Topic: How did/do you handled a gambling addict story. - page 9. (Read 977 times)

Once, but it didn't last long because he said don't tell me to stop playing because I've been playing for a long time and spent a lot of money at the start of the conversation.
Just listen while watching him play on the smartphone. The gambling that is played is not in crypto, but fiat currency.

I didn't deny what he told me because almost every day I saw how he gambled. The smallest deposit is 3 million in fiat currency and in a day he makes 3 to 4 deposits.
There was no response from me when he told me why he continued playing even though his intention to stop had been there for a long time because he himself initially said don't tell me to stop.

It's true, when someone is addicted to gambling, of course they will experience changes in their life, where at first they didn't know about gambling, maybe they will feel that their life is peaceful and peaceful. However, when they become addicted to gambling, they will experience problems that are difficult to repair, such as financially and even their mental health and relationships with the people around them, including their own family or relatives. and indeed stopping someone who is already addicted is very difficult, in fact I think even if they get advice from many people it is unlikely that it will be able to make them realize and stop their addiction. It's true what you said, they might listen, but they won't take action that leads to getting out of their addiction.
maybe allowing him to do what he likes is the right way for them to feel the most fatal point of misery and can make them realize that the gambling they do is something that has really made them experience misery, because if they become addicted it will make them If they have a higher sense of selfishness, it is impossible for them to accept advice from other people, even those closest to them.

Yes, been so judgmental in a situation like this when someone is in need of a serious help is never the best approach, or rather the solution to it, because not everybody can confide a secret to anybody around them,
hence, if you may have been lucky to find someone who confides in you, it's a sign you are special and mean a lot to them. So on that note, the best thing to do is to accept the fact that they have fallen into an addiction, and try as much to provide solution to it, rather than condemnation, as no human is above mistake, and gambling is one of them.

The worst reaction you can give to an addict that needs help is to start the blame game. If you start with blaming the person for his problem, he would withdraw and never tell you anything again. The first step is to assure him that this is not the end of the world and try to convince him that he has the ability to overcome this challenges. You can give him examples of people who were suffering the same problems but ended up overcoming it. You can give him some helpful tips on how to gamble responsibly like having a budget and gambling with what he can afford to lose. But if he is suffering from an acute gambling disorder and you think he needs professional assistance, you can assist him in finding the help he needs.

People who hide their addiction struggles do it because of fear of stigma or religious sentiment. In some areas gamblers are seen as never-do-wells, so many of them will prefer to suffer in silence than look for help. I once had an interaction with a well-respected religious head who was an addict, and from my observation, he needs professional assistance, but he is reluctant to seek help because he is scared of losing his position.

The friend of mine was suffered so hard  from the gambling addiction that had to betake himself to the help of the  hypnotherapist. He told me that  he even  lost the ability  of sleeping  o'nights as his brain was gambling all the time but after a few hypnosis sessions this habitude has  passed and now he has a healthy sleep and became less addicted to gambling,  in a sense he has recovered his ability to throw gambling aside for more or less strech of time.

Well, for me not to brag but I cleaned my own mess, I also experience being and addict to gambling to the point that I lose huge amount of money in gambling because I'm desperate to recover my losses and when I win some amount I usually gamble it again and end up losing it all, I'm so down at that time but instead sulking I wake up from my misery and fix it before its too late and then from that I manage to become responsible at my gambling habit it is not an easy process because its hard to fight the urge to gamble more and let go if I lose all my capital, now even I still do gambling I have my own limitation of boundary, sometimes its good to have someone to talk about the problem but sometimes if you can fix your own problem without bothering others then you will become more matured and stronger.

Especially those that gamble online, they do not like to let anyone know that they are addicted. They want it to remain secret until something happen that reveals to people, especially the family member of the person that he or she is addicted.

He can get an help from professionals if he can not help himself. Professionals are not judgemental in rehabilitation centers. They know what addicts are passing through and the only what they are ready to do is to encourage the person to stop the addiction z but in a professional way that can hasten the person to quit the addiction. If as for you, you can continue to encourage him to stop gambling and let him know that gambling addiction can destroy someone's life and deteriorate someone's health and wellbeing.

