Topic: How did/do you handled a gambling addict story. (Read 998 times)

It's true, sometimes it's not wrong to give criticism, because those who are addicted to gambling need this to be able to make them aware, perhaps even harsh criticism can be seen as a slap for them so that they realize that what they have done has caused them to experience losses, besides that they also If they are advised gently, they will usually not care if they are not the ones who want to be advised. What you say is true, not everyone has free time to listen to other people's stories, of course other people must have their own problems, in fact I applaud people who have problems but they can solve them well alone. Apart from that, don't be offended by criticism received by other people because the aim is to bring awareness to the mistakes that have been made.
for example, with those who have listened to our advice and that too of their own accord and want to get advice, but when they get advice they still ignore it and they continue to do what they want, I think that's annoying, isn't it? I mean, if you really need suggestions and advice from other people, accept it when the advice is heard, don't ignore it, even if it's like that, I think they don't appreciate other people who have given them advice, maybe it really takes time to process. but sometimes it annoys me too.

Yeah, nice word composition bud, love your input, and just a few things to note, how about those who are addicted but refuse to even accept it in the first place?
If you are a Christian who know the Bible, remember that chapter and verse where God asked a question, He said "Can two work together except they agree?"

It's takes someone who has a problem to..
First, accept having that problem.
And second, accept needing help, some people I've come across fufil the first, but fail in the later, that is, they accept being addicted to gambling, but pride won't allow them accept needing help, most especially, if you are someone they have always belittled or looked down on.

Anyways, your advice is good, I mean, I love it, but then, it doesn't apply to addicted gamblers in general.

Really depends on who the gambling addict is telling his story, there are individuals who really frown gambling and so it's hard for them tor relate in such cases and as what the OP describe it could be their reactions. And then you also have people who might not be addicts but gamble at times and knows that predicament of a full blown addiction and he could have empathy when the addicted one tells his story.

So still 50/50 as we really don't know how any person will react when they hear this kind of stories. But at the end of the day, if there will be anyone that will understand a addict, it could really be his family, wife or brother to lean on during this trying times and then they both figure it out how to go over this addiction. And hopefully the addict when he open up, means that he really wanted to quit for good and so seeking help from family members is the best thing that they will do.

Yeah, there's always this type of friend of ours that's always there willing to listen. It doesn't matter whether they'd give us life advise but as long as they have lend an ear, that's what makes us feel comfortable with them and that's already a big help because not everyone has their time to listen to a friend whether they're close or not. And to those people that will listen and will criticize us, I have no problems with that. To be honest, that's the kind of friend that want you to be at a better situation because of their criticism, they're giving the person they're talking to an advise to get up and quit whatever it takes.

At the end of the day, we're still or each of us still have the final say to whatever we do. Someone can quit and stop their own addiction having an inspiration and after listening to good advices. But some, after listening, they'd do probably nothing and will keep going so the essence is just to listen and release what they want to say and in hope that someone might understand their situation.

That's made me obtain a strong principles in life, and that choice of mine helped me inspire other close friends who also undergone same problems. Anyways, there were other people doesn't take it seriously and yet until now they've been struggling to remove gambling addiction on their end.
Unfortunately, everyone of us has their own decisions we can't control it but only themselves.

That's right, because after all it's not the right time to judge them with harsh criticism for example, and in fact there are always some addicted gamblers who really have the desire to stop but they are confused and don't know how to reduce their interest in gambling, some friends I have been in that position where they are also confused and usually the main step they take is to delete the bank account they have on their cell phone, with this idea they lose the way to make deposits when the feeling of gambling appears again, but in some cases Often they are not strong enough to resist all the temptations they see, such as hearing or seeing their friends succeed in getting big wins, which in the end makes them fall back into gambling.

