Topic: Keeping your gambling habit a secret. - page 17. (Read 8311 times)

I don't think it's a big deal if our family knows about the gambling activities we do. it's a problem if people who are not family who will only make fun of us when they find out about the defeat when playing gambling.
As explained by @danherbias07, the wife needs to know so that she can stop when she is too deep. because indeed when we play gambling, it is not uncommon for the mind to be very chaotic and uncontrollable. That is what causes large losses and defeat.

I think @AicecreaME didn't get the gist very well, even with his remarks, it is not so possible that you keep some things from some people, it could be very obvious. It could be a close friend, or some random people that are privy to know that you are gambling. Fine, they can continue to mind their business if they see that is not an issue for you, but as a social responsibility of all, if it is certain that you are mad with gambling already, I think minding their business is not just fair. We should be observant towards our environment at all times, and being observant towards the people around us is not a bad thing too, after all, if some people were lucky enough for other people to have noticed their ill behaviour, they wouldn't have been so depressed to do unspeakable things.

Like myself, as private as I am in my living, I still love that people come to my aid if I become suspecting in my behaviours. We can't live this life alone in our wisdom or ego, especially when something is clearly wrong with us. But most times, it is not about people even meddling in the fairs but gambling is not so secretive unless you are doing it in your closet alone, or else, people will surely know. Even those who do it in their closets, their close relations may know, and if it doesn't affect them negatively, they might not even say anything and act as if they didn't know or might even gist about it, and that is all. There is no big deal here as far as I am concerned.

It is not about bragging. It is about why would someone keep the amount deposited, won or lost in secret. It is not about being first to tell that you have won something, but about keeping that in secret if you are asked. If someone ask me how much I have won, lost or when was the last time I gambled, I would answer it. I wont go into "I am not going to tell you that" or "pretend that you hear about gambling for the first time" mode. I have never bragged that I have won a lot, but I also honestly answered if I was asked.

I still dont understand why should I keep my hobby in secret. I do nothing wrong. I dont force my hobby to others. All I do is legal.

My wife knows about my gambling habit, I think that's an important thing in my case. I'd like someone stopping me if I am crossing the line, betting too high amounts, or I won't even stand up in my seat anymore. Now, she doesn't really care anymore because she has seen it, I don't really gamble high amounts and I do tend to be afraid to do so. She knows me and I won't risk our budget just for the simple gambling thing, they know they are the most important people to me and I won't risk our food on the table just to entertain myself.
But, it still feels better if you know that someone has your back if you are in trouble. I mean, if ever I cross that line, I know she will be there to stop me.
It's also a good thing that she knows, that way I will be afraid to lose all my money because of being afraid that she might scold me.
Keep it a secret to your neighbors to avoid gossip and so that kids won't know it from someone else. It's best they won't have any idea of gambling while they are still young which is why we keep it a secret to other people. But if it is your wife, I doubt she will tell that to the kids as long as your still together.

This logic can apply to irrelevant people. outsiders. but what do you think about close family members. parents, spouses etc? do you think these people also should not meddle in someone's personal matters even if it is an addiction like gambling?
I think it is a natural thing that our close family members get concerned about bad habits of acitivities we have and whenever they find about them. they try to warn us sometime with love and sometime rudely because they reallly care about us.
And this is also a reason why people keep their gambling habits secrets to close relatives because they know these are the people who try to stop them. while others might not care about that.

Yes, sometimes hiding about our gambling activities makes us more comfortable because we know the community always associates gambling with bad things, even when something bad happens to someone and he is known to be a gambler, the community thinks it is the impact of gambling, even though behind it there are many people who It is indeed bad because of gambling, but there are quite a few people who can continue to gamble responsibly and gambling does not make their lives worse.
I do not intend to tell about my gambling activities to the people closest to me and because so far it is still within reasonable limits so I don't feel the need to tell them, and in fact there are advantages if we tell about our gambling when we become addicted so that the people closest to us can realize it and help us by taking to treatment to recover from addiction.

