Topic: How did/do you handled a gambling addict story. - page 2. (Read 977 times)

We can't take them for a long time inside of us and that's why we have to express and tell it no matter what the situation is. Releasing it through conversation to the people that we trust that will keep our thoughts and feelings is the best thing to do when you just want to tell it when no one is there to listen to you. We need the right people, I mean all of those gamblers that have been dealing with the problem of addiction need not a lot of people but only a few and even one person to listen to them, as that's what a perfect and right person to listen.

And when someone is willing to listen, the advises will be mentioned for sure and that's for the gambler's goodness sake. Those people that want to harm you will not say good things about your experience and will just say plain words that might encourage you like "you can do it", "you will overcome it" sort of words like that but at least they still have said something good to you. But it's up to you on how you're going to take that. Because I know that some gamblers really need encouraging and touching words for them to move on and help themselves get out of addiction.

Having both be in the receiving end and the position where I was the one giving out the gambling addiction story, One thing that I notice is that there's just so much pressure when things get a little crazy and the guy's on a roll oversharing his shit, which is also something that I did in the past.

One thing that I oftentimes do in situations like these is just shrug the story off, not in the sense of dismissing it or anything, but just disregarding it enough that I don't have to stay up at late at night thinking about the story some random bloke in a McDonald's parking lot just shared with me over a cig.

In your case I would say you just shrug it off but keep it in your head as a reminder to never go off to the deep end when you're gambling. Take his story as a cautionary tale that you could use to always scare yourself off of gambling too much and in the wrong manner. That way, you don't end up like him

People who are more attracted to gambling, and they become addicted, never expect anything good, but they are attracted to gambling. When you see a gambling addict, he is a burden to the family and has no value in society, the gambler always imagines negative speculations on how to make money by gambling. If there is a gambler who sells his shoe shop just to bet it is the greatest folly, and he is a great fool. Although the gambler may have thought that by selling his shoe shop he would gamble and make a lot of money where he could live happily with his family. But actually this is the biggest risk where he can lose money and become destitute, but it is best if a business is permanent. But since this gambler sold his shoe shop to gamble, he must be very addicted to it mentally, or he would not have done such a thing. We know there are many gamblers who gamble responsibly, and they are more ideal they will never be addicted to gambling rather they are experienced in it. However, gamblers who become addicted will never be able to move forward, instead they will lose money and become victims.

Sometimes we really need to talk about the problems we are experiencing to get rid of or reduce the thoughts that can cause stress if we continue to be imprisoned. Also, by telling the right people, of course there will be things that can be taken, such as advice from people who are listening because by listening to the story. We are unethical if they don't give suggestions or advice, of course those who listen will give directions in the form of advice, but if you want to provide assistance by giving money and going back to gambling, I don't think that's the best thing to do.
Maybe by telling them about the problems they are experiencing, they already have thoughts about getting out of addiction, so they take actions that lead to staying away from gambling. Apart from that, telling the problem that happened to the right person is the right action, because you can get advice and what you have to do is listen to the advice so that the same problem doesn't happen in the future. Moreover, if you keep it hidden for too long, it might affect your own mental health, because the excessive pressure is due to the wrong action being taken.

I have heard those stories few times, but they weren't seeking advices or help. They were just letting me know that they are addiced to gambling among other things they talked about. One of them was a guy in the same table at the casino. At the time i was still drinking on casinos so i chatted a lot more. I guess it is easier to admit the guilt to fellow gambler, even when you don't know them, as it's unlikely that they judge for it. And they might actually have insightful tips to get the control back. And if a fellow gambler tells that i am better off not gambling, it's easier to believe, then normies who don't know how does it feel to gamble all the time.

And i totally understand why people would avoid confessing something like that. It's really easy to judge a gambling addict, and it's really common for people to do that. Not even with words, they can just change their views on the person instantly, and look down on them for being weak or something.

First time i told anyone, it was my girlfriend, as i had lost my rent money and i was so ashamed, like confessing something horrible. But at the time i didn't quite understand the whole addiction mechanism so it felt more like my own fault again and again. I didn't know what steps to do to avoid getting hooked so i stopped completely for many years. After a while i found texas hold'em free tournaments and i remembered why i was gambling. That didn't get to be serious addiction as i eventually got bored and played on several tables to keep it interesting, and naturally i started to lose, and it stopped being fun. These days i have other systems not to get totally hooked.

Everyone has the chance on changing up their lives and everything would really be that just according or depending on how they would be acting upon it. If they wont really be doing the right way or methods on how to control addiction then they would really be still failing in the end. At the moment that someone shares up some tough stories or condition that they do have towards gambling then it wont really be that a bad idea on giving out some piece of advise on which it could possibly enlighten them even more even with the most basic recommendation or suggestion.It might not really be something that could give out that direct effect but at least you have made yourself giving some advise to someone on their tough times. It wont really be costing you an arm and leg on at least
giving out those words on which could ease up somehow the struggle that they are into.

