Topic: How did/do you handled a gambling addict story. - page 6. (Read 993 times)

I have never directly listened to a gambler who wanted to tell me a story, but I only heard from other people's stories that there was a gambling addict who had really suffered his life because of his careless actions.
Yes, because he was addicted to gambling, he couldn't think with proper common sense, he continued to gamble without a set time limit, the amount he used was not very large, but because of how often he played, new problems arose in his life.

I think people who are addicted to gambling are likely to be like what you said by not telling other people around them and someone who is addicted to gambling will certainly not ask for help for things that lead to stopping gambling unless the main perpetrator has the awareness to stop, but When they are addicted to gambling, it is very unlikely that they will be able to consciously stop gambling, what often happens is that they will just continue to gamble with the aim of getting what they want. and I think those who are addicted will not stop to fulfill their desire to win, even if they experience a losing streak, they will continue to gamble.

Maybe there are only a few gamblers who tell other people about their gambling, but what you say is true, by telling other people about it, maybe it can help them and of course we will definitely give them advice or advice so that they don't gamble brutally. as by pursuing an uncertain victory. and if they have told about their gambling, maybe they are aware and have a desire to stop their addiction.

I will confirm that what you said is true about gambling addiction, which is that yes gambling addiction does not occur immediately, or a beginner will not immediately experience addiction when they just start their gambling activities, in fact it takes time first at least a few weeks or months to develop their interest process in gambling which usually gambling addiction starts when a beginner manages to win in one of the sessions they do which makes them feel really happy, and when the victory occurs again then this is where the development of interest will increase which is most likely they will think that gambling is the right place to make money.

And in addition to that the situation of losing will not be too much of a problem for them because they are very confident that in the next few sessions they will definitely be able to win like before, but the fact is that things will not always be in their favor and when it turns out to lose again then they will start to be dominated by their own emotions and feel quite confused about the results where previously they won more often than lost and this is where the idea of chasing losses to restore losses will start. And I would say that it doesn't take too long to develop an addiction but it takes longer and is more difficult to cure the addiction and one of the difficulties is that they have to fight the belief in gambling and also have to resist all the urge to gamble when the urge of the hope of winning is always tempting and haunting the brain and mind.

If I were in your position, I'd let them know that I'm here to listen and not to give advice. Just acknowledging their pain can really help lighten their burden. If it feels appropriate, I might gently suggest resources like Gamblers Anonymous or therapy, but I'd be careful not to insist on it.
It's crucial to remember that it's not your responsibility to fix them. You can offer support and lend a helping hand, but the decision to seek help is ultimately theirs. Sometimes, simply being there, listening without judgment, and reminding them they’re not alone can make a significant difference. And if someone is dealing with gambling addiction, please reach out for help. There are many resources available, both online and in person. You don’t have to face this alone, IMO.

I came across a lot of people who were addicted to a lot of things but I don't remember any particular incident in which someone confided in me about their addiction and how to get rid of it. Maybe no one ever came to tell about their issue personally, but at the end of the day, sharing is not going to help in anyway but might bring a temporary relief and that's it. It should be dealt by the professionals so if anyone came to you with their issue then your first step is to convince them to visit rehab centre for better future of them and their family and that's the big thing that you can do.

In this situation, he just wanted to express what he felt. You don't need any advice or advice from us, including trying to persuade him to stop. We must play psychological intelligence in dealing with friends who are addicted. We can use ourselves as an example when we face a problem. It's not advice we need but people's willingness to hear our stories.

Trapped in a gambling system, he is actually aware of it, but getting out of the trap is difficult to do. If our presence during the situation wants to tell a story, giving advice is not a good thing for us to do.

Being addicted to gambling is not immediately the first time you gamble today; you will be addicted tomorrow. It is not like that; before a gambler becomes addicted, it takes time. Apparently, he can lose a large amount at the casino before he becomes an addict.

That's why when a player becomes addicted to gambling, they don't immediately get rid of the addiction they have because their addiction already has a foundation. So giving up gambling or resigning from it will also go through the process.

