Topic: Keeping your gambling habit a secret. - page 17. (Read 8048 times)

I agree with what you say, because there are many negative views on gambling that make them hide their gambling activities, the same is true for me, I myself tend to prefer to keep my gambling activities a secret, because I think there is no benefit if I reveal them. my gambling activities to many people or my own family. and indeed my country also does not allow gambling, as you said, this can damage a relationship.

gambling is done on the basis of one's own will, in my opinion no family member suggests gambling because it is not good advice. even if they have enough money or even a lot, it would be unethical to suggest gambling. But there are people who like to show off their gambling activities and show them of  even though I'm sure they have experienced a lot of losses like that. On the other hand, some people say that keeping gambling a secret from the family will cause problems, in my opinion it depends on themselves and on themselves too,  because not everyone has the same fate or storyline.

But people prefer to keep it a secret because they don't want anyone else including their family to interfere in their gambling activities, as we know that gambling has a fairly negative point of view in the eyes of society and with that obviously gamblers are afraid that one of their family will interfere and prohibit their desire to gamble, I think that's all they have in mind and rarely do people think that by telling their family or their wife then they will be able to get help when their gambling activities have gone too far. On the other hand, I understand that by telling others, they will indirectly help us to avoid acting out of control when the situation is already hot or in the sense that we are very emotional due to defeat, but on the other hand, as I said, one of the reasons why gamblers don't want to tell anyone is because they don't want people to interfere with their gambling activities.

Many people prefer to keep quiet and not say or tell other people because they fear being judged or blamed for what they have done. If they gamble secretly, it is because they don't want to hear that someone will say bad things to them instead of accompanying and supervising them while gambling so that when they overdo it, they can pull out of gambling. And instead of hearing things that might disturb their focus on gambling, they will still not say it to other people. They prefer gambling in secret rather than showing it to many people because of the possibility of being blamed by other people. And other people around them also really don't know what they are doing, so people who gamble really hide their gambling activities from other people.

Those who have hidden their gambling activities will also hide the results they get from gambling and will not want to tell other people. But if there are people close to them, maybe they will tell it and share what they got from gambling. But they will not be arbitrary in sharing what they do in gambling and will choose people they can trust so that they will not blame them for what they do. Even though the people who know their story are close to the gambler, they may also advise the gambler so they can limit their gambling activities so that they don't get too deep into gambling.

Yes, we should tell our friends about our gambling habits so that they can immediately help us if we experience problems and get us out of gambling. Sharing something very personal can only be shared with people close to us, not just anyone because we cannot let it become public consumption. That's why if we want to share our gambling habits or activities with other people, we have to be wise in choosing the person so that we don't experience any problems later.

It depends on each person because some are used to sharing what they experience with others, and others prefer to hide it from others because they feel they are still capable of doing so. Usually, those who are used to sharing it with other people are very picky and won't share it with many people, and only those close to them will know the story. They have been chosen to be listeners, give advice, and helpers to people who gamble so that they listen to their advice. When the gambler experiences problems, the gambler will go to these people to ask for advice or other needed things.

Some people like to socialize, and those who don't, so we cannot equate one person with another. Those who are closed off from other people don't really like sharing what they experience or do, so it gives the impression that they don't want to socialize even though they are very picky in choosing people who are only close to them. And in telling what they experienced, they will look for people who really understand them so they will not choose just anyone.

I think that close family members especially the wives and spouses have all the rights to know about our every gambling habit, no matter it is good one or a bad one. Also one thing that should be noted is that these close family members must have the courage to listen to the gambling addict and do not react at a moment. It is advisable that they treat them with care and try to resolve their problem and do not create further problems for them.


People keep these things secret because they know that if close family members knows about it, they will just not bear it and the relationship can be damaged for broken in worse-case situations.
The family members must be tolerant enough to listen to each other's issues and problems.

For the sake of hiding our intentions from the people around us, gambling secretly can be a nice option, but what if our family member is about to get into gambling and asks for our contribution. Would we keep calm and tell them we have little or no contribution to add to their new decision. That's where the hidden truth needs to be unveiled so that nobody close to us will get into problem gambling. As it'll affect us and the newbie gambler as well. Hence, while we gamble secretly for some reasons, best known to us, opening up when requested is great. Considering the thoughts of the society about gambling could be another reason for most people. But personally, I don't care on their take.

What is needed of me to do for the society is respect myself and keep true to the habit which I attained through gambling. Instead of wasting money or gambling irresponsibly, doing the right thing by obeying good strategy is the only respect I've got for my society. Hiding it is great, but makes no difference, when the person doesn't regard the society. In terms of being responsible and doing what's right. Most often, the people who waste money in gambling and get addicted are the ones that hide their gambling habit from people. It's a good thing to know our self, and what is beneficial to us, once that has been achieved, whatever the people want to say wouldn't amount to be a threat or fear of behaving in a low form of hiding something good. Gambling is not bad. Gamblers are like people who practice civil disobedience. Doing something that is good, but the society thinks it's bad or wrong.