That's true, they need no criticism when they've shared their story and obviously asking for some tips and good suggestions on how they are going to overcome their gambling addiction. I've got friends who have opened up their problems but they're not about gambling but the genuine is there when they have told me how to cope with that situation and start with a new life. The same goes for those gamblers that have shared their stories and you can definitely sense the willingness from them but if you can't, you can tell them politely that you're not the right person to help them. But at most times, they don't need some help, they just need someone to tell their story and someone who likes to listen, so mere conversation.

I agree because if there are people that are not considerate with their situation. They'd be made a story which is a fact and no contest with that, which will spread through the others how reckless they are and they'd be shooed away as if they're people with contagious disease. This is the society that we're living, a sad but a true thing that many are dealing with and we can't blame those gamblers that have tried to get some help through telling it to somebody but instead of receiving help, they've received laugh at their own stories.

When a gambler opens up about his addiction it's actually a good thing and we have to encourage them not to fall back to the same behavior which left them broken. So, trying to make them feel judged is quite a wrong move as a listener. It is always difficult to share our problems but when we hear others who try to discuss about how they have actually went through a difficult time, being of genuine and effective help to them is the only answer to their problem. They didn't show up to be criticized, that's adding insult to their injury.

In the society today, we see of most cases where gamblers are being talk down upon, because they've decided to change. it's not always easy as well, for anyone hearing about the reckless spending of someone dear to them. We are expected to see them react in an angry way. But, the addict wouldn't change through this reaction, as it's not what he's there to receive. I don't blame people who think being aggressive would help, because they're not aware of the right move to take. Less than few people knows about how to follow addicts who have decided to seek for help. The rest, are expected to judge the addict instead of consoling and counseling them at same time.

That is the reason why many don't share their gambling addiction story anymore. Because they have seen how the others have been judged and they don't want to be one. If there are people who have shared their stories, please be kind to them as they're seeking help and wanting to listen to someone who understands what they are struggling with. It's not only about gambling addiction but also about the struggle on how to get out of it. So, if someone entrusted you their story and they have been telling you how it's hard for them and how they battle it, you have to be the kindest to them and suggest what you can for them to have a better situation.

Telling it to the others is also a courageous thing for them. They don't want people to know that they are going through with such but they still have told it to anybody. And those listeners need to take it seriously because you may not hear them again to tell such stories and struggles that they want to share. Soon, if they have heard bad things about someone's reply and it points them out, they will lose appetite in telling it. So, what happens is the harder part that they are going to keep it to themselves and will tell no one anymore.

Well, one can certainly hope for those people to get their life straight once again, but that but indeed take them for them to reach some rock bottom, until realizing what they are doing is wrong and it is not sustainable. Many do, I think; I have seen reddit pages and forums dedicated for people who once were gamblers and now they are recovering from that addictions and craving for more and more risk.
On the other hand, if you have paid some attention to this section of the forum for a while I am sure you have encountered stories about people going into crime, crimes as far as kidnapping their own family members for ramson, so they could continue to feed their bottomless pit for gambling and sport betting.

In any case, I would admit I could not easily place a line on when one is being empathic for people like those and when once is minding other's businesses.

when they gamble, of course they will subconsciously be attracted to gambling continuously and indeed this makes them addicted to gambling, even though they are not aware of it, they will realize that maybe when they have experienced a lot of losses, such as losing a large amount of money. or even lose assets and properties previously owned because they were sold to gamble again or pay off debts that surrounded them as you said. Instead of gambling at the start by having fun, it ends up putting them in trouble. and I don't think they would tell of his gambling until he found himself in fatal trouble.
What you say is correct, of course addiction can change our lives at any time, especially if we gamble brutally, continue to gamble without paying attention to the losses that often occur. there is no other way than to advise him to stop and think about what has happened so that they do not commit brutal gambling. unless we really don't care about other people then let it be, maybe they will realize it someday by themselves.

Yes and one of the reasons why the idea is really difficult to do is because most addicts find it difficult to ignore their desire and hope for winning, and it is also proven that the rate of addicted gamblers has a significant increase compared to gamblers who recover from addiction, meaning that the idea is really difficult to do, and therefore I think we have often heard the idea or saying about “prevention is far better than cure”, and that is because treating something that has already happened will be very difficult, like rice that has become porridge, although it can be restored but it is very difficult.