Yes and that is one of the advantages of socialization in gambling, sometimes things like this do not only apply in gambling but in real life too such as when you experience some problems and any problems whether it is the world of work or even more often is about romance then usually you will look for someone who can listen to the problems you are experiencing with the aim of getting at least some solutions that can be considered  and it is true that this will be quite useful if we apply to gambling problems which as you say when we are experiencing a defeat that is quite painful, because of course sharing stories or experiences with others will be able to make us feel more comfortable and calm.

And yes as you said if indeed we have  a good approach in the sense that it can still make us safe and comfortable in gambling then I think socialization is not really needed, and maybe you will only feel a little boredom situation with the gambling you do. So the point is in this  matter I think we cannot completely rule out socialization activities in gambling because of the fact as we discussed above that this is indeed needed especially when we experience problems in gambling.

They are not proud at all, because they consider this action to be wrong in their own eyes, those of other people and the environment in which they live. In a broader context, gambling addicts interpret themselves as negative people from many points of view, both legal, religious and social, yes we know even though several countries legalize gambling. However, when you choose to keep it a secret, it means that gambling addicts have a fearful side of the things I mentioned. In essence, an addict who keeps his gambling behavior a secret is not at all proud of what he does, if he was proud it would be published without having to keep it a secret.

There is no reason whatsoever that can be accepted by common sense regarding gambling addiction, those who are currently proud of their luck, tomorrow when they are not lucky will keep it a secret too. That's the cycle of a gambler life, for reasons of family, friendship and work, what he fears will have an impact if he doesn't keep it a secret is just bullshit, because logically when he gambles it means he has taken whatever risks could arise in the future.

Gambling I think will be better for us as much as it can be hidden from people. Because gambling is not seen well by the people of society so we will try to hide gambling as much as possible. Smart people never want everyone to know about their gambling. He will try to gamble secretly from everyone. During gambling we face various problems due to some small mistakes like family members relatives all know that we are addicted to gambling.

Is there any need for bragging? We can brag today and later you lose tomorrow that is why we don't need to be stressing ourselves about how much we have made in gambling. It is better for us to stay simple and earn our money secretly without trying to inform that public about how good we are as a gambler. Experience and wise gamblers don't publish there earnings to the public for public review. Staying secret especially when we are have some gambling activities, it is better for us to gambler without showing to the world that we are gambling figure. Staying safe should be our major concern.

But there are many cases where someone feels proud of their winnings in gambling but they choose to keep it a secret from their environment, for various reasons, such as not wanting to know because they are afraid of being asked, or gamblers in their environment are considered to have bad behavior so they don't want to publicize it.

I think that something to be proud of in gambling is certain for everyone, something that is impossible if there is nothing to be proud of, but maybe someone prefers to enjoy it for themselves so publicizing it makes them feel guilty.

I'm the same way, gambling in my environment is not accepted or considered bad so I keep it more secret, except on anonymous platforms like this forum which makes me much more open.

Yes, if you are losing then you might share your experience with your friends and maybe ask for some bits of advice from them too but if you are winning in gambling, then it is better to keep your gambling winnings a secret otherwise your friends may become jealous of you.
Also, it matters a lot to whom you are sharing, as there are caring friends and some other friends that can see you in peace and good conditions.
They will become jealous if you are gaining any benefits in life which includes gambling too.


Why not limit ourselves that we tell about our gambling habit to only our friends whom we think are sincere to ourself? Bear in mind, we may have many friends around us but not all of them may be sincere with us. Sharing our gambling experience (good or bad) is something very personal to our lives and we should not share it publicly or with everyone whom we meet, it should be limited to our very very close friends or even family members.

Totally depends i should say because not all the times that each person does have an understandable family on which there are ones who do really likes to listen others suggestions or really helping out if someone experience problems and there are ones who dont really care at all but instead they would really be making out those kind of sayings or even trying out to discriminate on what are the things that you have done.
This is why a certain person would really be that skeptical on trying out to share up things which is really that they are really that afraid on getting judged and this is something that very typical.
This is why its not shocking that there are those people who would really be just deciding that they will really be that just keeping silent on what are the things that they are involving with.