I don't think it's a big deal if our family knows about the gambling activities we do. it's a problem if people who are not family who will only make fun of us when they find out about the defeat when playing gambling.
As explained by @danherbias07, the wife needs to know so that she can stop when she is too deep. because indeed when we play gambling, it is not uncommon for the mind to be very chaotic and uncontrollable. That is what causes large losses and defeat.

I think @AicecreaME didn't get the gist very well, even with his remarks, it is not so possible that you keep some things from some people, it could be very obvious. It could be a close friend, or some random people that are privy to know that you are gambling. Fine, they can continue to mind their business if they see that is not an issue for you, but as a social responsibility of all, if it is certain that you are mad with gambling already, I think minding their business is not just fair. We should be observant towards our environment at all times, and being observant towards the people around us is not a bad thing too, after all, if some people were lucky enough for other people to have noticed their ill behaviour, they wouldn't have been so depressed to do unspeakable things.

Like myself, as private as I am in my living, I still love that people come to my aid if I become suspecting in my behaviours. We can't live this life alone in our wisdom or ego, especially when something is clearly wrong with us. But most times, it is not about people even meddling in the fairs but gambling is not so secretive unless you are doing it in your closet alone, or else, people will surely know. Even those who do it in their closets, their close relations may know, and if it doesn't affect them negatively, they might not even say anything and act as if they didn't know or might even gist about it, and that is all. There is no big deal here as far as I am concerned.

It is not about bragging. It is about why would someone keep the amount deposited, won or lost in secret. It is not about being first to tell that you have won something, but about keeping that in secret if you are asked. If someone ask me how much I have won, lost or when was the last time I gambled, I would answer it. I wont go into "I am not going to tell you that" or "pretend that you hear about gambling for the first time" mode. I have never bragged that I have won a lot, but I also honestly answered if I was asked.

I still dont understand why should I keep my hobby in secret. I do nothing wrong. I dont force my hobby to others. All I do is legal.

My wife knows about my gambling habit, I think that's an important thing in my case. I'd like someone stopping me if I am crossing the line, betting too high amounts, or I won't even stand up in my seat anymore. Now, she doesn't really care anymore because she has seen it, I don't really gamble high amounts and I do tend to be afraid to do so. She knows me and I won't risk our budget just for the simple gambling thing, they know they are the most important people to me and I won't risk our food on the table just to entertain myself.
But, it still feels better if you know that someone has your back if you are in trouble. I mean, if ever I cross that line, I know she will be there to stop me.
It's also a good thing that she knows, that way I will be afraid to lose all my money because of being afraid that she might scold me.
Keep it a secret to your neighbors to avoid gossip and so that kids won't know it from someone else. It's best they won't have any idea of gambling while they are still young which is why we keep it a secret to other people. But if it is your wife, I doubt she will tell that to the kids as long as your still together.

This logic can apply to irrelevant people. outsiders. but what do you think about close family members. parents, spouses etc? do you think these people also should not meddle in someone's personal matters even if it is an addiction like gambling?
I think it is a natural thing that our close family members get concerned about bad habits of acitivities we have and whenever they find about them. they try to warn us sometime with love and sometime rudely because they reallly care about us.
And this is also a reason why people keep their gambling habits secrets to close relatives because they know these are the people who try to stop them. while others might not care about that.

In general, gamblers do get a bad view in the eyes of society, even though they do their gambling responsibly and do not disturb other people from the gambling activities that people do. Still, most people think that gambling is not a good thing to do and people always see the bad things that come from it. Gamblers will of course relate to their gambling activities, if we choose to gamble without people knowing it is certainly the right thing because we can avoid people who will criticize us if they can find out about our gambling habits.

If you can gamble within reasonable limits, of course this will not make you addicted because you can determine the limits for gambling and when to stop gambling, because if we cannot manage the time to gamble, of course we will experience addiction.

Yes, sometimes hiding about our gambling activities makes us more comfortable because we know the community always associates gambling with bad things, even when something bad happens to someone and he is known to be a gambler, the community thinks it is the impact of gambling, even though behind it there are many people who It is indeed bad because of gambling, but there are quite a few people who can continue to gamble responsibly and gambling does not make their lives worse.
I do not intend to tell about my gambling activities to the people closest to me and because so far it is still within reasonable limits so I don't feel the need to tell them, and in fact there are advantages if we tell about our gambling when we become addicted so that the people closest to us can realize it and help us by taking to treatment to recover from addiction.