This is why addiction is a disease that is difficult to cure because as I said before, they have to fight the urge to do their favorite habits because these habits always torment them, especially in financial matters. So the point is that there is no harm in helping them with various suggestions or input that we think can help them get out of this terrible zone, especially if they have admitted their mistakes and have the desire to stop.

there is no certain limit for stopping gambling, all gamblers can stop and retire at any time as long as they have awareness, but if they do not have awareness then they will continue to gamble until they are old even if they are not aware that the gambling they are doing has caused them to experience many losses. Actually, gambling is not bad if they can do it properly. but the mistake is that they do it incorrectly where they gamble excessively until they get various problems which really make things difficult for them, when they have experienced a lot of problems they can just tell the problems to the people around them, but it must be known that not everyone is happy With this, they have to find the right person to be able to listen to their story and give them good advice.

What's more, if they continue to hide their problems, I think there is a chance for them to become stressed, so to maintain their mental health, one of the things that must be done is to tell the right people about the problems we are facing. with the right people, of course they will provide suggestions that guide us to things that are better than before. because if they are the wrong people, chances are they won't listen to the addict's story seriously and just respond to it in a joking way which won't result in anything better.

Apart from that, everyone has other people they trust in any matter, for example by being able to listen to our stories where we need advice and input from other people regarding the problems we are experiencing. also, not everyone can listen to stories about the problems they are experiencing, maybe there will be people who can listen to our problems but they end up criticizing us and that might be the wrong person, because the truth is those who can listen to stories about our problems but they give advice and suggestions for us that lead to better things in the future. It's true what you said there will only be one person who can accept and listen to our problems well and that is the right person, but the right person like this can be anyone, whether it's family or even other people like friends.
Apart from that, the rest is up to us to choose, even if they still encourage us to do it, we can choose whether to take it seriously or not. but if we are aware that we can stop and stay away from gambling then what we have to do is ignore it when the advice directs us to continue doing it, and conversely if we are not aware that the gambling we have done is detrimental then we will continue to do it, maybe even more obsessed with gambling in pursuit of victory.

Better listen if someone do make out that kind of sharing up their story as a form of respect even if you dont know that someone who do make those kind of open discussion about his life and with his gambling addiction.Yes, we can feel pity about their conditions but there's nothing we can do to help but rather we can only give out those piece of advises which it might help them out but dont expect that those simple words could really make out that changes on which we know that once addiction would shackled into you then there's no easy way for you to get out or would be able to get away from it, not unless if you are really that having that strong mind and good control towards yourself then it could possible still happen but majority of people who do end up into this condition do really end up on having that common addicted person condition.

Tell him about those kind of realizations on how you should really be that controlling yourself on such condition at the moment that you do play gambling. We do know that when we do spend too much
money then it would really be bringing up that kind of disastrous effect.

Addiction is losing. A horrible sickness that drives people insane. People, not all gamblers are addicts. Some players know how to have fun, experience the rush, and leave. Addiction is like quicksand. You're drawn in until you lose sight of everything else. Diseases need treatment, not judgment.

No, we shouldnt disregard the issue. These people need help recovering. Addiction goes beyond gambling, though. To fill a void and numb pain. We must address many issues to remedy this situation. Lets stop treating addicts like losers and start treating them human. They deserve our support and compassion. If helped, kids can overcome this sickness and become winners. Really, I've seen it, and its gorgeous.

Gambling addiction is not something that we need to wake up one day and decided to stop gambling. Things does not work like that when it comes to gambling. Addiction can be critical and it is not something we need to joke with. There are people that have became poor because of addiction of not be disciplined with money.

Gambling is good but we need to be wise and take things seriously when it comes to our finances. Discipline is one of the ways we can stay in track and keep trying our luck to make money. There are many people that have been eaten away because they were not patient and became too addicted to some things that are not necessary or does not make one get fortunate.

Congratulations to your friend who is addicted to gambling and has been able to overcome the addiction and come out of gambling. In fact basically civil society and society people will never support gambling. Still, it is natural that people will gamble. People who gamble primarily play for pleasure. Later, in an attempt to fully recover the money lost in gambling, he gambled again and again and gradually became addicted to gambling. There are many people in our society who are addicted to gambling and have become destitute. So every new gambler should gamble consciously so that they do not become addicted to gambling.

The root of the problem comes from afar, perhaps from childhood, maybe it was very poor and the player wants to realize himself through gambling in adulthood. And even if he manages to win something, it inevitably brings him back to the game. I even sometimes think that some players cannot explain exactly why they play. They should stop and delve deeply into their thoughts and think carefully, I think that, although a small amount, they would take a pause to better understand themselves, at least it helped me.