I don't think all gambling addicts will easily reveal all the conditions they are experiencing regarding their addiction problem, whether it is the people closest to us, they will definitely cover it up for each other and try not to say anything to us about addiction problems.
Usually they will think of feelings of shame and fear because of different points of view, not everyone will be able to accept the addiction problem that is told well.

But from my personal experience, there is friend who has been very close since childhood, he also often plays with me on the same gambling site and once said about the problem when gambling at home always goes beyond the limits.
He feels like he is addicted because under any circumstances he still finds it difficult to control himself and tries to stop whether after winning or losing.
One thing I said was to give advice to try to limit the finances he uses, maybe this will feel difficult but by providing motivation and enthusiasm to be able to return to the way he was before where playing for fun then over time he can do it.
Apart from that, I also suggest looking for other activities with the aim of being able to forget about gambling activities for some time, this can be an outlet for leaving excessive gambling activities.
If we get stories from other people about gambling addiction problems and judge them, then indirectly we are not helping someone get out of their problem but instead making them feel hopeless and lose their enthusiasm to recover.

This is a worst thing to ever be in a position to do because it's not what we are going to do with the enthusiast of being proud of, instead, we are going to remain helpless without nothing to avoid having the consequences if addicted from the initial stage, the best is never to get it in the first place, another thing is for every one of us to learn from others and not people learning from our own mistakes, we can make this changes right before it affects us, we should begin  to gamble with care and do it responsibly.

It was caused by toxic masculinity, the society expect men shouldn't share their feeling, complain something that happened on them, crying etc, they expect men must be strong alone like lone wolf.

Too bad the addicts have no place to share their feelings, but they still have another ways which are either consult with expert or they open alter accounts on social medias and share it without need to show their personal information.

Sometime, stranger is better than your close friend.

Sometimes the people who wouldn't judge you are strangers. That being said, a gambling addict or anyone suffering from any  addiction will always find the strength and resources they need to beat the addiction in the arms of people with the same goal as them. Therefore, they Shouldn't despise gambling addiction communities. If they are actively involved in the community, doing all the tasks, and openly talking about their struggles, they could overcome it. With my knowledge of gambling and its addiction coupled with how rampant it is in my society, I have once thought about starting a small group for gambling addicts in my local church but I keep putting off the idea.

Not me but one of my relatives and I really see how addiction changes the entire life of a person, it changes everything. If some people say it is easy to stop addiction, I certainly disagree with that because until now he is still addicted to gambling despite the fact that he heard advice from us (friends and relatives). And I found it difficult when you (as a gambler) won't help yourself to get out of the cage of addiction. Advices is useless, they will only just listen but no action has been made. In the end, it is hopeless and a waste of time, and I think the thing to do is to let him do what he wants.

My uncle was a gambling addict before and I asked him how he cope and change his addiction, and told me that being a gambling addict is somehow stressful enough, until now he has some urge to play with a little money whenever he have but unlike before that even no money he borrow some just to play now he just casually play. His solution was not impressive at all but he said its effective to do some other task ir make himself busy like work, sports hobby or other stuff he can able to do so. He somehow forgot to think of playing or tempted to go to casino.

Based on his story, it sounds like he felt terrible and will consider sharing his experience in the future. I think it is a bit unfortunate that he failed to find the right person to talk to. There's no way you can share any addiction story without risk, especially if your community is judgmental and doesn't help you in any way other than giving you some label like "gambling addict". Maybe this is why some of them resort to online discussion if there's no support group nearby.

I never find myself interacting specifically with gambling addicts (casino players, gamblers, etc), but I know one or two people who are likely addicted to gacha or lootboxes. They share their stories through social media groups that I'm part of. I think there's little we can do to help them other than giving them some tips or encouragement.

I'm thinking though that gambling addicts are not known to admit to themselves that they have the gambling addiction until it's too late or others have notice it already because his relationships have been affected. So it's really hard to say how the addicted gamblers will share his stories to others.

But in any he did share it to someone that he is comfortable, then that person is not the right individual to tell our stories. Or maybe that friend just using reverse psychology to make him quit his gambling. The question is, what effect does it have to addict hearing that judgement that he had received, did he take it constructively or not?