Yes and that is one of the advantages of socialization in gambling, sometimes things like this do not only apply in gambling but in real life too such as when you experience some problems and any problems whether it is the world of work or even more often is about romance then usually you will look for someone who can listen to the problems you are experiencing with the aim of getting at least some solutions that can be considered  and it is true that this will be quite useful if we apply to gambling problems which as you say when we are experiencing a defeat that is quite painful, because of course sharing stories or experiences with others will be able to make us feel more comfortable and calm.

And yes as you said if indeed we have  a good approach in the sense that it can still make us safe and comfortable in gambling then I think socialization is not really needed, and maybe you will only feel a little boredom situation with the gambling you do. So the point is in this  matter I think we cannot completely rule out socialization activities in gambling because of the fact as we discussed above that this is indeed needed especially when we experience problems in gambling.

They are not proud at all, because they consider this action to be wrong in their own eyes, those of other people and the environment in which they live. In a broader context, gambling addicts interpret themselves as negative people from many points of view, both legal, religious and social, yes we know even though several countries legalize gambling. However, when you choose to keep it a secret, it means that gambling addicts have a fearful side of the things I mentioned. In essence, an addict who keeps his gambling behavior a secret is not at all proud of what he does, if he was proud it would be published without having to keep it a secret.

There is no reason whatsoever that can be accepted by common sense regarding gambling addiction, those who are currently proud of their luck, tomorrow when they are not lucky will keep it a secret too. That's the cycle of a gambler life, for reasons of family, friendship and work, what he fears will have an impact if he doesn't keep it a secret is just bullshit, because logically when he gambles it means he has taken whatever risks could arise in the future.

Gambling I think will be better for us as much as it can be hidden from people. Because gambling is not seen well by the people of society so we will try to hide gambling as much as possible. Smart people never want everyone to know about their gambling. He will try to gamble secretly from everyone. During gambling we face various problems due to some small mistakes like family members relatives all know that we are addicted to gambling.

Is there any need for bragging? We can brag today and later you lose tomorrow that is why we don't need to be stressing ourselves about how much we have made in gambling. It is better for us to stay simple and earn our money secretly without trying to inform that public about how good we are as a gambler. Experience and wise gamblers don't publish there earnings to the public for public review. Staying secret especially when we are have some gambling activities, it is better for us to gambler without showing to the world that we are gambling figure. Staying safe should be our major concern.

But there are many cases where someone feels proud of their winnings in gambling but they choose to keep it a secret from their environment, for various reasons, such as not wanting to know because they are afraid of being asked, or gamblers in their environment are considered to have bad behavior so they don't want to publicize it.

I think that something to be proud of in gambling is certain for everyone, something that is impossible if there is nothing to be proud of, but maybe someone prefers to enjoy it for themselves so publicizing it makes them feel guilty.

I'm the same way, gambling in my environment is not accepted or considered bad so I keep it more secret, except on anonymous platforms like this forum which makes me much more open.

Yes, if you are losing then you might share your experience with your friends and maybe ask for some bits of advice from them too but if you are winning in gambling, then it is better to keep your gambling winnings a secret otherwise your friends may become jealous of you.
Also, it matters a lot to whom you are sharing, as there are caring friends and some other friends that can see you in peace and good conditions.
They will become jealous if you are gaining any benefits in life which includes gambling too.


Why not limit ourselves that we tell about our gambling habit to only our friends whom we think are sincere to ourself? Bear in mind, we may have many friends around us but not all of them may be sincere with us. Sharing our gambling experience (good or bad) is something very personal to our lives and we should not share it publicly or with everyone whom we meet, it should be limited to our very very close friends or even family members.

Totally depends i should say because not all the times that each person does have an understandable family on which there are ones who do really likes to listen others suggestions or really helping out if someone experience problems and there are ones who dont really care at all but instead they would really be making out those kind of sayings or even trying out to discriminate on what are the things that you have done.
This is why a certain person would really be that skeptical on trying out to share up things which is really that they are really that afraid on getting judged and this is something that very typical.
This is why its not shocking that there are those people who would really be just deciding that they will really be that just keeping silent on what are the things that they are involving with.

Perhaps sharing stories with other people close to us makes us feel relieved and comfortable, especially when we experience a previous losing streak, which can affect our emotions. By sharing stories, we can gain peace because the people who listen to our stories can provide reasonable advice so that we learn to control ourselves better. But if we still want to keep our gambling activities a secret, that's no problem because as long as we can control ourselves well, we will be able to enjoy gambling games. I also often hide my gambling activities from other people, but I don't feel it's a secret because I want to gamble quietly without anyone knowing. And even though I'm still learning to control myself, I still try to gamble moderately and not excessively.