Perhaps sharing stories with other people close to us makes us feel relieved and comfortable, especially when we experience a previous losing streak, which can affect our emotions. By sharing stories, we can gain peace because the people who listen to our stories can provide reasonable advice so that we learn to control ourselves better. But if we still want to keep our gambling activities a secret, that's no problem because as long as we can control ourselves well, we will be able to enjoy gambling games. I also often hide my gambling activities from other people, but I don't feel it's a secret because I want to gamble quietly without anyone knowing. And even though I'm still learning to control myself, I still try to gamble moderately and not excessively.

The most crucial aspect of gambling is being on the right track, responsible gambling. Whatever one wants to do, once it has been ascertained that the person is a responsible gambler, doesn't matter anymore. The goal is becoming smart and making changes when necessary. Relationship with others doesn't make any changes in the life of the gambler. Why should one brag over his habit, if he's on the right track. It's a matter of explanation over bragging or noise on the type of money we've made in gambling. Gambling is not something to brag about, it's a game. A gambler could win today and lose out the next time he gambles. How would he feel after bragging and lose out on the next session. Hence, no need to be ashamed of our habit. They're some gamblers who would hide their screen or minimize if someone else tries to spy on their screen.

On the previous response of a member, he said within him the person can join gambling and end up becoming compulsive on the long run. As gamblers we need to understand how people around us feel about gambling. Before unveiling our gambling habit to them, they may have shown some interest or asked us about what we always focus our mind doing on the laptop. Or after a big win, the person asks questions on the new gadgets or products the gambler is buying. How he got his money? It's then left for the gambler to share his gambling activities with the person, and add some tips, what the person needs to know regarding gambling. No need bragging about that. It's a matter of personal discussion. Not trying to convince the person to gamble. But, letting them discover the positive aspect of gambling.

There quite few advantages to keeping ones gambling open but several disadvantages. Few of the advantages I can only identify is to be able to receive help should one start developing negative habits such as gambling addiction. It is therefore important for some family members or trusted ally to be aware of ones gambling activities. Apart from these, the best is to keep gambling activities secret because it can pose a security threat to the individual. In addition, one can face some form of stereotype from people due to gambling, especially in a society where gambling is perceived to be bad.

Another aspect, just like you state, is in a case whereby gambling is banned in the country. It will really be a big problem exposing ones gambling activities when cryptocurrency makes it easy to gamble and remain anonymous.

        -  What you said, although I have never seen anyone bragging about gambling, saying that a large deposit made in a casino is bragging even though there is no need to brag, then what is bragging about? the big deposit in the casino? How can you brag about that if you didn't win at gambling? Instead, the size of the amount that you boasted about, you just lost.

Isn't it better that the amount of money you put into the casino is small or limited so that, in the end, the small amount of money you deposit in a casino grows, so at this point, you or we can brag about it because we ended up taking home a win?

Gambling also has points worth sharing, in addition to its stimulating properties, it also includes many lessons and when we go through such levels, in fact, sharing with someone is also something to express your feelings and feel more comfortable. And in a society with people of the same age who are very open-minded and who have early access to the internet, sharing gambling habits is not something but important who that person will be, a friend who listens is different from someone who gossips and talks a lot, this garden should only allow a few people to interact

that's true, because not all countries allow gambling to be carried out, so it could be from those who hide their gambling because of that, in my opinion gambling should be kept secret, because if it is publicized there is no benefit, because in my opinion most people have a point of view negative towards gambling, by publicizing their gambling habits they may get a positive view by people who also like gambling, but this rarely happens, more often there will be a lot of negative views.

I agree with that, there is no harm in showing our gambling activities, but we also have to see who is worthy of knowing about our gambling activities, because not everyone is worthy of seeing or knowing about our gambling activities, because that can bring its own problems. It is no longer unusual for a friend to borrow money and not pay it back. but this can sometimes be a problem for us. I myself have a friend like this that when he borrowed money I didn't respond because I already knew what the end would be like.

Information is power. And the more information known about you, the less private and secure your life could be. You’re right on choosing the right person to divulge certain information to.
There are people who aren’t to be trusted with certain information about yourself as that information when made privy to to these individuals, would quickly become common knowledge and known all over your vicinity. That’s pretty much why people choose to keep their affairs confidential.

It’s best to keep your affairs private and in a scenario that has the society frowning at gambling, all the more reason to share less and know who you allow into your circle.