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The most accurate way is;
1. follow all the rules that are allowed and prohibited.
2. Get used to reading and looking for the desired discussion.
3. Engage actively in local board discussions.
4. Appreciate every opinion that is different from us.
5. Support and help each other.
6. Relax in the process / don't force yourself.
I think these six points can help newbie to progress in this large community.