If that addicted gambler is your friend, then they might open it up for you and how they got addicted into gambling. Heck, they might open it all for you and will detail each one of it. Stranger? Kind of sketchy because I didn't encounter that kind of scenario yet for me.

I know some gambling addicts here in our community, but they aren't opening their story with me, or with other people around. Isn't it a bit kind of awkward if you're in the street then suddenly, a stranger will come sit beside you and then tell his gambling story.

It's a bit awkward for me to see a stranger telling me a story about his gambling life but if it happens, I will just give him some advice but aside from that, I will recommend to him that he needs to go to an expert that will help him. At the end of the day, it will depend on the gambler if he really wants to leave his gambling life and start all over a new life again or he will just continue what he's doing until it destroys his life completely.

Based on some people that I know, they didn't want to open about their sufferings and addictions to other people no matter how close they are to them, usually what they do is to posted it anonymously in some sites that somehow can helps them for having a relief but There are some kind of people who really likes to share what they've encountered in gambling activities so that they can share things that needs to avoid so we can't be like them.

I have one friend who was gambling addict before, he is mid-class guy (average incomes, not something too high, neither too low) and he gambled about 30.000EUR in casino.

He started gambling for fun when he was around 16-17, firstly he gambled small amount of money like 20-30EUR per session, sometimes he earned some money, sometimes he lost his money, but he somehow get addicted then. Now he is 23 years old, but when he was like 19 or 20, me and few friends of mine went to one trip all together. When we arrived at that city we went for nice lunch, and then our friend went to casino (we tried to convince him not to go since he was addicted already, by that time he already lost like 20.000EUR), but he still went to casino. He deposited like 100EUR (something around that), and he managed to get around 1.500EUR. Me and my other friends went for dinner (while he was in casino), and then he came back home and said to us that he will take us tommorow to nice dinner etc. because he "earned" 1.500EUR. I kept telling him before to stop gambling, since he is not gambling responsive, but I thought to myself - alright, at least he is not losing money, actually he withdrawed nice amount for cash (good amount for starting capital).
Everything was perfect, but next day, when we was about to go to dinner, he refused to go. We asked him why is that, and he said to us that because of that nice win, he couldn't sleep because of overthinking about that "big" win, so he went to casino and gambled all away. We got in a beef with him then, not because of money of that dinner, because how stupid and addicted he was. Also to mention, how I borrowed him few grands of EUR, thinking he will spend it for something good, he was telling me that he need money for car parts etc and obviously he gambled it away. I said to him that I will not only borrow money to him, I will not talk to him unless he get professional help from therapy. About year ago, when I got sure he is fully healed from that addiction, and he is not gambling anymore, I started talking to him again.

Gambling addiction is so fucked up because of 2 reasons; 1. you are guaranteed to lose money, since mathematically you are losing money over long-run (casino house-edge), 2. your mental is fucked up as well, you are never happy or in a peace - if you are winning money, you are chasing for a big win or if you are losing money, you are chasing your losses.

Imo gambling can be alright if you REALLY know what the hell you are doing, but if you are not responsible it will easy drag you away. (like once in a while, bet on your favourite team to win or something like that.)

Are gambling addicts really that open to talking to people? I have only been reading about gambling addicts stories online and have not come across any one that comes out to talk to me in the open; even the guys whom I suspect to be addicted to gambling don't even admit to it, talk more about sharing their pains with me.
 
If any comes to me, I will definitely still reciprocate the same advice that I share here on the forum with the person: either they seek professional help or he should embrace his family more, as they are the only ones that can render him the help he needs and distract him from the addiction a bit.

Gambling addiction can be very terrible and frustrating that it affects both your financial and emotional wellbeing.  There are lots of gamblers out there in the open struggling with gambling addiction  wishing to share their pains with someone who could understand, but they don't actually know the right person(s) to confide in about the pains they bear as they fear that they will be judged, criticized and the rest.

I had this conversation with a stranger today, he had to tell me a few things he's struggling with with his gambling habit and how he had tried to put an end to it but finds himself going back to same habits thereafter. And he felt that  talking to somebody about it will help his state but instead the person he felt comfortable talking to about was so judgemental towards him which had made him resort to self-help but nothing has really changed.

Has anyone gambling addict shared his situation with you and how did you handled it? please come clean about it let's learn from each other.