Gambling addicts are mostly reluctant to take positive advice for him because he is sunk here. Close relatives or friends may give him sound advice but most of the time he only values ​​gambling as long as he has sufficient funds. At one point his level of addiction escalated to such an extent that he started depriving his family of their basic needs which is certainly reprehensible. Many of these gambling addicts can lure their friends to them and guide them on their way. I myself was a victim of such behavior that a gambler friend of mine lured me and promised me a lot of profit but I was careful enough and did not fall into his trap. Later he borrowed money from me but never got the money back. I tried to convince him enough but he could not give up his addiction.

Advising them is a sure way to do it, of course giving good direction so that they can be aware and reduce their gambling or even stop completely, but it feels almost impossible because once they are addicted they won't be able to stop easily, of course they need a difficult process. to be able to stop gambling completely. However, everyone who receives someone who tells them about their gambling will certainly advise them, but if they continue to encourage them, maybe it is only done by friends who like to joke, but of course advice like that is not the right one. because it helps him to recover from his addiction, that's true.
When someone approaches you and tells you about gambling, you have to be careful because the person could end up borrowing money, perhaps with the aim of gambling again. and if that happens, it's best not to lend them money because it's the same as giving them a way to continue their addiction which is leading them to the destruction of their lives.

I've personally never had any gambling addict open up to me about what they're going through but I've heard about the ones that have opened up to other people, so I guess that it's not very common for addicts to open up about their addictions. I feel that most of them are found out through their financial recklessness, I've heard about people who used the money that was meant for important projects or expenditures to gamble, and were found out after family or friends began to investigate and interrogate the gambling addicts.

I've heard about the story of a gambling addict who dropped out of school because he gambled with the tuition fee that was sent to him by his struggling parents. He didn't stop there, after dropping out of school, the irresponsible gambler kept collecting more tuition fees from his parents, who still thought that he was in school, this kept on until his parents got information that there son was no longer in school. I agree with you that these addicts needs professional help, love and emotional support from their families to see them through.

When I'm still in  government office working there was this department head that becomes my closest  and with years of being co worker(my boss) he open his biggest secret and problem and that is they are near going to divorce(with his wife) because of his gambling addiction and ask me what to do if I am in his shoes.

I ask him if he will let me talk to his family and he let me handle things , so  i first talk to the parents and then the wife . and yeah both parents and wife do their best to help him out and luckily he did cooperate and before i resigned in that office? he is a gambling free and now living a life not getting his finger in even cards.

Maybe sometimes we are not the one who can solve the problem as we  are only there to be the materials but still it is the gamblers decision to what will happen to their lives .

I have never met a gambling addict like the one you described. But some people become gambling addicts who try to end their gambling habit. He really tried hard to end it and not go back to gambling again once he tried.

Maybe the person told you about the problem but he didn't try hard. It might make his friend uncomfortable because he has suggested doing something, but he doesn't seem to be really trying. If the gambling addict still doesn't try hard to give up his gambling habit, he will find it difficult to stop gambling completely.

Stopping gambling depends on the gambling addict's willpower. He must really have a strong desire to stop his gambling addiction. Other people can only give their best advice and the rest depends on the gambling addict.

I can relate here, I have a family member who I really suspected is experiencing a gambling addiction because most of our family members this family member of us is really into gambling even a long time ago and right now it has become worse because of mobile phones and easy accessible to gamble.

I already talked to this family member and I can feel, it's really denial, they can't accept or tell that really experiencing gambling addiction and that's the difficult part.
Because I believe the first thing to do to solve it is accepting that you really experiencing it.

Yes that has always been a challenge to some addicted  Gamblers, they find it difficult to confide in most people and the reason why dey refused to confide in those people are not far from what you have explained, expecially being afraid of saying something that will be used against them publicly. And that alone is a reason of not telling anyone about their problem.

