends on the movement of the planets and placed bet when the specific planets aligned. The act done by OP might be a noble one but I hardly believe his gambler friend thinks so.
The better thing to do was to tell the person about how you think and don't get involved physically. OP and his friend might have been too close to get physical but most gamblers won't take it in a positive way.

I totally agree! The right thing was done, in my opinion.
His friend may or may not understand it, but he should appreciate it in the future regardless.
Who knows what would happen in the long term without that?

I don't see anything wrong with what you did, because you just showed up as a person and as a friend. You did the right thing, and I admire you for that, because it is said that a true friend tells the truth and reminds a friend when he is doing something wrong.

Maybe when your friend thinks he's going to win, he doesn't know that the opposite of what he thinks will happen, and that's what happens to most gamblers.

Days ago with my friend, we stepped out to play
a local game (Epele or draft) when we got there people where playing and when it gets to his turn he start playing and win, then I played with him he also wins me then someone looked and say you can't come here to start pulling out people from the board therefore "I must win you", like a joke he won and my friend stepped down. Long story short..

Fast forward... Our way going, then i decided to go check on person in a local gambling shop, we both stepped inside together, he went straight to seat while I was discussing with the staff there. At some point he was pushed to gamble, though our intention is never to gamble just to see someone and continue going home, he then say see "guy let me try luck to see if I can double my money" he then decided to play virtual.

On the process he then pick 4 match and stake with 200, and then pick another 4 matches and stake with another 200 which is a total of 400, he lost one ticket and the other tickets wins he then stake with 200 again into two he won all. So he ended up winning 3 times he wanted to stake the 4th one, what I did was to lift him outside and draw him from gambling more.

On our way going he started yelling at me that why did I lift him outside that he knows what he was doing, that he could had won more game and raised enough money for the day, maybe he could win huge amount.
But to me, the only thing I replied him is you are being greedy why would you allow greed to rollover you?

Now I want to asked; Have I done wrong to have lift him from the gambling shop?
Also did you think he would win more if he had continued gambling?
Again, if he lose all the money won do you think he would continue or stop?

I just wanted to know, maybe we can discussed to have fun while imputing your response.

You acted out of love and concern for you friend because you're probably more experienced or more disciplined about gambling. Some decisions are not easy to take but sometimes you need to take drastic steps inorder to save a friend from making mistakes so I believe that you did the right thing. Gambling requires sell control, without it a gambler can unknowingly become obsessed and at that point he needs a force that will bring him back to reality. Every gambler must fight that urge to over gamble, it starts with overconfidence to increase wins and chasing loses, they're the keys to addiction.

On the process he then pick 4 match and stake with 200, and then pick another 4 matches and stake with another 200 which is a total of 400, he lost one ticket and the other tickets wins he then stake with 200 again into two he won all. So he ended up winning 3 times he wanted to stake the 4th one, what I did was to lift him outside and draw him from gambling more.

On our way going he started yelling at me that why did I lift him outside that he knows what he was doing, that he could had won more game and raised enough money for the day, maybe he could win huge amount.
But to me, the only thing I replied him is you are being greedy why would you allow greed to rollover you?

Don't guilt trip on that. You didn't do any wrong by dragging him out of that scene. Your action was what any reasonable friend should do. By the way, if your friend was so sure of his winnings as he alleged, why didn't he increase his stakes in the few games he played on that day? That's what you should be asking him. Winning first two or three rounds wasn't a guarantee that he would win the next one if that was his consolation. But then, that has often been the mindset of gamblers.

Taking him away from that gambling shop is a mean of instilling discipline on him truly he could have been tempted to continue to gamble more due to greediness consequently might ended up losing all his already won bets, this is common and rampant among gamblers it's a like a spirit tempting them to continue betting with guarantee of winning streak whereas it's just a spirit of addiction, this is a more lesson learnt here and that is how addiction to gambling is started if caution or discipline is not imbibed on any gambler to stop it is very disastrous.

Temptation is high, but our discipline should be even higher.

It is sad to say that many gamblers never appreciate the help of other gamblers to protect them from addiction. As gamblers, one thing we should have to know is to control ourselves. It may not be easy, but I believe we can do it if we care for ourselves as well. Greediness has nothing good it gives to us but terrible losses. We have to keep in mind that we gamble not only to win the jackpot and money but also for us to enjoy whatever happens. And most of all, we know how to appreciate others' advice because some things they see might not we see personally. That is why we don't get angry but rather be thankful.

Nope, you did a good thing.
A gambler who is experiencing a big loss or is getting a big win, they will forget themselves and their minds will be dominated by the thought of wanting to get a bigger win. And gamblers who get big wins like that are very difficult to give advice through soft words and you do it in the right way to lift them from gambling.
Maybe at that time he will be angry with you, but after the anger is gone, he will definitely thank you if you save him from greed.

Sometimes to help a gambler you don't have to use soft words but you have to use actions.

Now I want to asked; Have I done wrong to have lift him from the gambling shop?

Also did you think he would win more if he had continued gambling?
Again, if he lose all the money won do you think he would continue or stop?

Nope, you did a good thing.
A gambler who is experiencing a big loss or is getting a big win, they will forget themselves and their minds will be dominated by the thought of wanting to get a bigger win. And gamblers who get big wins like that are very difficult to give advice through soft words and you do it in the right way to lift them from gambling.
Maybe at that time he will be angry with you, but after the anger is gone, he will definitely thank you if you save him from greed.

Sometimes to help a gambler you don't have to use soft words but you have to use actions.

Now I want to asked; Have I done wrong to have lift him from the gambling shop?
Also did you think he would win more if he had continued gambling?
Again, if he lose all the money won do you think he would continue or stop?

But to me, the only thing I replied him is you are being greedy why would you allow greed to rollover you?

Now I want to asked; Have I done wrong to have lift him from the gambling shop?

Also did you think he would win more if he had continued gambling?

Again, if he lose all the money won do you think he would continue or stop?