And yes usually people will only stop when they run out of money, usually they say that they will repent and will not gamble anymore, but that is nothing more than just nonsense, because when they have money at other times then the first thing on their mind is gambling. It's not wrong to try your luck, but if you overdo it then it's definitely a mistake that can't be justified. So actually this is the reason why one should be able to use common sense and rational point of view in himself properly, make sure that before you engage in an activity you should already know about the activity as a whole from the positive and negative possibilities, nothing but the point to minimize regret.

Yes, I understand the point of what you are saying that the point is that a gambler must understand and realize that they can lose in gambling at any time and in any amount if they are unlucky, meaning that they will only win when they are lucky. And by understanding that winning only depends on luck then they will have an understanding that losing is a very “natural” situation for a gambler. And by having the right understanding, it is likely that they will not experience emotions or disappointment when they lose, because they already know that from the beginning gambling is always about winning and losing.

This is why gambling is called an activity that really has no guarantee of always winning. And I would also say that having the right understanding will be able to help us in terms of applying various approaches that are in accordance with our abilities, such as for example in terms of allocating a betting budget, time of involvement and limiting expectations of victory, and with this approach it is less likely for us to feel emotions when the results lose.

It was only once, he was a acquaintance. I did not much about his personal life of his habits when came to gambling. Though, it turned out there was a new casino in the city and he started to get much fun there, until he got addicted without even realizing it.
He lost much of his cash and his possessions and the last time I knew about him, He was selling his truck to settle down his gambling debts.

How are we supposed to react about them? He must have empathy, I think. We are talking about people like us, after all, and addictions like those are something which could turn our life outside down at any time we we are not careful enough. So that is what one is supposed to feel: empathy and understand that there is nothing to be done if the person is not willing to change their life.

I like the question Nwada001 ask cause me I haven't seen any addicted person who comes out to tell people what he or she is passing through even if something like that use to happen it is very rare . Most addicted person don't have time to be discussing such thing with someone and some of them don't agree they are addict. However, I haven't experienced something like this and I think the best way for someone to look for remedy is first knowing that you are an addict cause if you don't know or have the conviction that you are an addict you can't stop it or fight it cause in order to solve a problem you need to know what the problem is before looking for remedy. Addiction is a very strong disease that requires God's grace else it won't be easy.

the future no one knows about tomorrow how the next story will be different. Maybe at an age when they are not yet in the retirement phase, they will continue to enjoy gambling. However, if you enter the retirement phase, you will become a weak person. they will prioritize mental health conditions. all ambition will change into a person who accepts a fragile situation

If a problem gambler shares that he has an addiction, it means he has made a huge effort on himself and accepted that he has gambling problems. Which are most likely problems with spending money, wasting time and the fact that gambling takes all his attention.

It is very important to talk about this problem, and I often see in interviews about addicted gamblers that they come to share their ideas in order to feel the power to admit the problem. And this is the first step to getting rid of addiction.

How come he becomes easily comfortable to open on a person that is judgmental. He should easily notice that since gambling addict don’t spout their story easily unless they are already comfortable with the other person through a series of sharing without any judgmental result.


Yes, I remember my company driver share me his gambling addiction story. He was a rich kid before but he wasted all his parents money even pawn their vehicle just to fuel his addiction. He told me that he is already living on a casino back then because he is so addicted.

I’m just being cool to hear that and laugh at him to lighten the mood. At the end he manage to share me his story without being bitter about it since I’m just hearing him out and casually joking because I knew the feeling of losing big time in gambling.

I think they don't wait but rather they take themselves deeper and deeper into gambling so that they become addicted to gambling and after that it will be difficult for them to return to the right path as usual or a normal life. with those who are already gambling, the possibility of being addicted or addicted to gambling will exist, and they will focus on that alone, even if they don't have money, it is likely that they will look for ways to make money and return to gambling. When I have a friend who really can't be advised, I will let him, let him feel the misery of the bad effects of gambling addiction and maybe they will come to their senses by themselves.

What you say is correct, I think those who are addicted cannot enjoy the gambling they are doing and losing the money they bet makes them anxious about wanting to get back the money they have lost, but the solution they take is wrong by going back to gambling and hoping to win again. will cover their losses, even if their initial goal was entertainment but they experience a loss of self-control then gambling is no longer entertainment but a disaster, besides that there are also many factors that cause them to experience addiction and loss.

Am sorry to say this and i mean no offense but at the same time i meant what am about to say. The man is stupid, stupid enough to sell his shop to gambling. If he is successful though shoe making of cause he gets a lot of money that he uses to take care of his family and as well still gambling. There will still be some good life even if he is addicted to gambler, highest there would be some days when he will gamble all the money, he as supposed to give to his family, but the shop still remains. I always said this every time. If we are gambling or investing or anything that has to do with risk, we should always maintain our source of income and not put everything we get from there into investing or gambling, it is not ideal.