Yes I have one that always run to me always complaining that his addiction is making him not to achieve anything in life that though he usually win most times but will be tempted to gamble all to lost. So I advices him that anytime he wins a reasonable amount that he should use some amount to buy some property or start up a micro business that will be  providing a regular income than wasting all to gambling. So that sometimes he could just go to the business area and relax and keep himself busy there than walking around the casino premises all the time trying to win yet no win.

Not all gambling addicts want to tell other people about their addiction because all they have in mind is fear of being judged and blamed for everything. It's true that it's all the fault of those who can't control themselves and can't control their gambling habits, which causes addiction and ultimately they regret that it was like that so it's natural that they are closed and don't want to be blamed for everything. It is true that a gambling addict needs the help of other people to help them end their addiction, but they are afraid of being judged if they tell other people so they end up hiding it better and no one can help them.

I have never met an addict who told me about his gambling habits. Maybe if someone really told me about his addiction, maybe I would try to advise him not to judge and try to help him as much as I can and advise him to go to a professional place that can cure his addiction if with professional help, the addiction can be overcome quickly, especially if he has the determination to recover and wants to stop gambling.

When someone has experienced an addiction to gambling and they choose not to tell other people then this will be very dangerous when they cannot manage the gambling activities they do later and they will continue to gamble and no one can help them to reduce their gambling activities.
I think it will help them a little if they tell us about their gambling experiences and we can also advise them to change their gambling habits so that they can gamble by limiting their gambling and also limiting the funds they will use for gambling, I sure if they have the desire to change and with a little help from others they will certainly be able to recover from their gambling addiction.

It's just realization really imo. In my case I was on the verge I suppose? But realizing that made me easily change my ways, plan out my finance and stuff like that. If it was an addict trying to get out, then it's definitely going to be harder and I'd suggest having someone help him in some way. Not just support like "You can do it, I believe in you", that shit can go eat dust but rather stuff like trying to check up on me every now and then, helping me manage and plan out my finances, stuff like that. Not that I'm saying words don't help, they do, but at some point it's effectiveness can be rather limited so instead of that, go for something solid.

It is very difficult for a person addicted to gambling to say that they are addicted to gambling, what has happened most are cases in which people are addicted to gambling, but they hardly admit that they are addicted to gambling, This is why it is very difficult to cure people who are addicted to gambling, because even when they are at a very advanced stage of the addiction, they keep hiding the fact that they are addicted because in their heads, their behavior is something normal, and something that they they can heal on their own. if another person perceives that their behavior is gambling addictive behavior

and asks them if they can control themselves, if they can stay for a while without gambling, then the answer from the person addicted to gambling will be to the effect that they are doing very well and that no, they don't have any problems and that they can stop gambling. Playing is all the time, but in reality she can't stop playing when she wants to. Only when something very serious happens to the person addicted to gambling and can they be taken to treatment to cure it. That's why there are few cases of addicted people being treated and cured

Speaking of addict, are such persons really willing to share their mystery with anyone? Coming back to gambling addiction, is a gambler has been doing this for so long and in the dark with no one knowing about his gambling activities then he might not have such courage to tell others about it. Though that one of the best idea to counter any addiction as when we share with others, we get opinion on how to and what we should do. The guy from your thread literally met the wrong person who made judgement without actually being reasonable. When someone tells you their problem, if you aren't willing to help them why not just tell them instead of making them feel remorse?. We can help others by giving out possible suggestions and not judging them, whuch I think is very wrong.

For me I believe the very first step to battling gambling addiction is abstainance in fact to Battle with any type of addiction is actually through abstainance however different methods can be applied however the most effective is usually gradual limitation and abstainance. Most time it's very difficult to promptly stop an addict from gambling. However you can help them by allowing them to gamble but. For only a limited period of time. Overtime you can continue to cut the time duration they spend during Gambling activities little by little so they can slowly adapt and they can easily end up abstaining from it.
Another thing to also do is limit how much money they spend on bets. Sometimes when people try to stop addiction all of a sudden, it doesn't work out well since it has become more of a habit making it difficult to stop all of a sudden.