I also do not rule out that many people escape into the game to distance themselves from family problems. Maybe they weren't ready to face the responsibility or something like that. We must not forget that there are psychologists who can help, but at the same time we must not forget that among them there are deceivers who pose as specialists. I visited them for some time and it also helped me in the fight against mild addiction.

I totally get what you're saying. Listening to someone talk about their gambling addiction can be really tough. It's crucial to be there for them without judging and to reassure them that seeking help is nothing to be embarrassed about. They're not alone in this. There are plenty of resources available, whether it's seeing a therapist, joining a support group to connect with others who understand, or finding different treatments that work for them. With the right support and determination, they can definitely overcome this. There's a brighter future waiting for them.

True, recovering from gambling addiction can be said to be an achievement, because the majority of gamblers who are already addicted are really difficult to do so and maybe I would also say that recovering from addiction is a fortune that is difficult to get by others because it is so difficult to control ourselves when we are so obsessed with gambling. If we talk about the impact, yes of course as you said that the bad impact of addiction will not only destroy us in terms of material but it can also destroy family relationships and I think lately it is not uncommon for family relationships to be destroyed which end in separation because one of their partners is involved in gambling in an excessive way which in turn causes various problems and bad impacts that damage harmony in the family. And this is why we always advise anyone, especially beginners, to always limit their mindset towards winning in gambling, maintain your awareness and never take actions that are beyond your ability.

It's a matter of pride for you to be able to get rid of your gambling addiction. It's really difficult for you to get rid of that addiction, because basically, if you're married, family happiness is the main key so that your household remains harmonious. and we already realize that gambling destroys us not only materially but also loses our family. if we don't want to change and eliminate bad habits even just to seek pleasure

That's a powerful story, man. It takes guts to overcome addiction, especially a deceptive one like gambling. Financial, emotional, and psychological battles rage. You share your problem with others, which shows your strength and resilience. The turning point you describe, that realization that came with marriage and fatherhood, is a common one. Love and responsibility for others motivate us to break toxic routines. You realized your addiction was hurting your family and decided to change. That decision defines a man's character. Remember, every day is a new chance to choose

For so many years I've moved out from gambling addiction I certainly say that it went a lot of troubles before deciding to quit on this situation. There were times I failed to do so, then again and again committing same habit becoming so bad and it even made me penny less despite of having work those day living in a single life as a person. Only the time when I got married I realized that staying in addiction with gambling would not give me a happy life and seeing my son growing up I couldn't afford to see him suffering because of my financial instability because of gambling. 

Well, long time ago actually, and if I still remember well, it should be around 2015 or 2016, I used to have a very close friend who was frequent gambler, initially, I thought he was just playing those games simply because he had the money to spend on them and he enjoys doing it, but I realized that he was actually addicted to gambling the very moment he had some crises with his then girlfriend who he planned to marry, they were living together and working in the same place.

Things became a bit rough after a child came in-between them, expenses in the house increased significantly that my friend usually started struggling to save out money to use for gambling, but in other to keep gambling, he started stealing from his girlfriend, and when the issue blew out, I called him and asked him why he would disgrace himself in such a manner, he then opened up to me that he had initially planned and tried to stop gambling, but he discovered that he can't bring himself to stop.

Unfortunately though, I tried to help him in the best way I can, but I couldn't do much since unforseen circumstances made me relocate to another state far from him, and it's also unfortunate that the girlfriend (supposed to be wife) later left him; taking their baby along with her, due to his addiction to gambling.

You mean in order to move on they must first admit their gambling addiction.
I would have to agree with that. It's on us if we are the gambling addicts. Mentally it does affect people and because we came from a traditional belief that gambling is a sin, it becomes harder to admit it to someone else. I think those who will step up and confess their problem are brave people and if they want change they must overcome that first.
I think the steps next to it will be the key to change our bad habit because being brave is not the only thing that must be done but also keeping that discipline intact that gambling must be controlled to become a responsible gambler.